Needing support, hope this is appropriate. Why is starting so hard?

I'm feeling really low right now. I don't understand why it is so hard for me to start my weight loss journey. I've been trying to start for years it seems. I might lose 5 pounds, but I've been steadily trending up the past 6 years or so. I was 135lbs and very athletic when I left high school, ~145lbs and a powerlifter my sophomore year of college, and now I'm 175 with a nearly obese bodyfat percentage.

The insane part is that I still see myself as athletic and thin. Every time I see a photo of myself it's a shock all over again. Catching a glimpse in the mirror makes me feel disgusted that this is how I look now. It's not how I view myself in my head even though I haven't looked that way in years. I want it back but I don't understand why I can't just start. I don't need instant progress, but it feels like the more I affirm that I'll have a good diet day, or do all my exercises, the more likely I am to binge eat or do a 10 hour Netflix marathon.

I just don't know what to do. I'm sorry for the negativity here, but I feel lost and alone. Has anyone experienced this? How did you overcome it?

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It seems like my weight drops after days I eat more and goes up after days I eat less

I'm on a committed weight loss journey and have been for the past two months. I have lost a total of 10 pounds on my lowest days but my weight fluctuates and insane amount. I've lost weight before and I've never experienced such swings in daily weight. I realize it could totally be that I'm in a different climate (tropical) and am exercising and sweating a lot more.

However, I've noticed a pattern where my weight seems to spike even after a day or consecutive days of eating fewer calories. What gives? It drops especially after a carb-heavy meal as well. I feel so confused. There are days where I eat less because I'm less hungry or I'm trying to make up for a day I ate more, yet it never seems to make a difference.

Anyone have any experience with this?

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Please help me out , a newbie here.

I have some problems regarding my weight loss journey and I really want answers from this sub

1) I have been doing CICO for 2 weeks but didn't notice any difference in my weight. It often happens that I don't eat up to my goal calories ( a 600-700 margin) which makes me think is my metabolism going slower and restricting me to lose weight?

2) Since my mom cooks my food , she is generously ready to cook anything for me. So should I get myself more protein and ask her to use less of the cooking oil she generally puts in or is that fine and it doesn't matter as such?

3) Also I heard that protein keeps you full most of the time so would my metabolism go down since I'll be eating less than my goal calories (it's 1900 which includes the deficit) by keeping me full for the most of the day?

4) I also heard that carbs are bad for weightloss but most of my diet(healthy and homemade ) are carbs? So.should I change my diet into more protein or fibre?

5) I weigh 101 kgs at the moment, I really wanna ask that how necessary is the workout because I feel quite groggy in the morning but do my walks often. So should I start working out to fix my metabolism?

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Weight loss strategy: cheat meals without cheating

I’ve been using a simple weight loss strategy that I came up, and I haven’t seen it written about on this sub, on blogs, etc. I’m sure somebody else has written about this idea before. I doubt it’s original, but I don’t think it’s commonly talked about. I think it’s a super great strategy that’s worked well for me and I thought I’d share the wealth. You’ve got to be using a calorie counting strategy to do it.

The tip is basically this: eliminating a few calories each day from your target will allow a big meal/treat built into your calorie plan each week, because you don’t have to be in a caloric deficit every single day in order to lose weight. It’s not really a “cheat meal” where you’re breaking your diet, but rather is building a cheat into your diet plan.

Let’s use my numbers to explains: when losing weight, I eat 2300 calories per day. So per week, I eat 16,100 calories. Now let’s say that I want a 1000 calorie budget each week for a junk food snack or a bigger meal. That means that I’ll eat 15,100 calories each week, plus 1000 calories that I can eat whenever I want.

This means I can eat about 2,160 calories daily + 1,000 “flexible calories” that I can eat whenever I want throughout the week in order to get an ice cream with my girlfriend, or have a beer and some chips with my friends, or whatever I want that week.

In my opinion, these little cuts of 140 calories every day aren’t too noticeable to me, and it allows me to go to social functions involving food and participate “normally” once a week. For me, this is a huge plus. It keep me on pace while allowing me to do things I really enjoy with my peers.

I will say this strategy doesn’t work for everybody, like most weight loss strategies. Namely, I’m fortunate enough to be a big guy (6’6”, CW 250) so I diet on a high enough numeric value of calories for this to work. If you’re eating 1500 calories daily, it might be harder for you.

That’s it, that’s the tip. I hope this post helps at least one person. Stay on track losers! All love.

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For all the short girls struggling with those last few kilos...I did it!

Weight Loss Graph

Stats: 30F, 5’2”, SW: 59.2kg (130.5lb), GW/CW: 50kg(110lb)

Being overweight isn’t something new to me. My heaviest was ten years ago at 74kg (163lbs) in my late teens. Some rigorous changes to eating habits and I managed to keep it between 55kg-65kg (121lb-143lb) over the years.

Last year, after a sudden spike to nearly 60kg, I decided it was time for some lasting change. One year afterwards I’m at my goal weight and gained some healthy habits along the way. It took considerable time, and shedding the last 5kgs was the hardest. My sole strategy was portion control.

What helped:

1. Weighting myself religiously: I try to weight myself everyday. I sometimes go rouge for as long as a week but having regular measurements really keep me on track. I’ve observed patterns in how my body weight fluctuates and am not alarmed at sudden weight spikes.

2. Meal prep! Before COVID struck, I either used to eat at work or order out. I was struggling to lose the last 5kg and meal prep was a game-changer. I make a meal plan for the week, grocery shop in bulk and batch cook every Sunday for the whole week. This saves time, saves cost stops impulsive(and unhealthy purchase decisions) and pushed me educate myself on nutrition.

3. I indulge - occasionally. The good thing about eating healthy is that you can savor treats without any guilt. I make it a point to order out occasionally and include a guilty treat in my weekly grocery shopping.

What changed: 1. Because my weight loss was so gradual, I didn’t really notice the visible effects at first - it was others who commented. Then I noticed how my clothes sat differently. The highlight was when I realized I really needed a belt because my jeans kept slipping down. 2. I feel so much more comfortable in my body. This is the lightest I’ve been since my early teens and damn it feels good! I still have some skinny fat (next fitness goal!) but overall I like how my body looks and feels. 3. Stretch marks -haha. Stretch marks I’ve never noticed suddenly started becoming very visible. I don’t love them but I can definitely live with them!

What I wish I’d done differently: Progress pics (seriously!)

What next: I’m still skinny fat - the remnants of my once ample muffin top and chubby upper arms. I don’t want to lose any more weight, so the next goal is a recomp to reduce my body. And this time, I’ll take progress pics!

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How do you love yourself through the process?

I weighed myself today. It's been the first time in a year, and only because I finally FELT the weight. I saw the red stretch marks. I knew it was going to be horrible, but I had no idea. 24F - 295lbs - 5'7

Struggling alcoholic. Prescribed Xanax. Clinical mental health issues, and stress eating.. After I had my child, postpartum took me down a nasty road. One I'm still recovering from, even 3 years later. Being physically attractive to me is more important than actually being healthy.

My partner is a very good looking man. He says he doesn't care, and he loves me regardless, but I can't even have sex anymore. I'm ashamed to get on top, or even take my clothes off. I see how people act when he intodruces me. I used to be so beautiful. I didn't even know.. and now I just hate myself. I drink every night to try and gain confidence just to sexually preform. One thing I always considered a talent, one of my only "talents" at that. I have to take extra Xanax just to shower and get dressed. I don't know how I got here? It's like I'm awake now. After moving back from California to Indiana, I've been miserable. Absent minded. Careless.

I've even considered illegal sources for weight loss, just for the instant gratification.

I've never felt so low and disgusting. I don't know how to love myself right now and I'm not finding the patience.

Which ruins my diet and leads to the stress eating.

If anyone has struggled in any similar way, please. Please guide me or give me any advice on how to overcome this self hatred. How to stick to a diet and do it so I'm not fucking miserable? How to even make love again? My partner loves me, but I'm afraid he's going to leave me. I just.. I'm just at a loss and I don't even know if this is the right sub.

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It's never too late to start

Hi everyone,

I'm at the beginning of my journey and wanted to post to keep myself accountable, for support, maybe some guidance/advice, but ultimately so I can get my thoughts out and really solidify this change in lifestyle.

I'm 24, female, 5ft and started at 220lbs, my goal weight is 130lbs. I'm currently at 216lbs. It's not a massive change. I get discouraged a little when I read that people have lost 8-10lbs in one week but I understand everyone's bodies are different.

I've been on my weight loss journey for 2 and a half weeks now and I've constantly been thinking about how much weight I could have lost had I started properly trying to lose a month ago or 3 months ago or a year ago. I realise this is a stupid thought, as much as we'd love to, we can't go back in time.

I've struggled for a long time with anxiety, depressing and binge-eating. I've been overweight my whole life, not to the extent that I'm at now but definitely overweight and bullied for it. When I look back at photos of me in school, I wonder why I was bullied so much, I was genuinely not that much bigger than everyone else but I remember feeling like an absolute worthless whale. Now I wish I could be back at that weight. Funny how that works, eh? Anyway, I'm sure all of that (along with bad eating habits from parents/family) fuelled my rubbish relationship with food and now I'm in a difficult position of trying to change my mentality and habits. It's definitely going to be a long journey, but I finally feel like I'm ready for it.

I've started calorie counting, I'm sticking to 1,200 calories a day. I feel like it's the most sustainable method for me as I can still eat what I want, just as long as it fits into my calories for the day. I don't feel restricted or like I'm missing out on anything and that's really been the biggest issue with me in the past. I'm slowly but surely becoming more educated on the kinds of foods I'm eating and just the sheer size of the meals I was eating before and I know now how unbelievably wrong I've been. No one needs to eat an entire 10 piece KFC bucket to themselves. No one.

Mentally, I have a lot of work to do so I'm looking for some books that will help change my perception of food and my mindset to eating. I've previously used food as a crutch for my problems, as comfort, as something to do due to boredom and I really want to try hard to change these so if anyone has any suggestions, I'd be eternally grateful.

I'm excited to share this journey with you guys and for those who're still reading, thank you!! Maybe one day I'll go into more detail about the struggles I've had with dieting in the past but I feel like bringing that up now will just fuel my desire to create excuses as to why I can't do this. The thing is, I can do it. I know I can do it. Maybe I won't be slim, or skinny but I'll definitely be smaller. I'm sure of it. I've recently started seeing someone who's so supportive of my goal to lose weight, who encourages it and praises me when I make healthy food choices. He wants me to succeed and it's so damn refreshing because my ex would just feed into my binging by bringing me tons of fast food all the time. It was not healthy and I cannot be with someone like that anymore. I really hope my life is on the way up now.

This time next year, I want to be happy and comfortable with myself. I want to be mentally healthy. I want to have a better relationship with food. I want to be me.

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