I have an annoying issue with weight and relationships.
I know how to lose weight, and I know how to keep that weight away, expect when I am in a relationship.
I have been at my ideal weight several times in my life, but I always balloon when I am in relationship.
I have been on my current relationship now 10+ years, the times during this relationship when I have been at ideal weight have been when my partner moved to other city for work and I lived like 2 to 3 years alone in the city we studied at. Other time was when she lived abroad for 6 months. Before this relationship I was fittest between breakups.
Now we have however lived together for 6+ year and I have gained more weight than ever before.
The main issue food obvliouisly. I am super happy to follow strict diet be it intermittent fasting fasting, low carb, regular moderate eating or whatever else I have enjoyed in the past. I even tested full vegan diet for couple of years.
My partner however refuses to meal prep, she doesn't want to eat same food multiple times a day, or multiple days a row. I am also 90s recession child so it is pretty much engraved in to my soul that you eat when food is available and you always clean your plate.
I have tried to suggest that we eat separate meals, but she refuses that idea as she wants to do everything together, I have proposed meal prepping and we have done that for a short while but in the end she can't handle it it it tapers off eventually.
We work remote and currently only consistency is lunch, just a simple salad with chicken and we have been doing that like 6 years which is nice. Evening and weekend meals are however still however an issue.
Also snacks, she likes to buy all kinds of snacks, candy, chocolate whatever and of course when they are lying on the kitchen table I will snack them when I walk past them.
What is frustrating is that she complains about my weight, but then she refuses to support any suggestions I know work for me. She is also a type of person who can eat however much she wants and she doesn't seem to gain any weight, her whole family is like that.
Does anyone have any tips how to make this work? I have tried to talk to her, but she sees everything I suggest too extreme even something simple like calculating calories.
She recently however asked about counting macros, so I think there might be an opening for us to find some solution that works for both of us.
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