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Hellooooo everyone

In February I weighed 102 kg (225 lb). I’m now around 76 kg (168 lb) at 172 cm (5’8”) so I’ve lost about 26 kg/57 lb in roughly 6 months.

The problem is that I lost the weight in a particularly unhealthy or unsustainable way.

Over the past several months I got heavily into the techno/party scene. At my peak I was going out 2–3 times a week sometimes dancing for 6–7+ hours straight and sometimes going to afterparties until 10 or 11 AM. There were periods where I was probably dancing for 18+ hours per week.
At the same time I started using drugs including Molly/MDMA, ketamine and other substances and I was also smoking a lot of cigarettes.

I wasn’t intentionally starving myself. In fact I used to be someone who ate quite a lot especially when stressed or angry. But my appetite basically disappeared. Even foods I used to LOVE especially fast food stopped appealing to me.

So obviously the combination of much more physical activity, partying, substances and having very little appetite resulted in a huge amount of weight loss.
I also suspect I’ve lost some muscle along the way. My legs are relatively muscular from all the dancing but otherwise I feel like I’ve lost a lot of muscle as well as fat.

I’m trying to slow everything down now. I’ve gone from partying several times a week to roughly once a month over the last few months. I’m also trying to reduce my drug use although I’m struggling with that part because I find it very difficult to say no when I’m in that environment.

My biggest fear now is what happens when my appetite comes back and I stop partying/drug use?

I’m currently very close to what I consider my goal weight. At 172 cm and 76 kg, my BMI is around 25.7. I’d need to lose roughly 2–3 kg to get below the standard BMI “overweight” cutoff. Ideally I’d like to eventually be around 70 kg but I’m much more concerned about maintaining a healthy weight than getting there as quickly as possible.

I also realized how dramatic the change has been because my parents live in Canada and I only see them about twice a year. My mom saw me in March and then again in July and she was genuinely shocked by how different I looked because I’d lost so much weight.

So I have a few questions:

Has anyone here experienced significant weight loss because of substance use, loss of appetite or an extremely active lifestyle and then stopped/reduced the substances or lifestyle that caused it?

Did your appetite come back?
Did you gain weight afterward?
If you did how much?
Were you able to maintain most of the weight loss?
How did you rebuild your appetite and eating habits?
Did you need to follow a specific diet or exercise routine?
And did you regain muscle after getting back to a more normal lifestyle?

I’m not looking for advice on how to continue losing weight through drugs or partying quite the opposite. I know that this isn’t a healthy way to lose weight and I’m trying to move away from it.

I’m mainly scared that I’ve accidentally lost a huge amount of weight through a lifestyle that I can’t/shouldn’t maintain and that once my appetite and normal routine return I’ll immediately gain everything back.
I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar.
Be safe ! Love you all 🫶

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What’s a weight-loss “rule” you believed for years that turned out to be BS?

Mine was thinking one bad meal meant I already “ruined the day” 😂
I’d eat something off plan and basically say screw it, I’ll start again tomorrow. Then one meal would turn into a whole day of eating whatever because I felt like the damage was already done.
Eventually I realized one meal barely matters compared with what I do the rest of the week. Getting back to normal at the next meal helped me way more than trying to be perfect all the time.
I’ve also changed my mind on a lot of the little rules people repeat around weight loss. Stuff like certain foods being automatically bad, having to eat at certain times, or thinking every day has to be perfect.
What’s one weight-loss rule you used to believe that you completely changed your mind about?

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Weight loss advice

I am a 20 year old women , 206 pounds, 5’7. I have let myself go these past couple of months. I want to lock in and be consistent and disciplined. I have so much good noise. I have 23 days to lose weight/fat for a family get together. I just want to feel more confident and look a little slimmer. I want to lose at least 10 pounds. I know it probably won’t be sustainable in the long run but I just need it for this vacation. Has anyone done this before does it seem possible? Thanks in advance and if you have nothing helpful to say pls….dont. lol.

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Thermodynamics is real, and you can’t argue with it

Today I’m down 90lbs from my heaviest weight. I’m 7lbs from just being “overweight”. I’ve been obese for over 30 years. I’ve tried so many “diets” it’s not even funny. There were a lot of fad diets in the early 90s that my parents put me on. Since becoming an adult I’ve tried hcG, Atkins, keto, vegetarian diets, and at least half a dozen more random ones. I always gave up because I hated what I had to eat. People talk about how hard it is restricting what you eat. I agree, it really is.

I’ve learned in the last two years that what you eat matters less than how much you eat. I see all kinds of garbage about “clean eating” (whatever the hell that means, I blame Panera) or only eating whole foods. That’s garbage. You can do those things and still not lose weight if you are not in a deficit. You can also eat whatever you like (within reason) and still lose weight, as long as you are in a deficit. I eat out, I eat fast food, I enjoy desserts. I just set myself a weekly calorie goal and cycle my intake to not exceed that and I lose weight. I do prioritize protein because I’m also building muscle, but the key is knowing what you’re putting in your body and how much of it.

The other saying is also true: most weight loss is in the kitchen, not the gym. I do strength training 2-3 times a week, max. I don’t spend more than an hour each session. I also walk 1.5-2.5 miles 3-5 times a week. But that’s it. I don’t kill myself. I don’t spend 3-4 hours a day.

You can’t do it if you don’t know how much you consume. And you can’t guess. I am fairly meticulous with my calorie tracking, but it is definitely harder when you eat out (can’t really break out the scale at Black Angus). But it can be done.

Also one side note: GLP-1s can help, but that’s it. They can’t do it for you. I actually got to my heaviest while on a GLP-1 (I’m diabetic). I’ve been on them for 7 years. I’ve lost the vast majority of my weight in the last 18 months. But only because I decided what was important and knuckled down. I’ve still got probably 30lbs until I’m happy, but I feel better than I have for decades.

One other caveat: medications can mess with your progress. At suggestion of my doctor I removed one of my medications and my insulin resistance went up and I plateaued for almost six months, despite being in a deficit. Once that was resolved I started losing again.

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I didn't even lose that much weight and the life changes have been crazy

I don't think it's entirely down to weight loss, as my starting weight wasn't that high, but, I lost ~2 dress sizes (solid size 10 to largeish size 6), so it's not insignificant. But I think the bigger changes came from eating better and getting fit. I no longer feel tired from opening heavy doors. Yesterday I made whipped cream by hand and my arms aren't even sore today. I have way more mental energy, so I've been picking up hobbies that I wouldn't engage in before (brain games, world news, language learning). Walking and exercising a lot has had a huge positive impact on my mood (and cutting out added sugars), so I feel way more calm and happy all the time. Having better mood made me more motivated to work on myself, so I started looking for self-help materials and I am much better at advocating for myself now. It probably doesn't hurt that people do treat you a bit nicer when you're down 2 dress sizes. The positive transformation of my life has been wild.

There are a few downsides too - I kind of lost a close friend in this process because I was getting much healthier and they were not, and while part of it is I got fit and they did not (and they have a lot of barriers preventing them from getting healthier so I'm not blaming them), I think the bigger part is my mental landscape just looks so different compared with how it was a year ago.

So, I sort of just want people to know if you stick with it - eating better and getting more fit, it can really transform your life. People talk a lot about the outside changes, but if you change your outsides the insides can also change a lot as well.

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Cheat meals?

I started my weight loss journey earlier this year, I started at 262 lbs and now weigh 202. Im 5'7, 25, male, and have been eating 1500 calories a day for 5 months.

I dont do cheat days. But, its starting to mentally wear on me and id like to be able to go out to eat with my spouse, friends, family and not worry about tracking, or if I do track, how much is it acceptable to go over my 1500? I dont know.

How often do you have a cheat day? Cheat meal? Do you allocate calories so you can eat more on the weekends?

Tell me what you do or what you suggest.

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Why is nobody noticing my weight loss?

I’m not looking for compliments. I promise I’m not. I’m just surprised that no one has said anything at all. I’m down 54 pounds since April. I’m a woman who went from 278 pounds to 224 pounds. I’ve been doing calorie counting, cardio, weight lifting, doing this the healthy way. I went from a size 20-22 to currently in a size 14. I’ve even lost a shoe size!

I’m just baffled that no one has said a word. Even a negative word! Just some type of acknowledgement. Is this weird? Am I being odd for asking this. I’ve lost weight in the past and people have said things, both positive and negative. But at least they saw it. I’m just wondering if people even see it on me now.

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38 days in. I feel like my mind has changed so much (for the better.)

The weight loss is obviously nice. I don't own a scale but i'm seeing slow but steady progress in my progress pictures and I'm super proud. But I feel like my mind has changed so much and my relationship with food is so different. I used to only eat sweets & only eat super high calorie foods because it was the only thing I could stomach and I was so used to it. When I do crave sweets now I can eat a small portion and NOT WANT ANYMORE! What?! I don't even want to keep binging, it's such an unfamiliar feeling. I feel like my brain is learning that there isn't a lack and I still have the cake and cookies and I don't have to eat it all because it'll disappear or something. Last night I had some of my favorite foods. Thai iced tea, crab rangoon, my favorite sushi. And you know what? I stopped when I was full. WHAT! In the past I would have pushed past my hunger cues and continued eating and that instinct kicked in and I literally couldn't. My body wouldn't let me. So I just... stopped eating. Which might sound like "well yea that's what you're supposed to do" but I haven't been able to do that in years. Ate all my favorite foods, still stayed in my deficit. I'm so happy.

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can i trust the nutritional facts posted on my campus’ dining hall pages?

Hi, i’m 19F and i’m trying to lose weight 😖

Im 184lbs (i’ve already lost a few pounds from when i started). I’m kind of new to losing weight altogether. I understand that i need a calorie deficit to lose weight at all, and so far i’ve been kind of successful. though, i know it’ll take a while to really see changes

At the same time, i want to try and bulk up—i’ve been going to the gym and tracking my carbs and protein intake, which i try to get at least 90-130g of protein every day to help that. i know im still a little under what i need to most effectively bulk, but im still working out 4-5 times a week for 50 minutes, as well as walking 3-4 miles on hilly terrain because of my campus

i’ve gotten an apple watch and everything to track my heart rate throughout the day. my health apps say that i burn around 2400-2500 calories a day (with what my watch tracks), so that’s what i base my meal portions on. i also only eat twice a day (i skip breakfast), so i have to eat a little more at lunch and dinner to make up for that loss of an entire meal.

now the problem is: i don’t know if im accidentally eating more than im logging!

i dont have exact numbers to count, since this is a dining hall SERVING me food. i dont have access to personally-measured and cooked food. i feel like since i have to eat more to stay in that safe calorie deficit range, so i dont accidentally send my body into starvation mode and end up hindering the weight loss, i can end up eating more than im calculating as a calorie intake total. i add a hundred or so calories to make up for it, but its still sketchy to me. it doesn’t help that im a big eater, so when i feel full it REALLY makes me feel like i ate too much 😭.

does this sound like something i can do? pertaining my diet, i cut out all fried foods, all sweets, and most bread. i eat rice as my main source of carbs, and i eat chicken, shrimp, and beef as my main sources of protein. again, this is coming from what the dining halls post as their calorie counters

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Recommendations for weight loss?

Im 24 Male, I've put on 80lbs since my job changed, and I just dont know where to start. Ive taken my calories down to around 1500-1800 a day, but am quickly growing tired of the same meals everyday. Most days it's chicken, rice, and beans 2 times a day usually with hot sauce. With alotted low cal snacks like fruits and popcorn.

Im going through a divorce aswell and the stress on both sides makes me want to eat more. Through this ive had to take my 4, 10hr shifts a week and turn them into atleast 6 to afford rent and everything. I want to stay on a healthy diet and keep continuing a weight loss journey. My goal is to in time get below my previous weight of 260, right now im 340. Im trying to incorporate some exercise into it, my job has a staff gym available and I feel like i could get back into it again. I think something right after a my shift would be the best options, is there any good exercises that are made for someone who has gotten larger. Before this, I could squat 500lbs, bench 225, but recently I tried and it just fell flat. Im mainly focused on weight loss right now, but would love to be able to put the muscle back on as I lean down closer to 260. I appreciate any help thank you.

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Weight loss and muscle building with IBS/digestion issues

Hey all, what have your experiences with weight loss and bodybuilding been with digestion issues such as IBS, lactose intolerance, FODMAP, etc? What are you eating/not eating and have you found a balance in foods that work and satisfies you?

I've got a doctors appointment coming up soon to get a diagnosis, while chipping away at certain vegetables, trying whey isolate powders, different milks; as I'm slowly learning that quite a lot of whole foods I'm trying to incorporate into my diet do not play well with me. Makes it a pain to lose weight effectively when I have to "eat healthy" with 10 extra steps included.

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Anyone else feel "wrong" after losing weight?

31M, 6'2 currently 220 pounds. I've been overweight basically my whole life and I feel like it's just been part of my identity up until now. This is my first time doing a serious weight loss regimen. I've lost 40 pounds in 6 months, and I'm quite happy with my progress so far. But in some ways, I feel... weird? Like there's not *enough* of me, if that makes any sense. It's like my brain keeps expecting my larger body to be there and gets surprised when it isn't.

Anyone else experience this? Do you get used to it with enough time?

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Lost weight but feel so lost with my progress

Hello!
I(26f) currently weigh in at 79kg(174 lbs). My starting weight was 99kg(218 lbs), so I’ve lost about 20kg(44 lbs).
I’ve been trying to lose weight for pretty much my entire conscious life. This is the most weight I’ve ever managed to lose, but weirdly, I don’t feel like I’m in control of it.
I’ve known for a very long time how to lose weight. I’ve known about calories, exercise, steps, etc. But I’ve never been able to consistently stick with it I also struggle with binge eating(a lot).
I’m trying really hard to change my entire mindset around food, weight, and dieting. I know that I want to lose more weight, ideally around another 15-20kg(33-44lbs) but what scares me is that I don’t actually understand what is different this time.
I don’t know what suddenly made it “click.” I don’t know why I was able to lose 20 kg this time when I’ve struggled with my weight for so long. And because I don’t know what caused the change, it makes me feel like I don’t have any control over whether I’ll loose more.
I’m constantly afraid of gaining the weight back.
Recently, I had a few days where I didn’t count calories, and over the course of maybe a week or two, the scale went up by around 1.5 kg. I know that this isn’t necessarily a big deal, and I know that weight can fluctuate for all kinds of reasons. I’m trying to get back into my “routine” now, but it just made everything feel so fragile.

I keep trying to remind myself that I have managed to lose this weight. So surely I’m capable of maintaining it and eventually losing the rest too. But emotionally, I’m just so fucking scared.
And I really, really want to lose the weight. I’ve wanted this more than almost anything for such a long time. I’m also not planning on taking medication for weight loss. I feel like if I’ve managed to get this far without it, I should be able to make it all the way.

Normally, when I decide to lose weight, it’s very deliberate. I tell myself, “Okay, I’m going to lose weight now,” and then I start exercising, counting calories, making sure I get my steps in, and doing all the things I’m “supposed” to do.
This time, it almost feels like a haze i never really made that conscious decision in the way I normally do.
I’m incredibly happy about the progress, but at the same time, it feels fragile because I don’t understand what happened or why it worked this time.
I think I mostly just needed to write this off my chest. But if anyone has experienced something similar then I would love to hear about it!
Thank you for reading❤️

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Weight Loss Goal!!

Hey yall, I just wanted to post to talk about something that I'm proud of. Years back, I was around 167-170lbs which is crazy to think about and when I started my weight loss journey, my goal weight was 120lbs. Today, I hopped on the scale and it read 119lbs. Not only did I reach my goal, but I surpassed it. I'm incredibly proud of myself and how far I've come. (Also, before anyone gets concerned or anything, I'm very short. Only 4'11 lol)

I'm wishing everyone else luck and and success on your own weight loss journeys!

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Feeling discouraged today

I'm a 42 yo, 5'3 female. Today I had my yearly physical and feeling discouraged.

Last year at my physical, I weighed in at 172 pounds and had borderline high cholesterol. I was also started on high blood pressure medication.

Today I weighed in at 139 pounds which I know is about a 19% weight loss. I've lost it slowly over the year. Started out at about 5 pounds per month and now about 1 - 1.5 pounds per month. I have gone 260 days getting in at least 10,000 steps per day. I walk about 2-3 miles on the treadmill every day. I started strength training about 2 days a week 1.5 monthd ago. I mostly eat about 1300-1400 calories per day. Sometimes more if I go out with friends or family. I have also really decreased my red meat and dairy consumption over the last year.

Today at my provider's visit, she did not mention anything about weight loss. I'm not sure she even noticed it in the chart. About 4 months ago, I had to decrease my blood pressure medication because I was tired frequently. Today I wanted to discuss doing a trial without it which she immediately said to stay on it. My cholesterol has also increased since last year instead of decreasing.

I feel like I've made a lot of improvements in my health the last year. Just discouraged that none of it was acknowledged at my annual physical and my cholesterol actually increased.

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How do I make the most of getting a health coach?

Hi everyone! I've been over 200 lbs since around the pandemic and have been trying to the lose weight over the last 5 years off and on. This year, I've been trying to stay committed to losing the weight. So this past April, I got a health coach through a program from my insurance. I love my coach and she's been super encouraging! She's helping me introduce positive habits into my life, and is open to me messaging her and asking questions. But I feel like I'm struggling to use her and her resources to their full potential in order for me to succeed fully? I come from a household that didn't encourage me to seek help or open up to others so it was something I really struggled to do with my coach and the only time we would really talk is when she would reach out during our monthly check-in. Like I want to reach out to her for something? But I don't know what to say to her or how to ask for help or even where I need help. I just end up feeling lost in that area.

I've lost a little over 10 lbs since working with her, but we missed our last appointment (and due to some personal issues in my life) , I've lost a lot of the positive habits that kept me losing and my weight-loss has stagnated.

I'm currently 214 lbs and want to re-commit the rest of my year to losing enough to be under 200lb before I turn 26! I feel like it's super doable but I still want her help in doing so, since she kept me positive and accountable while losing my first 10lbs, but this time, I want to make the most of it! Does anyone have any advice on using a life coach to lose weight? I'm also very open to any general weight loss tips 😊

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I hate myself

I’m 31F 240 lbs and I’m beginning to hate myself really bad because of my weight. I gained a significant amount of weight since 2019 when my mom was diagnosed with an incurable cancer. Since then, I was her primary caretaker and also needed to look after my aging, disabled uncle who lived with us. During that time, I started bingeing as food was my only form of comfort because I was extremely lonely and stressed out. I was also beginning to grieve my mom as we were super close and I knew that she didn’t have long to live. I was emotionally overwhelmed with loneliness, anxiety, and depression and was clinging to things that could make me somewhat happy even for a moment: food. Fast forward, I still feel extremely lonely even though I have friends and ultimately feel a void inside myself that I don’t know how to fix. Romantically, I’ve been rejected a lot (even when I was my skinniest). I don’t think I’m “ugly”, but I’ve seen the ways people talk about fat people and it has really made me feel ugly and worthless. Even the way people talk about losing weight to “get hotter” and general comments about overweight people. I’m tired of the only solution people come up with in feeling this way is to lose weight. I know I need to lose weight but I want to do it for myself and not other people or because that’s what other people want me to do. I am actively taking steps to lose weight, but I feel like it’s because of the self loathing I have due to how everyone treats and talks about overweight people. I feel like I’m being pushed into a corner and it makes me feel even worse. I hate the fact that I don’t feel pretty at my current weight and no matter how I even feel about myself, society will always look at me and how stereotypes about me without knowing how much I’ve been through and how hard I’m trying to take care of myself everyday. It’s even getting to the point where I don’t want to be seen in public. It doesn’t feel good to be judged or treated differently and it’s all getting to me. I’m seeing a therapist but what others think of me/might think of me (including my friends and family) still bothers me on a daily basis. Sometimes I feel afraid to even lose weight because if my friends or anyone starts treating me differently, it will break my heart because it would let me know how low they viewed me at my current weight. Any advice on how to shake/manage these feelings while trying to work towards my weight loss goals? Please be nice. P

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Stuck at 261

I’m 68m 5’8” very active walk 4+ miles a day do kickboxing 3 times a week. Started my weight loss journey at 345 18 months ago. Started at 2000 calories a day and exercising as much as my body could take. I hit a plateau at 280 so I dropped to 1600 or so calories a day and I track everything, got down now to 261. I have hit another plateau I can’t get passed. My TDEE says for extreme weight loss at my exercise level to be at 1825 calories a day so I’m already below that, so I don’t understand why I’m not losing more. I feel tired a lot of the time and get moody I guess because I’m not eating enough, but I don’t want to eat more and start gaining. Any suggestions out there?

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Tips to be in a calorie deficit without actually counting calories

Hi everyone, since I have anxiety, counting calories stresses me up. I am struggling to stick to calorie deficit because of that, even though it works for me. I just need to hear your experiences regarding weight loss without counting calories, if there are any. Also, I use 15-20 g oil/ butter a day (my daily calorie intake is 1500) and my food is just dry all the time and I feel miserable. Any tips for that too? (English is not my first language, so please forgive any mistakes I've made). Thank you all.

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weight loss help

hello guys, i am new to this sub but i think it will help, for a long time i have been trying to lose weight as fast as possible, but after several attempts i have understood i should do it healthy so please do not judge me

i am 17, 178 cm and about 100 kgs, i have had a unhealthy lifestyle in the past and now since today school has started it wont be easy, everyday i have school till evening, so working out wont be that easy, i am willing to do it if somebody could tell me some full body exercices e.g. 5-10 exercices i can do everyday that burn calories or increase strength because thats another problem, i am quite weak and everyday i feel hate to myself because of not being able to keep up with others, i want to finally lose it, but this time with a healthy approach

as i am not really hungry in the morning and i am busy during school i have thought of eating two meals a day, one after school and one in the evening, i am thinking of eating 1500 calories a day, i know fasting helps the body burn fat, so is this a valid approach, another problem is mindless snacking, i try to drink water every time i want to snack but some minutes later i see myself snacking whatever i find, i also try to drink zero sodas to avoid cravings and dont consume my calories liquid, so if you have any tips for that please tell them to me

in addition i walk to school so getting minimum 5000 steps per day (about 8000 some days) wont be that big of a problem

first of all thankyou for reading, i am looking forward for your replies

best wishes

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