Discouraged, frustrated, don’t know what else to do.

I’m sorry if this is depressing, but I found this sub and reading everyone’s posts has both given me hope and made me realize that I don’t know if I’m ever going to get out of this mindset.

I’ve been stuck for over two years.

In 2021 I “woke up” in my body after a two years long rock bottom depression with severe binge eating disorder. I am 5’1 (F) and I weighed 225 when I finally got the courage to weigh myself, but I suspect I was closer to 230-240 at my top weight. From early 2022 to 2023, I lost 35 pounds. Currently weigh 191 which is what I weighed before the depression weight gain (I’ve always been bigger, even when I was an athletic kid playing soccer, I think genetics do play a big role). I haven’t been able to lose any more weight in two+ years. I will admit, I go in and out of phases where I try, but when I try and nothing happens, it typically discourages me and I fall back into some depressive habits (emotional eating being the big one).

I am otherwise healthy. I have a borderline high cholesterol, but otherwise healthy bloodwork. I exercise multiple times a week, albeit mostly walking as I hate cardio so, so much. I do drink a few beers on the weekend.

For the last two months, I have been eating in a pretty aggressive calorie deficit. Around 1200-1300 calories a day, but sometimes I dip under 1000. I use a food scale, I measure, and I try and eat mostly whole foods. I focus on protein and fiber and eating low saturated fat.

I haven’t lost any weight. None.

I have considered GLP-1s, but I don’t think I can afford it. I lost the 35 pounds by calorie deficit and mild exercise and then the weight loss just stopped and I don’t know why. It’s so hard to stay motivated when there are no results. I’ve been falling back into a self loathing mindset where I just hate myself and that usually leads back to emotional eating and then feeling even worse about myself.

I guess, all this to say…. does anyone have any advice? I know that probably doing more aggressive cardio is likely the answer. But I don’t know if I am doing something wrong with my calorie intake.

Thank you for listening. Please be kind. I am really struggling mentally. Thank you.

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Whats to aggressive of a deficit?

I’m looking for some help figuring out a healthy calorie deficit. I’m a 5'10", 24-year-old male, and my current weight is 224 lbs. I used to be around 240, but before that, I was closer to 170 with muscle.

Unfortunately, I went through some medical issues and injuries from a work-related accident. I was bedridden for a while, and even once I could move around, it was only for short periods a couple of times a day. With that, plus the medications I was on and not being able to cook for myself, I went from about 170 with muscle to 240 with little to no muscle and a lot of fat.

I recently started a calorie deficit, eating around 1,750 calories per day. At first, I saw some weight loss, which was probably just water weight, but since then I’ve completely plateaued and can’t seem to lose any more. I’m not sure if my deficit is too low, too high, or if I’m doing something wrong.

I mostly drink water and occasionally a zero-calorie Powerade (about one per day). I make sure to get enough fiber and eat filling foods that aren’t unhealthy, along with some fruits and vegetables.

Due to my current job, I work 5–6 days a week, doing 9-hour shifts from 1 PM to 10 PM. The gyms in my town open late (around 10–11 AM) and close at 10 PM, which makes it hard to go. Also, because of my injuries, I can’t lift as much or work out as intensely as I used to my doctor also advised me to take it easy for a while.

I work as a security guard in a small kiosk and have to patrol for about 15 minutes every hour or so (we rotate, so I can’t do more than that). Any workouts or exercises that can be done in a small kiosk would be really helpful.

Thank you in advance to anyone who comments

(also i know exercise doesnt=weight loss but i need to exercise to try and keep what little muscle i have left)

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Weight loss after an eating disorder

So, I developed anorexia when I was medically obese. I reached the lower end of the healthy range before attempting recovery and I’m borderline overweight now. I’ve only been in recovery for about two months, but I literally can’t stand the way that I look right now. I‘ve tried to lose weight again in a normal deficit, but I always end up extremely hungry after a few days and eat my progress away. I know that I’m not supposed to focus on my weight right now, but I literally cannot go back to where I started and I am terrified of it happening. The way people treated me compared to the way they treated me when I lost weight was horrendous. How long before my body will let me sustain a healthy deficit? I’m not aiming for an unhealthy weigh and I’v only attempted a deficit of 400-500 calories. How long will this last? Will I be stuck at this point forever?

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would my TDEE be moderately active or lightly active?

i work out 3-5 days a week for about 45min each time just lifting weights right now because i’ve stopped liking cardio so i don’t do it anymore. i work 5 days a week where i am mostly walking at a retail job and on those days i average 10k-14k steps. and i go to class for 3 days a week where i walk about 40mins a day.

right now as someone who is 5’3” and about 150lbs (maybe add a few pounds) my TDEE is 2450 as someone who is moderately active so then my limit is 1950 and it is easy to eat below that. i usually eat 1300-1800 when im not drinking since im trying to really cut down on it lately. does it sound like im eating too much to see weight loss and would you consider me moderately active?

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How to start again

I (36F) have been on a weight rollercoaster the last five years, after dramatically losing about 40lbs and experiencing what it was like to be "skinny" for the first time in my adult life in 2019, to gaining it all back and more slowly over the years, with some fluctuations in between. I'm now at the heaviest I've been in my life, I got to this point because of a variety of factors - aging, medications that ramped up the "food noise", traumatic experiences that made me turn to food to cope and caused a depression that made it hard to get out of bed, let alone work out.

In the last couple of years too, I've been beset by worsening hip pain due to a congenital impingement, and really bad back pain after suffering several sprains in succession. All this to say there are valid reasons for my weight gain, and valid reasons for why it's harder for me to lose weight, but it doesn't preclude the fact that I am responsible for getting my weight back down to a healthy level.

I want to gain more muscle to age better

I want to lose weight to feel more mobile and in control of my body

I want to improve my self confidence overall

I am just so overwhelmed, because in the past few years every time I attempted to "start" a weight loss journey, something has happened to throw me off. I'm worried I'm caught in this loop and I'll only get heavier and heavier from here. How do I get over this and start again? (Also i considered taking a GLP1 but i simply cannot afford it)

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Need advice (24M)

Hello everyone, I’m new to this thread. I need some advice losing weight in the U.S. I’m 5’11 and 225lbs. I have had a very rough weight loss journey and most of it,if not all, is my fault. Now I originally went to the company Hims to try out the Glp-1 to help with my weight loss journey.

Unfortunately, I got a rare side effect (involuntary muscle twitching), which apparently doesn’t happen often. I understand this is my fault and that I have to live with it forever, as it’s a condition not just an apparent side effect. The funniest part was that I only used it once.

If I didn’t learn my lesson enough, I tried the same thing off of Hims but in pill form. Essentially, for a couple months these pills did just fine with me. Not one reaction. Recently, I’ve been getting hot flashes from them and extreme fatigue which are both common side effects. I decided to stop those as well.

I have heard all over tiktok and YouTube about peptides. I’ve heard a lot of people that don’t have side effects of them. However, they aren’t approved in the U.S. and are experimental drugs essentially. So no one really knows the long term effects of said peptides of their choice.

So essentially, what I’m asking you all, is how do you all naturally lose weight? Without being hungry all the time? I do not top 2,000 calories a day. I drink water all the time and don’t eat much sugar anymore. So what recommendations do you all have? What do you think about peptides? Is there certain meals or drinks that help with hunger?

Honestly any advice would really help, as I truly need it. And please don’t diss me on my mistakes, I’ve already beat myself up for them, I’m trying to be better.

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Muscle loss for a disabled person who struggles with exercise - any advice?

Hi all. I have Psoriatic Arthritis, my joints suck, I get a lot of referred and nerve pain and I can't exercise much at all.

I'm losing weight steadily for a few reasons, some being outside of my control, but I'm scared about the muscle loss, too. I'm sitting at 93kg down from 120kg, and have already lost a fair bit of muscle mass and I can feel the weakness, losing much more is frightening.

When I was much less disabled, I'd have no qualms exercising and building muscle to off-set this loss, but now I'm more sedentary I'm worried. I do what I can, I get 20-30 minutes of walking in a day, maybe a few minutes on my exercise bike if it's a good pain day for my hips, but any form of strength training is utterly off the table. I've tried, under physio supervision, but all that happens is it aggravates my joints and I have to stop. I've been through this loop so often that "Just start slow and work your way up" has become the most frustrating mantra to hear.

I'm getting around 1000 - 1200 kcals a day, I'm trying to get as much protein as possible, but I'm also on very low income and without my meals become stale, repetitive and frankly depressing I'm finding it hard to keep it up.

I'm really after and all advice to make this weight loss a bit easier on my body. Meal variations I could work in, any exercises that aren't as straining that I might've missed, are protein supplements worthwhile without the exercise to go with? Anything is helpful until I get my meds right and can start exercising without injury!

All I've gotten from my GP is "Exercise more" like he forgets I can't right now. I'm not saying I won't be able to in the future when I find the right combo of medications for my PsA, but currently I'm extremely limited. I'm dropping lbs, and I'm worried that I'm gonna lose more muscle mass to the point that I become more disabled.

(I do wanna say, swimming is a no-go no matter what. I don't really want to go into it, but there's no chance whatsoever I could go swimming so please don't suggest that, that's my one caveat!)

Thank you.

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Shark Week weigh?

Hello everyone! I'm 34 F 5'7 and currently weigh 219.6 lbs. I have been overweight practically all my life, and have always been told by my mom to hold my stomach in (I have the flared out ribs now because of it or the mark from always holding my stomach in). I swam for several years and that helped, but then I stopped in high school. I kept it leveled until first year university and it just went downhill from there.

I have been serious about weight loss and eating right for 3 months now, and I always see different videos about weighing yourself every day vs. every month vs. every week. My goal is to lose 50-70 lbs by next year, and I am down 7lbs. I'm very happy about that, don't get me wrong. I know I have a long way to go, and I'm trying to think of baby steps first.

For me, I always bloat like a balloon before, during, and one week after shark week. Do I still weigh myself during shark week, or wait until it's done. Essentially, I would not weigh myself for three weeks.

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Conflicting advice?

I saw a nutritionist for 6 weeks last fall.

I just joined a weight loss clinic through my doctor.

I am getting some conflicting advice am wondering if anyone has had experience and could help me sort it out.

The nutritionist said I need to have some quick carbs before the gym and some protein after in order to prevent damage to my muscles. I work out at 6 am. Take concerta around that time and go to work after. So I have 2-3 dates or a banana before the gym, and then chia seed pudding with Greek yogurt and flax and some berries after.

I just spoke to the doctor at the weight loss clinic. She says I should really aim to fast for 12-16 hours a day and that I don’t need to worry about eating before or after the gym if I’m not hungry.

It was also recommended that I start taking supplements (curcumin, vitamin d, magnesium, and omega 3), but one doctor says not to take near my concerta and the other says it doesn’t matter.

I’m waiting for a follow up with my regular GP. Does anyone have information that could clear up this confusion?

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Weight loss advice?

Hi guys, I’m 27F and 5’3. About this time last year I was around 52kg. After a difficult breakup and a period where I struggled to eat properly, I dropped from 58kg down to 52kg. Since then, I’ve regained the weight and more, I’ve just weighed myself at 59.4kg (though this was at night, so I’m probably closer to 58.5–59kg).

My goal is to get back to a healthy, sustainable weight of around 53–54kg by September. I’m now looking for advice on how many calories I should be eating daily to reach that goal in a healthy way, as well as some motivation or tips to help me stay consistent with exercise.

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I have a calorie deficit question

I’m 6’2 and 280 pounds just started out on weight loss my best weight from when I was active 4 years ago was 220 and I maintained it pretty well and I’m working to get back on track working on how much I eat and started going back to the gym regularly so any advice would be very appreciated I’ve never had to work back down before

Let’s say I eat 1500 cals but at the end of the day I work out and walk up to 1600 will I just lose weight more or how does it really work

I understand that your body has a daily amount it needs for calorie intake but if you start working off everything you eat same day will you just lose weight as if you didn’t eat

I do realize it’s probably unhealthy it’s just something I thought about randomly and how hard it is to work off your daily amount of needed calories

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struggling with people around me and losing weight

i’ve been on a weight loss journey for about a year now and have lost 80lbs and went from a 36in waist to 28in. so it has become very obvious that i’m doing something to lose weight. my main issue currently is people commenting on my diet, what i eat, how much i eat, how often i workout or go for walks. it’s genuinely discouraging trying to stay in a calorie deficit meanwhile my mom will complain that i’m starving myself (i’m not. i do IF and occasionally OMAD so it seems that way to her even if my meals are high calorie) and making me feel bad about trying to eat healthier.

it was completely different when i was at my highest weight..i was congratulated for losing so much weight and asked how i did it, etc. versus now i am technically at a healthy weight for my height however i am not where i’d like to be at yet! i am on the highest end of normal for my bmi and would like to be closer to the lower or middle range as well as i am trying to stay more consistent with working out so i can be a bit more toned with muscle rather than fat.

has anyone else had problems with other people making hurtful comments or saying “you don’t need to lose any more weight” when you’re at a “normal weight” yet still dieting and exercising? it makes me feel guilty for wanting to be healthier. i go on a walk daily, i try to do at least an hour and i speed walk for most of it. yesterday i was about to go for my walk when my mom says something about getting pizza..i say no i’m okay i was about to go for my walk and probably have something here at the house after. it just turned into an argument about how i’m exercising excessively and not eating enough. now maybe i’m in the wrong here but as a fully grown adult woman, i feel i can do what i want with my own body to get it to a place i’m happy with. don’t get me wrong i’m mostly happy and i should be at my goal within the next 6 months, i’m just really struggling with feeling pressured to overeat and eat fast food and sweets so often since we’re on vacation. any advice for ignoring negative comments or just..avoiding arguments with her??😭

extra info: i’m 20F, live with my mom currently but usually we do not see each other due to opposite work schedules, but have been in very close proximity lately due to a few vacations and this has really been where the negative comments have gotten worse. kind of like “we’re on vacation so calories don’t count.” for a weekend trip..sure. this is 3 weeks. i would gain 20lbs if i stopped my diet for the whole of the trip.

TL;DR my mom is constantly making negative comments about my eating and exercise habits and making it incredibly hard to stick to my calorie goals by encouraging fast food and making me feel bad for eating healthier than her. any advice?

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Beginner at gym

Hi I’m a 5’5 woman that is around 160 pounds and my goal is 140. I don’t know how long this is going to take me but I’m patient. I went to the gym today and I went on the treadmill for 30 minutes at 12% incline and 2.2 mph. I’m not going for max intensity, just something easy that I can do everyday. Is this enough for weight loss? I’m afraid this isn’t enough and I have to do it for longer, but I was sweating a lot. I’ve also been starting to eat 1600 calories a day as my calorie deficit. I think the hardest part is figuring out what to eat everyday. And I think I have a slow metabolism because I’m frequently constipated.

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Not coping well with gaining weight for the first time. Starting my weight loss plan now

I hope it's okay if I just want to vent. Maybe ask for support or advice on how to stop feeling so shitty and disgusting and ugly while I do my best to lose this weight.

I'm 5'5 male and my normal weight is generally between 130-150 lbs.

I guess over the last year I gained a lot of weight. Mostly because it's the first time in my life I've both had access to as much food as I actually needed AND haven't been in a dangerous or incredibly stressful environment/situation. The stress definitely helped keep me skinny for years LOL but I wouldn't reccomend it

Anyways, my weight now is 192 lbs. Definitely fat. I don't look completely massive but it's totally impossible to hide now.

I'm starting to figure out a plan to lose weight, I don't have access to like, literally fucking anything that costs money right now- no gym no nothing. And I really don't have aot of energy to spare, working out fucking HURTS. so my plan right now is to calorie deficit (eating around 1200 calories a day or less if I can manage it but it's a bit hard) and exercising when I can. Trying to take more walks and bike but biking fucking HURTS also. It's all been such a bitch

Pretty much ALL the weight went to my ass and my stomach too so I feel like I look like SHIT. I don't know how to cope with it I literally can't dress well anymore, I'm wearing hoodies in 80-90 degree weather because I can't stand how I look in anything anymore, I feel just nasty and ugly all the time and I can barely stand to leave the house anymore at all, just idk. What do I even do to make myself feel less shit while I work on losing this weight??? It's not like I can drop all the weight today or any time super soon, it takes months, but I can't just be feeling shit all the time, moping all the time and never going outside or dressing myself properly, what do I do???

Sorry for the negativity but it's hard and people around me just don't seem to get it. I just need any encouragement or advice. Thanks

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What finally made you lose weight after repeated failed attempts?

Pretty much exactly what's in the title.

I'm sick of losing, regaining, losing, regaining. Sick of being obese. Sick of losing trust in myself with every failed attempt. Sick of overeating.

I initially lost 60 or so pounds about 3 years ago, but I've regained about 20 of those and I'm just yoyoing between 195-220 constantly now. I'm just so sick of this merry go round, and it's making me believe that weight loss is just impossible for me. I managed to get down to 184 at one point eating 1300 calories a day, but that level of calorie restriction left me starving and it kickstarted a period of severe binging. I'm now in a place where my binging is under control but I still overeat and I just fucking love food. I can't seem to regain any discipline.

Taking a GLP1 isn't an option for me at the moment - I don't qualify for it under the NHS rules (BMI not quite high enough) and I can't afford to pay for it privately. For this reason, I'm interested mainly in responses from people who managed drastic weight loss without medication. Hoping for some wisdom from those who have been successful.

Thanks in advance!

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let go of myself for one day (with all intentions of doing so) and the aftermath is well... it's something. any advice?

so for reference i'm currently 153lbs 5'7 male (was 138lbs prior to this), i decided to kinda say right, i've been on CICO for the past 2 or 3 years (my weight was 280lbs before embarking on this weight loss journey if memory serves) and i need to just listen to my body for once and eat whatever and whenever... turns out 13k calories in one day definitely does some crazy stuff to you.

i'm dealing with a water weight increase of 15lbs and truthfully i look rather... bloated and my face is honestly the puffiest i think i've seen it.

realistically i know at my TDEE i'm in for about roughly 3.5lbs of fat gain after today and it was certainly worth it... HOWEVER, does anyone know when this bloat / water weight will go away? it's not pleasant and makes me look like the michelin man.

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I don't what to title this but I need tips

I am 18 (almost 19) and I have been trying to lose weight off and on in my life. I had tried intermediate fasting my parents said it was unhealthy and unnecessary. I tried exercising but I was feeling like it wasn't working as I didn't see any change, I eventually gave up.

I have also tried going to the gym but I got some reason do not like going alone (I of course won't ask) and well I need a ride because I currently cannot legally drive anything so I will have to rely on my brother.

Anyways I want to try all of it again and try to get past the insecurities and stuff. But I work at a job where u literally stand around and watch people and make sure things go okay from 1pm -10 pm Thursdays - Sundays (aware I have the other days) I just want to be active all day. I work register and watch sold checkouts. I was wondering if there are ways to actually become active if just... Standing around. (I've walked in circles to be honest)

And in all honesty I need weight loss type in general

I'm trying apps now so if there's any recommendations

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how to permanently break eating habits?

Context: over many years of trying to lose weight, I discovered that my habits are the reason why I keep failing. I lost around 12 kgs (in like a year?) and gained it all back (went back to my highest weight and surpassed that). Every time I lose weight I always gain it back and come back to weight X. I am genuinely so tired because I feel like i have control but then I dont.

(weight loss from overweight to normal weight, weight x is the borderline between both and has affected my health negatively in many aspects (physically and mentally))

My problematic habits appear when i pour myself food and eat it. I feel like when it comes to meals I always turn on autopilot mode and pour myself the amount of food I always pour (pre weight loss) and eat it. And i always discover that i ate too much after i had wiped out my plate and feel my stomach bulging hard and my breathing becoming difficult. I tried weighing my food, using smaller plates, putting down my spoon, drinking while eating and all that and I genuinely feel like i cannot reach a solution. Before anyone tells me to be "mindful and conscious" when i eat, i tried that and i always feel its so weird and i feel like i am not satisfied nor satiated even if i eat what i wanna eat in the quantity i want. It feels so out of the place.

I genuinely do not know how to break this habitual eating. I feel like i got too used to my old schedule to the point that everything feels like muscle memory (going to the kitchen and opening the fridge just to realize i literally did not want to eat).

i know this sounds so silly but its been too long and too hard and i dont think im the only one who has this problem. i need a solution that works because everything i tried only worked temporarily

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how do you lock in again

28F, 160 cm (5'3).

I was overweight basically my whole life until 2023 when I decided to lock in and lose 20 kg (44 lbs), which put me for the first time in the Normal BMI category. I'm now hovering around 63/64 kg (139/141 lbs). However I've been struggling to get to my goal weight of 55 kg (121 lbs) for nearly 2 years now.

I notice I keep going on the cycle of going on deficit of 1400 cal for 2 to 5 days -> overeating at 1500 cal once -> thinking my body might have signaled me to eat more so going maintenance for the next 3 days.

The scale didn't go down so I might have eaten more than what I accounted for.

My question is, how do people lock back in after a huge weight loss? I feel crazy that despite being able to lose so much weight before, I can't seem to lock back in to that old mindset. I keep wondering what I was thinking during that time but right now I also have plenty of motivations, they just don't seem to affect my mentality that much 😭

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The moment I knew I had to make a change

I had to buy size 18 pants in November 2024 and they were already uncomfortable because of my stomach. December 2025 hit and the same pants were now too tight. That’s when I knew if I didn’t start now I would eventually reach a size 20. From age 7 to now I was always overweight for my age, but that was my breaking point. I reached 213 pounds by February 2026.

I started my weight loss journey February 19th of this year and now the size 18 pants are loose. I have to constantly pull them up and i keep forgetting to buy a belt. I am going on a trip and bought size 16 shorts because the size 18 shorts were too wide on the bottom. The shorts are a little tight, but in a few weeks they should actually fit. I am currently 194.7lb. I have so much shame about my past eating habits but all I can do now is move forward to never feel like that again.

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