Looking for advice on how to support a spouse on their weight loss goals

Hi all. Congrats on all the sucessful weight loss stories! I am a spouse of someone who has struggeled with their weight for a long time looking to hear from ya'll about what your partners / families did that was useful to support you. My spouse has tried many times to lose weight (on their own, I am not pressuring them to do this) and struggels a lot to keep the momentum going. They often will lose 5 or 10 pounds and the stress of managing their calories religiously gets to them. They are very fond of food and the thought of not getting to eat what they want when they want is very distressing to them. They also really suffer from intense hunger pains when they try to limit their calories which in and of itself is obviously a problem. Basically, they're utterly miserable while dieting and I really struggle to find ways to support them. I do my best to be there for them emotionally, but pratically I don't really know what I can do. I do a lot of the cooking, and when I offer to cook low calorie meals, they are not excited about the food and want something that they typically eat, which is of course rich in carbs and fats and all the things you shouldn't eat when dieting. Even if they do capitulate to a lower calorie meal, they'll be upset that the food wasn't very tasty. If I cook a low quanity of a high calorie meal, they'll be upset that they're still very hungry.

I'm coming here mostly because I'm somewhat at my whits end. I love my partner dearly and want to support them in their goal of being healthy but I just don't know what I can do to actually be useful to them. We're about to start another diet arc and I'm just disheartened to imagine this is going to start off great, we're going to hit another crash out moment, and it's all going to be undone again and we'll be back to square one, which of course will devistate them emotionally, again. So I come to you, hat in hand, humbling asking what people in your life did for you that was most helpful. Meal prep? Excersing with you? Encouraging you? I'm sincere in that I'll try anything or do anything for them.

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