Let me know if this has been the case for you. For me, weight loss (went from 235 to 196 since 2022 to this time last year, then from 196 to 158.2 as of today), has definitely been a contributing factor in my divorce.
My ex is tall, 5’7”, but around 300 pounds, plus two years older than I am. The weight related health issues have really begun to hit. I feel like I’m aging in reverse while she gets less and less capable.
Plus, the spending on food and medical bills. She has $8k in medical bills that I did not know about until I got the filing paperwork, plus borrowed $3k for “living expenses” she needed because she had to go on disability from work for a while. Often, she can’t work a full 40 hour week because of some injury flaring up, or an illness, or depression, etc. etc. She basically expected me to carry the daily expenses to a much larger extent while she paid off about ~920 a month in debt repayments, without communicating this to me in advance.
Meanwhile, I work up to 80 hours a week and am now saving a ton of money by not buying food out of the house and only feeding myself.
She never really wanted me to discuss my weight loss and wasn’t supportive either, even making negative comments about my body. And as I got healthier, changed my diet, and was able to do more active things, I guess I got more clear eyed on the cost of obesity, and the things I was missing out on.
I could, for example, this summer, comfortably and safely go tubing and jet ski at a family get together on a lake because life jackets fit me and I was able to clamber off and on boats and devices at a reduced weight. If I should want to immigrate out of the US, my health will no longer be a barrier (I have both personal and professional attributes that make me a target for MAGA- people in my field have received death threats and had their homes set on fire). I’m unlikely to face employment discrimination, at least not due to my weight, since I’m a Midwesterner and now look very average.
But, more than that, I just feel better. My joints rarely hurt, mostly just my feet occasionally now because I walk a great deal. I sleep better. I breathe better. Asthma is essentially gone. I’m not constantly tired.
Having these experiences, I found myself getting more and more resentful. I no longer want to pay additional costs related to my partner’s poor health. I don’t want to just flop on the couch after work and watch Netflix. And she refused to do anything much to improve. No exercise, not even walks. I wasn’t “allowed” to discuss her weight in any way.
I guess I’ve lost 335 pounds, not just 35. Has anyone else experienced breakups or loss of friendship during and after large weight loss?
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