How did you deal with the: "If I wanted to lose weight I could, it’s easy." mindset of others in your life?

I’ve lost weight over the last six months but really kicked my ass in the last month. I’ve dropped 40 pounds in total and 14 of those has been in the last three and a half weeks.

My mom has been overweight all my life. She gained weight while pregnant and never lost it again despite being skinny as a child/teenager/young adult. She, and my dad, set my sister and I up with some good eating habits and some really shitty ones.

My family has been really vocal and supportive of my weight loss and my mom jokes that she’s picking up the weight I’m losing. I know that until she’s ready she won’t lose weight. I also know that what she’s eating is why she’s put on a lot of weight in the last year or so. What I don’t know how to do is deal with her mindset of "it’s really easy to lose weight! If I wanted to I could totally lose it!".

I feel like I’m over reacting when I get annoyed at hearing things like this. Sure, CICO works, but it’s not that simple. I haven’t lost 14 pounds in the last three and a half weeks by just watching what I eat. I’ve spent an hour in the gym every single day. I kick my ass every single day. I’ve earned every damn pound I’ve lost and it hasn’t been easy. It hasn’t been a magical unicorn ride and I’m fine with that, that’s my consequence for being lazy and binge eating for years. It’s just irritating that people can be so supportive and then turn around and make it sound like it’s such an easy thing to do. Like we don’t all work our butts off.

How do you deal or respond to people like this?

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Super disappointed with saggy, excess skin on my neck.

F/5'3"/SW: 307lbs. CW:135lbs. It took me about 22 months to achieve my goal weight. Restricted caloric intake to 1200 per day, worked out 4-5 times per week, consisting of hiit and strength training. In clothing, my body looks very fit, without clothing, I look like a deflated balloon. It could be worse, but overall I've accepted it and can deal. What I never anticipated was the effect of the weight loss on my neck. It resembles a dulap or turkey neck. I hate it so much. I can't hide it with clothing, so it's always visible and it makes me feel so unattractive. It's becoming such an issue that I don't want to be seen. Can anyone relate? How did you deal with it? Thanks for any advice.

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Lost 20 pounds and i’m finally starting to be comfortable in my own skin

In a span of a month I lost 20 pounds. Perhaps a little drastic.

Some background: I have always been average. Always maintained the same weight but during college I slowly started to gain weight and it became harder to keep it off. Fast forward 4 years, I was at my heaviest, 176lbs. In my mind I wasn’t that fat. I was still “okay.” It isn’t until you see pictures of yourself that you realize just how big you’ve gotten. You see yourself in a completely different lens.

It hurt. I ate even after I was full. I was winded after eating! Ridiculous. I decided enough was enough. I hated adjusting my shirt when I sat to hide my fat. Hated passing a mirror and seeing how bloated I looked. Worst of all I hated my face. My ugly crooked teeth and my double chin that I had given myself.

I made up my mind to invest in braces, in myself. I needed my wisdom teeth extracted before I could start my journey. A week of pain, discoloration, and looking so swollen you could mistake me for a chipmunk. I could only tolerate drinking an excess of water and some occasional oatmeal for a week. I was starving. The next two weeks I spent more time cutting up my food into small pieces than actually eating it.

Then came my braces. I had all the luck. Some people are able to eat like before just after a week. But I was on a soft food diet for a month. I lost weight SO fast. My face slimmed down. My old jeans fit. No more muffin top! Best of all my body was getting used to eating smaller meals! Braces helped me cut all the sugary snacks I would eat throughout the day. Any snacking I considered were immediately shut down because the process of rinsing, flossing, and brushing afterwards, were just not worth it.

I am continuing to watch what I eat and have even begun to work out to tone down further. I can’t wait to get my braces off and feel confident in myself. I want to be carefree and not hiding in shame.

I’m sorry if this wasn’t the usual workout weight loss. I’m just so happy! I couldn’t believe the scale when I weighed myself. I don’t fear the holiday weight gain because I don’t crave sugar like I used to and if I do indulge my braces remind me to slow the fuck down because it’s not worth getting cavities :)

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After failing so many times I am starting my weight loss journey again. Need your advices.

hi guys, i been struggling with my weight my entire life. I am 35 and weigh 340 lb which is INSANE! I am no longer a normal functioning person anymore because of my weight. I cant walk for more than 2 minutes without my lower back being in pain because of my huge belly. I have to shop at big and tall now because no store has my size 3xl - 4xl (Canada). I am pre diabetic and will be diabetic if I don't stop soon. I constantly feel hot when everyone else are cold because probably i have high blood pressure because of my weight. I tried getting in shape so many times and only once few years ago i was able to get down to 250 and felt amazing but then met my wife 4 years ago got married and gained all the weight back plus more!! My wife is also becoming over weight because of me. All we do is eat watch tv and eat. I work from home so i am always sitting on my couch with my laptop working, eating and watching tv. I need help! The reason i am telling all this is to see if someone can guide us. I desperately need to get in shape or I will get serious health issues. We are planning a baby soon and i want to be healthy for my kid. I always start and end up giving up within a week. Its like my motivation doesn't exist and I have no discipline. I know I can do it though because i quit smoking 2 months ago and now I have to change my eating habits.

I checked my TDEE and it says that I need to eat 2500 calories to maintain and 2000 calories to lose 1lb a week. I am gonna be cutting few things from my diet completely such as white rice, bread, pasta, milk, candies, chocolates, fast food, fried food and processed food. I have a HUGE sugar addiction so i have to deal with that as well. I will use erythritol instead of sugar if needed. I will eat brown rice for carbs and veggies. I will start by walking every morning as much as I can and in evening lifting weights (something i can still do without problems). What are some of things you guys do to keep in track and stay focused towards the weight loss goals? What are the main triggers that you guys try to avoid? For example tv is a huge trigger for me, if i am watching something i need to snack on something. So i think i will have to limit my tv as well. Any advices guys will be much appreciated.

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When all clothes become an option...

Random, but here goes. I hadn’t realized until I started losing weight that I had so many clothes labeled in my mind. “I’ll wear that when it fits me” or “that’s cute but I feel fat in it” or “that shirt is too tight in X place”. And I don’t know if they really did look as horrible as my mind envisioned, but regardless, I wasn’t wearing any of them. And all of those things were limiting my wardrobe selection SEVERELY.

Now that I’m moving forward in my weight loss journey, and much closer to where I want to be, it’s as if my closet has OPENED and I feel fabulous in everything I wear. I no longer have clothes labeled as unwearable because I feel a certain way in them. And it is SO refreshing.

So if you need that extra little motivation today, take a look in your closet and think about the clothes you subconsciously push behind the rest because they haven’t been an option for so long. Work for those!

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So my roommate isn't exactly the most supportive dude

My roommate never encourages me with my weight loss. Though he's a healthy weight, he never exercises and eats whatever he wants. Which is fine, and he doesn't have to encourage me with my weight loss at all, it's my journey.

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But he always has snide comments to make about my weight loss. A few days ago I ended up cheating on my diet outside of my cheat day (probably for the first time in months mind you) and when I mentioned it to him yesterday, there were no words of encouragement, no reassurance that I can get back on track, just...

"and whose fault is that?"

Bitch. You're not even active. You don't give a shit what you eat. I fell off the wagon for one day, and I just wanted some support from you or advice about it, and you essentially say "it's your fault, you fucked up". Yeah, but for someone who always refers to my eating plan as "your stupid diet" and calls me inactive even though I work out 6 days a week, which is 6 more than you, don't fucking act like you know how easy or hard it is to stick to a diet.

It's fine that you don't give a shit about my weight loss, but keep your rude comments to yourself if you have nothing nice to say about it.

I guess it's kind of petty and not really a big deal, but I don't get his attitude really. For someone who always called me fat last semester, I'd think he'd at least be a little bit encouraging? Whatever, I guess I'm not gonna discuss anything weight loss related around him ever again.

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I Fear That I Am Going To Die

I am 27 years old. I am 5 foot 10 inches tall. I weigh 357lbs. I don't have any health complications from being overweight.

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But its true. I feel like I am going to die from being so unhealthy. I have been overweight for as long as I can remember. I have ALWAYS been big. I went to the gym yesterday, weighed myself, and walked out crying.

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I am not trying to have a pity party. I'm really not. I just don't know where to go. My whole life, I have had been told the age old anecdotes of "You are a growing kid", "You will get a growth spurt", "You are young, don't worry about it", "Its all about portion control, you can eat whatever you want". All of these I know we have heard before. And in a way, I still use these to this day to excuse my behaviors. But, I feel like I cant do it. I get into these phases of "Okay, I can do this" and then I look in the mirror and then I get sad and depressed and repulsed at the weight I have, and then I go back into my old ways and habits and say "fuck it" i'm gonna die anyway I might as well live it up. And then reality kicks in and I get back into the "I can do this" phase and it just repeats itself. When I get into the mode to where I can do it, I cheat all the time. And it just perpetuates itself. I feel like I cant live without Diet Soda.

The tough love routine doesn't work for me. It just makes me more depressed and I begin to resent people and myself. I've thought about weight loss surgery, but that's not the easy way out at all. If I slip up once I can potentially die. I just. I dont know what to do. I dont know what is helpful. What is useful.

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Can anyone give some advice?

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