Demotivated after first session with dietician

Guys, I need to vent... Today I had my first ever session with a dietician, actually to discuss micronutrients in surgical menopause but she seemed really focussed on discussing weight loss, which is whatever. For context, I was almost 100 kg in May 2024 when I started a weight loss journey, lost 15 kg within a year, then got a cancer diagnosis in June and maintained my weight since then (well, gained 1.5 kg back and recently lost them again) so I'm currently at 84-85 kg. I went from a bmi of roughly 38 to 32.

I didn't mind discussing my weight and weight loss, even though that wasn't what I went there for. But she said three things that really demotivated me and left me feeling like "Why even bother?".

The first was the sentence "You know that you're about to experience hormonal changes that might make you gain weight, right?". The way I had been looking at it (and still try to look at it), at most weight loss might become a little harder, I might need to lower my calorie intake a bit more, but CICO should still work even in menopause. But she made it sound as if weight gain might be inevitable if I have bad luck with the hormones. I rationally know that's not true, but hearing that almost made me want to cry.

The second was when she asked if I had a goal weight. I told her I would like to reach the healthy bmi range, so be under 65 kg. I saw that she hesitated, so I added "But my first goal is to be under 77 kg, so I'll no longer be considered obese, only overweight." And she replied "Well, I suggest you set very small achievable goals... Maybe your first goal could be to get under 80kg?" Like she doesn't believe that I can lose 8 more kilos, when I've already lost 15?! I mean, I understand setting achievable goals and all that, but I don't think my goals are super lofty and unrealistic, especially since I'm not trying to achieve them in a specific time frame.

And the last one is a bit silly, but I felt she acted a bit dismissive about the 15 kg that I already lost. I mean, I know my weight loss was very slow and I have a long way to go lol. But my gp was so impressed and happy about it, and this woman said something like "I see you already got started a little bit." Like it was almost nothing and now with her help I can finally begin the "real" work 🙄

Idk, I just feel kind of pissed of and discouraged after this. Maybe it's just menopause hormones making me overly sensitive. If anyone read this far, thank you for listening 🤍

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Have you learned self control?

The way I’m asking this is probably pretty niche. I grew up in a house that didn’t really have chips, candy, soda but always some ice cream, cookies & brownie/cake mix on hand. Homemade dinners where you clean your plate. Now I’m 30 & living on my own & constantly battling with my weight(but this isn’t about that). I enjoy eating healthy, I hate cooking but I meal prep because I feel gross eating out too much (also it’s expensive lol). The things that really bother me when I reflect on my habits are that there are some things I can’t keep in the house (cheeze-it’s number one) because I won’t stop thinking about them while they’re there. Maybe I won’t eat the box in a day, but it’ll be in the back of my head, a serving here & there until they’re gone in a couple days, even if I didn't really need/want them. Going out to eat, I eat until stuffed, if there’s nachos at the table, I’m picking way after everyone’s lost interest.i go out to eat enough that these aren’t special occasions. Even though my goal with fixing these habits isn’t necessarily weight loss, I was hoping you guys would understand/help shed some insight or have some advice. It’s not that I necessarily need to add junk to my shopping list but it would be nice to have a treat in the house. I also probably wouldn’t do so much damage to my diets if I stopped eating when I’m satisfied when I’m out.

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Self-sabotaging my weight loss due to scarcity mentality about clothes.

I saw a post on https://www.reddit.com/r/MakeupRehab/comments/1nv6g79/discontinued_items/ and posted this comment about my insane attachment to my big clothes "my clothes and it is stopping me from losing the excess weight for my health and well-being as I am extremely attached to my big clothes (these are actually beautiful pieces).". Issue is that I have some beautiful larger-sized clothes which currently fit and I am wearing now but I cannot seem to motivate myself to lose the excess weight for my health. I definitely have major issues with scarcity mentality (grew up mainly wearing hand me downs from a friend's mum) but the issue is that the clothes I am wearing now were mostly my mum's. She passed 15 years ago and I feel that I cannot get rid of them. I also feel that I don't deserve to be in a healthy body and this is causing self-esteem issues. Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks.

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How often do you eat sweet treats?

Sweet treats are my Achilles heel. They are def the reason I have struggled with my weight. Literally lost 40 lbs and gained it all back and then some because I have no self control when it comes to treats.

Since getting on a GLP1, the cravings for sweets aren’t as strong so I don’t overindulge, but also I don’t wanna cut out something I love so much.

Lately I have been going every few days without eating a sweet treat which I’m really proud of. Sometimes intentionally sometimes not. Definitely not something I could do before. Also trying not to restrict myself because I have had a terrible relationship with food for literally years.

My parents realized I needed to lose weight when I was like 10 years old. Tbh I was only like chubby probably 10-15 lbs overweight for my height/age, but they took it so far left when it came to my weight loss. They used to make me run suicides before and after school at age 10 lol. We used to get take out every Friday growing up, but my parent stopped letting me and made me eat salads and soup while my siblings had pizza and desserts 😭 so I started sneaking food up to my room and bingeing, thus starting my bingeing and purging disorder and my shitty ass relationship with food.

Just trying to cultivate a good relationship with food for the first time ever while also losing weight.

Idk where I’m going with this but drop advice or if you can relate below lol.

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Do you prioritise how long you walk for or how many steps you do?

I have always counted steps, however recently I switched to the rule of one hour brisk walk a day. I’m 5ft1 and have always found weight loss a bit daunting due to how much I need to restrict myself. I started doing timekeeping instead of step keeping two weeks ago I’m already seeing a much better improvement and a lot less pressure or guilt! Steps don’t account for intensity, but if I know I’ve done an hour a day, that keeps me motivated knowing I’ve gone up and downhill, had time to myself and didn’t get obsessed with an arbitrary count of how many times I’ve stepped. I also feel like my step distance changes according to the day so 5000 steps one day aren’t the same as 5000 another.

What does everyone here do and prefer?

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Under 300!

For the last 7 or eight years whenever my weight would come up I would just tell people I was over 300 lbs. When I started this weight loss journey I started dropping weight quicker than I expected and when I got down to 303 I got so excited to be under 300, it felt like I was approaching my first real milestone.

Only to bounce between 303 and 301.

For two and a half weeks.

This morning when I stepped on the scale it read 299.3 and I started giggling and then then crying. It's been so long since I've seen that number start with a 2 and now I'll never have to say I'm over 300 ever again!

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feeling discouraged (rant)

i've struggled with binge eating since i was 12. i'm now 18 and got on adderall in july for adhd and my BED and it works pretty well most of the time. but whenever i go home for the weekend from college i somehow gain at least 5 lbs and i've been stuck between 250 and 260 since august.

i originally weighed nearly 290 last december and i feel like i just haven't made any progress at all--the only sign is that i can't wear what used to be my favorite jeans.

i know weight loss is nowhere near linear but after feeling stuck and gaining for so long, i wish it would happen so much faster. i feel like i should be losing more rapidly with how much i weigh but it just isn't working.

i haven't been under 200lbs since middle school and i'm dying to get there again, i just feel kind of stuck right now. i've lost barely anything since i started college. i know it'll work itself out again but what i wouldn't give to be under 240 before the end of this semester

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