Just a lil rant that’s on the shallow side but here me out. Being vulnerable enough to express that I wanted to lose weight as I’m the biggest I’ve ever been to a friend of mine who has NEVER struggled with her weight and been skinny all her life, led her to start telling me to ‘not count calories’ and to not get worked up about it, be careful and it’s not necessary. She’s also adamantly ‘body positive’ and a feminist. I also believe in body positivity and not shaming yourself for your weight, follow a bunch of plus size models, but I’m also ok with people wanting to lose weight if they wanna! I now feel like I can’t be honest about celebrating my weight loss goals w her because she’s so ‘woke’ about the whole thing... What annoys me most is that it’s p easy for skinny people to jump on this bandwagon of body positivity but not really having to face what it’s like to struggle with your weight. It can’t be denied that being near obese (which I was getting to) is my version of unhealthy, and having a friend who has never struggled with their weight telling you that you should love your body as is extremely annoying and p easy to say if theyve never been in your shoes. The world accepts skinny people as they are. So shoot me for feeling unhappy about it and wanting to make a change. Yes I wanna lose weight for shallow reasons, and yes it’s harder to exist in this world as an overweight woman and that’s not ok. But also... even with that all the shallowness aside, the biggest reason that I really really reallly wanted to lose weight is because I scared myself by how close to obese I had gotten, how much in denial I was over my eating habits and how much my health would begin to suffer. With a family history of obesity, I knew if I didn’t try to lose weight now, it would be harder in a few months or ten years down the line.
To all the skinny body positive friends out there in the world, I just want to say this...
If you know you have never struggled with your weight, then don’t push this body positivity narrative on a friend who’s clearly confided in you that she’s struggling with hers and wants to do something about it. It’s just super patronising and its not as body positive as you think. I don’t need to be patronised into believing that my body is acceptable. I know I have worth as a human being but I can also know that and know that I need to do something about my weight.
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