Help with where to start with spouse

So this may be a long post so I'm sorry in advance.

Let me start by saying that I am not the one who wants my wife to lose weight. I know that it is an extremely sensitive subject with her. Her losing weight would not make me any more attracted to her. I would only want her to lose weight so that she is healthier, and I have told her this already.

She wants to lose weight, but is frustrated with the "work" that is involved with losing the weight, namely either the planning or calorie counting. I've used myfitnespal in the past and she saw me logging things in and/or scanning bar codes to get a more accurate caloric intake count and she didn't want to do that work. I tried to say that it didn't have to be that accurate, and that with everything that is in the database you can get pretty good results, and when in doubt I picked the higher calorie option so that I was always overestimating my caloric intake. She also has done weight loss programs in the past, such as 21 day fix. She was fine with this for a point, but the work of limiting her meals to the special color coded cups got to her after about 2 months ad being too much work.

Our house life is a little difficult to exercise as we have two children at home, one in 4 day a week preschool, and the second is not in preschool yet (17 months). So the time that we have child-free with the nap time of our youngest or time once both kids are put to bed at night usually end up being relegated to mostly household chores. It is hard to get any household items done with the children awake as our youngest is a complete hurricane, he will ransack the house if we don't watch/entertain him, and our older daughter doesn't play with toys for too long by herself (I think because we played with her together so much when she was younger she didn't learn that when she was younger but this is just my own opinion).

Our older child has said a few things about her weight, unintentionally, not realizing the affect that it has on her. So this has led her more down the pathway of weight loss surgery. But for insurance to cover it there is a multi-step process involved, which again has been met with resistance a little bit. Only because she is concerned that the process before the surgery would likely drop her below the BMI coverage (BMI <40). I know not a bad thing, but my thought is that then this would result in more work for her to keep it up. I am hesitant for her to do weight loss surgery because I have either seen the complicated disasters that happen with these surgeries (I am an inpatient clinical pharamcist), or I see that it works for a year or so, but the stomach adjusts and people just gain the weight back. I know that I am biased with what I see at work and that there are success stories.

Today I got a text message that ended with, "I want to be healthier but I have no clue how I can even fit that into my life." I want to help her and be with her on a healthier journey as much as possible but I'm not sure where to help. I told her that we can figure out baby steps together but even with that I'm not sure where to start. Any help/comments/suggestions would be appreciated.

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Playing the "long game"

I’m one of the many for whom this isn’t our first attempt at weight loss. I’ve yo-yoed now several times, and so this time my focus is on the “long game.”

I see so many posts lamenting "only" losing 5 lbs this week, or some such. I lost 1.6 lbs this week, and I was thrilled. Would I love to get to goal sooner? Sure, but what I'd REALLY love is to see myself 5 years from now, having maintained for a long time--a feat I've never accomplished.

That's why I'm committed to building habits that will last for life. Exercise and eating concepts that I can do not just for the short term, but forever. I'm a long way from needing to worry about maintenance, but the people that inspire me at the gym are not the "swole" people, but the 60, 70, and 80+ year-olds that are clearly trim, fit, athletic. They always seem to carry themselves in such a way that suggests they've been at this a long time, and that's the model I aspire to!

I so appreciate this sub for the support we give one another—so just wanted to take a chance to thank you all and to encourage us all to play the long game!

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Running after the Rain and Meal Prep

Hello!! How’s it going? So I finally finished reading all the comments and feedback from the Pile on Miles Running Challenge and Mailing List survey!! THANK YOU for taking the time to do that – I really appreciate it. And thank you for following. I love ya!

I read all about your running, weight loss and health goals and what you want more of on this lil ol’ running blog and I hear you. I have a long list of post and podcast topics to cover that I hope will help you hit your goals!

And a lot of you said you still miss my old life updates posts. I thought everyone just spent all day on Instagram and listening to podcasts – but maybe that’s just me… or maybe you do some of that but also want more blog posts!

Also… at first Instagram crowded out the blog because it just seemed so much easier to post my running and eating over there. But now IG is super fancy and you can only post perfect pics and styled food photos or the President of IG builds a firewall to keep you out of his app. (This has not been confirmed by any reliable sources.)

My point is… I used to post more running and eating in ‘real time’ on social media so it was kinda like the old RER for a minute. But yeah… I’ve gotten away from that too so I need to track all those things here! (Which is the reason I started this site in the first place! Full circle!! Boom.)

So… I’m going to set a goal of posting X times a week for the rest of the year. I don’t know what the x is yet… I’m going to figure out a realistic schedule and let you know by Monday.

Even though I’ll be posting more here…

I’ll still post daily check-ins on Instagram! It’s great place to connect with other runners and eaters in real time – so please follow @RunEatRepeat on IG and chime in with your updates in the comments, make friends, get inspired, motivate others and support the cause!

Let’s talk running and eating!

It was National Popcorn Day yesterday! Did you celebrate? Popcorn is one of my top 10 favorite foods.

Check out my DIY Microwave Popcorn in a paper bag hack here!

My IT band and/or piriformis area has been super tight. So, I’ve been trying to foam roll, stretch and roll with a tennis ball or a softball a few times a week.

Those recovery efforts in combination with running less as I try to train Diego (and he tries to train me) has helped it feel a little better. But it’s definitely not completely gone – so I have to keep it up!

Rolling Notes:

This is the foam roller I have.

This is the bumpy foam roller I have that I’m using in the picture above. Sometimes the colors represent different densities so check that when buying one. You don’t want to get a foam roller just because of the color – choose based on the size / shape / density / etc.

For my butt / hamstrings – I’ve been using a softball lately.  I think a softball helps a lot more than a tennis ball because it’s bigger and harder.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I tried the Trader Joe’s Rainbow wrap the other day. I definitely got it because of the super colorful wrap outside! And I’m trying to get myself to like eating beets. But I ended up picking them out of this…

I think this is the funniest thing I saw on IG this week:

Diego doesn’t get it tho…

I did some meal prep! Because I’m responsible and such.

I baked chicken and sweet potatoes. And I made a batch of overnight oats for the next morning. Meal prep can be easy and fast!

Holiday of the Day:

Today is Martin Luther King Jr. Day!

And on a less important but food related level…

it’s also National Granola Bar Day and National Clam Chowder Day.
I like saying CHOW-DAAA… the way I imagine someone with a Boston accent to say it. Now that’ going to be in my head all day!

Have a good one!

Question: When was the last time you had Clam Chowder?

I had it at Berth 55 recently!! Sooo good!

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Teen Who Needs Advice

Hi everyone!

I’m a male high schooler who needs advice on weight loss.

I live in a semi-poor, single parent house, and would like to lose weight (currently sitting around 220 last I checked, but I wanna get back to a healthy number fast).

I don’t know how I should start exercising, especially since I’m really self conscious of how I look when I run and the fact that my stamina is pretty bad. I would go to a gym, but I don’t know what to look for in a gym and if gyms are open for people (some are 18/21 and older only, also I am pretty broke).

I know my eating habits are bad, but I don’t know how to suggest to my mom to regularly buy healthy food, and if I choose to go shopping, I don’t know what is and isn’t healthy.

tl;dr Semi-Poor teen in rich neighborhood needs advice on how he can diet and exercise.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Young and fat

Hey all, so I'm not really sure if this is allowed here or not, but I'm just starting a weight loss journey. I kind of just want to get my story out there and maybe get some feedback. I am 22 years old, 5'9" and 230 pounds. When I started college in 2015 I weighed 165 pounds over the course of the two years I was there I shot up to 215 and since then I've gone up to (and currently sit at) 230 pounds. I don't fit in any of my old clothes, I can't find any clothes that hide my fat so I wear hoodies and bigger shirts, I'm super uncomfortable all the time and I don't know what to do. It's the biggest I've ever been and I feel like crap. In college I got accustomed to eating drive thru meals and whatever unhealthy food a broke college kid could get his hands on. I went from playing sports in high school to doing nothing in college. At first it wasn't that noticeable, but looking back on pictures I look and feel like a completely different person. I'm usually in a bad mood and feel like crap now and I'm sick of it. I tried to look up some BMI stuff and every one I try says I'm obese, which was actually the start of this whole thing, that kind of freaked me out. If I don't do something now, I know I'll keep going until it's too difficult to turn around. I hate going to the gym, because I don't know how to use the machines and I hate working out in front of people. I've been trying to log my food as a start. This sub has been a great resource on how to get started and I get excited every time I see someone's weight loss story. If you guys have tips or suggestions or even if you want to tell me about your story I'm all ears. I'm sorry for the rant, I'm just tired of being like this and I hope you guys can understand.

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Being ashamed of how I look

Today I want to get something off my chest. Apologize in advance if it has not much to do with weight loss.

29F 153 cm CW 81 kg GW 53 kg (abt 5' CW 178 pounds GW 115)

5 month ago I quit my job in order to work full time on my thesis in engineering. I stopped walking to my job and together with anxious eating, I gained 5 kgs (abt 10 pounds).

With time, I just got more anxious. To the point that, in the last 2 month, I don't even go out of the house much and be out in the open. Maybe once a week. Everything else it's like: car - do something - car - home.

Everytime I thought about being on the street, I felt scared, ashamed and judged. I still do.

Today I went to campus and my idea was to go to hidrogym after that. I have no idea where I got the strength to do it. I was shaking all the way... But once I got into the water, I felt so much better.

This week I will be defending my thesis. On one side I will be defending my work, on the other side, I will be in front of people feeling judged for my body.

I know I have been doing the work, it's been a short while, but I think everyday I feel a little bit better with my self. I hope one day I can shake that feeling that I don't belong, that shouldn't be here and that I should be locked away ashamed of my self.

Thank you for listening.

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Hit my first goal of 50lbs lost!!

First I want to thank everyone on this sub for being a source of inspiration. I lurk here everyday and its a major part of what keeps me going!

A quick background on me, I've always been overweight and been kind of meh about it to be honest. I just took it as another part of who I was. Even though I played football in high school, I was still fit-fat and it worked there. Going into my undergrad and eventually masters, it quickly went out of control. I always told myself I was around 350 lbs, while not great, I always told myself it could be much worse. Whenever I went to the doctor, I declined to get weighed in and would avoid the doctor at times so I wouldn't have to argue with the nurse about it.

Eventually, I decided that I was almost 30 and I had never had a boyfriend and the best chance I had of getting into a relationship was losing weight (shallow reasoning but it got me started). I started going to the gym and working out with a personal trainer in mid-2017 and had to get weighed in and found out I was 397 lbs! I was absolutely mortified and heartbroken, but I used it as my come to Jesus moment and decided to start working out. I told myself that I was going to focus on how I felt and not check my scale at all. Early 2018, I started doing filipino martial arts to supplement my work outs and keep moving forward.

This past August I ended up losing my mom to cancer and that took its toll on me but it was convinced me to get my health under control again. So I scheduled a meeting with my doctor and had a full physical done. My doctor ran full bloodwork and I had low blood pressure, low cholesterol, good heart rate, and no pressing health concerns. He referred me to a nutritionist so I could learn to eat healthier. I met with the nutritionist and he wanted me to weigh in so he could get an idea of where I was. My mortification was back when I weighed in at 385 lbs. A full year of working out regularly only lost me 12 lbs. Starting working with him about learning to eat more balanced meals and sticking to a calorie count (I don't even want to think about how many calories I was eating daily last year).

After meeting with him, I started looking for more support and fount this subreddit along with a few others that helped push me forward and keep me motivated. Eventually I started working on incorporating a calorie counting app (loseit!) into my routine which has really helped me focus on eating less that 2,000 calories a day. At the suggestion of a friend, I started working out drinking more water (I cut out sodas from my diet, but never replaced them with anything!). Eventually I came across r/intermittentfasting and tried a 16/8 which was really easy for me and helped move lose more weight. I've even lost track sometimes and done a 24 fast without meaning too. I started weighing myself in everyday and constantly tracking where my weight is (I'm a researcher by training, for me, more data is a good thing)

Yesterday, I hit my first major milestone and have hit an overall weight loss of 50 lbs! It was one of those moments where I got on the scale twice to confirm it! Even though I don't see any big differences in the mirror, I have a couple of jeans that I had tailored early last year and they are too big for me!

I'm just really proud of myself and my journey so far and totally didn't mean to write an essay on this, but thank you for reading and to this community for constantly providing motivation!

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