...Turns out he just truly does not understand CICO, TDEE, or really anything weight related.
Last night he put a MASSIVE serving of beans on my plate. Annnnd I just kind of snapped and asked him why he is trying to keep me fat. He got quiet and sad and said he thought I was restricting too much. After a lot of back and forth, I realized he really didn't understand that we do not need to eat the same amount of food. He didn't understand that if I eat the same as him, I will gain weight (I know from experience, when we moved in together I gained 20 lbs and he gained 0 the first year). It is not being overly restrictive, just simple math.
So I showed him his sedentary TDEE, which was 2500 calories and mine is 1600. Then I gave him a quick explanation of CICO and explained that this is why I always serve myself twice as many veggies, but half the starch as I serve him... His mind was BLOWN. He is one of the lucky ones that maintains a healthy weight without any thought about it, proper portions just come naturally to him.. And there I was, mind blown that he really has never had to think about any of this, when it has been such a big part of my life.
Next steps, trying to get him to have a general understanding of calories. I'd never want him to deal with counting and weighing food to the gram like I do, but just understand that more butter or oil rarely changes the taste, but can drastically up the calories of a dish.
Needless to say though, we both felt silly when the whole conversation was done. 7 years together of me thinking he's constantly trying to fatten me up, and him thinking I'm trying to starve myself.
So if you feel like your partner (or family or friend) doesn't get it, maybe they really really don't! A simple conversation is all you need to help them help you stay on track!
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