Losing Over Half of My Body Weight Did NOT Help

I'm a 35(f), and over the past 2 years I've gone from almost 300 pounds to about 135-140. I am so beyond thrilled with my physical results from the weight loss, but I was expecting more of my life to change and be different... unfortunately, it's really not. I initially wanted to lose weight to feel better and get healthier, but then I noticed that people, especially men, started taking more of an interest in me as I lost weight. I thought "wow! What a great side effect! I might be able to find a boyfriend now!" SO WRONG. I have had MORE trouble finding a significant other than I ever did when I was almost 300 pounds. I don't know what the problem is, because I initially thought it was the weight. I had even dated guys who told me if I lost 20-30 pounds they would consider dating me, back when I was heavier. Now... now I can't even find someone to go on a date with. The handful of dates I have been on have even told me that I look better in real life than in pictures, so I'm really not sure what the issue is. I'm not ugly, by any means, but I'm not a Disney princess either. I'm getting so frustrated, I'm about to say eff it and go back to being fat, miserable, but at least not alone.

Has losing weight not been what you thought it would be? Did you find it easier or harder to find a significant other after losing weight?

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Clothes are getting tight. Perma food-baby feel. Went back to the gym today

Normally I yo-yo. Play sports spring/summer/fall, put it all back on over winter. This year while i did play sports, i wasnt pushing myself so the weight loss was minimal, had no problem eating too much of course

Now noticing my clothes feeling tight/having to switch to chunk wardrobe, always feeling kinda full, out of breath and heart racing way too easily. Also watched a video comparing BMI from 50% down to 5%, and based on that I'm around 35%. Not happy with that, i saw the guy at 20% and thought yep that'll work.

Anyway I went straight after work no excuses, no time to get high and lazy, pushed myself for some cardio because im planning on doing soccer next year. Wish me luck on the journey y'all

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165lbs 5 foot 2 female wants to lose 2 stone - any advice please?

Hey everyone, I’m very new to the weight loss journey but am looking for some advice if anyone would be able to help me please :)

For context I am F19, 5 foot 2 and used to weigh 171lbs at the start of October 2025, now midway through November, I’m 165lbs. This was through a combination of lowering my calorie intake and walking.

However my aim is to lose a further 2 stone by the beginning of March 2026. I’m really struggling to identify what my calorie intake should be as all the sources are saying different things. I don’t really exercise that much - the prospect of going to a gym terrifies me, I can just about jog 1km, the only thing I do is walk anywhere between 2 and 5 miles per day.

From a calorie perspective, does anyone have any advice on how I can reach my target please? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also any advice on how to subside chocolate cravings too please?

Thank you :)

TLDR: F19 165lbs wants to lose 2 stone, calorie intake advice needed please

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Anyone else HATE the updated App?

I am 3 months into my weight loss journey, also trying to lose A1C from 5.7 prediabetes level so tracking carbs, fat and calories. I am down about 17 lbs since Aug 1 and flirting with “onederland”. I loved the LoseIt App and being able to just scroll and see macros for each ingredient in a meal. New app sucks for this! I can find the info but really have to dig. I did figure out how to chose the 3 things I wanted to display. And I think I know how to look at categories on dashboard and select today to see meals, but still it’s a PIA!

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Learning to eat food for enjoyment again

I’ve been sticking with a very bland, 'clean', boring diet for the past couple of years, and it helped me reach my goal weight. But now that I’m maintaining, I’m realizing how hard it is to let myself enjoy food again. I saw a recipe with peanut sauce today and my immediate reaction was “no, I can’t have that,” and it honestly made me sad. It made me realize how much I’ve cut myself off from enjoyable foods — things like using oil, sauces, and buying fun grocery items. It hit me that my habits might be drifting into obsessive.

How do you relax after being restrictive for so long? Weight loss feels so tough at every stage because we’re always fighting for a balanced mindset.

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The Weird Things No One Warns You About After Major Weight Loss

For context: I’m a woman, 5’5”, and I went from 255 lbs to 117 lbs. This is the smallest I’ve been since I was 11, and honestly I’m still adjusting. I’ve always had a conventionally attractive face even at my highest weight, but the difference in how the world treats you when your body changes is… insane.

Here are the biggest changes I’ve noticed:

1. The attention is constant and unavoidable. Everywhere I go, people stare. A lot. Men especially, but women too. I used to be invisible at 255. Now I feel like I’m on display all the time.

2. People are suddenly extremely nice. Random strangers hold doors from 20 feet away. Cashiers start conversations. People compliment my hair, clothes, makeup, even my perfume. When I was bigger, none of this happened.

3. Some women look at me with straight-up hostility. Not exaggerating....dirty looks, glaring, looking me up and down. At work, in stores, literally anywhere. It’s jarring because I’m not doing anything.

4. Male attention feels real now, not delusional. When I was heavier, anytime I thought someone liked me it usually wasn’t true. Now? If a guy is acting like he’s into me, it’s almost always legit. They get nervous, try harder, make excuses to talk to me, the whole thing.

5. People take me more seriously. I don’t get brushed off anymore. When I talk, people listen. It’s subtle but noticeable.

6. Men treat me like long-term material instead of a joke or afterthought. This one shocked me. I’m not just getting sexual attention..some men act like they want to “wife me up,” for lack of a better term. They’re respectful, intentional, and way more serious.

If nothing else, this whole experience made me realize how differently society treats you based on your body. Not saying it’s fair, but it’s real.

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No longer obese according to my BMI.

For the first time in probably 5/6 years, I'm officially under 200 pounds. I'm 5'8.5" so not only did my BMI change when I dropped under 200, but.. I'm under 200 at like 29.8 BMI

Started at 250lbs in April at of this year (with a 2 month "break" between May and July lol) and just hit this milestone today.

The worst part is my goal was 180, and now I'm starting to realize my real goal should probably be like 150 to get how I wanted to look😅 I still feel like I look the same, but a lot of people have still pointed out the weight loss.

Not done yet!!

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