How has your weight loss affected your friendships?

If you’ve lost a noticeable amount of weight how did that affect your friendships?

I’m just curious because I had a very awkward experience yesterday and now I’m questioning if I should continue nurturing the small group of newish friends I have made over the last four years.

It was a friends baby shower yesterday and it became very awkward after my family showed up. When we all get together everyone is normally happy to see each other and we all start sharing what’s being going on and whatnot. It’s been a solid month and a half since I’ve seen everyone.

When we got there it was very awkward no one said hi to me (except the men they just did their normal waves and hi’s). I greeted everyone (asked how they were doing and gave complements nice hair, pretty dress etc normal things) and put the food in the oven becaue that’s what the hostess wanted me to do. I was ignored for a solid hour. I don’t know what they were chatting about because I don’t speak their language so I just watched the kids play and teased them when they came over to me. Once they started talking to me it was just awkward. Like they didn’t know how to talk to me anymore but had to? If that makes sense. Then when they asked what I did I kept it super short because it’s not a day about me and they gave me blank stares. “What did you do?” “Just tracked my calories” blank stare “how have you been?” Long pause then whatever answer.

Then we all went to the pool. The hostess wanted it to be a pool party. I wasn’t completely certain if the ladies would be getting in or not but I’ve got two under four. My husband isn’t the most attentive especially when he’s around his friends so I’m absolutely getting in so they are safe and can have fun. I was left alone in one corner of the pool with my toddlers. I kept trying to join the guys because they had all the kids with them and they kept scooting away. I didn’t wear anything crazy. My husband said they were giving me space so I wasn’t uncomfortable I said bull and he change it to so no one thinks they are messing around with me. WTF? Who tf is gonna think that? I was just trying to make sure my kids were included. And frankly sitting on the side of the pool fully dressed in almost 90 degree weather and yelling at my husband to eat j the kids and my kids to not run sounded miserable.

I don’t know to was just a lonely situation. I tried to join but was brushed off more than usual. I’m not the best at making friends so I’m trying really hard here.

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Weight Loss from Muscle or Fat

My overall goal is to mainly reduce my bodyfat and maintain or even add a little bit of muscle.
I had a DEXA scan about 4 months. Good lean body mass; not so good bodyfat level.
I’m going to go back in about one month for a follow up scan. Question is (I know this is likely just opinions) but since I’ve gotten back into training and nutrition, for the first time ever I am seeing veins in my arms. And when I say ever, I mean ever and I am a 52yr old male. Out of curiosity, what do you think the likelihood is that since last DEXA scan, I’ve lost bodyfat and also maybe even added some lbm.
My fear has always been when I drop weight it’s due to my calorie restriction being too much so I lose muscle and fat, just shutting down my metabolism.

In fact, when I did have my DEXA scan 4 months ago, I had lost 11lbs since my last DEXA. Now the prior one was pre-covid and since Covid I did zero resistance training. Just started back doing that about 6 months.

So anyway, seeing veins makes me hopeful I’m losing fat and not muscle; was just curious to get others thoughts. I will ultimately get the info when I redo DEXA.

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Snack/ meal suggestions for on the road please?

Hey all!

I’ve been on a weight loss journey for a while now, and so have my parents, who live nearby. We’ve all been trying to make healthier choices and keep moving in the right direction.

We’re taking a road trip soon to see my niece graduate. She’ll be the first of the next generation to do so, which is a pretty big deal and absolutely worth the miles.

And by miles, I mean miles. Roughly 2,400 miles in 3 days, stay for 4 days visiting and watching celebrating, then another 2,400 miles in 3 days coming back. With 3 drivers, we’re hoping to survive with both our sanity and lower backs intact.

Before anyone asks: yes, we did the math. Driving + hotels is still cheaper than flying + rental car.

So here’s my question: for those who’ve done long road trips while trying to lose weight or maintain healthier habits, what are your go-to snacks/meals? We’ll have a medium cooler for cold items, a case of water, and hotels with free breakfast. I’m hoping to save money, avoid turning gas stations into snacky buffets, and keep from undoing progress with convenience food.

Would love ideas for healthier snacks that travel well, are filling, and help avoid the “I’ve been in this car for 8 hours and the others are still alive, therefore I deserve 14 mozzarella sticks as a reward” mindset.

Thanks in advance!

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The power of counting your workouts and journaling them in a minimalistic way

I started keeping a count of my workouts since I began exercising 4 months ago on January 16th 2026.

It started as a challenge. I was motivated to reach or surpass how many workouts I had done consistently last time I tried to lose weight which was August 2024. I had done 18 workouts then and the point was that after many you start to feel and see results and that’s the way to get things going.

➡️to pause your expectations for x amount of workouts or days so that your body has time to change and your patience is grown or you’re able to postpone gratification.

➡️To accept that it’s *a group* of workouts that will change your body shape. Like knitting a blanket: eventually all the stitches make something.

When I began I started just including that I went to the gym with some emojis and the day count. I was using a gratitude app but it lost my data so now I’m just using my iPhone notes app. Last night was my 63rd workout so I write it like this:

Gym #️⃣6️⃣3️⃣🚨🚨🚨🚀🚀🚀🚀🥰
I change the emojis depending on the day.
And recently I’ve begun listing what I got done. Last night looked like this:

Gym #️⃣6️⃣3️⃣🚨🚨🚀🚀🚀🚀🥰😍
Stretch 🪩
Yoga 🪩
Abs🪩
Legs 🪩
Didn’t do abduction induction (reminder)
Chest press 🪩

It’s a great activity to log what you got done- there’s a dopamine and reward effect. And counting how many workouts you’ve done also motivates you to keep going. I was excited to get to 10 then 20 then 50 workouts, for example. Now I’m excited to reach 70.

It’s another way to think 🧠 about time passing and celebrating your effort and consistency. Traditionally diets counted weeks and months…. So breaking free from that association is good… and I like the idea that I’m counting and tracking my effort of showing up and the message that it’s the exercise that will change the shape of my body and that I’m building something: a project, a habit, a new body.

I’ve had great gains since my first few workouts and am excited about the future. How will I feel and look at 100 workouts? And 200?

My goals are body recomposition and weight loss and well being and health and flexibility. I’m especially excited though to lose abdominal fat and to get off of cpap after being on it for 9 years after an mva. 🤿🙄

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3 years after starting my health journey…still here

I started my health journey on May 9, 2023, after a series of things: a work event where I couldn’t avoid the camera (which became my “before” pic), a really difficult discussion with my doctor about health test results, and a clarity that I didn’t feel good mentally and physically, and just getting around was a struggle. I was also about to turn 50, and I knew I didn’t want to feel this way any longer at 50 and beyond.

I meant to take a new “after pic” on the date of my three-year anniversary, but focusing on my weight loss just didn’t seem as important this year, so I’m a few weeks late. :)

Weighing myself on May 9, 2023 was not a good day, I was heavier than I’d ever been, 245 pounds, which for a 5’0 woman is morbidly obese, my bmi was 47+.

Now here I am on May 23, 2026 and honestly it’s been a long time since I weighed myself. When I stopped tracking my weight in late 2024, I was at 129 pounds, at a bmi of 25. My clothes sizes have continued to stay the same, or sometimes even a little smaller based on how often I’m focusing on strength training. So I don’t need to weigh myself or even want to, it’s a true freedom.

Activity is part of my everyday life, today I went to the gym and then hot yoga. This afternoon I went for a walk with my mom. I’ll prob do some yardwork later. Summer is coming, and I can’t wait to get out my kayak. All of these things I do because they feel good, they’re fun, I’m happy doing them, and I’m happy after doing them. Win win.

I generally eat for nutrition and energy, staying mindful that at 5’0, I have to watch portion sizes most of the time, even though I’d say I’m pretty active these days. I never went back to eating after dinner after my weight loss period, but I love my desserts and snacks. I just don’t need to eat a whole box of chocolates anymore, I can eat one chocolate bar and feel pretty happy about it.

Food issues still lurk sometimes, so I may have times where I eat terribly occasionally, usually due to stress, but I always seem to be able to pull it back in, and move on. Just keeping a recognition about me that I have an issue where I may use food for something other than being hungry, and to know how to pull it back in when it appears, is something I am very grateful for. It’s taken three years (and maybe a lifetime?) to figure that out.

That’s a very long way to say I’m very happy I’m still here, and I will be sticking here. This sub is one of the things that keeps my health at top of mind. :)

Before and after, May 2023 - May 2026 https://imgur.com/a/QnDSYQi

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Do i just have a medical problem? Why else would I not be losing weight?

Just turned 18 and after a good few years of trying my best to limit my calories (although not 100% focusing on that) i figured that it's actually time i start doing it properly, however there are some thing that just don't make any sense in my mind.

I weight 123kg at a height of 167cm and am sedentary most of the time - according to these stats my intake should be around 2600 calories for maintenance

I use a scale to weight every single thing i put into my mouth and after doing all the calculations, I eat a total of 1200-1500 calories every single day (started this a few weeks ago so I let the weight loss take its time) and after that i do about 25-30 minutes of exercise on the treadmill during which i keep my heart rate at 120-130bpm (according to my apple watch that causes me to lose an extra 150 ish calories).

Great, so I consume 1050-1350 calories a day - wow that's over 1000 under my maintenance and probably means i lose quite a bit of weight!

No.

After 6 ish weeks of doing this i still weight 122-123kg. I have absolutely no idea why I am not losing any weight despite being in a caloric deficit and I want to know whether I am doing something wrong or I genuinely have some kind of medical problem and should have it checked out.

My sleep schedule isn't the best and neither is the time at which I eat my meals but i figured that even if that would be a problem it wouldn't be so big that it would affect my intake by that much

Thank you in advance for any help.

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weight loss struggle

CW: 270lbs, GW: 220lbs, 5’8 or 173cm, F23.

Im in the gym 4x a week, I play a high level sport, practice 4x a week, and I eat relatively healthy and I struggle to lose weight. I have gotten bloodwork to rule out any cortisol issues, I get 8 hours of sleep every night.

What has helped you lose weight? I feel like I’m doing a lot right but Im not seeing any changes on the scale. Im a size 20 in jeans and it makes me very insecure.
Give me your weight loss tips. Unhinged or hinged. I’m trying to avoid weight loss medication. I want to do it naturally but Im struggling and could use some guidance

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