Help Me, I can't lose weight

What it says on the tin.

I'm at 250lbs (23f), I'm slightly active from working in a primary school, but I can't stop snacking, binge eating, and generally just being a couch spud.

I tried to start the year off with a good mindset, and initially lost 6lbs from lack of snacking and more steps (good ol fitbit!). I have now gained back 7lbs in the last week.

I had weight loss goal rewards planned, for every 5lbs lost. I hit the first one (ie lost 5lbs) on the 11th Jan. I thought it would keep me motivated but I feel like just giving up and letting the world win.

I am on antidepressants and beta blockers for depression and anxiety. I have a dog I walk regularly. I just dont have the will to do anything any more.

Please, can anyone help me?

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I am a habitual liar. Here's a list of lies I've stopped telling myself.

In an effort to make them more real by writing them down I'm putting them here.
My every previous attempt at weight loss has included a lot of lies. All of them to myself and generally learned one-by-one the hard way. Here's a list in no particular order:
1. Of the three different systems I have estimating calories for energy expenditure it's OK to assume the most generous one is right (for cycling I've got Garmin connected to Strava connected to MFP and they're all different)
2. I can "earn" a bottle of wine by running for an hour and this all will balance out
3. It's all food and exercise doesn't matter
4. There is a shortcut method that I can use by eating in a particular way that will help in a way more significant than just giving me a structure to help me eat less
5. I will make up for [insert slip up here] later, therefore allowing me to pretend that I didn't fall off the wagon and avoid the mental hardship of getting back on it
6. Well-meaning friends and co-workers are right when they say I've either lost enough weight or didn't need to in the first place (I'm very tall, it does things to people's perspective)
7. My metabolism is in some way unique or special
8. A minor slip-up writes off the day/week
9. A major slip-up writes off the month/year
10. Anyone cares what I look like exercising
11. Alcohol is metabolised differently and therefore I should only count half of the calories
12. A friend's birthday, leaving celebration, dinner party, invitation to the cinema etc is a good enough reason to eat as much as I like
13. My own birthday, or Christmas is a good reason to eat as much as I like
14. That "as much as I like" actually means "as much as I can"
15. That this time I will have a couple of pints and won't eat stupidly afterwards
16. That turning down invitations for a few months will cause huge problems
17. That I will learn to find all this easy soon enough and I only need to pay attention until that happens.

And finally, the greatest one of them all: That at any single point there is a food or drink I want more than I want to lose the weight I've been carrying with me, shamefully, for the last 30 years.

I'm sure there'll be an element of controversy to some of these, but for me this is where I'm at. Feel free to add your own! I might still be doing it and it'd be good to catch some of the others!

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I need help supporting my husbands weight loss

My husband topped out at 325 lbs and we had a serious discussion about his weight. I told him that he had to start taking care of himself because I did not want to stick around and watch him die. He took it to heart and initially lost 30 lbs but he’s been stagnant for the past two years. In the meantime, he’s been dealing with anxiety and depression and after a LOT of back and forth he has reached out to friends and professionals and has a support network that isn’t just me for the first time. He’s been steadily losing weight now and he’s at 290 lbs.

I am very proud of him, I tell him every day how proud I am. But now I have a problem that I’m hoping you can help me with. He keeps talking about how certain foods or situations “trigger” him and I’m struggling to empathize and it’s causing tension that he cant handle.

For example, this morning we woke up and he offered to get us all bagels (we have three small children). He got back and was panicking because bagels are a trigger food so he went to the grocery store to get himself fruit and vegetables to eat and was gone for almost two hours. Normally, that wouldn’t bother me but me and the baby are sick and the other two kids were fighting and making a mess of the house and I needed my husband to be home already. I yelled at him over the phone, which I shouldn’t have done, I let my temper get the best of me, and now he’s hurt and even more anxious and it’s my fault.

Reddit, could you help me out? Is there any advice you can give me as the spouse of a man who needs to lose over 100 lbs and is battling his demons at the same time? We have kids that need their father, I need my husband, and I don’t know how to approach this situation anymore. When I was being gentle with him, he got extremely overweight. When I finally put my foot down, and I wasn’t very nice about it, it finally motivated him to make some positive changes. But now that he’s on an upward trajectory, what do I do? I hope someone out there can help. Thank you for reading all this.

TLDR: my husband has to lose a lot of weight and I don’t know how best to support him.

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Concerns for the sub and alternate Weight Loss communities.

I am rather disturbed by the advertisements masked as posts now present on /r/loseit. I greatly fear that the quality of advice and support within the community can only suffer if we have to start discerning real advice from restaurant and plan/supplement ads.

After discussing it with the mods, they've said such posts will not be removed. I can understand the tightrope they walk, but false information with an intent to profit seems legitimately dangerous on health-conscious subreddit. I'd take this opportunity to remind everyone that, should they find themselves no longer feeling at home in /r/loseit that there are always communities of people who genuinely want to help each other become healthier.

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/r/fitness and /r/bodyweightfitness are good exercise focused subs. /r/progresspics is pretty self explanatory. r/eatcheapandhealthy as well as /r/1200isplenty and /r/1500isplenty depending on your calorie needs are great for helping eat less or healthier. There's always people who want to help.

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I think I'm done.

First one is my starting weight, the last three are today (sorry about the dirty mirror).

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I started my weight loss journey weighing in at 312 pounds (the heaviest I've ever weighed), and hads finally said that enough was enough. I spent months and months of dieting, exercising religiously (a combination of free weights, machines, and a liberal amount of cardio using both the treadmill and running around the neighborhood), and have finally got down to 185 pounds. My original goal was 180 (since I used to weigh around 180-190 back in the day), however now at 185 I feel like this is as good a place as any. I have what I thought was still a small gut that I wanted to get rid of first, but now I'm thinking that it's just loose skin, as I never used to have that "gut" when I was this weight originally, all those years ago. So, I think I'm going to switch to maintenance for a while, at least unless I feel like I want to go ahead and lose a few extra pounds down the line, or if I want to start to bulk up a bit. I think 185 pounds for 5'11" is decent, don't you? Certainly better than 312.

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How do I know when I've lost enough weight to get skin removal surgery?

6ft male, currently sitting at about 200lbs. For weight loss I have 70lbs that I can prove but I was much larger than that and had already lost a fair amount of weight before I stepped on the scale at 270lbs. I estimate my total weight loss is only between 80-90lbs. My chest and butt are really baggy and the areas that bother me most but my stomach also seems like maybe is loose as well. I'm afraid if I go to my doctor and mention skin removal I'll just be told I haven't lost enough and that if i lose more it'll tighten up. Most of the time when I hear of people getting skin removal its after losing like double what I have.

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If I hate working out, am I doomed to fail my major weight loss?

Whenever I read stories about people who lost a bunch of weight (like 100 pounds and over), they've all become exercise nuts who just love lifting and running, cycling, competing in races... I've never heard one person go "You know, I actually hate working out but I have to do it if I don't want to get fat again".

Me. I'm that person. I lost close to 20 lbs and need to lose 140 more to be in an almost-healthy BMI range. But I'm a total couch potato. My personality is made for sitting and reading books and gaming and talking with my friends for hours over coffee. I'm the poster child for "sedentary life style".

Sure, I can work out if I absolutely need to or if it's the only healthy way to lose weight and/or maintain it, but I can never, ever in a million years, imagine myself actually liking it. And I would do it for the bare minimum needed for it to have health benefits. Think of it like eating something you really don't like, but you have to because it's good for you. I would never take the treadmill, or a bike, or a zumba class over a good book and tea coffee. Ever.

So, does this means I'm doomed to fail?

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P.S. Hi, I'm new to Reddit. If I'm doing something wrong, please correct me.

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