Wednesday, October 21, 2020

I’m still bitter that my parents allowed me to become obese as a child.

I’ve been ignoring and downplaying these feelings for a long time, but I cannot pretend this doesn’t bother me anymore.

I’ve been obese for as long as I can remember. I take full responsibility for my weight now and am doing the work to get better and find some sibilance of happiness, but I am so angry that I was put into a position that that was completely unmanageable for a child or adolescent to handle. Every time a doctor or other adult warned my parents about my weight, they would do nothing to change our family’s eating habits. Every time I asked to try out for a sport or get involved in some type of physical activity, I would be told that the fees were too much. Yet we always had money for anything they wanted to buy. Not once have they ever shown any empathy, and just always repeated that I’m overweight because I wasn’t trying hard enough. What is an 8 year old supposed to do? I felt completely disgusting and unlovable. Still to this day I have to fight the feeling that everything Im doing is a waste because everyone already sees what a fat loser I am. I’m afraid to have children of my own because I’m so afraid that I will fuck it up and repeat the cycle. I could not bare if I ever caused a child to experience what I did.

I’v been on my weight loss journey for a year now and am down 90lbs, but for each pound I lose I find I’m less and less able to ignore these feelings. I don’t want to be bitter toward my parents and I do love them, but I was a child that needed help and I did not get it.

Please I’d you have overweight children, do something about it. Don’t stop until you start seeing progress and they are a normal weight. Children cannot solve these problems on their own. As the parent it is your responsibility to make sure they are healthy until they are mature enough to handle their health on their own.

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Started my weight loss journey today

I am a 19F who earlier this year went to rehab to quit various drugs. I gained 15lb while in rehab from eating out of boredom and because it was there. A few months ago I quit nicotine and gained an additional 10lbs. After a recent visit with my doctor, blood tests showed that I have slightly high cholesterol. I feel awful about this and I am currently 165lbs and 5'6. I have never weighed this much in my life. My goal is 130.

I want this weight loss to last and make healthy changes. I am counting calories using an app. I am doing a 300 calorie deficit as I want it to be slow and sustained. I have started walking every other day to up my fitness level. I used to get only 1000 steps a day and now I have been getting up to 6-10k steps a day.

Any tips are appreciated. I drink lots of water. My biggest challenge is cooking meals. I am lazy and feel like every time I buy fruits and veggies they go bad super quickly. If you have any meal plans/ideas/tips or literally anything that could help me, I would appreciate it. I also need to stay sober from alcohol and all drugs which is a challenge considering there are those that suppress your appetite. Thank you in advance.

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Living weight loss context

CW: 219 SW: 234 GW: 150ish

So I have a 12 week old Black Mouth Cur puppy that I got after a recent break up (I always wanted one and now the breakup leaves me stable enough both to have a dog and focus on my weight). He is a male and growing like a weed.

Today while I was getting ready for the day he happened to sit down on my bathroom scale. He is almost the exact weight that I have lost since the break up (he is 15.2 pounds, I have lost 15.4). So now every time I pick him up, I get a living reminder of what I used to have on my body. By the time he is fully grown, that will be the amount of weight I will have lost to get back to my pre-relationship weight.

And let me tell you, being able to physically pick up that weight as a living thing is HUMBLING.

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Why Stress Keeps You From Losing Weight (and How to Beat It!)

Do you have days when everything seems to be happening at once, when everyone is in need of your attention, when you just can’t catch up with your to-do list? In our busy, multi-tasking lives, stress is almost unavoidable. And that’s not always a bad thing. Stress can be a positive force to help you stay focused and energized. Persistent daily stress, however, can lead to emotional or stress eating and make it harder for you to lose weight. How does that kind of stress affect you and what can you do about it? Here’s what you need to know.

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The Stress Effect and Weight Loss

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Our bodies developed stress responses to prepare us to deal with outside threats and dangerous situations. When trouble arises, we produce adrenaline, which elevates our heart rate and gives us a burst of energy that fuels our “flight or fight” reactions, says Harvard Health Publishing. After the danger is over, the adrenaline wears off and we return to normal.

These days, much of our stress is driven by internal conditions—demands from work and family, worries about money or our health and concerns about what’s going on in the world around us. When we are stressed for days on end, our bodies produce a hormone called cortisol. According to the American Journal of Epidemiology, “women with high waist/hip ratios, regardless of body mass index, were more likely to display higher stress-induced cortisol levels.” Women with high stress-induced cortisol levels have also been shown to eat more snack food. Researchers also state, “chronically elevated cortisol levels, and high cortisol levels are associated with abdominal obesity in both nonhuman primates and humans.”

Stress also affects our daily choices. Many of us turn to food for comfort, eating even when we’re not hungry. What’s worse, stress can lead to emotional eating, causing us to indulge in foods that are high in fat, sugar or both, according to several studies cited in a report by Harvard Health Publishing. Cortisol can lead to increased appetite and sugar cravings, as well as changes in your metabolism, making it difficult to lose weight. Stressed out people also are more likely to drink alcohol, often in larger quantities. Alcohol comes with lots of calories but no nourishment, and it breaks down your resistance to unhealthy food options.

Stress tends to disrupt our sleep, too. According to the National Sleep Foundation, “Two hormones that help regulate hunger—ghrelin and leptin—are affected by sleep: Ghrelin stimulates appetite, while leptin decreases it. When the body is sleep-deprived, the level of ghrelin spikes, while the level of leptin falls, leading to an increase in hunger.” This means that missing out on shuteye can lead to overeating and weight gain.

How to Stress Less

Eliminating stress from your life isn’t easy but you can take steps to reduce it and help yourself feel and look better. You can try simple steps to reduce stress, like getting more sleep, drinking less alcohol or coffee, meditation and regular exercise.

Stay active.

woman exercising on a yoga mat at home to help stress

You’re probably already aware that regular, low-impact aerobic exercise speeds up your metabolism, which helps you shed extra pounds faster. That’s why we recommend at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day on the Nutrisystem weight loss plan. However, light physical activity can also reduce the negative effects of stress, says Mayo Clinic. When you’re active, you burn off nervous energy and your body produces a dose of mood-lifting endorphins. Exercise can also help you to sleep more soundly. Walking briskly for 30 minutes daily—or three 10-minute walks—is enough activity to help you reduce stress and boost weight-loss.

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Try meditation.

A woman meditating outdoors on a yoga mat to help stress

Many people find that setting aside time each day to focus on their breathing, quiet their thoughts and release tension helps ease stress. If sitting still isn’t comfortable for you, you might want to try Tai Chi, an easy-to-learn practice that is like meditation in motion. Check out YouTube for videos on meditation and Tai Chi.

Eat well and practice mindful eating.

A man cooking with healthy fresh produce to help stress

You can’t control the outside world. However, you can do one thing each day to feel good and get ready to face whatever happens. “Good nutrition is an important stress management tool. When our bodies are poorly fed, stress takes an even greater toll on our health. Nutrition and stress are interlinked,” says The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. They recommend eating regularly throughout the day to keep your blood sugar levels stable, as well as eating healthy omega-3 fats, plenty of vegetables, high-fiber foods and healthy snacks filled with protein and fiber.

Start by planning healthy meals that fuel your body with all the nutrients it needs. Fill up your grocery list with fresh, non-starchy vegetables, lean proteins and high-fiber options to complement your healthy Nutrisystem meal plan. Remember to eat regularly and keep your meals and snacks spaced out every two to three hours. Remind yourself that even on the roughest days, you’re still on your way to a healthier, happier you.

*Always speak with your doctor if you are feeling overly stressed.

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[NSV] Didn't, on a cheat day, eat all of my fast food "to get it out of the house," and tracked it later.

I have a friend that I hangout with every couple weeks where basically we always do the same thing:

Head to a store, buy a couple 2L of pop and a couple bags of chips, and then get takeout and watch a movie or two.

I've been doing better with eating well, lately. And when that's the case, I always half-dread these hangouts, because I kind of want to order something lighter and do better, but I kind of want to go all out, but I have a standard cheat day every week, so this means two... Blah blah.

Yesterday we hungout and my pal wanted to order some takeout. We got Burger King, and he convinced me to get sooo much more than was necessary (I'm not blaming him, I'm responsible for my own weight loss, I just mean when we hangout I definitely get enabled). Well, I also have a really bad habit that whenever I eat out on a cheat day, I end up eating it all, even if I'm over full. I'll do this either initially, or later on I'll finish off the leftovers. The idea behind this is that I'm worried that eating the food the next day will derail that day, too, and then boom, two cheat days.

Not this time. I got about halfway through my mountain of food and I was very full, so I threw the rest in the fridge. Here's the good thing about big fast food chains: It's really easy to get the nutrition facts. So today, I went back and tracked it all. Yesterday I was just over 3,000 calories over my goal. Now, that's not precise, because chips and dip are a little hard to estimate (I just try to be pessimistic, if anything, and roll with it). But there it is. Am I proud of that? No, that's pretty gross, to be honest. My calorie goal is a 1,000 calorie deficit, so I went about 2,000 over maintenance, or in other words, theoretically gained over half a pound yesterday. Ew.

BUT, there is accountability. Yesterday feels a little less like a "cheat day," and a little more like a big fuckup that I still have tracked and am ready to deal with. Today, I'm going to have at least some of my leftovers, but I'm going to stay under my calorie goal. I find tracking stuff on cheat days, as much as it isn't as fun, really helps hold me accountable and keeps my from going fully off the rails by having a second cheat day in a row. And hey, if I'd eaten ALL of that food last night? It would have been even more disgusting of a day, I just wouldn't have tracked it to know.

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SV: Lost 20ish lbs sustainably!

When my eating habits were really bad, I weight 196. I was able to get that down to 184 after I got help with my depression, but at 5'3 that's still overweight. So last October, I decided to pursue weight loss. Unfortunately, I went about it completely wrong. I lost 10 lbs over the course of the month, but in an unhealthy way. I counted calories like a maniac and basically starved myself. I seriously missed all the high calorie foods I was regularly eating before - that's all I could think about. So naturally, I fell off the wagon and was back up to 190 by Feb of this year. When COVID hit, I decided to pursue weight loss again, but slowly and properly this time. It wasn't enough to just count calories, I had to cook wholesome healthy foods; I basically had to undo all the fast food high calorie meals from my college days and depressive episodes.

So I started in April. Just counted calories loosely, but allowed myself any treat I want as long as I made it myself. By July, I was down to 178. I was happy that I was losing and it wasn't taking over my thoughts, but wondered what else I could do.

Then I saw a slaughterhouse documentary.

It didn't get me to transform into a vegan overnight (yeah yeah yeah, cognitive dissonance, I know), but not for nothing, it got me to swear off fast food completely. Regardless of your stance on eating meat in general, you can't argue that the animals used for fast food meat live happy lives. It's also bad for the environment! I used to eat fast food nearly every day; I haven't had it or craved it AT ALL since I saw that documentary in July.

The combination of working from home and no more fast food made it super easy to WANT to start cooking for myself. I've found a bunch of tasty low calorie foods that I'm now more drawn to. And because I generally eat low calorie? I can have that blueberry donut from Dunkin as a treat and not even sweat it.

Now it's October, and I'm down to 169, but sustainably! I don't feel like I starved myself or went crazy to get here. I haven't been in the 160s since college and I'm so happy I could cry.

Just wanted to share with y'all and wish everyone luck on their journeys!!!

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Another plateau post

Sorry everyone lol. I'm now plateauing after months of lovely smooth weight loss. I'm actually at goal weight but I want another 10lbs off. I've been stalling for the last two weeks at around the same (1lb down or up day by day). I know all the science behind it and that it will eventually break. I'm completely 100 percent in deficit. This is actually to ask different things I could do to make me feel motivated and still happy about how I've lost. Other than looking at old pictures and my trend, I'm out of ideas. I'm not particularly creative lol. Also thought it might be a nice thread for anyone else going through a plateau also as this sub is so supportive.

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