Does my mum have unhealthy weight loss logic or am I just not understanding

Sorry if this is hard to understand, I’m autistic and I’ve had a very eventful and difficult day so I’m up in my feelings right now. I’ll try to clear up things in the comments if there are questions. I have an anxiety disorder so please try to state your intention with what your saying as you might think there’s no way to misinterpret what you’re saying, but as an neurodivergent person, I might not get the hint. Thank you. I am also 16, around 300 lbs, and tall for a girl

I went to a dietitian provided by the NHS for the first time in early November 2025. I lost a lot of control over my weight loss when I went there. Mum got the dietitian to agree with her for me to stop my previous method I used on my own, hide the scales from me, and stop using slimfast products. I’ve come to terms with the fact she’s not gonna let me have the scales back, especially since we fought about it twice recently. I’m trying to figure out what to do without my method but I’m currently 25 lbs heavier after stopping the deficit (I lost 20 lbs in 5 months last year with my own method). I’m starting to figure out a way I feel better even without the calorie counting, but because I don’t have the scales, I don’t know if I’m losing weight or not

I had a conversation with my mum between the few weeks apart of our 2 fights, and she said that she’d wan to get me an NHS weight loss surgery to “kickstart” me. She had gastric bypass surgery 5 or more years ago (before lockdown, she doesn’t remember and I have memory loss from trauma of any time beyond 2021. I don’t need medical advice about this, I’ve got it handled). When we went to the dietitian, she said the slimfast products were very bad, and immediately mum went off of everything and we fought a lot about the slimfast products too

The gist of this is, what do I do about my weight loss because mum would rather me have surgery than eat over-processed food? I’m not asking for advice about the actual surgery, I don’t want it, so please don’t give any medical advice in the comments.

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Advice - Please :(

Hey guys,

I started my weight loss journey in July of 2023 at 82kg, 5'6F. (I did not restrict any food groups btw, but maybe ate less than I should've at times).

By May of 2024 - I reached 65kg and decided to slow down my weight loss. so then by August I got to 62.5kg, eating around 1700 daily. (I also did lose my period fairly early on in my journey unfortunately and yes, in hindsight, I should've noticed this as a red flag when it happened).

Anyway, idk what happened and why, but in Sep of 2024 I had my first binge? From Sep of 2024 to Aug of 2025, I was in a binge-restrict cycle, so only gained up to 64kg (fluctuating between 62-66kg).

From there the binges increased and my ability to manage this declined. Now it's April 2026 and I am back up at 72kg and feel so uncomfortable and horrible within myself, but dk how to stop the binges or why I am doing it. (not hunger related, and I pretty much just wanna binge on sugary stuff).

I have already joined the binge eating page.

But, does anyone have any tips/suggestions. I just want to get back into my better and balanced eating habits and lose this weight. I have fallen into an all or nothing mindset which I wasn't prone to before. I feel so much self hate at this weight gain and upset 😭💔

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Why did my weight loss stall after starting strength training?

Hi! I’m here to ask for some advice. I’ve been trying to lose weight since the start of the year. In February, I gave myself a challenge of walking 2 miles a day, every day of the month. Along with this, I ate in a small calorie deficit, and lost between 1-1.5 lbs/week.

In March, I replaced my daily walking with strength training 2x a week, lagree 2x a week, cardio 1x-2x a week and I’m eating in the same caloric deficit (I eat the same meals, all measured out - so there’s not much scope of me not actually being in a deficit this month but being in one in February) as I did in February. However, in this time, I’ve been maintaining but not losing weight at all.

In my mind, I’ve attributed it to one or more of these factors:

1. I’ve never lifted before this, and lost a lot of muscle over the last couple of years. I hear that initial gains for lifting are high - maybe I’ve gained some muscle weight

2. My body got used to my caloric deficit in a month, and I need to decrease my intake further

3. Daily steady state cardio/steps are much more important/effective in terms of weight loss than I thought.

I’d love to hear thoughts/advice, since I’m pretty new at consistent, regular exercise and feel a little lost currently. Thanks!

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Meal prep fatigue making me want to quit weight loss completely

Everyone says meal prep is key, and I really wanted it to work for me. On paper it sounds perfect cook once, eat all week, save time, stay consistent. But in reality, I keep running into the same problem. By the third or fourth day of eating the exact same lunch, I’m completely over it. It’s not even about the food being bad I just get bored. Opening the same container every day starts to feel like a chore, and instead of looking forward to eating, I’m already thinking about ordering takeout just to have something different. At that point, the whole system kind of defeats itself. I’ve tried solving that by adding more variety, but then it turns into a completely different issue. Instead of making one or two things, I’m suddenly planning multiple meals, buying a ton of ingredients, cooking for hours, and then cleaning everything up. It ends up taking a huge chunk of my weekend, and I just don’t have the time or energy for that every week. By the end of it, I don’t feel “prepared,” I just feel drained. So I feel stuck between two extremes. Either I keep it simple and get bored out of my mind eating the same thing every day, or I try to make things interesting and end up burning myself out before the week even starts. Neither of those feels sustainable, which is frustrating because I do want some kind of structure. I don’t want to be deciding what to eat from scratch every single day either that gets exhausting in its own way. I guess what I’m really looking for is a middle ground. Something that gives a bit of consistency without locking me into identical meals all week, and without turning my weekends into a full-time cooking job. Right now, both “strict meal prep” and “just wing it daily” feel equally exhausting in different ways, and I’m trying to figure out if there’s a more realistic balance people actually stick to.

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How did perceptions change specifically?

M, 255lbs, 5’11 and half, 26

Basically rn I’m quite frustrated as I’ve improved SO much about myself so far tbh.

I’m running way more, hitting gym, wearing some better clothes, skincare, good hygiene, keeping room clean, better organised, got a good conventions but nice hair and good beard, all well maintained and trimmed and so on. Even dating a bit/trying to.

I’m becoming less pathetic/goofy in my own eyes, but that doesn’t change anyone else’s. I feel better about myself a bit, but I still feel GOOFY.

That’s the right word. I HOPE it’s my weight. Like I’ve always hoped losing that would conclude feeling big and goofy and clownish, but idk anymore.

I see people sometimes who just look hot/respectable. They are cleaner, better dressed still, better bodies ofc, but just sharper as a whole.

I feel like I stumble about and get mocked/looked down upon. Like my physicality is laughable. My weight loss is going okay. 20lbs lost, but that’s over a fair amount of time now and I’ve maintained at this current weight for a while even with the increased exercise. I get it’s all diet but idk, it’s frustrating.

I just want to know if people did 180’s. I want to be that attractive sharp guy. My family are all big and broad and we all have big heads and stuff, and I feel very much that way. Like I like being my height (not even tall but it’s fine) and I don’t hate being broad (could be good with body recomp and muscles, and weight loss ofc) but it just makes me feel so goofy Christ. I feel like Jimmy for GTA 5 (cringe reference) or some other type like that when I want to be more Matt Bomer from white collar or something. Not those references exactly but the difference between goofy and suave.

I used to be prodded in the stomach in school and it still feels like that could be done to me. Or verbally even, like my stomachs so big and I’m so out there in public anyone could do that.

Anyway, feel like I said the same thing over and over there for a bit. Would appreciate advice if people felt the same way.

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Seeking weight loss partner!

Hello all~ I’m a 29F, 5’6”, 315 lb and I’m ready to lose this weight for good! I’ve been fat my whole life and actually got down to 155 lb a couple of years ago but gained it all back once I got on psychiatric meds. This time it’s coming off once and for all and I need a friend on the same journey!

I’m planning on doing a calorie deficit of 1,800 to start off and then tapering down to 1,500 where I’ll stay until I reach goal weight. I’ll also be going to the gym 2-3 times a week.

Hopefully I can find people who have a significant amount to lose like me so we can support each other on this similar journey! All I ask is to not message me if you’re a bigot or conservative.

[Here’s a picture of me now](https://imgur.com/a/cWYboZa)

[Here’s a bonus pic of when I was 155, can’t wait to get back to that spot](https://imgur.com/a/nuowFA3)

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Weight loss and gain

For context I have been “thin” all my life. A few years ago I went through a rough time and gained nearly 50 pounds. I have lost all the weight and have returned to my previous weight that I had been all my life before the weight gain. I had a guy (who has known me before the weight gain and also saw me during the weight gain and now after) say to me that “you worked really hard to lose that weight”. So my question is, do people worry that their partner will regain weight that they previously lost or does it not cross their mind?

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