How do you do the mental work to accept your body?

I’ve been overweight since I was a teenager. I’m in my mid-20s now & I realised I’ve always had the mindset of ‘this is just temporary’. In the process I neglected my current body & state.

Never bought clothes I actually find appealing for my body (it was also hard tbh but I could’ve searched for brands, done the work), always felt conscious of myself, thought whenever I’d meet a friend after a long time that damn wish I’d lost the weight and they’d meet that version of me, not what I am now. Never thought I could date the people I want to date, never thought of myself as appealing so just stayed away from dating. I basically never participated in my life & I’m the one that’s held myself back. Never thought of myself as worthy of attention or love from anyone.

Tbh I’m not sure how to ‘love’ my body but I do wanna reach a first step of acceptance. I am taking my health & goals more seriously this year & I’m stronger mentally after many failed attempts of losing weight all my life. I’m doing well with my weight loss goal so far. Lost the 3 kgs that I’d planned for January and also aced the food part also that’s a non-linear struggle as it’ll always be.

But, I want to also do the mental work to not have this insecurity whether I do lose the weight or not. I know the answer is to simply do the work like go on dates, tell myself I do matter, buy clothes I like & not just ones that fit.

I wanted to know how I can work on this on a deeper level. Would love to hear your suggestions. ChatGPT got me to this book ‘the body is not an apology’ & I’ve literally read the summary & a few pages & I love it. Will continue reading it.

TL;DR: What helped you with accepting/loving your body / how did you go about the mental work to accept yourself?

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Lost 6 pounds from flu and post periods

I started my weight loss journey on Oct 25th and so far my stats are: SW:282 CW:247. However, I was 253 lbs until late last week. It was a stressful week, I was in my home country and then got my period the day I was traveling back to the country I live in, along with contracting the flu. The day I landed back (3rd Feb) was the 3rd day of my period and I was suddenly 248 lbs. I am still down with the flu and my weight has been fluctuating between 246-248lbs. I wonder if this sudden loss is all water weight and it might come back? Right now I am feeling miserable so the one thing keeping me happy is that I might have lost some actual weight.

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PSA: Don't Tell Your Kids They'll "Grow Out of It"

I was always a big kid, taller and bigger than my friends. My parents and most adults around me reassured me that I’d “grow out of” the extra weight as I got older. But due to a lack of knowledge about nutrition (both mine and my parents’), that never happened. Instead, I kept 'growing', until I became obese. By then, I was an adult, dealing with the consequences of poor habits formed in childhood.

The idea that “it’ll just come off” can lead to years of unhealthy eating and inactivity. If a child is consistently overeating, has a sedentary lifestyle, or isn’t learning about balanced nutrition, those patterns don’t magically disappear. Instead, they can turn into lifelong struggles with weight, health, and self-esteem as it was in my case.

This isn’t about pushing kids into losing weight itself but it's more around the importance of teaching kids the basics of healthy living early on so they don’t have to unlearn harmful habits later.

I wish I had learned these things earlier. If you're a parent, you have the opportunity to guide your kids toward a healthier future, without making food or weight a stressful topic.

I'm curious, did anyone else experience a childhood like this? If so, did you manage to overcome it or do you think it played a part into why you are currently on a weight loss journey?

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Is it common for diet changes to cause these symptoms?

Hi all! Not sure if this type of question is allowed, but I figured I would ask since it’s related to weight loss.

I am 5’7 30F and my weight has usually always been around 145lbs. The last year I gained about 15 pounds pretty steadily. My starting weight was about 160lbs in December 2024. I’ve been eating about 1300 calories most days but on weekends I tend to track less and eat more. So far I lost 8-9 pounds in about a month and a half.

With this I also had some diet changes. I’ve totally cut out alcohol in the last two weeks, and in general have tried not to eat anything with a ton of added sugar (think candy/ice cream). I’ve been making more of my meals at home and eating more fruits and vegetables. My typical meal tends to include a protein, a vegetable, and a starch.

Now to the problem. Starting last week I noticed some changes to my mental state. I’ve been experiencing brain fog and in general I feel like I’ve been a bit more forgetful. I have also felt a bit dizzy standing on occasion but it goes away. I’ve never felt like this before. I have noticed that my mental state improves in the evening after I’ve had a couple of meals. Has anyone else on their weight loss journey experienced this? Not sure if this is normal adjustment to diet changes, or totally unrelated. If this persists longer than 2 weeks I will definitely see a doctor, but in the meantime I want to gauge how concerning this is.

Thanks!

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Any advice on how to keep my weight loss healthy?

I've tried losing weight in the past, and it got very unhealthy. I was eating a very low amount of calories and working out as if I was eating way more, to the point where I felt weak. This didn't go on for a long time. Only around 2 months overall, but I am scared of falling back into this. My attitude this time is very good, and I'm eating an appropriate amount of calories. I'm trying to set my goals differently as well. In past attempts at losing weight, I just wanted the weight gone as quick as possible, and now I am trying to pace myself. Still, I would appreciate any advice on how to stay positive?

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DAE feel like their body is inconsistent with processing calories?

I’m not saying my body ACTUALLY is, but moreso it just feels that way sometimes.

Example 1: Spent 2 weeks back home around Thanksgiving. Guaranteed I was overeating almost every single day, even though I tried to limit it. I’m feeling bloated and stuffed at the end of almost every day.

I return back am feeling down about how much weight I probably gained. I step on the scale…no weight gained whatsoever. Not even water weight.

Example 2: Then, this week, I think I’ve been diligently tracking my calories and eating less than usual. Been way more physically active than I have been for the past few months. I weigh myself through the week…I keep gaining and losing the same 1-2 lbs.

I’m about to start keeping a spreadsheet log of what I’ve eaten to get an accurate read of my daily caloric needs.

However, I’m still frustrated that I can’t seem to figure out on my own how much I’m eating and when I’m “overeating” vs not. Also the prospect of having to diligently write everything I eat down is…not fun.

This year, I’ve been trying to get away from obsessive behavior (I deal with it even outside of weight loss) and it feels like I simply won’t make any progress unless I am obsessive…

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My cycle seems to be out of control and it's ruining my diet!

Hey everyone! I'm making an appointment at my doctor's to discuss this issue too but historically they haven't been much help, so I thought I'd ask online as well.

I'm 5'6 and about 210 lbs, trying to get down to 170. I average 20-25k steps a day and do some morning conditioning and stretching. Weight loss (and gain) is very sporadic in my life-- +30 lbs in a month, or -10 lbs in a week, with months long stretches of no weight variation-- with seemingly no explanation. I am doing CICO and low carb to try and lose weight and have been for several months with little success.

I've been narrowing in on the idea that my problems might be related to my menstrual cycle and the drastic changes in appetite and insulin sensitivity it seems to cause.

So, for example, in my follicular phase, my appetite can be very, very low-- I struggle to eat more than 1000 calories a day, often feeling painfully full all day after about 700-800 calories.

On the other hand, during my luteal phase-- especially the tail end-- I can easily eat over 3000 calories. My first thought was just to be really careful during this period, but ive found calories deficits can lead to sudden, unpredictable hypoglycemic episodes that can cause fainting and severe heart palpitations. Even mild cuts like going to 2300 kcal a day can cause these episodes.

These extremes seem to be really throwing me off because I never know what to plan for!! Its has made dieting functionally impossible.

Has anyone dealt with similar? Any advice on what to ask my doctor? Thyroid and blood sugar is all very normal year over year, though I may ask for another check.

TLDR Menstrual cycle is causing severe fluctuations in appetite (and maybe TDEE) and episodes of hypoglycemic attacks if not properly managed. Trying to diet for weight loss, but the chaos is making it very difficult to do!

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