How much did weight loss affect your dating life? Did you get more attention?

I’m a 26 year old guy, been overweight all my life but recently hit my highest weight of 275 pounds, at 5 feet, 9 inches.

I absolutely hate being fat and I truly believe it has affected many different parts of my life in a negative way. One of those being my dating life. I’ve never had a girlfriend, and I think my weight plays a big part in it. I don’t get any romantic interested on dating apps or in real life. Any relationship I build with a woman is strictly platonic, even though they say I’m a catch. It’s also heavily impacted my mental health which affects my ability to date. I have no confidence whatsoever and feel like a loser for being a fat virgin.

I really need to be motivated and get the weight off this year. I need to be serious about it this time. I’d really like to hear anyone’s experience in their dating life post weight loss so I can have something to look forward to. So did your dating life change for the better?

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What Did You Do Today to Reach Your Goal?

What’s something you did today to move toward your weight loss goal? Big or small, it all matters! Let’s share and support each other. Maybe you drank more water, went for a walk, or made a healthier choice. Whatever it is, let’s celebrate those wins together. 🩷

Even the smallest steps count. Got out of bed when you didn’t feel like it? That’s a win. Stretched for a few minutes? Another step forward. Progress isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up, even on the hard days. 🥇

So, share what you’ve done today, and take a moment to cheer someone else on. Let’s keep each other motivated—you’re doing amazing! 💪🏼

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Sad breasts after weight loss, is surgery the only option?

I’ve (31F) lost almost 78 lbs since Aug ‘23. I’ve also had 3 kids, my last being in 2022. So my boobs have gone through it!

I’m 5’10” so my loose skin isn’t as bad as it could be but the skin on my breasts and lower stomach is loose and saggy. The tissue in my breasts feels so soft and almost like playing with slime (sorry TMI) where I want them to feel more like soft water balloons.

I’m a 34D and so I don’t mind my size, I just want them to fill up a bit more or at least have the skin tighten a little so they don’t look so stretched out and flappy. Is there anything that could help this? Could they naturally firm up over time? I would love to hear any personal experiences.

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Anyone Else Experience Hair Shedding After Rapid Weight Loss? Looking for Hope and Recovery Stories

I’m a male in my 30s and have lost 51 pounds since April, going from 240 lbs to 189 lbs. After getting some tests done, I discovered that my iron levels were low, along with vitamin D. I consulted with a couple of dermatologists; the first one wasn’t helpful, but the second one identified the root cause of my hair loss, which was stress related to my weight loss.

Throughout 2024, I experienced significant mental stress. My primary care doctor initially thought stress was the main issue, but no one actually looked into the underlying cause, which turned out to be linked to my rapid weight loss. I first started noticing hair shedding in August.

None of my family members have male pattern baldness, so this has caused me a lot of stress. I’m noticing substantial hair shedding—more than 100 hairs a day—and overall thinning, with no specific area of hair loss. The thinning is mainly on the top of my scalp and the sides. I’ve seen the typical male pattern baldness stages, where hair loss usually starts at the crown (back) and temples (sides). I also looked at reference photos of the vertex stage, but my hair loss doesn’t match any of those patterns. Since I’m not a professional, I had a dermatologist look at it.

According to the dermatologist, diagnosing stress-related hair loss leading to male pattern baldness is difficult. However, they did confirm that I have mild androgenetic alopecia. One thing they mentioned is that if the hair has been shedding due to stress, it may not be visible on the scalp because of the thinning. The second dermatologist mentioned that I won’t see results until my weight stabilizes. From that point, it could take anywhere from 3 months to a year for my hair to start regrowing.

I’m feeling overwhelmed by all of this. I’m trying not to dwell on it and am just holding onto hope.

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Slowly introducing new alternatives into my diet

So I posted here like 2 days ago talking about my weight loss journey. I’ve been walking everyday, though today I did a 10 minute grow with jo workout since it was EXTREMELY cold outside. Definitely got my heart pumping and I did sweat. I’m trying to be patient and kind with myself. Baby steps. I’m trying to remind myself that any movement counts.

Today I got the 5 dollar meal deal at Dunkin, since I know I like to get breakfast on the go since I am a college student. My usual breakfast was basically 1000 calories, and realizing that really put into perspective how much I was overeating. Today I got 2 wake up wraps, and still got a medium iced coffee. I got 3 cream, 3 unsweetened vanilla, and 2 Splenda. It was fairly creamy, not too bad! Next time I’ll add an additional Splenda. Overall the calories are around 490 for this breakfast, which for me is insane considering how much I was consuming not too long ago! I’m trying to focus on not restricting myself, but also finding better alternatives. I know it’s not much right now, but I’m slowly trying to make changes :,)

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Need help — gained back after losing and feeling hopeless

F/31

I have spent the last 2 years or so focused — and I mean really focused and dedicated, to imy weight loss and overall fitness. I had lost about 120 lbs as of July 2024 and about 40lbs from my ultimate GW.

Because of a lot of personal events, I took a break around July. First it was my birthday, a few trips, unplanned meals with friends, and some personal stressors going on. I felt like I was exhausted from being in a deficit for so long and becoming obsessive and borderline disordered and made peace with taking a break. I meant for it to be a month or 2. But as holidays and family commitments revolving around food and another unexpected trip cropped up, suddenly 2 months became 6.

Somehow, my weighing and tracking all my meals and weighing myself daily to track trends as accurately as possible fell to the wayside and now feel foreign. I feel like I don’t know how I did it before and it feels hopeless to do it again.

In my initial weight loss, I went from a size 20/22 to a size 6/8. Now my jeans are too tight. I hadn’t been able to visibly see and acknowledge how much I lost, or how I’d gotten relatively small, but now I noticeably can see how big and bloated I look and my stomach is. I see a difference in the mirror and in clothes. Which horrifies me. Suddenly, I see a size 16 version of myself looking back at me again.

The scale said I had gained 15-22 lbs the two times I was brave enough to step on the scale since then and I’ve been terrified to step on again and face how badly I fucked things up and undid progress I worked so hard for.

Admittedly, one of those times was after eating earlier in the day. So not accurate. I also logically know that eating a ton more carbs and sugar than I have in years over the holidays (my toddler son loves baking with me, so we did and ate a lot of cookies) and have barely drank water, and also exercising less due to holiday schedules and cold weather, have probably caused bloating and water retention and I probably am not up as much as it appears. But then I think I am lying to myself, and I’ve gained over 20lbs and I broke my achievement of losing 100+ lbs for some stupid desserts and cheat meals.

I feel like a failure. A fat failure. I need to know it’s possible to restart, that this doesn’t mean I can’t meet my goal weight. I would love to feel inspired by some of your successes, or at least some solidarity. I’m ready for a fresh start.

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I'm afraid my father is developing an ED.

Hey, guys. First off, apologies if this isn't the right place for this; I just really need help. My 56-year-old father has been on the weight loss journey for years now. There are always ups and downs, but the usual trend of his is to go really hard for a few weeks/months, crash out because he isn't eating right/enough, then regain whatever he lost. Of course, it's his body and life, but I fear my recent weight-loss has made this worse. Over the past year, I lost 50 pounds, regained 20, and am now losing again (7 pounds down since the regaining). I am very diligent since getting out of my binge cycle: I weigh all my food, I calculated a safe deficit, do not snack, etc. I have done this before in a safe way, so I know what I'm (for the most part) doing.

My father is 6 ft 2, and absolutely refuses to count calories. I know that is not the only way to losing weight, but he is not eating enough for his frame. He told me yesterday that he skipped lunch, had a granola bar for breakfast, and had a few pieces of grilled chicken for dinner. I really am not trying to shame him at all, but he is probably 220 pounds, he's 6 ft 2, and he is probably only eating 1000-1200 calories a day. He also walks 5-6 miles a day, so I know he is not getting enough nutrition to fuel his body. He has also cut out all carbs, as he thinks they make him gain weight. I have tried to explain that it's about how much you eat, not what exactly you eat, but he doesn't listen. He thinks protein is the end all be all, and sometimes, backhandedly, shames me for eating whatever I want in moderation. I have tried to speak to him about seeing a nutritionist if he is serious about losing weight, as they can establish a sustainable plan, but he refuses. I honestly do not know what to do next. I'm really really concerned for him, and I know it's not my place, but this is a slippery slope that I almost went down multiple times.

I really hope it doesn't sound like I'm shaming him for trying to lose weight. I love my dad, and I just want him to be safe while losing weight. I don't know what to do, and I could really use any advice. Thank you.

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