Feeling down about my weight loss and need advice

I (27F) (5ft 1 CW 184 /GW 133) have about 50lbs to lose. In lockdown (March - June in my country) I did manage to lose a good amount of weight by sticking to 1200 cals a day. But when I started back at work in June I fell off the wagon, my work made me horribly depressed and anxious and the hours and nature of work made it very difficult to stick to any kind of routine.

Since then I have added back the weight I lost in lockdown plus about 5lbs more. I have been off work for 6 weeks due to my mental health struggles and I have recently found out I will be made redundant. This has obviously caused some stress which makes my period cycle on and off.

The past three weeks I have stuck to 1200 calories but I have only lost about 3 pounds. Other than that I lose and add on the same 1-2lbs. I am so confused because this worked for me not long ago. I am finding it really frustrating and upsetting. It could be due to water weight from my period making me fluctuate because I am on and off all of the time. But then I think if I am still cutting my calories shouldn’t the weight reflect that at some point ? It is really getting me down and I need to see some progress.

Has anyone else been through this ? Or do you have any advice/insights/ things I may not have considered?

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I messed up but I’m back on it

I started my weight loss journey at the end of March (beginning of UK lockdown). I did CICO and daily 10k steps and some yoga. By the beginning of September I was down 40 lbs from 203 to 163 (F, 5’7’’).

Then the past two weeks, I’ve really messed up. I have had 3 binge sessions and I’m talking at least 2000 cals over maintenance for each one. I felt so crappy after each one and hated that I couldn’t seem to stop myself. I haven’t dared to weigh myself since then.

But this morning I’ve got a grip on myself. Yeah, I will have gained some weight from what I did. However, it’s not likely to be more than 2 lbs of fat. I can lose that, easy. I won’t have gained 40 lbs back by going a little off track for a couple of weeks. I’m still within 10 lbs of my goal weight and I actually look fine now and I don’t mind if the last few pounds come off slowly. I will stick to plan this coming week and weigh at the weekend, which will give any sodium-bloat from binge eating a chance to disappear and I can assess the damage.

I feel more in control now but it’s a scary thing when your past behaviour seems to be taking over your actions. Thanks for reading.

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How do you cope with people who question your weight loss?

Hello all! 28 y.o. female here.

I started this jouney a few months ago, when I was obese class 2 (BMI was 35.2 then). I've just recently turned overweight, not obese anymore, but I still have a BMI of 29.4, so I'm really far from being skinny!

But my mother-in-law, who has actually always been a good mother-in-law, can't stop talking about my weight loss, and not in a positive manner. She doesn't stop saying I must be starving myself and I'm actually damaging my body. Mind you, she wants me to eat cake and fried foods to prove otherwise, because they must eat a lot of cake and grease everyday in order to believe they are fed.

The whole family is thin, so no, it's not them being jealous.

But now I'm even frightened of meeting that part of the family, because all they talk about is my new "unhealthy" habits, and how it scares them to see me so "much thinner", and they can't stop trying to make me stop my weight loss. So they question my eating choices about twenty times a day, and each time I will explain my diet and they will appear to accept it, only to start it all again minutes later with them questioning my diet exactly the same way they did before, and with the same arguments I had already patiently replied to.

Dieting is so hard and it takes a lot of motivation, but they are taking my motivation away. Besides, this non-stop talk is leaving me mentally ill and I don't what to do to cope with this. I can't avoid crying any day I see them now.

For example, yesterday my MIL and her sister were discussing my diet right on front of me, as if it's up for them to decide or solve it, and her sister told me about a morbidly obese guy who lost weight and gained it all again, so my diet was pointless. I was left speechless...

I know they didn't have a chance to have an education, that they don't even know what nutrients are, and especially that they just want what's best for me, but I just can't take ir anymore. After being with them I can't even sleep at night, but seeing them less is not an option.

How do you cope with this, and how do you think I can stay motivated after seeing this part of the family?

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Weight loss plateau HELP

I've been losing weight (low carb and CICO) for about 5 months now and it's been great I've lost about 18kg (40lbs). But over the past month I've only lost about 1kg and now the weight loss has pretty much stopped. I haven't changed anything that I'm eating or doing and still have another 20kg to lose so this is super frustrating! Before I would regularly lose about 1kg(2lbs) a week. From what I've read online I'm considering upping my calories for a week but the thought of eating more isn't very enticing because I'm very satisfied with the amount I'm eating currently and dont want to risk gaining weight but I can think of any other solutions (dropping my calories isnt an option since I currently eat 1200-1300 a day). Any advice would be much appreciated!

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Feedback on my plan

Hi all,

I am a 47 year old woman who has been overweight her entire life. I am one of those "tried everything, failed everything" types. I've lost weight but I always regain it. I have a lot of knowledge about weight loss (I'm a CICO, TDEE, the best diet is the one you can stick with advocate) so it's not a lack of understanding about the mechanics of weight loss that is the problem. Recently, I've sat down and thought about the behavioural issues that affect me. I put down some thoughts about it and I would love any feedback/extra advice about how to mange these ongoing problems. I thought they might be helpful for anyone who struggles with the same kinds of issues.

For context, I'm a single mother who works an emotionally and time demanding job. If I don't organise food, we don't eat. I'm often exhausted when I walk through the door. I also struggle with my own mental health. Organising and planning food for me is and always has been an issue - it's not something that comes naturally to me and it takes mental energy and effort just to do that part.

I've broken it into Calories In (Food), Calories Out (Exercise) and Unhelpful Thinking (obsessive thoughts about my weight):

Calories in:

Problem 1: Coming home late from work and being too tired/disorganised to cook

Solutions:

1. Plan meals every week and online shop every Thursday for weekend delivery
2. Have some cooked meals premade and in the freezer
3. Have some emergency Lean Cuisine meals in the freezer
4. Have some quick simple meals as a backup option - eggs, soup etc.

Problem 2: Letting myself get too hungry and then overeating

Solutions:

1. 16:8 IF. Eating window = 12pm-8pm
2. Eat lunch, no matter what (I take medication that makes me not want to eat breakfast but can also make it easy to skip lunch)
3. Remember, how hungry you are is a sign of how SOON you need to eat, not how MUCH (saw this gem on r/loseit this week - brilliant!)

Problem 3: Using food as a comfort tool (this is a biggie)

Solutions:

1. Recognise and distract: shower, listen to music, drink water, meditate/yoga
2. Do some DBT Distress Tolerance worksheets
3. Exercise in it's place - go for a walk, do some skipping
4. Work on some other self-soothing options (still to be determined, suggestions welcomed)

Calories out

Problem 1: Feeling like I don't have the time or energy to exercise

Solutions:

1. I MUST exercise in the morning. I'm not a morning person at all but if you don't do it first up in the day, there are too many reasons/excuses to not be able to fit it in. Plus, your dog is fat. Walk him.

Problem 2: I just generally hate exercise. It's boring and repetitive. I'm asthmatic. I hate the heat. I hate sport and would never join a team sport of any sort.

Solutions:

1. Ok - help. I have nothing for this one.

Unhelpful Thinking

Problem 1: Obsessing over CICO

(Yes, the evidence says that those who track and weigh regularly lose the most weight. However, for someone with obsessive thinking patterns, this can be a double-edged sword that can lead to spirals into negative thinking).

Solutions:

1. Only weigh in once a month (and not before or during Shark Week).
2. If planning meals, pre-fill MFP for the week and only add or subtract if you stray from the plan.
3. Stop thinking in terms of kilos lost and more in general wellbeing - how did you feel physically today? Satiated? Nourished? Enough energy to get everything done? (I can get into loops like "Ok, there's 15 weeks until Christmas, that means I could lose 15kgs before Christmas but only if I'm under my TDEE by 1000 calories a day so that I'm in deficit of 7000 calories a week which means I can't eat any more than 1200 calories a day and I also have to exercise off 500 calories a day, EVERY DAY, otherwise I won't lose the weight and then I'll be fat at Christmas and I still won't have any nice clothes to wear when I see family and they'll know I still haven't lost any weight but they won't say anything but I'll know they know and then and then and then...." - not helpful and mentally exhausting).

Problem 2: Being unable to engage in life until I reach a magic number

(Most of my clothes don't fit but I refuse to buy new ones because I'm definitely not staying at this weight so that would be a waste of money but not wanting to go out anywhere because i have no nice clothes - I told you obsessive thinking was a problem).

Solutions:

1. Just buy some damn clothes. No, you won't be happy with how you look. But you'll be a damn side happier that trying to squeeze into clothes that are too small.
2. Nobody but you thinks about your weight. Nobody but you cares about your weight. None of your friends became your friends because of your weight. Do you hair, do your makeup, look as nice as you can and concentrate on other people's happiness when you see them.
3. Ok so maybe dating is a bridge too far at the moment. Concentrate on building a healthy lifestyle you can sustain than includes active hobbies and making new friends. The rest will come.

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If you made it this far, thanks for reading. I'd love to hear any other suggestions you might have!

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Can a temporary diet get you past a plateau?

M/19/255-260

Hello! I finally decided to start losing weight this year, and so far it’s gone great! I cut out soda and have lost about 30lbs since May.

But I’ve been stuck on a plateau for a little over a month now. I’ve kept my eating/lifestyle habits largely the same as when I was losing weight, but it all of a sudden just stopped. Now I’m stuck somewhere between 255 and 260, and I can’t seem to get any lower.

Anyway, I’ve found that I struggle a lot with long term health commitments. Honestly, the only reason I even started losing weight was because of an epiphany I had on LSD. That means I’ve never even made an “unassisted” decision to go on a diet. So I don’t think it’s possible for me to commit to a big, long term change right now.

So because of my commitment issues, I’ve been wondering if I can do a temporary diet to help push me over this hill. I figure if I cut down on carbs (and completely cut out alcohol/fast food) for a few weeks, I can get my weight loss started again and then slowly return to my current weight loss “strategy”.

My worry though, is that once I decide to “end” the diet (or give up, whatever comes first), I’ll climb right back up to 260.

So is it possible to do a temporary diet in order to kickstart weight loss again? Or do I really need to commit to a more long term solution right now?

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Lost 30 pounds so far on my weight loss journey

I'm not gonna post anything philosophical cause I'm not that type of guy lol. My perspective is; DO WHAT YOU THINK WORKS FOR YOU.

What I'm currently doing is vegetarian diet and lots of jogging and pushups.

I eat mostly raw veggies/yogurt. Cabbage, grapes, broccoli, beans, tofu. Overall I think I eat less than 800 calories a day yet I feel fine.

Was only able to do 5-7 pushups when started. Now I'm able to do 30 pushups non stop. My routine is doing pushups and light jogging for 2 miles everyday.. unless I'm sore and need a couple days to recuperate. Still pushing my limits and trying to increase it.

Started at 262, currently at 232.

Height; 5'11. Age; 24. Asian male. I kind of have low self esteem so I'll post a before and after photo once I get to my target weight and look.

(I'm only about 3 and a half weeks in the diet.)

Edit; aiming for 170 pounds by the end of the year.

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