how does one stay confident after losing?

I've started weight loss over this past month? (always been bad with times, please excuse me) and im getting close to losing 60 pounds total (around 41 lost). I mainly started because I was tired of being out of breath and I wanted to be more conventionally attractive and move away from sweaters that give me heat strokes in the summer. But everytime I think about all the loose skin im going to have I get queasy. If I save enough I could afford surgery, but I'd rather not because of the risks associated. How do people who have lost stay happy and confident? Ik some take the "its a sign of your progress" view, but when youre losing so you can feel less ugly that really doesnt help, especially because it feels more of a punishment than anything.

For the record, loose skin does not mean i'm going to stop losing. Being ugly but slim will be 10x better than ugly but fat. I just dont know how ill ever wear anything other than sweaters, or how to love myself if no matter what i do i cant anyway. Is there something other than surgery I can try to tighten the skin? Ive heard muscles help, and I suppose it is an option, but ive always preferred a smooth plane to muscles. Anything is appreciated.

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My struggle with my weight loss journey

Hi everyone!

I've frequented this sub for a while but have never posted. I wanted to share my weight loss/gain experience and current frustration with weight loss. For starters, I'm a 5 foot 1, 25 yr old female for reference.

I was at my heaviest at one point in 2021 at around 185lbs. Then became determined and managed to begin my weight loss journey. I was a recent college grad and unemployed so that gave me a lot of free time to spend in the gym. I recall being aware of my eating but I was not in a strict diet per say, but I did begin going to the gym 5x a week and walking on the treadmill on 12 incline 3 speed for 30 minutes 4x a week. By March 2022 I was 171lbs and then:

May 2022: 160.6 lbs

July 2022: 148.8 lbs

November 2022: 141.2 lbs

February 2023: 140.4 lbs

I started gaining my weight back in Spring 2023. By June 2023 I was 148lbs and I stopped weighing myself for a while and when I stepped back on the scale in December 2023 I was 156lbs, and in June 2024 I was around 160lbs.

Fast forward to now (March 6, 2025) I have progressively gained weight and am now at 174lbs. Essentially gaining almost all my weight back. I do want to add that in August 2022 I began my first office job that provides us with one to many snacks and slowly I do see that it did not help as I constantly would pick at the snacks. In the time since spring 2023 when my weight gain began again, I continued to go to the gym and have not gone more than a week without going since the beginning of my journey. That has been a lifestyle change that I have successfully been able to maintain, I do see improvements in my strength training and I'm sure a couple of the pounds gained can be attributed to muscle growth.

I began doing a cycling class at some point in late 2022 and have done that once a week since then and have begun doing a cycling class twice a week starting in January 2025. I did however stop doing inclined walking for several months because I found it to be a chore, but have now began to log 8-10k steps for the last week or so (my average steps have been no more than 4-6k even in 2022-2024).

I truly want to lose 25 pounds but feel semi-defeated that despite my lifestyle change in going to the gym (3-5x a week) I have still gained 35 pounds in 2 years. My relationship with eating is complicated, I constantly crave sweets and can't seem to say no when offered, and find it difficult to control my portions or sit with being hungry. Does anyone have any advice for someone at my height and weight?

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I lost 30lbs and it feels weird and amazing

Hey everyone, long-time lurker here, and I wanted to share a bit of my journey!

Last year, I weighed in at 80.1kg (176.5 lbs), which was the heaviest I’d ever been. At my height of 165cm (roughly 5'5"), it really scared me. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with food and exercise—my ADHD often made me hyperfocus, leading to crash diets and unhealthy habits like obsessive eating disorders.

However, this time, I didn’t focus solely on weight loss. Instead, I was working on improving my art and other personal growth, and my weight loss happened as a "background process." This shift in mindset turned into a really healthy, lifestyle-changing experience.

Losing weight became second nature, and over the course of a year, I lost 13kg (around 30lbs)—slower than average, but I’m happy with the progress. I now weigh 67kg (147lbs).

The upsides have been incredible: people treat me better, I get more attention from guys, my personal aesthetic (think early 00s emo with swoopy hair and eyeliner) suits me better, and my features are looking more androgynous. I've even had queer men hit on me, which is such a sweet compliment (even though I’m AFAB). It feels like I’m finally conquering that boss in a video game that defeated me a thousand times.

However, I still struggle with body dysmorphia. I sometimes catch myself thinking I'm still overweight—like when I see a small pair of pants and assume they won’t fit, or make comments like, "I’m not sitting on that chair, it might break," only for my friends to look at me like I’m crazy. I’m still scared to sit on people’s laps and sometimes feel the same when I look in the mirror.

I’m hoping that, over time, my mind will catch up with my body and that these feelings will fade.

I know my story might not be as dramatic or extreme as some others here, but I’m grateful to have a place to share this small but meaningful change.

I’m currently at the halfway point of my journey, and my goal is to eventually reach 58kg (127lbs), if it’s sustainable and feels right.

Thanks for reading, and I’m excited to continue this journey!

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when do you weigh yourself?

Hello everyone!!

F24, HW: 227 CW: 217

I've posted a couple times in this sub about my weight loss journey and everyone has been so nice, so involved, so cool. I treasure this community and I don't feel so alone on my way to my goal weight.

I've been weighing myself at night, around an hour or two after dinner, and i use that weight to track my progress - since I feel it is more accurate than a morning weight measurement.

Last night I hit 217.8 - maintained since last week - and was overjoyed, I've had some period issues and had my MIL over on Saturday (which led to eating out... hard to keep a deficit if you eat out twice in one day!) so seeing the scale stay the same instead of rising was awesome. I'm now down 10lbs from my heaviest!

I then weighed myself this morning and weighed a cheeky 215.2lbs. Felt like a kid sneaking a cookie, haha.

My question is this - when do you guys weigh yourselves? i find evenings to be the most accurate, but maybe I'm wrong!

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Am I doing this weight loss stuff right?

Hi! I am 27 and 5’3. I weight 163 and I would like to lose about 20-25lbs. I started exercising and attempting to eat better on Jan 25th. At most I lost two pounds since then. Not only am I trying to lose weight but I am also trying to adapt a new healthier lifestyle that I can stay consistent with. Since Jan 25th I have been going to the gym 4 times a week doing two upper body and two lower body days with dumbells only. I include 10-20 mins of cardio (stair master or treadmill) with my workouts depending on the time I have that day. My lower body days include 3 sets of 10-15 reps of RDLS, Bulgarian splits, squats, hip thrusts, goblet squats, split lunges, step ups. Upper body days - 3 sets of 8-12 reps of chest press,dumbbell rows, lateral raises, bicep curls, shoulder press and 4-5 abs workouts. On my rest days ill try to walk for 30 mins or ill go to the gym and do stairmaster for 30 mins. My diet consists of eggs toast and a fruit or homeade oatmeal and fruit fore breakfast with normally a homeade turkey sandwhich with wheat bread for lunch and for dinner ill usially have chicken rice and a veggie and water through out my day. I barely tend to snack but I do tend to overindulge on the weekends. I feel that my weight loss progress is slow for starting over a little over a month ago. I have noticed some definition on my biceps and my glutes have been a bit more noticeable. I worry that im eating too much and doing too little cardio which can be slowing down my weight loss. I try to eat 1700-1800 calories a day. I dont hard track them but I am always looking at the labels and trying to be conscious every meal as best as i can. Its quite discouraging when i see many women or men on here lose 10-15 pounds in just a month. I would appreciate some advice or improvement. Thanks for taking the time to read this!

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I realized that food saved my life

In June I was ready to kill myself. I didn’t because of food. I had just lost 46 lbs and was at my lowest weight ever at the time. But I still wasn’t happy. I didn’t think I had anything to live for and I couldn’t see a way out. So I ordered pills online and decided to end my life. The day came and I decided, fuck it, I can break with my healthy diet and eat and drink whatever I want before I kill myself. So I binge drank and ate and bought and smoked weed. Ultimately I never killed myself but just started binging every day. I gained back all the weight I worked so hard to lose and now I’m fatter than ever, probably around 200 lbs at 5 6. I have recently found a way out but now I am faced with the weight loss again and it is so hard. Right now (even though I have a way out in the future) food is still my only thing to live for. So I am stuck. Food saved my life in a way but it is also killing me at this point and I am so tired of having this horrible addiction and fighting and I don’t know what to even do at this point.

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I wish it was just a little easier

I’m overweight and I have always been since I was a child. I was a very active kid played sports year round and I was good not just a participation kid. But I’ve always been heavier which has always caused me shame. I had a golfing opportunity for college and I ended up tearing my ACL in high school and that is when I started gaining so much more weight. I had surgery and everything went downhill. I was in college doing physical therapy for 6 months just to get back to normal functioning. I ended up having some mental health issues and got put on some heavy medications that caused a lot of weight gain. I steadily gained weight as I tried different medications to stabilize my mental health. I continued to work out at least twice a week through college and graduate school but the weight kept coming. I ate decent not the healthiest but not a ton of food either. I quit drinking alcohol almost 9 years ago and didn’t lose weight. I’m 31 now and my knee has been giving me trouble. I met with the doctor today and he says I will need knee replacement surgery eventually but I’m still young so we want to hold off as long as possible. He also said I would have to lose weight before I could have the surgery which I know and believe me I’m trying. But with the pain from my knee walking is hard right now. We are trying cortisone shots right now to hopefully help with the pain so I can get back in the gym. My problem is these mental health medications the ones that work make me gain so much weight. I’ve gained 60 pounds since May because of the medications. I’ve been eating the healthiest I’ve ever eaten since I was in high school. I don’t drink sugary drinks or eat junk food but on occasion. I’ve had lab work done and everything is normal. I feel so defeated because I need to lose weight but I can’t walk because of the pain. I can’t come off my medications because I end up in the mental hospital without them. My insurance doesn’t cover weight loss medication and I’m embarrassed to go to the gym. I’m more determined than ever to lose the weight I want to go to the gym and I want to feel better. I don’t even know where to start. I just wish it was a little easier to lose weight and not so easy to gain it.

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