Monday, November 12, 2018

Why does my coworker keep trying to make me eat sweets?

I posted a little about this before about a month and a half ago and there's been a couple other occurrences and I don't know how to handle it or if I even should say anything. I don't even know if this is the appropriate sub to be venting about this on, but I think it might be because it may be a possibility that this coworker is trying to sabotage my weight loss. Either that or she's just a pushy person...

The office I work at has regular potlucks that I don't participate in. There's a certain coworker who acts deeply offended when I don't eat her desserts. I'm allergic to nuts and chocolate, and on the first few occasions, her desserts included them, so I was able to get out of it that way. But at the last potluck, she brought in pineapple upside down cake specifically so I could eat it. I appreciated her thinking of me, but I never asked her to do that. And if she had asked me first, I would've old her not to because I really wasn't interested. But she did anyway, and kept trying to pressure me and guilt me into eating it and acted deeply offended when I repeatedly declined.

Last week, she went to Wendy's for lunch and came back with a frosty for me. I told her "I don't want that." Then she started whining and went off on this tangent about how I never eat the things she brings in and told me to "just eat it," sat it on my desk and walked away. I asked a couple other coworkers if they wanted it and they said no, so I threw the frosty away, which is a waste, but again, I never asked for it! Then just this morning she came in talking about how she'll be bringing in a lot of baked goods since the are holidays approaching. She'll specifically be bringing in a ton of Christmas cookies and told me that I'll need to eat them because she hates left overs.

I really don't know what the deal is. I thought it was sweet in the beginning, but now I find it super annoying. She's actually pretty mad at me for not eating the sweets she insists I have. I don't like being pressured to eat things, especially things I never asked for in the first place. I don't mention my weight loss journey every day, but she knows I'm on one. I can't tell if she's trying to sabotage that or what. Even if I wasn't trying to be healthier, I still wouldn't want the things she brings in because I'm a picky eater. From what I can tell, she's not nearly as pushy with my other coworkers, but then again, I guess they're more likely to eat whatever she brings in. Maybe she just doesn't like to be told no. Either way, I want the pestering to stop, and I'm not sure how to get her to understand and respect that.

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Our great-grandparents would be proud of us

I often think of my great-grandparents as I continue to succeed at weight loss through CICO. There are so many parallels to how I'm living now and how I know that they lived their lives; I was fortunate to know both of them well, but I never thought of their simple lives would someday be a goal of my own when I was around them as a child and young adult.

Not overeating on a daily basis. With so many modern distractions and obligations, we over-complicate our lives in so many unnecessary ways. For me, nothing better demonstrates the best way to declutter than the dietary simplification that CICO drives you toward. Although my great-grandparents would've just called it "watching what you eat" or "not taking more than your share," I think they'd be proud of us using modern technology (online tracking, r/loseit) for the support we need to rediscover these timeless truths.

Simplicity. My family uses our mobile phones for internet, so we don't have or need Wi-Fi at home. We also don't have cable TV or landline phones, and we use the monthly $150 we save to upgrade to organic groceries. We don't have anything against TV (we'll buy or rent shows and movies from the library or Redbox), but controlling our media intake frees up a lot of money ... and time (see next bullet).

Preparing fresh and nutritious foods from scratch. We order pizza once a week, order Indian or Thai every other week, and go out to eat about once a month. But other than that, we use most of our time at home to discuss, plan, shop, cook, eat together, and clean up together. We probably save a lot of money doing this, but even more importantly, we control what we're putting in our bodies, and it's a family project. The situation isn't perfect; my SO still loves to bake, and there's more of that sitting around than I'd like.

Relying on a large garden. My great-grandparents grew a lot of what they used. Or, they traded for it or bought it at the local grocer. Our garden today isn't large, but the satisfaction of growing our own basil, beets, and swiss chard this year--and planting blackberries and grapes for future years--brings us a little closer to the land and the simpler lives that our great-grandparents led. A big plus is that weeding and watering are active, outdoor family activities.

Only eating cake and pies on birthdays and holidays. This one doesn't need much explanation, but sweets then were for special occasions, and they just weren't as cheap, available, or ubiquitous. When I started eliminating 85-90% of my added sugar in late August of this year, it wasn't to emulate my great-grandparents (it was originally part of my weight loss effort). But now I view my reduction of added sugar as an echo of the simpler and more controlled times they lived in.

I wouldn't want to emulate everything about my great-grandparent's lives, of course. My great-grandfather smoked cigars and argued a lot. My great-grandma liked to gamble and was a little too nosy for her family and neighbor's tastes. But they were both rail thin and healthy into their eighties.

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Tips from Stay at Home Parents Wanted

Time for round 3 of weight loss! I lost 25 pounds initially, just in time to get pregnant, lost it again after baby 1, and now am ready to do the same after baby 2. I'm so pumped and ready to do this! I feel confident because I have done it twice before, but life circumstances are a bit different now.

I stay at home with my 2 year old and 6 month old. That means my fitness routine has to look at little different because the 2 of them are always in tow. It is also harder to prepare snacks/meals at times, so I'm looking for more things I can just grab from the fridge to munch or curb hunger. I would love some tips and encouragement from other primary care givers! What are your habits that work well that can include your small kids or work around your kids? Thanks!!

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Weight Loss Story: I lost 43 kgs in 6 months WITHOUT any workout!

Sure, losing weight is about the right mix of a balanced diet and working out, but for Jai, who could easily eat up to 2000 calories in a single meal, it was about altering his diet. His weight touched a whopping 136 kilos and he started to feel ashamed of the way he looked and then, he changed things for the better, merely by tweaking his diet. He lost 43 kilos in just 6 months by going into a calorie-deficit mode. He shares his inspirational story with us.

Name: Jai Khanna

Occupation: Interior Design Student at Amity University

Age: 19

Highest weight recorded: 136 kilos

Weight lost: 43 kilos

Duration it took me to lose weight: Almost 6 months

The turning point: I had a wedding in my family of one of my close relatives. I was left with a tussle in my mind – I really wanted to go and have fun but I was embarrassed of the way I looked back then. The worst part about weight is that it pulls your self-confidence down and at 136 kilos, I was ashamed of how I looked. And so, I missed the wedding. That’s when I promised myself that I will not remain like this.

My Diet: According to an ebook.

My workout: I didn’t workout at all. My weight loss was only a result of dieting and nothing else. My problem was that my calorie intake was a lot more than recommended and the challenge was to control that.

Fitness secrets I unveiled: Being in a calorie deficit is the key to lose weight. You can eat whatever you want as long as you’re in a caloric deficit. I followed an extremely flexible diet and had a lot of cheat days. However, my determination to change my appearance kept me going.

How do I stay motivated?
The only thing that kept me motivated is the fact that I wanted to change myself. I didn’t want to remain a fat kid I used to look like before.

How do you ensure you don’t lose focus?
Personally, the only thing that helped me stay focused is the fact that I used to constantly watch a lot of fitness videos on YouTube and also, I wanted to change myself and my looks.

What’s the most difficult part of being overweight?
The most difficult part of being overweight is not finding clothes that fit you properly. Besides that, you are panting just after a minute of exertion. No one likes to be that way.

What shape do you see yourself 10 years down the line?
I don’t have particular vision for myself but I expect myself to be fit and healthy and also motivate others to do so.

What are the lifestyle changes you made?
Weight loss is all about lifestyle change. I was the kind of person who could eat around 2000 calories in a single sitting. But after realising what I was doing to my body, I started counting calories. Counting my calorie intake is what actually what made me realise that I’m harming my body. However, I started reducing my calorie intake only gradually.

What was the lowest point for you?

The lowest point for me was when others demotivated me in my weight loss journey and not seeing expected results even after working hard towards myself.

Lessons learnt from weight loss: Never give up, learn from your mistakes, love your body no matter what, always try to improve yourself and you’re bigger than our fears!

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Science is comforting (at least to me). Here's a long summary of what I've learned so far.

TL;DR Science works, but good science is hard to find. I'm linking some of the more useful info I've found below.

This is year two of trying to get in shape. Year one failed, but I was determined to do better. I had a lot to learn, and I just didn't know it yet. I've done my best to add references where possible, but admittedly some of this is "common sense" advice that I can't justify with anything more than "it makes sense, doesn't it?"

#0. Measure everything you can think of, and then find more things to measure. You can't see changes you don't measure.

Before starting out, I had a sense of the fact that multiple factors would affect the weight on the scale not all of which would correlate to me losing fat, which was the real objective. Though my scale at home does BIA to measure body fat, after getting my body composition tested with an InBody 570 (maybe not the gold standard, but more reliable), I found that feature useless. It was off by 5% (and these things can be off by as much as 7% SEE [1]). Knowing this I was expecting to at least see trends, using the fact that it was off by the same amount every time, but the changes were negligible in the readings because of the underestimation. Body circumference measurements, measured at the widest point possible around my chest, upper arms, waist, hips, thighs and calves, turned out to be much more reliable. I've tried progress pics every few weeks, but I honestly don't see the differences between them, even though I made sure to use the same clothing, lighting, body position and camera angles, so I've ruled those out as too subjective.

#1. Exercise alone won't make a visible difference.

Initially, I didn't think to change my diet. It wasn't that bad to begin with. I've always made sure to eat fruits and vegetables, balance my meals between sources of carbohydrates, protein and fats, and don't indulge in junk food very often. I convinced myself that since my weight was stable (though bordering BMI 25) I was probably eating about maintenance and just needed to exercise consistently. I knew that if I went overboard too quickly I'd be too tired to keep it up so I made a plan to go out for a walk every morning for about an hour. I also made sure to keep records of not only my weight but my body circumference measurements (added up to be able to see trends).

I was able to keep this up for about 4 months, and then life got in the way, I needed the extra sleep, and I was too demotivated to start over. I had managed to lose 3lbs and 9in. It's not nothing, but it's little enough that I couldn't notice. Even though I had made measurements I could trust to tell me there was one, I couldn't see the difference. By the time I decided to try again this year, I knew I needed an approach that would yield results faster and more consistently. Had I found the NIIDK Body Weight Planner any sooner, I would have known that a small change in exercise wouldn't make a big dent. The math behind the model shows that exercise makes up a small part of total energy expenditure [2], [3].

When I picked up exercise again early this year, I opted for more intense exercise, having read about the benefits of HIIT [4] and also decided to exercise at least 3 times a week instead of everyday, considering it easier to stick to. I also added some strength/resistance training, changing the focus for the first time from simply losing weigh to changing my body composition. I told myself that if I stayed the same weight by losing fat and gaining muscle I could be still call it progress. In two months, I made no real progress. I "lost" 1.5in in body circumference overall (and it's easily just from starting to measure a week after starting weight training, when I was likely swollen and then going back to baseline). My weight was all over the place and showed no downward trends.

#2: You're not a freak of nature if you're struggling to lose weight. Thinking you are will keep you from figuring out why you're struggling.

I went away on vacation for 3 weeks and spent most of my time walking (averaging 8mi a day, including hiking). When I came back I finally saw some change: I'd lost 3lb and almost 4in. Had I not been in a depressive rut for the month that followed I maybe wouldn't have lost that progress. When I decided to start again, I kicked the exercise up another notch. In three weeks I lost 1lb and about 2in, but then I saw the numbers creeping back up. I was at my wit's end, ready to believe something was medically wrong with me and schedule a doctor's appointment. As far as my doctor could tell, I was perfectly healthy, and if anything my resting heart rate and cholesterol levels had both gone down since the last time I visited. No thyroid or insulin resistance problems (though they do run in my family), no PCOS (which turns out wasn't as likely as I thought [5]). The effects of exercise on my body were real (heart rate down to ~60bpm, cholesterol lower than it's been in years). They just weren't the effects I was looking for. My doctor assured me I looked fine and all my markers were in healthy ranges, but commended me for taking up the exercise and told me to keep it up.

At this point I was more than a little upset. Okay, so maybe I was healthy, but that wasn't specifically the goal. I knew I was healthy enough (though I could of course be healthier). I wanted to be able to wear my clothes from a couple of years ago and know that "my size" will continue to fit when I go shopping for clothes. I had stayed around 138 +/- 3lb through ages 17-25 and at 29 I'm not so old that the goal was unrealistic. It's closer to the middle of the healthy BMI range for my height, and I wish the doctor hadn't made me feel like I was crazy to have this goal. Speaking of goals...

#3: "Healthy" can be a relative term.

My doctor was using BMI to determine that I was healthy. She wasn't completely wrong, as BMI ranges (from their inception) correlate to mortality rates [6]. However, this analysis is crude [7], and doesn't work for all populations [8]. Health and fitness blogs love to bash BMI because it places athletic, muscular people (epitome of healthy) in the overweight category. They tout body fat percentages as the gold standard, and yet the recommended ranges don't have the best explanations. Whenever the charts are attributed to anyone, many trails lead to the ACE or the ACSM but I can't seem to find an explanation for how they picked their ranges (possibly because I refuse to pay money to buy their manuals, but the references to "Cooper Clinic patients" they collected data from was a dead end). I have an idea, though, based on hat I could find: approximations for the body fat percentages that pair up with the BMI categories [9], and percentiles for body fat percentages in the US population [10,11]. They line up nicely enough with the "ideal body fat" charts, with caveats.

As mentioned before, the BMI as a measure of health is flawed, even if we only apply it to non-athletes (who make up the majority of the population anyway). The division of the cutoffs into ethnic groups is to account for the fact that the same BMI standards don't apply to everyone. And this makes the math in the simplified body fat charts fuzzy. Even big names like the WHO have questionable backing for some of their claims on body fat cutoffs [12]. So, my advice to you is to be clear about what your goal is and why.

#4: "Health" sounds nicer than "vanity," but vanity is a big driving force in efforts to lose weight.

Let's forget about BMI, then, and go for the vanity factor of placing yourself on a percentile. Take a look at the US population data [10,11]. If you have the time to kill and can dabble in SAS and SPSS, play with the percentiles (if you don't, but trust whoever made the applet, you can follow this link to see where you fall). Some ACSM charts mention percentiles, and "fair" begins at the 40th percentile, while the "good" category starts at the 60th. Ah, so we're playing the comparison game. Turns out you were doing statistics all along when you compared yourself to everyone else. Look carefully at the average population stats [9], and then look at the trends over time [13]. I haven't run into any updates to either BMI or body fat ranges, even though they're both based on data that goes back ~30+ years and is by now obsolete. I'll address proper health in my next point, but to me admitting that vanity played a role in my decision to lose weight was an eye opener.

It should go without saying that advertisements and social media are not representative of the average population, but it bears reminding. Near perfect models get photoshopped, clothes on mannequins are pinned to enhance an unreal silhouette, and everything you see on social media has been cherry picked. I have an issue with these last ones because they pretend to be the real deal, and the truth is they only show what they want you to see, using a number of tricks to exaggerate what they already have. This isn't even a new trend. If you set out trying to look like someone else, you should be aware of the fact that maybe even that person doesn't look like the picture you're aiming for. I'm personally shooting for a number I think is feasible (because I've been at that weight before), but I'll be happy at a different weight if my old clothes fit. I know it's a vanity thing, but I'm also fairly confident it's realistically attainable.

#5: You can improve your health without changing your weight much.

Back to my story, after being upset at my doctor and poring through mounds of information trying to prove her wrong... I have to admit she was mostly right. My cholesterol and resting heart rate were proof of it. The fact that I could walk up 7 flights of stairs and beat an elevator (though I had to stop to catch my breath at the top) was proof of it. The fact that I could sustain a running pace for more than 2min was proof of it. I don't want to start a debate about whether or not it is possible to be healthy at any weight, but I do believe you can be healthier at your current weight when you take up exercise and a sensible diet, even if it doesn't show on the scale. If you thought I'd reference this study, I have more to tell you.

#6: Top Google are the ones people like to click on the most, which means writers have an incentive to tell you anything you want to hear.

I could make this post so much longer, because the bad science abounds and annoys me. Some rules of thumb:

  • if an article lists no sources or references (even if they allude to unnamed studies), be skeptical
  • if the sources/references are other articles by the same author, watch out for circular reasoning or a lack of sources/references in the cited article
  • if there is a very real study listed, don't be afraid to read it and question it (beware of small sample sizes, sketchy methods, and sources of funding)
  • if they're oversimplifying something (giving you a quick rule of thumb like "losing 10lb equals one dress size" when there's so much that goes into clothing sizes), it's probably wrong
  • ALWAYS ask yourself if they're trying to sell you something (especially true of those suspenseful articles that promise results and the information you are looking for if only you sign up for their program, buy their book/supplements, etc.)

Now, some mythbusting:

  • Burning 3500 calories won't make you lose a pound of fat. When it's quoted this way, the authors conflate weight with fat (because when we set out to lose weight we usually want to lose fat), but the study that landed on this number spoke only of weight [14]. This rule is especially problematic when used to determine the time it will take to lose a given amount of weight [15]. The 3500 cal rule proposes a linear model, which is admittedly easier to understand if you're a little apprehensive about math and accurate enough in short time scales, but ultimately wrong. Better models use differential equations and multiple variables to make accurate predictions within a chosen margin of error. The NIIDK Body Weight Planner I mentioned above is user friendly and has been a source of comfort when I feel like I'm stalling: I'm still within the margin of error and I invariably go back to bouncing around the trendline.
  • CICO (Calories In, Calories Out) works. Macros, you can fudge a little [16]. Diet plans that claim to ignore calorie counting but restrict your intake otherwise (low carb, low fat, eliminate sugars, eat only whole/natural foods, eat only in small time frames) ultimately aim to reduce the number of calories you consume but trick you into thinking that you're otherwise free to do whatever you want. The fact is that if you were to follow any of them and go over, you wouldn't lose weight, so don't try to game the system by pretending anything goes within the limits of your restrictions. If you replace breads, pasta and sweets with avocados, nuts and cheese (which you will likely consume in equivalent volumes to stave off hunger) you will probably still be eating more than you need.
  • Protein matters, but not as much as they advertise. This post does a pretty good job of explaining why, with references I won't bother repeating in my already very long list. The takeaway is that most people are already meeting minimum protein requirements. Higher protein intake is recommended to prevent muscle loss and modestly increase the rate of weight loss (though it doesn't work on everyone). You still probably don't need the 1g of protein per lb of body weight. There are more, but here's one study making slightly lower suggestions of up to 0.7g of protein per lb of body weight for people who exercise a lot. If you weigh over 100lb and are both trying to cut calories and increase your protein to 1g per lb of body weight, you will most likely end up eating more meats or taking more supplements (because they're protein-dense) than dietitians would recommend (they favor a higher plant-based food intake). It's also hard to sustain long term. If you try to go the natural route and use plant based proteins, like nuts, you may go over your calorie intake. Moderation is key. At 150lb, I'm shooting to average 90-100g of protein a day and it seems to be working fine.
  • There's no science to justify the whoosh effect, or that you can use cheat meals/days to "trick your body into losing weight." There, I said it. This falls under the list of things people love to read because it tells them what they want to hear. Don't get me started on how little sense it makes that your fat cells would hold on to water that you pee later. Big swings in body weight, once calories are accounted for, are most likely due to fluctuations in water retention, and that depends on your sodium levels, how intensely you've been exercising, water intake... Expect the fluctuations, and play with them if it makes you happy. Just remember the changes on the scale are likely just water weight, and you're interested in fat loss. Taking a break can have a positive psychological impact, and is good practice in learning to forgive yourself if you eat a bit more than you planned.. You may not make new progress, but you won't lose much either. Allow yourself to have a big meal with friends and family for special occasions because it will make you happy and because it's not a permanent switch to caloric excess. Just make sure to go back to your plan and the math of averages will be on your side: if you have 100 days eating at a deficit and one day eating above, it averages out to a deficit anyway. All you need is to watch your deficit days:surplus days ratio.
  • If it hasn't been 6 months on your fitness plan, it's most likely not a true plateau, but the result of you cutting yourself too much slack [17]. For people looking to lose a significant amount of weight who started out at a modest deficit, it's worth reassessing intake every few months. This is true for significant amounts of weight because your daily energy expenditure depends on your weight, so a big weight change will have a big impact in your expenditure. Other than that, you're most likely either being impatient in riding out the water weight fluctuations or lying to yourself about the size of your deficit.
  • Your math won't be perfect, even if you try very hard, and that's okay. You've probably read somewhere that food labels are allowed to be off by as much as 20% and the FDA isn't even checking for compliance [18] (though name brands are closer to a 5% error [19]). You won't find it hard to believe that since portion sizes are hardly standard at restaurants you could be eating up to twice as much as it says you are in their nutritional information table. You're likely aware of the fact that most people underestimate their calorie intake and overestimate their exercise calorie expenditure. The machines and gadgets are probably lying to you (listing individual margins of error depends on the model of gadget, but they all have them). You can still work with numbers that are consistently off by the same amount. If your elliptical machine says you burned 400cal on Monday and 450cal today, it's still fair to say you burned a little more today. As long as most of your meals are not at restaurants (where it's hard to measure and get a full ingredients list to make your own estimates), even if your numbers are off, it won't make a big dent in your average accuracy (assuming the rest of your math is done with the information from calorie databases for each ingredient and those are accurate enough). Make sense of the numbers as you measure them. If my theoretical maintenance is 2300cal but my calorie intake averages 2100cal on a 3 week period with no weight change, then 2100cal is maintenance the way I'm measuring it and that's the number I want to stick to. I'm likely measuring wrong, but at least I know the baseline.

I know it's not short, but reading this summary already takes a lot less time than it took me to find these things out on my own and write them, so hopefully I'm saving someone else the trouble. Hope it's useful to you. Feel free to add your own resources or let me know if you found data that disagrees with what I'm saying. I'm open to editing and fixing any mistakes I may have made.

References:

#0:

BIA scales can be off by up to 7%

[1] Accuracy of Consumer Grade Bioelectrical Impedance Analysis Devices Compared to Air Displacement Plethysmography

#1:

Reasonably accurate mathematical model for weight loss based on energy imbalance

[2] Quantification of the effect of energy imbalance on bodyweight

[3] Dynamic Mathematical Model of Body Weight Change in Adults

Effects of HIIT

[4] High-Intensity Intermittent Exercise and Fat Loss

#2:
PCOS affects maybe 15-20% of women, and only 50-70% of those are affected by insulin resistance

[5] Epidemiology, diagnosis, and management of polycystic ovary syndrome

#3:

BMI and mortality

[6] Body-Mass Index and Mortality among 1.46 Million White Adults

BMI - history and use

[7] Body Mass Index

BMI cutoffs should be different in Asian populations

[8] Appropriate body-mass index for Asian populations and its implications for policy and intervention strategies

Healthy BMI to body fat percentage conversions

[9] Healthy percentage body fat ranges: an approach for developing guidelines based on body mass index.

CDC Body composition data in the US

[10] Body Composition Data for Individuals 8 Years of Age and Older: U.S. Population, 1999–2004

NHANES Data from 1999-2000 (warning: SAS or SPSS is needed to open the data files)

[11] NHANES 1999-2000 Examination Data

Body fat cutoffs that are cited often have questionable reasoning behind them

[12] More on Body Fat Cutoff Points, More on Body Fat Cutoff Points - Reply

#4:

NHANES BMI trends

[13] Healthy weight, overweight, and obesity among U.S. adults

#6:

Caloric equivalent of 1lb of weight

[14] Caloric equivalents of gained or lost weight.

Predicting weight loss

[15] Time to Correctly Predict the Amount of Weight Loss with Dieting

Different macros don't seem to make a huge difference weight loss over a 2 year period

[16] Comparison of weight-loss diets with different compositions of fat, protein, and carbohydrates.

Your metabolism didn't adapt, you just stopped sticking to the plan

[17] Effect of dietary adherence on the body weight plateau: a mathematical model incorporating intermittent compliance with energy intake prescription

FDA rules for nutrition labels allow up to 20% error, and depend on the honor system

[18] Guidance for Industry: Nutrition Labeling Manual - A Guide for Developing and Using Data Bases

Common snack foods aren't off by that much, though

[19] Food Label Accuracy of Common Snack Foods

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3 Things I've Learned while Losing 40 Pounds (not done yet, though!)

Some tips I've learned during my weight loss journey that I wanted to share with the world (down 40 pounds, but the goal is 65. Regardless, I want to help anyone I can):

  1. There are no shortcuts to success. I learned this one the hard way. You probably hear this phrase all the time, and it probably means very little to you. It didn't mean much to me, just an empty motivational quote that you hear from football coaches. I still thought that there was some way I could lose my weight without hitting the gym and changing my life choices. There had to be a quick fix. I spent a large majority of my teen years believing some magic pill could drop my fat. I was not willing or ready to put in the work. Then, I thought as long as I went to the gym 4-5 times a week, I'd drop weight. I did, but I quickly hit a plateau, and felt like I was back to square one. Only after making an effort to go to the gym every day, as well as a drastic change in my eating habits, did I start seeing results again. In the end, there isn't, and if you are not willing to put in the work every. single. day to better yourself, then in my opinion, you're lying to yourself about your hopes and dreams for weight loss. You can't do this thing quickly, and I believe that to be true for fad diets as well.

  2. "There are a million reasons not to do something." - Jan Levinson-Gould... There really are. Think about the gym, for example. "I can't go today because..." you don't feel that great today, that there's something else you need to do... In the end, if you want to make something happen, you have to make an effort to push excuses aside. Go to the gym when you don't feel 100% (I'm not saying go to the gym while you're sick with the flu or something, but "I'm tired" is not an excuse), or change your plans so you can get in a workout. You'll feel much better if you make it there and have even just an okay workout as opposed to not going at all. Eating and dieting is another one. "I'll start tomorrow" is just as big of an excuse as any in my eyes! What is going to change from today to tomorrow if the importance of your goal is so flimsy? If losing weight is important to you, it's time to stop making excuses.

  3. I love the Serenity Prayer. For the purpose of this, I will remove religious elements, but it goes, "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." I think this quote can be applied to many different aspects of life, but especially in terms of weight loss. Focus on the things you can control, like working out, making good food choices, and not your appearance, or the number on the scale. Those things are up to your body functioning the way it's intended to. You need to do your part, and realize that things will come in time.

These are just three things I've learned... Feel like I can go on for days. I just want to help people (it's just in my nature given my profession) reach and achieve their goals. Anyone needing additional guidance and advice, please feel free to message me. I'll do my best to help in any way I can.

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How can I (31F) help my husband (30M) understand the difference between eating till he’s no longer hungry and eating till he’s stuffed?

My husband (and I) have gained a lot of weight in the 8 years we’ve been together. We have 2 children now and want to not only lose weight for ourselves, but we want to set a good example for our children. I’ve been on the weight loss journey before and was doing well until a series of health problems set me back into old bad habits, but I know and understand how to eat so I’m satisfied and no longer hungry, and don’t overeat. My husband played football in high school, so he could eat as much as he wanted and whatever he wanted and never had to worry about gaining because he was working out constantly. Once he was done with football, his eating habits didn’t change even though he came to a dead stop working out. So he gained weight and pretty quickly. He thinks that in order to no longer be hungry, he has to feel stuffed to the brim. I tried explaining to him that that’s not how it works but he doesn’t seem to get it. His idea of a filling meal is 2-3 servings worth of food on his plate, and sometimes he wants seconds because he’s still “hungry”. Then he can’t move because he’s so full. He just can’t seem to understand that that’s not normal.

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