Snide Spouse, How to Deal?

Hey everyone. Stats: 32F, 5'3" starting weight 160.1 lbs, current weight 156.6 lbs.

I've recently started running again and, with the help of calorie counting, I've lost 3.4 of the 25 lbs I'd like to lose. I was feeling pretty good about myself until this morning, when I was talking casually about how hard weight loss feels with my husband and he said, "well you're not even trying."

When I asked for clarification, he said that he felt I wasn't trying because I still eat carbs. Cutting carbs isn't the only way to lose weight, and not everyone's successful doing that. I told him that, re-iterated that I was using CICO, and he said, "it's not a big deal." I told him it was, we argued, then he left for work without apologizing or admitting he was wrong.

If it's "not a big deal", why cut me down like that? Why say something so thoughtless and inconsiderate, especially when you always have the option to be silent? Now I'm at work feeling like absolute crap because the hard work I thought I was doing apparently amounts of nothing, while he's walking around feeling just fine.

I feel diminished and disrespected, but also very sad that this is how my partner sees me. Has anyone else out there ever dealt with a snide spouse? How'd you keep your spirits up?

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May the fourth is definitely with me today

Onderland achieved!

I have to admit I'm a bit overwhelmed that I'm actually here. The last month my weight loss *really* slowed down and it was frustrating and emotionally taxing . . . but I kept going and now here I am, somewhere I haven't been in decades. I may write more later but now I'm just trying to absorb this.

(hmmm can't figure out how to post a pic of the scale - 199.2 in nice big red digital numbers)

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PLEASE POST THE #$%^&* WORD REQUIREMENT IN THE RULES!!!

I just had my previous post removed and frankly it was emotionally CRUSHING. I've worked long and f'ing HARD to get to this point and have been looking forward to celebrating with this community that has offered so much support only to have it (automatically?) deleted after been up for a few hours because it didn't reach some magical word count. By not posting this requirement you're undermining the support this group is here to give.

I realize I may be over-reacting in this moment because gee I can always repost but I also know I may not be the only one who has experience this deflation and pain and want to try to prevent it for others. Taking down a celebratory post for a MAJOR milestone is a giant "F you, you don't really matter but the rules do".

there - maybe now this post will stay up because instead of going on a long celebratory post I've resorted to a long rant instead. I'm disappointed in both this group and myself right now.

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Does being in a relationship affect your weight loss?

I’ve often noticed that people are more conscious of their weight while looking to meet people and date. They also tend to put in the effort required to stay in shape for the same reason. However, once they find a partner, they tend to ease into a comfort zone and slowly start caring less about their appearance.

My question is, how do you continue to put in the same effort and invest in yourself when you have a loving partner who doesn’t care about your appearance? I’ve heard many say “do it for yourself and not for someone else”, but that’s easier said than done. Because the need for garnering attraction can be a huge motivator, so what keeps you going?

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May the fourth is definitely with me today

Onderland achieved!

I have to admit I'm a bit overwhelmed that I'm actually here. The last month my weight loss *really* slowed down and it was frustrating and emotionally taxing . . . but I kept going and now here I am, somewhere I haven't been in decades. I may write more later but now I'm just trying to absorb this.

(hmmm can't figure out how to post a pic of the scale - 199.2 in nice big red digital numbers)

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Weight loss progress and questions

Hello, first I’ll give my age and where I started, I’m 25M 6’3, and I started at 376-378lbs. In the past I had been able to lose 30lbs over about 6 months through intense diet but it was extremely difficult on its own.

I started on ozempic and then moved to wegovy for weight loss, I am currently at about 297lbs! I finally made it under 300, and it’s been about 5 months, maybe 6.

I’m wondering what a good goal weight for me would be, I’m thinking 200lbs and then try to put on 20 lbs of muscle or so, but I’m not too sure on all of that. I’m afraid that as I get closer to my goal weight I won’t be able to do it/reach it.

The wegovy has seriously helped with appetite and just generally helped. I don’t think I could have done it without it.

I’m currently eating probably about 1200-1500 calories per day, probably closer to 1200.

Is there anything I should improve on or change? I have been trying to walk everyday, and am almost at 2 miles weather and time permitting.

When I look in the mirror I don’t really see any difference/think I look much different, but the 79lbs has had to go somewhere right?

Thank you for your time

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Weight Loss Stagger (CICO)

I (M, 26, 5ft11in) have been on a calorie deficit since August, 2021. I started at 383 lbs and am now as of this week weighing in at 286 lbs. I have been stuck fluctuating between 288lbs and 285lbs since the beginning of April and am not sure why. My deficit plan since August has been no more than 1800 calories/day (little to no exercise). I usually average out the week at about 1600 calories/day. According to the 3 BMR calculators I have used, someone of my criteria should be eating about 2000 kcal/day for "extreme weight loss". Can anyone explain why I might be staggering out at this weight?

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Any tips/advice is much appreciated!

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How to deal with feelings of frustration and impatience?

I’ve only lost 10 pounds since I had my baby almost a year ago. (SW: 222lbs, CW: 212lbs). Even though I am proud of myself for having two beautiful babies since 2019, I often still look in the mirror with disgust. I have keratosis pilaris and my arms looks so red, bumpy and flabby. I feel so self conscious about every little thing. I so desperately just want to lose weight, because I know I’ll feel and look better and it’s something I CAN change unlike my KP on my arms.. it’s just proving to be very very hard. I’ve calculated my TDEE and it’s about 2000-2100. So I’ve been eating about 1500-1900 a day. The weight loss is extremely slow… I so badly wish I could just speed up the process. With summer coming, that means my arms and tummy will show more. My doctor is putting me on metformin, which I hope will help with my insulin resistance and hormonal imbalances. Is there anything else I can do to speed up weight loss? I just feel so defeated. Frustrated. Impatient.

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