Looking for advice on how to support a spouse on their weight loss goals

Hi all. Congrats on all the sucessful weight loss stories! I am a spouse of someone who has struggeled with their weight for a long time looking to hear from ya'll about what your partners / families did that was useful to support you. My spouse has tried many times to lose weight (on their own, I am not pressuring them to do this) and struggels a lot to keep the momentum going. They often will lose 5 or 10 pounds and the stress of managing their calories religiously gets to them. They are very fond of food and the thought of not getting to eat what they want when they want is very distressing to them. They also really suffer from intense hunger pains when they try to limit their calories which in and of itself is obviously a problem. Basically, they're utterly miserable while dieting and I really struggle to find ways to support them. I do my best to be there for them emotionally, but pratically I don't really know what I can do. I do a lot of the cooking, and when I offer to cook low calorie meals, they are not excited about the food and want something that they typically eat, which is of course rich in carbs and fats and all the things you shouldn't eat when dieting. Even if they do capitulate to a lower calorie meal, they'll be upset that the food wasn't very tasty. If I cook a low quanity of a high calorie meal, they'll be upset that they're still very hungry.

I'm coming here mostly because I'm somewhat at my whits end. I love my partner dearly and want to support them in their goal of being healthy but I just don't know what I can do to actually be useful to them. We're about to start another diet arc and I'm just disheartened to imagine this is going to start off great, we're going to hit another crash out moment, and it's all going to be undone again and we'll be back to square one, which of course will devistate them emotionally, again. So I come to you, hat in hand, humbling asking what people in your life did for you that was most helpful. Meal prep? Excersing with you? Encouraging you? I'm sincere in that I'll try anything or do anything for them.

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weight loss can be so frustrating

this is mostly just a rant, but i am really upset and annoyed with myself.

I am on my way to losing about 53kg, aiming for a minimum of 2kg a month. I started in february and it started out really good. i was tracking calories accurately and binge eating had (mostly) poofed out of existence. march and april so far have been stressful for many different reasons and ive been tracking very loosely, some days not at all, just “eye-balling” everything, which i know is a terrible idea if you struggle with binge eating. i haven’t been able to go over my maintenance ever, except for today. i kind of just crashed? i ate to the point that my stomach hurt. i feel sick, i feel like a failure.

it’s really scared me because i don’t want to go back to the person i was when i didn’t care about my health or respect myself as a whole…i promised myself this would be the last time i tried to lose a ton of weight because this time i would succeed. i don’t want this setback to be a reason i give up. i guess i just wanted to post this because i know there are others out there who might be going through the same

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5 month plateau. what to do?

52, 5”4, 207 lbs.

occasionally briefly into 203 but that’s the lowest its gotten from a high of 240 during covid and despite tracking for 556 days, swimming three times a week, periodic checking tdee and staying within those targets 99% of the time: the weight will NOT budge.

I swim, pretty solid speed, 3x a week for an hour, i bike everywhere, i am constantly on go, and…the weight isn’t budging. The sizing, a bit, but not much, and I’m at this point at a loss for what it is I should be doing. we don’t eat out, we’re semi vegetarian-vegan ( that is, no cow/pork/milk) for my own health reasons, and not really junk food people either.

I’m not looking for fast weight loss, but a bit of progress would be nice. even at a holiday job on my feet all day physical work, nope. scale just hits 203 and will bounce right back to 207 lb.

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I lost my streak, should I just keep going?

I've stuck to a reasonable deficit for the past 6 weeks or so and counted all my calories pretty accurately. I have been losing weight and everything but this past weekend I had approximately 3,500 calories each day because I was on a vacation and eating restaurant food for multiple meals a day. Honestly not knowing how far over I went is also annoying, because I just started eating jellybeans and marshmallows from the bag along with big restaurant meals.

I know a few days don't really matter in the end but I am trying to reach my goal weight as fast as possible so I just feel like this is a setback in that process. I have everything meal prepped for the work week (which is easy to stick to) but between this weekend and Easter festivities it seems like all the discipline I have during the week is wasted and I wont make progress.

Should I just be more patient and continue meal prepping? I really love the routine and convenience of my planned out food for the work week and I don't feel hungry or bad about what I "have" to eat to be in the deficit until I get to the weekend where there is no work or organized activities, unless there is a special event with family that always seems to involve lots of food. Any tips for weekend routines or continuing through setbacks? I suppose weight loss is always a long game.

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Been obsessing over cheat meal for months now.

29M here. Little background on me I’ve been pretty unhealthy most of my life. Was a kid that ate nothing but pizza and pancakes everyday. Had no real nutrients or diet plan for 99% of my life. Just sort of ate what I felt like eating and it was all just carbs and junk food. About a year ago I decided to go on my weight loss journey. Was 300+ pounds at one point and now I am down to 195. At first I just focused on an extreme calorific deficit and running like a mad man. Then about 50/60 pounds later I decided I wanted to lift and take my diet very seriously to optimize. I go to the gym to lift 5/6 times a week, quit drinking and smoking weed, and eat a very clean and nutrient filled diet. And these meals I eat I actually quite enjoy every day. (Eggs chicken/rice, almonds, ground beef, bananas) in between my losing weight I decided to bulk up for about 3 months and now since January I’ve been cutting on a 2lbs per week loss rate. My goal was to reach 12-13% body fat. I’m nearly there. 10 pounds away. But I’ve had an obsession now for a couple of months of a cheat meal. Cheesesteaks, pizza candy. And recently it’s all I can think about. Today was really hard but I got through it. Just think I’m on the verge of breaking and ruining my progress. Like I said minus like 3-4 days I’ve stuck to my diet and weight lifting regiment/cardio everyday. I don’t mind not drinking/smoking, I don’t mind the lifting, I don’t mind the cardio. I’ve just been constantly thinking about my cheat day/meal and I don’t know what to do. I know I’ll regret it immediately but I also don’t know how much longer I can keep this up. Worried that I’ll start to eat bad and never go back. Maybe I’m not cut out for this. Has anybody else experienced this? What helped you? Any other advice?

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Filling, healthy meals for on-the-go with no odors and no fridge or freezer required?

31F 5’3” SW: 186lbs CW: 166lbs

I’m struggling to find meals I can bring to work. Most things are out of the question because we don’t have a fridge or freezer, my jaw can’t handle meal/protein/fiber bars and my stomach can’t handle shakes. We have a microwave, but there are restrictions on what we can heat up (nothing that smells). I’ve even gotten in trouble for eating street tacos that didn’t need the microwave because my lunch ”stinks.” I later learned the offending odor was onions. I was later asked to bring in lunch from home because there’s not enough time order in or sit in at any local food spots and be ready to work by the end of lunch break. Lunch is a strict, non-negotiable time frame because it’s based on when programs are in session. I can’t still be eating or out of the building when people arrive.

Because there are many other issues with this workplace, I’m actively looking for another job. Most workplaces have more flexibility with meals, as long as I’m not microwaving fish.

In the meantime, what can I even bring for lunch that will be filling and won’t destroy my weight loss goals? Each of my meals has to have carbs, and I’m working to increase fiber and unsaturated fat to keep me full (protein too but this doesn’t fill me). I’ve tried simply not eating at work, but this led to binging and dizziness.

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New Post & Goals

Hello!

I wanted to make a post here mainly so I could update it periodically / keep myself accountable with some documentation.

My weight loss goal is pretty simple: I want to lose 5lbs in 5 weeks.

I eat kind of the same thing everyday, but I want to branch out and try different meats, fruits, veggies, and sauces. Cooking can be a lot of fun just most of the time I’m lazy 😭

I do want to cut the fruit though… I love fruit, but I overeat it A LOT and I think it would be better to replace some of my fruit intake with veggies (which I don’t eat enough of).

I also want to try rock climbing in addition to the workouts I do at the gym (rock climbers have crazy builds)!

I’m going to achieve this weight loss through a simple calorie deficit, that is, burn more than I take in.

I weigh xx4.7 now (don’t want to give the full number), so hopefully xx3.7 or so next week. I’ll make an edit to this post weekly or if I just have something I want to rant about.

Good luck to everyone else!

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