Processing an awkward comment after a good about of weight loss

I just lost 28lbs (192 -> 164lbs) and I haven’t seen any of our friends in the last few weeks. I started in February and saw everyone for Easter but I’ve had the biggest visible changes happen since then.

Anyways, my husband invited his friends over tonight and only one really noticed and asked if I was okay because I look weak… once he said that everyone else noticed and it was very awkward. I get it the others didn’t want to say anything about their friends wife’s looks.

This man said it three times. You look weak! Oh she lost 30lbs (husband actually defended me). Oh wow, you look a little weak… oh she’s actually lifting. Oh.. you look weak, please eat something.

I wish I had said something or picked him up. Idk but I’m actually offended and that’s not something that normally happens. How would you react? He didn’t need to say it three times.

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Weight loss tips

I am 27(F), 8 months postpartum, and in the last 8 months, I have gained 8kgs. Currently, I am 89 kgs. I have never been able to retain losing weight for a longer period of time, been on and off many diet plans, and tried different types of exercises as well as yoga, but have managed to lose 4-5 kgs at best, which took me about 4-5 months. Right now, I am at my breaking point because what I have become.
Really need some hardcore advice on how to lose weight. For me, the core issue is that I love eating chocolates, anything that’s sweet, and occasionally I eat junk food.
Any advice on what would help me? According to TDSS, I need 1.4k calories per day to lose 0.5 kgs per week. My goal is to reach 60kgs
How do I go about it without bouncing back? Please help.

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4th month update

I had posted at the start of this year stating how i wanted to change and be healthy again.

I was very determined that even if i failed, i would post about it here as part of my accountability. Here it goes:

Starting weight on April 1: 117.9kg

Weight by April 30: 117.1 kg

Weight loss for the month: 0.8 kg

Total weight loss: 7.9kg

Not much of a weight loss this month but still enough for me to go in the right direction. It has been a little hard for me to feel motivated after some things that happened in the previous months but im happy to see a change even tho it's pretty slow lol

Trying weight loss over a long period definitely sucks lmao. Looking forward to how i do in May!

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i lost 45+ pounds in 3 months. tw: mention of suicidal tendency

three months ago on the 8th of february, i had reached a weight (255lb) that made me hate myself so much that i gagged while looking at the mirror. on that day, at around 4am nighttime, i remember being in the kitchen with a big kitchen knife in my hand. i was about to end my suffering in the permanent way. but while i was holding it in my hand, i felt a want. i wanted to make a deal, a final challenge. i wanted to try a final time to save myself. and starting on the 9th, i went into a deep detox where i gave my entire diet up and let my mother guide me fully on what to consume, when to consume it and everything else. i put a timer. i said to myself that if i dont save myself until may 9th, exactly three months later, the problem was going to be me. i started to live off of only supplement pills and disgusting aloe vera water with only a single meal allowed every sunday which also had to fit a specific calory range and not include gluten. i could say it wasnt fun and the difficulty hurt, but for me thats just not the case. seeing the number on the scale go down every week that i checked made it all worth it.

today is the 9th of may 2026. and i have lost 48lb, built my self confidence back up, and stopped hating myself. all in those three months. i went from an obese dude that wanted to end it all to... this. i was closest to taking my life away from myself and the joy out of everyone around me, but i chose to keep them. i saved myself. and just being able to say that is honestly one of the greatest things ive been able to proudly announce. even though my weight loss journey is not over just yet, i learned a lot. i learned the struggles of weight, i learned how much it was actually putting me back, i learned to endure and pull through tough times, and i also saw first hand how physicality changes the perception of everyone around you and yourself. the people that would not even want to approach a room i was in coming up and sitting next to me, people that would be repelled from their interests just because i was also interested in them suddenly wanting to chat about it, even someone being romantically interested in me without me even having met them.

and i learned one more thing.

i learned the power of committing, actually trying your best to succeed. i learned how far you can get if you just sit your ass down and say "im going to do this."

...im a butterfly.

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Is it normal to feel unhappy during weight loss?

Hello, I’m following the teen posting guidelines so I’m trying to add this all together. I’m 14, 5’3-5’4, and 201. I’ve been overweight since I was a baby. I walk a lot at school since my classes are on different floors. I also walk back home after school. I think we have a family doctor, and my parents mostly control what the family eats. Of course I’m free to make my own food, but everyone often eats what my mother makes. She cooks…healthy meals I guess? She does often include vegetables and meats and grains, everything nutritious but she always uses a lot of butters and oils and things that I’m not supposed to be eating apparently. Since my family cannot afford a nutritionist or consistent visits to doctors, I did the best research I could. However my doctor always says to cut snacks and stuff out so I have been this whole year. My goal is to mainly lose weight and fat, but to also be more athletic. My calorie intake is 1,000-1,500 a day based off calculators that were recommended. I don’t eat breakfast since it makes me nauseous so my energy typically relies on lunch and dinner. For lunch I typically either eat only boiled eggs and potatoes or plain lettuce with some vegetables I can eat or that we have in the fridge. For dinner I typically only eat small portions of whatever my mother makes. I cut out all sugar and carbs because those were the recommended diets for people who need to lose weight. I also cut out all processed foods. I avoid going to stores or shops to avoid getting any. I only drink water, sugar free drinks, sparkling water, or drinks under 20 cal with little to no sugar or sodium. As for exercise, I work out 3 times a day. 5-10 minutes in the morning before school(Stretches), 1hr in the evening after I get back from school(HIIT), and 1hr at night (Flexibility and balance). This doesn’t include the extra activities I do such as off ice figure skating training, ballet, track and volleyball. I do everything that has been recommended in weight loss and I just feel so unhappy? I’ve lost 24 pounds since the start of this year, since I started all this. I’ve lost the weight, my clothes fit loose, and I get compliments all the time—but I just feel so lost? Is that normal for anyone else? Is that just apart of weight loss? I’ve heard and seen everyone say that cutting sugar makes you happier and being on a diet was the best thing they ever did, how long does it take? I just want to know if this is normal in the process of weight loss or something that everyone gets over once they reach their target weight?

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How can I stop feeling (and looking) so flabby?

I lost 80lbs a year and a half ago and I’ve been able to keep the weight off but my body is still not great. I know that I need to lose fat still but I’m struggling. I feel like I don’t know where to start.

I feel like I could lose maybe 10ish more pounds but then I’d really like to just get more lean. I feel like throughout my life even when I was skinny I never really had a lot of muscle mass. I know I need to eat protein and lift weights but that’s easier said than done. I don’t know what exercises I should be doing with the weights or how heavy they should be. I also only have available to me what I have at my house so I don’t have any gym equipment or anything. I have 5 8 & 10 pound dumbbell weights that’s about it.

I feel like not knowing where to start or what exercises to do has me just doing nothing instead and hating how I look. I’m 5’8 155lbs 29 inch waist 43 inch hip. My stomach and thighs are probably the areas I dislike the most.

I’m so sick of feeling and looking so flabby. It makes my weight loss mean nothing to me because I still look gross. And recommendations on weight lifting at home (for a beginner) would be very appreciated!

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Dopamine gap and weight loss?

I'm in my 30s, overweight, with a toddler. I've been heavy my whole life but recently received some blood work news that made it obvious I need to make a change. For the past few weeks I've been making adjustments and trying to stick with a healthy calorie deficit. I have a huge issue with carbs/sugar so that's been the main adjustment. Yogurt and berries for breakfast instead of banana bread, an apple at night instead of chocolate, etc. Occasional exercise when I can make time/energy for it.

The main thing I'm noticing is a huge drop in my mental health. I have a lot going on right now mentally and do have a therapist/meds. But dropping/reducing my favorite foods has led to a lot of overall sadness and apathy. There are definitely days in my life when eating a chocolate croissant or other junk food is the main thing I'm looking forward to in a day, and without that, where does that joy come from? Right now there's just this dopamine/joy gap in my life and it's making it very hard to keep up with these necessary changes.

What sources of joy can I try and turn to? I'm not an endorphins girl, so I don't get any natural joy out of a workout, I do it because I'm supposed to. I've tried to replace the urge to snack with some kind of phone game like candy crush but that hasn't helped much beyond the short term. Would love to know if anyone has ideas.

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Question about Realistic Goal

Hello!

I (31F) am currently 246lbs, and about a size 20. I am getting married in April 2027. I want to but this wedding dress from Facebook Marketplace that I love, that is a Bridal size 10, which is a street size 8 I think. Do we think this is possible? I may start a GLP-1 soon to help with my weight loss. But overall, do we think this is a realistic goal? To go from a 20 to an 8 by next April? And I’m talking realistic as in I don’t need to starve myself or drink crazy laxative teas. Just diet and exercise, and a boost from a GLP-1.

What’s the consensus, is this possible?

Thank you!

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Weight loss affecting running technique?

Hi everyone!

I’m sorry if this comes off as a stupid question, but I don’t have anyone close to me who has lost a lot of weight, so I don’t have anyone I can ask for advice from.

I’ve always loved running, and I used to run even when I was 200 lbs+. Then, my thighs would always rub against each other while running (not a problem, I just wore longer bike shorts or tights).
I recently got back into running, and I noticed that I’m not sure how far apart my legs should really be. I’m finding that I’m still running so that my thighs touch, which make my knees be really close together. I’m scared of getting injured, should I be trying to keep my stance a shoulder width apart?

Any advice much appreciated!!

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Just wanted to celebrate the little wins…

I’m about 15 lbs away from my goal. Currently at 148 and I want to get down to 130-135. As I’m sure a lot of people who have gotten close to their goals know, towards the end, the weight comes off reeeeally slow. Much slower than it was in the beginning.

I’m trying to be patient (which is not my strong suit) so I’m choosing to remind myself of the small wins I’ve had thus far.
1. I’m now a healthy BMI. I started out in the obese category but after losing 48 lbs, I’m now considered at a healthy weights.
2. Shopping for clothes is actually fun now.
3. I find that I don’t hide myself in group photos anymore. We took family photos and I didn’t feel self conscious looking at the pictures.
4. (And my favorite win of this entire journey)… my boobs are now really really small.😂 pre kids I was a C cup, after kids I was a DDD. I had a breast reduction and ended up at a D cup. I’m now a B cup and I joke that the weight loss is like another breast reduction. It’s spectacular.

Anyways, please feel free to share your own small (or big) wins from your weight loss journey! Losing weight can be a really hard and long process, finding the positives to focus on has been helping me the last few weeks.

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Low Calorie Volume Eating Options or Suggestions

I am on a weight loss journey and since Oct 2025 I've lost about 50 pounds and I'm very proud and excited for myself since food has always been something I have struggled with, especially portions. I am a volume eater and I like to snack but I've been working on snacking and volume eating foods that are low-calorie.

I don't eat anything until around 10 am, when I grab a snack. Usually, my snacks for the day are a bowl of veggies (especially cucumber, raw mushrooms, cherry tomatoes, cauliflower rice, sweet potato) and a bowl of cut-up fruit (especially pineapple, cantaloupe, strawberries, other berries). I steer clear of grapes and bananas as volume fruit.

Does anyone have any suggestions for other foods that would work as options or any suggestions in general? I feel like I'm getting stagnant and that makes me want to grab other things around me that aren't good options. Once I start down that path, my hunger is sky-high, and I start craving the processed foods I've worked to get rid of. I try to drink at least 96 ounces of water a day, outside of any tea or almond milk I have throughout the day and if I can remember, I take 3 fiber pills in the morning. I try to be very careful about added sugar and the total calorie count of foods in general. I feel like I've gotten bored and it has made my weight loss journey hit a few bumps in the road.

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Tired of being overweight

I joined this subreddit and I am glad that I found it. I am tired of being overweight. I'm tired of not being taken seriously by people. You can tell when someone js being nice but they don't really wanna talk to you. I think it is honestly because of my weight.

I wanna say that I have already lost 10 pounds. It is not much but it is a start. I want to work more on this weight loss goal. I want to be able to wear the clothes I want without feeling disgusting. I want to be able to feel comfortable in my own skin. I can and will achieve this goal!

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When did you start seeing results after you went into a calorie deficit?

Okay, I'm going to lay it all out for you'll, because I don't know what else to do. Please let me know if you have any questions. Here it goes:

Recently I started calorie counting to troubleshoot what is causing a long plateau. I have never experienced this in my life. I have always lost weight by just eating healthier, avoiding less "healthy" packaged food etc. I used the tdee calculator to see how many calories I should be eating daily. It says around 1765 a day, I should be losing 1 pound a week, but I have not been seeing that. I have a very healthy diet that I upgraded even more for weight loss. Most of the time I essentially eat : Meat, fruits, veggies, nuts and very dark chocolate (moderately) and I reduced my baking to just on the weekends. (This has truly been a sacrifice, but I did it!) I'm a little more adventurous on the weekends but not by much, & I don't really eat out.

I also have upped my exercise from just walking and added cardio sessions /light weightlifting 4-6 days a week, for the past 2-3 months. I have seen changes with my measurements, but not so much on the scale. This is my first time actually counting calories. I started doing so roughly 4 or more weeks ago. I am so ready to see the scale move significantly!

For reference currently I am 38 yrs old, 5'8, in good health, not on any meds. I usually eat around 1300 calories or less during the week and 1700-1900+ on the weekends. I have a desk job. I usually don't eat until 11 or 12 noon and stop eating around 7-8 p.m. I have had significant stress the past few years (that's ongoing) and lost a loved one. I am very aware of what I eat and I've never been prone to bingeing. But I tend to bake a lot of "healthy" goods which I realize are still calorie dense so that's why I've limited it.

I am trying to lose the last 15-20 pounds. My goal was 35-40 pounds and it's never took this long. I lost 23 pounds within the first few months of upgrading my diet last year. No calorie counting just eating naturally low calorie foods, meat, veggies, fruit, but then I hit a plateau and then the holidays came, I was still eating healthier alternatives, but everything was a lot denser and I baked a lot and didn't exercise for a week or so. I finally got back on track and stricter in January. Now I’ve added calorie counting because I'm tired of being in a plateau. The results still seem slow, but I'm getting better at tracking more accurately weekly. I try to over measure/weigh my amounts to make sure I'm not over.

All that to ask when did you start seeing results after you went into a calorie deficit? What are some things that may be hindering me that I'm not aware of? Am I missing something? Anybody experience anything similar what helped you? Any advice would be appreciated.

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Why am I more hungry some days

Maybe a silly question but curious. What works for me is fasting the whole day until around 7pm then eating before bed. My food intake is usually similar every day but some days I wake up ravenously hungry and others I’m not hungry all day until dinner.

Is this because of the food ate the previous day? Or is it another reason. Trying to get my nutrition dialled in now as I’ve hit my first plateau (103kg down to 84ish) and tbh I wasn’t overly strict with my eating during this weight loss but rn I need to lock in. Any thoughts on this?

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Need advice and vent with weight loss

Ive (21 F) been going to the gym for 4-5 months, i do weights 4 times and cardio 1 or 2 times a week. I do not weight myself or count calories because is triggering for me. My principal objective is to loose fat, more than building muscle. For cardio im doing half hour stairmaster and half hour incline walking (3 and 5 on the settings).

Ive been feeling better but im not seeing the progress i expected so i decided to switch to OMAD (just eat lunch, i do take creatine) and have been doing it for a couple of weeks and i mostly have been feeling good and do not get hungry all the time like i used to and has been helping with my constipation (gross) so thats great

I know loosing fat takes time, it all depends on calories and such but not seeing progress is making me so sad because i think ive been really putting an effort and my weight is something ive been conscious about and has been impacting my mental health

Im asking for your experience. How long do i have to wait to see progress? Am i doing something wrong that i can maybe adjust? How was your experience loosing weight? Should i do something different for cardio? Or do more? What do you think?

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What’s one simple thing that you did that made weight loss easier?

Just when I was so fed up of dieting, I decided that I’m just going to focus on something small. Im normally one to stick to a diet for a few months then quit. This time i realised that I needed to make it a lifestyle change. My aha moment was when I cut down on oil/buttee. That’s it! I only use 1 tsp of ghee to cook my eggs and I measure 8g of butter for my toast and it STILL TASTES GREAT. I didn’t want to cut out any of my favourite foods because lm a foodie as well but omg I can’t believe how easy it has been! I’ve saved 100s of calories just by reducing oil/ghee/butter! I’ve lost 5 lbs and I look slimmer already. I do eat vegetables, whole grains, meat, fruit etc so a balanced diet but I was eating way too much fat. You can’t lose weight if you’re eating way too many fats and carbs. I decided to keep the carbs and cut the fat and it’s worked! What did you do that was simple but helped you to lose weight?

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Finally broke down and decided to start seeing a dietitian.

41F, starting weight 223 lbs. I have been losing and gaining the same 40-45 lbs for about 7 years now, and was starting to feel like it would always be this way. Cutting down to 1200 cals a day, intermittent fasting, cutting carbs and tracking calories, etc. Lose the weight, feel good, start slacking off and then boom, gain it all back. I'd been seeing these ads for Berry Street and thought, "What the heck, might as well see if my insurance covers it." (It does.) I've been working with the dietician chosen for me for about two months now, and I'm really surprised how much of a difference it's made.

The main difference, I feel, is that she's helping me reframe my approach to food and weight loss as a whole. One of the first things she told me was that her goal is to make it so I don't have to give up any of the things I love. Which, I know, we've all heard that "everything in moderation" is the way to go, but I felt like I didn't really know how to put that into practice without guidance. She's showing me what that looks like for me personally, and how I can maintain it so it's not just a diet.

I'm currently down to 216 lbs, but more than that, I'm tracking my measurements (which is where I see the biggest difference). It has taken some time for me to wrap my head around the fact that yes, I'm losing weight at a slower pace than I ever have with anything I previously tried, but I'm also not starving myself or overtraining in order to do it. If the rest of my life looks like this, I think I can do it.

I just wanted to share, because this is the first time I've ever felt truly positive about the possibility of losing the weight and keeping it off.

Thanks for reading!

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I'm either obsessive or gaining weight

Nothing in between. Anyone else?

I'm a 35yo F and there's (probably) nothing I haven't read/done on the weight loss topic. Nothing stops the food noise and "the new diet" obsession until it stops. Last year I lost some weight by doing IF plus low carb plus 15k steps a day. Then holiday happened and here I am, 8 months later and the holiday never ended. I can't get back on track as I know that by doing so I need to become obsessed with whatever "lifestyle" I choose. And it's exhausting, but for me there's no in between. Either I'm obsessive or I'm gaining. By obsessive I don't mean overly restrictive when it comes to calories or macros. What I mean is mental obsession - I must listen to podcasts about the diet/ lifestyle that I have chosen this time, order all the books on it, think about it all the time. All the time. It's never just casual with food. It's either I'm eating whole big pizza plus 2 tubs of ice cream and then some after a short breather, or I'm perfectly following my new diet of which at that point I truly think as my "one true I could do this forever lifestyle" thingy. Until I forever fall off. Anyone else???

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Quick recipes

What are some easy and quick meals to make for dinner/work lunch that are good for weight loss? I You don’t even need to put the actual recipe if you don’t want. Just the name of it so I can look it up.

I’m just now learning how to cook so please nothing super difficult. I don’t know how to grill. I am going to see if a family member can teach me soon though.

I am SUPER picky. I don’t like much but im open to trying new stuff. Just don’t make it too adventurous lmao.

no allergies but I do have acid reflux so nothing to hard on that

I’m not on Reddit daily so I might not respond immediately (self control isn’t my strong suit with social media so I have to limit it) but thank you so much in advance!! If i try what you suggest, i will definitely let you know.

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Losing weight feel like a bit stalled

I'm 6ft and currently 215 lbs. I've started my fat loss Journey since February this year. I started off 233. I work out 5 days a week and cardio 4x a week. My calories started around 1750, which gave me some good consistent weight loss. In around 4/1 to know I upped calories to 1950 and now 2065. In this month, I've consistent sat around 215. Of course I want to build muscle, but I want to lean out first.

I'm currently taking test, reta, hgh and motsc. I thought with all this, I wouldve achieved my goals by now...

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