Frustrated over weird compliments

I have after a lot of years of struggling with extreme dieting, crazy fluctuation, pregnancy and (finally) visiting a proper dietitian lost about 40 kg!

I am so happy but also haven’t realized it completely yet. I don’t like myself in photos and feel like I still have a some left.

I gained 50 kg’s while having a depression and so I feel like it’s only natural to then want to loose the 10 kg’s I “have left”

I have PCOS and on top of that I’m doing a very slow weight loss. I’m counting calories everyday, but only in a 200 deficit, just eating more vegetables but also not restricting myself and I’m eating what I feel like.

I’m really trying to do it for good this time even if it takes 7 more years.

So here’s the thing.. All of my family members (mom, dad, sister, in-laws) are all saying the same weird phrases “You aren’t going to loose anymore aren’t you?”, “I can almost see through you, I think its getting unhealthy”, “oh no, now you are weighing less than me” and “I think you are good where you are now, I think you should stop here”

I know they mean it well but it doesn’t feel well and it’s every time they see me even tho the weight hasn’t changed since last time.

I never talk about my weight loss unless asked cause I don’t want the pressure, attention or feeling ashamed if I some day gain some of it back. I’ve learned that lesson the hard way.

For context, I’m 175 cm and my BMI is at 28. It used to be 41.

I get that it’s a big change but I really need my family to cheer on me and not encouraging me to stop.

How can I talk to them without sounding selfcentered? Should I just “take the compliment”?

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M/20/5'5" (169cm) [83kg > 69kg] Lost the weight but stuck in limbo. Cut to 60kg or maingain?

I've dropped about 14kg in the last 5 months (83kg to roughly 69kg). According to BMI, I'm finally in the healthy zone, but I'm honestly not satisfied with how I look yet. I'm feeling a bit lost on where to go from here. Current Stats & Routine: Height/Weight: 169cm / 69kg Diet: Was eating 1,600 kcal, recently bumped to 1,800. Protein is high (consistently 170g+). Activity: 6k steps daily + 100 mins of Zone 3/4 cardio per week. Lifting: 4x/week (Upper/Lower split). I track consistency religiously. The Problem: Since bumping calories to 1,800, I haven't noticed much physical change. My gym performance has stalled or slightly decreased. I also have a weird strength imbalance. My lower body is decent (Squat 90kg, maxed out the leg extension machine), but my upper body lags behind significantly (Lat pull 40kg, Bench 50-60kg). The Question: I'm debating two options: Keep cutting: Drop down to around 60kg to try and hit 15% body fat, then build up. Maingain/Recomp: Stay at this weight, eat at maintenance, and hope the upper body strength catches up. Given that my lifts are stalling and I'm feeling unsatisfied despite the weight loss, what would you guys do?

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I’m stressed

18F 5'4" SW:199 CW:147 GW:120

So I recorded my weight all of last year. I’ve been trying to lose weight the whole year and I was looking back at last year on my app and it said I only lost 0.4lbs the entire year. That stresses me out so much and I just don’t understand what I’m doing wrong and what I need to do to do better. I dance a lot and walk a lot and do workouts every day. In 2024 I lost 18lbs. I went on a trip in the beginning of December and I was 141 before I went and it just threw me off a lot with the weight loss. I think I’m eating good but I don’t even know if I am.

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Stuck fluctuating at 60-63kg

I've been stuck at around 61kg for a few months now (started at 74kg) and I'm struggling to break past the last 9kg needed to my goal. I've kept a low cal diet and stay fairly active and overall have had a really good and consistent weight loss journey so far, although as of a few months ago nothings changed. I haven't really been following any set plans or diets, just general tracking of calories, nutrition, and activity. I want to keep a decent relationship with my food and keep a healthy mindset so I didn't want to eliminate foods just make sure to eat balanced and intuitively. Although now I'm at this wall and I'm a little stuck on what to do next.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar and has an idea of what could help? I'm not against trying a specific diet although I suppose I'm just a bit tentative seeing as I have heard a lot of stories about how people regress a lot after coming off the diet when they reach their goal weight or are just generally struggle with the limitations.

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Too Fast Weight Loss?

I know this isn’t a common thing in terms of weight loss, but I’m genuinely concerned about gallstones. When my father lost a bunch of weight quickly years ago, he wound up having to have had his gallbladder removed because of the gallstones. I never thought I would experience rapid weight loss, but here I am.

My husband and I are both counting calories together, and started January at 280lb (him) and 238lb (me). We weigh daily, and he has been averaging just over a 500 calorie deficit and I have been around 700 calorie deficit. I am breastfeeding our 6 month old who is only starting to try foods (he is 20lb chunker who nurses well!).

I’m worried because we’ve both lost weight more rapidly than either of us were expecting. We were expecting not to see much progress the first 4-6 weeks followed by a flush followed by a steady loss of 1-2 pounds depending on our deficit. We would not consider ourselves active people. He works from home, I’m a stay at home mom to our 4 kids. I cook nearly all of our meals completely from scratch. We do not exercise regularly, I have a mini stair stepped that gets used infrequently. The only “regular” activity that we do is use our stairs a lot (his office, the kids‘ playroom, and the pantry are in the walkout basement but the kitchen, bathrooms, living room are on the main floor).

My husband is now 256lb, officially dropping from Class II Obese to Class I for a total loss in 32 days of 24 pounds. I’m down to 217 pounds, a 21 pound loss in the same amount of time. Our family members around have been talking already how much thinner our faces and stomachs are looking without us even bringing the topic up. Clothes are fitting better, or in my husband’s case falling off (we have to buy him new pants!).

While of course thrilling, I am getting worried. I saw my dad suffer and I don’t want to experience that or for my husband to experience that. We are not taking ANY meds, no GLP-1s or diet pills or anything like that. Just manageable lifestyle changes. The only supplements we are taking are inositol, collagen, soluble fiber, Omega-3 fish oil, and calcium as needed. There are no off limit foods, everything gets fit into our macros. Protein is set at 1.2g/kg or 0.55g/lb of our goal weights and 25g fiber for me and 30g for him. We eat out MAYBE once a week (yesterday we met friends up at Chipotle for instance). We still have our morning coffee. We are not low fat. Everything is just…in moderation.

We were expecting to see stagnation, a slowdown, or a plateau, something by now. But nope. My husband sees basically the same weight on the scale day to day followed by a random drop that then becomes his new weight day to day before another drop. Mine changes pretty wildly day to day, but just keeps trending down. Our energy is great, hydration is great, and besides the occasional gas/bloating on the days we’ve had too much finer, we’ve had no issues. Satiety is great, cravings are mostly gone and the few ones we have are easily controlled.

So what do we do to avoid gallstones?

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should i change anything about my routine?

hello! 19F here. i weigh ~72 kg while being around 1.62 cm.

i’m new to this subreddit, and i am also starting on my weight loss journey.

it’s been a week since i started, and before starting my weight was ~74kg (74.5 or something, i didn’t care much for the number after the point back then)

i’ve been mainly on a calorie deficit (not really a strict one, i ate the same as everyday but i also cut unnecessary snacks) and i also focused on doing +10k steps everyday :) i am also on the treadmill everyday for 30 mins, 12 incline and 3 speed!

a lot of people told me i also need to do strength training for losing weight, but i feel like i’m doing good with this and i don’t want to be muscular… i mainly want to have a good body, not being strong.

so, can someone tell me if what im doing already is good enough or should i also make some strength training? i’m open to listen as long as you’re not mean with it! thank youu :)

(also, im sorry for the kg and cm measurements. i am from europe, so those are the ones i use)

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Man boobs and large belly.

I am a 38 year old, 5'9 male. I started at 340ish lbs. I was hoping when I got closer to my goal weight I would have more or less the same body I had when I was in my 20's. I was about 180 back then, bit there was no way my man boobs and belly were this embarrassingly saggy and nasty back then. It's really discouraging because I was hoping to get back into the dating scene at some point. The rest of me looks great. I have been doing 1.5 hours of weights, 30 minutes on core, followed by an hour of cardio every day, sometimes twice a day. I have strong toned features, everywhere on my body, and I actually think I look quite good with my shirt off. But I worry about what "she" would think. I hate my floppy boobs, huge ripples and large stomach. Why does it have to be this way. It's way too unfair after having worked so hard to put off 150 lbs. I guess I'll have to be upfront with any dates about my weight loss and nast my fat midsection. It discourages me and makes me want to give up.

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