Thursday, November 13, 2025

Lost 70 lbs, found running, and just finished my first marathon but learned you can’t outrun your fork

Hey everyone,

I (51M) wanted to say thank you to both r/loseit and r/firstmarathon. The advice, stories, and encouragement from these communities helped me stay focused and keep going over the past couple of years.

This past weekend I hit a huge goal: I ran my first marathon.

Along the way, I lost about 70 pounds and discovered that I really enjoy running. But I also learned a pretty big lesson that I think a lot of people here can relate to.

Earlier this year I was supposed to run a marathon in April. I had trained hard, hit my goal weight of 165 pounds, and felt ready. I was actually in my car at 5 a.m. driving to the race when it got canceled because of thunderstorms.

So I ended up running a “fake marathon” around my neighborhood that day instead and decided I’d eventually do a real one.

After that, I went back to running about 25 miles a week, which is my normal amount when I’m not training. Somewhere along the way, I eased up on my diet. I figured since I had reached my goal weight and was still running, I could relax a bit. I stopped tracking calories, stopped weighing myself, and just ate more freely.

By summer, I decided to run the Monumental Marathon in Indianapolis in the fall. I started training again, and by the peak of training I was running about 55 miles a week. But I never really got back to watching my diet.

Last weekend I finished the marathon in 5:04. Not the fastest time, but I was proud of it. A few days later I got on the scale and saw 185 pounds. I had gained 20 pounds in 9 months, even while running between 25 and 55 miles a week.

A few people told me it might be muscle, but I know that’s not the case.

So I’m back on my diet now. With the holidays coming up, I know if I don’t start paying attention again, it’ll be even harder after the new year.

If there’s one takeaway from this, it’s this: exercise is great, but you can’t outrun your fork. Running a mile might burn 170 calories. I can eat 170 calories in 30 seconds and forget about it five minutes later.

I still love running and plan to keep doing it, but I’m reminded that nutrition will always matter most when it comes to weight loss.

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From 400 to 176, My history with intermittent fasting: How IF helped me lose and maintain.

I’ve been doing intermittent fasting since before I knew what intermittent fasting was. Like Pete Campbell with direct marketing, “Intermittent fasting—I thought of that. Turned out it already existed, but I arrived at it independently.”

The year was 2011 and I was 19, and, having been overweight for the majority of my life, I was on my first attempt to lose weight. I was living with my dad and stepmom. And since this was the first time I lived with them (having grown up with my mom,) it took me a while to get comfortable living with them. And when they got home from work at 5pm, I, like your average moody teenager, would hide away in my room. Problem was, 5pm was dinner time. And I just HAD to eat dinner, right?

Long story short, the answer was obviously no. And ever since then, whenever I tried to gain control of my eating, IF has been a helpful tool.

Now, you may be asking, “If IF is so helpful, why has it taken you multiple attempts to achieve long-term weight loss?” Well, that was because it took me a good while to learn what IF is and, more importantly, what IF isn’t.

IF isn’t some magic bullet that allows you to eat as many calories as you can consume within your eating window without putting on the corresponding weight. IF doesn’t gift you with a furnace for a metabolism. IF doesn’t turn your body into some ideal machine that burns off all your fat for fuel. And each time I gained the weight back, it was partly because I believed these things. Or, rather, my food addiction wanted me to believe these things so that I could eat how my food addiction wants me to eat again.

But once I learned the true value of IF, and the limitations of human biology in general, I’ve been able to come to terms with what my relationship with food needed to be if I was going to achieve sustainable weight loss. And that value that IF has offered me is the ability to adhere to my calorie budget.

Now, I’ll admit that I’ve done limited research on how IF ostensibly benefits your body. But that’s because wheter IF offers some benefit to my metabolism, hormones, whatever, it’s irrelevant. Because the reason I do IF is because the value I find in the lifestyle it allows me to live, and how it helps me adhere to my calorie budget.

Now, I’ve done all kinds of eating windows, but the one I’ve had the most success with in terms of adherence is OMAD, so I will list off what I value about OMAD specifically. Also, to save time, I’m only going to list the main reasons for why I do OMAD.

One: the convenience. Not having to cook and clean 3 separate meals a day has made my daily routine so much easier. Now, disclaimer, I do have OCD, so, for me, I tend to make bigger deals out of things than they actually are. For most people, it’s just cooking eggs for breakfast. For me, it’s stressing about whether the house is going to explode because I left the stove on. There’s an argument to be made that the relief I feel from avoiding cooking 2 other times a day is unhealthy avoidance, but I like to think that I would still find the same value of convenience even if I didn’t have ocd. After all, I am the typical adult who struggles to find time for work, family, friends, working out, hobbies, and binge watching The Wire for the umpteenth time, and the time saved from OMAD surely gives me more time for all of that.

Two: I’m able to save my calories for when the food noise is loudest for me, which is at night. As mentioned above, I’m busy during the day. I’m working, working out, etc, and with my mind on so many things, I find that I’m not really thinking about food. But at night? When all I’m doing is watching my reflection in the black screen when Netflix asks me if I’m still watching? Food and binge eating are on the forefront of my mind. And had I used up 2000 of my 3000 calorie budget on breakfast and lunch, that means I only have 1000 calories (thanks, calculator) for dinner. And to me, that’s a lot like one of those tower defense games, using all your towers on the part of the map where there are hardly any evil balloons to shoot, instead of putting them on the most congested part of the map. And with OMAD, that’s exactly what I get to do. I get to fight off the food noise with 3000 towers, instead of 1000 or less.

Three: I find one large meal more satisfying than three or more smaller meals. And that’s because, for whatever reason, once I start eating, I find it hard to stop. And only starting once a day is easier than starting multiple times a day, especially when that meal is quite large, often feeling ready to stop eating by the time I’m done. Real food, that you actually have to chew, is very helpful here.

Four: eating during the day often makes me feel lethargic or more hungry than I was before I ate. Being able to avoid that provides my days with more energy and focus. It especially allows me to have better workouts, meaning more calories burned and muscles gained.

Concerns I have about OMAD: Now, I’m not convinced any diet or eating routine is perfect, and that also applies to OMAD. I’ve heard claims that OMAD is unhealthy and unsustainable. As far as sustainability goes, I feel very confident that OMAD is something I will stick with. And as far as the health claims go, I say to prove it. And until then, I’m going to keep on keeping on.

But there are some things I dislike about OMAD. Such as, sometimes eating so close to bed has me waking up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. If I ever have night plans (😏) , I have to figure out what I’m going to do about dinner (even if dessert has been figured out 😏). Social situations in general can be a little awkward, explaining that I won’t be eating any cake at the birthday party because the sun is still out. My coworkers are convinced I’m a vampire. And, of course, while the food noise is quieter during the day, it is still there, and having to resist it can get exhausting at times, hence why I’m writing this post right now instead of eating the leftover Halloween candy at work.

Thanks for reading!

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Thinking about timelines for success

Hey all, I’m about a month in to my weight loss journey and have lost roughly 5 lbs (Yay!)

I am an impatient person by nature and definitely have a hard time with weight loss because it takes perceivably forever. Doing something that requires such significant lifestyle changes for this long of a time is hard work when your mental focus is generally only about 25 minutes long.

However, I am looking to lose roughly 30 lbs total. At a pound a week which is a pace I’d like to try to maintain, that’s just over half a year.

The good news, is that 1 of those 6 months is already behind me, and I think that usually for me, the first month is always the hardest (weight doesn’t come off right away, body is adjusting to being hungry constantly, general sense of not feeling any substantial progress). Upon realizing this, I’m trying to think about it less as a 6 month journey, and more of a month to month thing. A month of doing something is a lot easier than doing it for 6 months. And if I can last one more month, then I’m literally a 1/3 of the way to my destination. With the holidays coming, I know this won’t be completely linear. However, I’ve got a “feeding routine” and an exercise routine to help support my progress, and have a success mindset that will hopefully guide me through the upcoming season of a million + one temptations of food and beverage.

With one super successful month behind me, I’m just feeling very motivated to tackle the next month, and tackle just the rest of 2025. We will handle 2026 when we get there but for now, just trying to celebrate incremental wins and focus on incremental goals.

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Wednesday, November 12, 2025

I just weighed myself and I am 6 pounds heavier than my heaviest weight months ago

I'm freaking out. I was advised not to weigh myself when starting my weight loss journey with my dietitian because I have a bad relationship with the scale. So, I started working out and following my meal plan and haven't weighed myself since two months ago. Today, I felt really frustrated like I didn't know if I'm seeing progress after working so hard for two months. my family says they see great progress. I was upset and weighed myself today in the middle of the afternoon when I've already eaten a full day's worth of food. And ive overeaten. a bit in the last couple days. I'm about to get my period in a few days as well. So I know that can be a few pounds of water weight, but I am in disbelief right now that I am 6 pounds HEAVIER than my last weight when I was at my worst. best case scenario, im a few pounds less which means I have literally only maintained and not lost any weight. how is this possible? I don't understand I'm freaking out

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Have anyone else’s relationship suffered due to weight loss?

Let me know if this has been the case for you. For me, weight loss (went from 235 to 196 since 2022 to this time last year, then from 196 to 158.2 as of today), has definitely been a contributing factor in my divorce.

My ex is tall, 5’7”, but around 300 pounds, plus two years older than I am. The weight related health issues have really begun to hit. I feel like I’m aging in reverse while she gets less and less capable.

Plus, the spending on food and medical bills. She has $8k in medical bills that I did not know about until I got the filing paperwork, plus borrowed $3k for “living expenses” she needed because she had to go on disability from work for a while. Often, she can’t work a full 40 hour week because of some injury flaring up, or an illness, or depression, etc. etc. She basically expected me to carry the daily expenses to a much larger extent while she paid off about ~920 a month in debt repayments, without communicating this to me in advance.

Meanwhile, I work up to 80 hours a week and am now saving a ton of money by not buying food out of the house and only feeding myself.

She never really wanted me to discuss my weight loss and wasn’t supportive either, even making negative comments about my body. And as I got healthier, changed my diet, and was able to do more active things, I guess I got more clear eyed on the cost of obesity, and the things I was missing out on.

I could, for example, this summer, comfortably and safely go tubing and jet ski at a family get together on a lake because life jackets fit me and I was able to clamber off and on boats and devices at a reduced weight. If I should want to immigrate out of the US, my health will no longer be a barrier (I have both personal and professional attributes that make me a target for MAGA- people in my field have received death threats and had their homes set on fire). I’m unlikely to face employment discrimination, at least not due to my weight, since I’m a Midwesterner and now look very average.

But, more than that, I just feel better. My joints rarely hurt, mostly just my feet occasionally now because I walk a great deal. I sleep better. I breathe better. Asthma is essentially gone. I’m not constantly tired.

Having these experiences, I found myself getting more and more resentful. I no longer want to pay additional costs related to my partner’s poor health. I don’t want to just flop on the couch after work and watch Netflix. And she refused to do anything much to improve. No exercise, not even walks. I wasn’t “allowed” to discuss her weight in any way.

I guess I’ve lost 335 pounds, not just 35. Has anyone else experienced breakups or loss of friendship during and after large weight loss?

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When Quick Weight Loss Backfired...

I'm 28 and work in an office. Over the past few years, I kept gaining weight-5 kg, then 10, then I lost count. One day I decided: enough. I wanted fast results.

In two months, I tried four diets-keto, intermittent fasting, buckwheat-only, and juice detox. The result? Minus 12 kg. I was thrilled, buying new clothes and getting compliments. But why did I look so exhausted?
My hair started falling out in clumps-on my pillow, in the shower, everywhere. My skin turned gray and dry. My nails were brittle, and I was constantly tired and irritable. What had I done to myself?
The doctor was blunt: my body was in shock from nutrient deficiency. I had to change everything-real meals with protein and vegetables, healthy fats, and vitamins to help recover.

A month later, my hair stopped falling out. Two months after that, my skin looked alive again. The weight is coming off slower now, but I actually feel like a person again. Was the fast result worth this damage? Absolutely not.

Has anyone else experienced health issues from extreme dieting? How do you balance wanting quick results with staying healthy?

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Tuesday, November 11, 2025

Is this normal? Constant rehabbing (weight lifting)

I have never been a weight lifter and I know some people on a weight loss journey are still not. I started not too long ago and it seems I am constantly rehabbing smaller muscles. First time I had knee pain and PT explained I need to do some knee straightening exercises because my quads are weak. Then it was achilles tendonitis and i was told thats from weak calves. Now it's my upper traps they are overactive and compensating for my lower traps and rotator cuffs. I feel like I am constantly rehabbing (gentle exercising) parts of my body to help other parts I hired a personal trainer for 2 weeks just to watch me lift to make sure my form is decent, there were some improvements I made, but he said it was nothing that should cause injuries. I just wonder if anyone else new to lifting went through this?

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