feeling gaslit by the numbers

So I (29 yo trans man) have been calorie counting along with doing multiple HIIT classes a week along with some solo jogging and weights at the gym. Tbh I’m not totally consistent as I have to take time off from dieting every now and then for my mental health, as I have OCD and when it flares up calorie counting is way too triggering. So because of that I guess it’s no surprise that I’ve plateaued with my weight loss.

I made it to 15 pounds lost around 5 months into my diet and the past 4 months have seen no change. I also measured my chest, hips, waist, and neck and had no changes from my measurements from almost a year ago. I’ve tried so many things to sort of shake my body out of its slump (cutting more calories, exercising more, focusing on macros, eating more whole grains and fresh veggies) but nothing has worked.

My issue is that people who don’t even know I’ve been dieting say that I look like I’ve lost weight. Not gonna lie the compliments feel good but I almost feel gaslit cause I agonize over seeing no progress on the scale or the measuring tape and then have people telling me I look thinner. I definitely feel a lot stronger and fitter than I did a year ago, but I don’t have any “real evidence” per se to convince my brain that all the work is actually….working.

Has anyone else experienced this? Are there other ways to see progress that you could suggest besides weight and measurements?

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is it possible?

Yesterday I weighed in at my lowest weight in 4 years. Yep, 4 years. I have a big family event coming up in August that I’ve been trying very hard to prepare for, so it’s been helping to have more motivation and finally breaking the never-ending binge cycle. I was so worried I’d never be able to stop but I did.

Now I have a couple of problems: my goal weight before this big family event is another 5-10 pound loss. It begins in seven weeks. If I average out my weight loss, if I can lose one pound per week, I can reach my goal. I’m so prepared for it.

However, between now and then:
- I have a friend visiting me for 4 days
- I go on vacation with more family and friends for two weeks

Then I get 3 weeks of pure preparation for the big family event, before the pre-activities begin about a week beforehand.

I am already embarrassed that my weight loss and body recomp has been very slow. I binged so much this past year and didn’t work out enough. I feel embarrassed to tell family and friends that I am still dieting for the event. I don’t want to be a party pooper and I don’t want to feel ashamed. But I don’t want to be eating heavy meals and desserts that I know will put me in a caloric surplus, I want to exercise and workout and eat as I have been, and I don’t know how much I am capable. What if I get judged for not losing enough beforehand and then asking to eat better now so I can lose the rest of this weight? I say ask not because I need permission but my family and friends love to have our meals together, it’s part of how we bond and show we care for each other. I’m already feeling bad about declining foods. But I think most of the shame is coming from not being as lean as I hoped to be at this point.

But if I try to communicate and I do exercise as much as I hope and have been, do you think it’s still possible to reach my goal despite all of these “hurdles?” I’ve been so stressed and having anxiety about this unfortunately.

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average height girls (5’4-5’6), what weight do you feel/look best at??

I (5’5) am nearing the end of my weight loss journey and trying to gauge what my goal weight should be. Just wanted to get some input on girls similar to my size, what weight do you feel best/think you look best at? specifically my girls with a smaller body frame, i havent been this small in a while so not sure what weight I should stop at, and obviously everyone carries their weight differently so just want to see everyones different experiences :) also please include your body type if possible! (muscle, body shape, etc)

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For couples who were both overweight and one person lost the weight, how did it change your relationship?

If nothing changed or you can’t relate to this, then disregard this post.

I’m curious about the relationship dynamics here.

If both you and your partner were overweight, but one of you ended up losing a significant amount of weight while the other stayed overweight, how did that affect things?

If you were the one who lost the weight:

- Did it change how you felt about yourself?
- Did it change how you viewed your partner physically or emotionally?
- Did your partner treat you differently after the weight loss?
- Did it create any tension, jealousy, insecurity, or distance?

If you were the one who stayed overweight:

- How did your partner’s weight loss make you feel?
- Were you happy for them, inspired, insecure, resentful, or a mix of things?
- Did it change how you saw yourself or the relationship?
- Did you feel like the dynamic between you changed?

I’m interested in honest experiences, both positive and negative. Weight loss has a major impact in not only a persons health and size but also their self esteem and how others perceive them. I imagine it could also have a pretty big impact on a relationship, and I don’t hear people talk about this side of it very often.

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Measurements other than the scale

Probably many of us had a time when we were very fond of our scale, measuring ourselves everyday. You know, hoping for results. On a previous weight loss journey I learned how helpful body size measurements can be when the body got tired off the bullshit we made it go through and the scale didn't move anywhere for a while.

I'm curious, other than the scale and the tailors tape, is there any other way, possible measurement practice that can help observing ourself, and the change we succesfully achieve?

I mainly curious about options that can be done at home. Not looking for some laboratory testing :)

Thank you if you have any recommendations!

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Expected weightloss 3 month lock in?

My weight gradually spiraled out of control over the last decade. I’ve always been overweight, but now I’m morbidly obese.

M, 42, 5’11” 300 lbs

The last couple of weeks I started walking, and eating better. I managed to keep consistent despite heatwave. Even though I haven’t really indulged in food, I eat or plan a couple of times. Invited to BBQ and stuff.

I decide to fully lock in the next 3 months. As a kickstart of my weightloss journey.

Plan:

- stick to meal plan I made (averaging around 2100 kcal, 150 gr protein , 80 gr carbs)
- walk a hour in the morning, a half hour in the afternoon, a half our in the evening. So about 14-15k steps a day
- strength training every other day
- 7-8 hours sleep daily, consistent bedtimes

What would be a realistic expectation weightloss wise this 3 months.

I am actually hoping for 40 pounds.
Is this realistic? I know 2100 kcal isn’t that low, but I will be active.

Also I imagine in the beginning weight loss will be faster. Also going from 300 to 260, is different than going from 220-180, right?

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[AMA] Jamie Luu, RDN (Registered Dietitian & Nutrition Manager at Almased) will be in r/loseit on JULY 8 AT 4PM (EDT) for an AMA event!

Hi everyone, I'm excited to be co-hosting an AMA for the r/loseit community next week, Wednesday, July 8 at 4-5pm (EDT).

I am a registered dietitian and nutrition manager for Almased with over 15 years' experience helping people on their weight loss journey. As a mom to two young kids, I understand how difficult it can be to stay consistent, which is why I am a firm believer in making nutrition and healthy living as simple as possible.

The key focus for this AMA will be on "How to avoid losing muscle mass when losing weight (and the important role of protein)". However, if you have other nutrition-based questions, please ask away.

Feel free to start posting questions and I will be back to answer them all during the event. Thank you!

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