I actually like that people are worried about me losing weight...

Oh hey! So every day we get a post from someone upset that they're friends are worried about them, just thought I'd have a counter post to that.

Yesterday my friend noticed that I'm losing weight again, and she asked me if it's intentional or because of stress. As a former athlete she'd had her share of eating issues and she always asks this when I talk about dieting and whatnot. She's really concerned about, for example, counting calories since that used to make her obsessed and not eat at all, so we've had talks about it in the past.

I know some people get upset when people are concerned about weight loss, but I really appreciate such comments. They tell me that hey my friend is looking at me and noticing change, and wants to know more, and she cares enough to ask if I'm ok.

I think it's important to remember that our cultures have weird and often unhealthy relations with food, and that yes a lot of the time weight loss is linked with bad or unhealthy periods in our lives. I've had two friends lose 8-10 kg from stress after some traumatic events and they both see it as a positive thing, but it's your body calling out to you that hey, you're not ok. Weight loss (and gain) rarely happens without something going on in the background. Sometimes it's just deciding to lose it, but a lot of times it's wanting to lose it for unhealthy reasons, or sickness, or risky behaviour etc and the only way to know is to ask that person about it (and ask yourself too, since EDs get you before you know it sometimes). Checking that background to see if it should be something to worry about is what friends are for <3

So the next time you're upset that someone thinks you might have an ED, take a moment to ask yourself if you do, and try to have an honest and mindful conversation about it. Unless they're just Nancy from Sales not minding her own business, case in which pull a Nancy and just don't care about what the other person thinks.

(If anything, it's random comments from almost strangers about how great it is that I'm losing weight or ugh negative comments about gaining weight that really grind my gears. )

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Help! My motivation is quickly going downhill :(

I came into my 2019 weight loss journey pretty motivated. I knew what I needed to do and I finally wanted it enough to do it. I knew I had to lose a significant amount of weight - 100+ lbs. I had been successful years ago with CICO so I gave it another shot. Like many others, I started this January. Since then, I’ve lost a little over 20 lbs. My overall weight loss has been significantly more (+60lbs), but since January, it’s been 20+. I’ll spill the beans. I started at approximately 320lbs and I’m now 254, but my starting weight in 2019 after a couple years of up and down was 275.

I see a lot of people who have lost significantly more by this point and it’s starting to make me feel unmotivated. Why haven’t I lost more than 20 lbs? Am I doing something wrong? I feel like I’ve been tracking everything correctly. When I go over, I make up for it in the next couple of days. I’ve even started exercising. I know I didn’t put on this weight over night so I don’t expect it to come off that quickly, but it really brings me down when I see those who have lost 40 or 50 lbs by now. I’m super happy for them, but I would love to see the same results! I guess I’m just whining and need some words of encouragement. :(

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Active vs. Passive Recovery: Why you need both

Recovery is a hot topic right now and a lot of members are talking about it. One of the first things I actually teach all of my clients is that they don’t actually get more fit in the gym, they get more fit when they adequately recover from what they did in the gym. The better that you can recover, the more positive stress your body can tolerate, and the more results you can achieve with exercise. However, there are quite a few barriers that can get in the way of this. 

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I lost 150 pounds at 17 thanks to r/loseit. I’m 19 now, and I can reflect on my journey and share advice.

19 Year old male | 5’11. | 300 down to 150 (my lowest was 130)

Before and after photo

When I was 17 years old, life had been rough for me. I was overweight since I was 9 years old, and became obese around 15. My social life was non-existent and friends were hard to come by. Most of my free time was spent in my room, playing video games, and listening to music. Depression and social anxiety became rampant. I always wore hoodies and sweatshirts, even in hot humid weather. I wore skin tight athletic shirts underneath my clothes to hold my stomach in.

In the summer of 2017 I went to Las Vegas over school break. I had a terrible time walking, i chafed badly, and I felt miserable. When I came back home I looked into dieting. Calorie counting caught my attention because I could eat whatever foods I liked as long as it was within my goals, and I could calculate weekly weight loss down to the pound.

After two months of CICO, I returned to school. My classmates commented on how I lost weight and were amazed. I was always the stereotypical fat funny nerd. I made self deprecating jokes about myself because it made others laugh and want to talk to me.

One year into losing weight and I dropped down to 140, kept going, and even got down to 130. I became addicted to losing weight and was anorexic. One week I didn’t eat, causing severe drowsiness and nausea. After I hit 140, I began to take care of myself and socialize more.

Here are some things I’ve learned

People DO treat you differently based on appearance, it’s sad but true. Your appearance is your most important first impression, and it doesn’t help that younger adults are shallow.

I lost weight TOO fast. I was losing an average of 3 pounds a week. I refused to drink water and replaced it with diet soda to tame my sugar cravings.

Losing weight doesn’t solve all your problems. I spent another year building my social life, and overcoming my depression and anxiety due to my body dysmorphia.

My reasons to lose weight were horrible, making my personality wither and rot. I lost weight initially to look better, but as soon as I delved into the sexual realm, I became addicted. Maybe it’s the feeling of knowing that someone who would never have sex with you in the past, is head over heels. I still struggle with this, as I tie my sex life, and weight to my self esteem.

I am not happy with how I look, and I might never be happy, that’s okay. Knowing that I can progress how I look, makes me strive for something. Even if life is bad, I can always workout and lose weight. Something to live for when you’re at your lowest.

If anyone has any questions please ask! I’ll respond to any of them.

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Struggling With Counting Macros

Hi everyone. I am 24F, and I started with my weight loss journey two weeks ago at 78.2 Kgs. Since then, I am working out regularly (though I think there is a lot of scope of improvement in terms of exercises, reps etc) and maintaing a calorie deficit diet (part of it through IF); I am now at 75Kgs. I am counting macros and I noticed that my calories are in control but I somehow cannot manage full proteins. If I add proteins, the diet becomes carbs and fat heavy, and I am very confused on how to ideally manage it. I am a vegetarian and I try to eat as much cottage cheese, soya chunks but somehow just cannot come to a perfect diet. Any suggestions on how I can manage this? Thanks in advance.

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In praise of my Bluetooth scale

I've been obese all of highschool and 8th grade. I always wanted to lose weight and whatnot but i just never had enough motivation weight loss is a slow thing and i always felt like it didn't work after two days and i wasn't skinny. But after my first year of college I bought a Bluetooth scale for my dorm that hooked up to my phone and tracked all my stats. I mainly bought it cause it was cool. But nearly 9 months later I'm down 50 pounds! I'm not obese anymore. I still have a ways to go till I'm a normal weight, but i couldn't have gotten here without my scale. It let's me gameify the whole process. Seeing the chart go up down. It even has a little streak counter to encourage you to weigh yourself every day and stay on top of it all. Also I feel like i should probably include my weight. I started at 250 at the tail end of the summer and am down to 198 as of this morning!

Anyone feeling like they're getting discouraged because it feels like nothing's happening. Do you a favor and get a Bluetooth scale!

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Trying to not judge the pounds not moving

Some back story: I lost 15 lbs, and this would be my last 15.

I have been "working out" a lot more than average by just being a pretty active person. (Dog walking 3x a week, if not more, biking 4+ miles a day on average instead of driving, yoga 2-3x times a week if not more.) Yet, I'm not losing the weight like I would love to. Yesterday I decided to stop worrying about it, since I can literally feel my stomach muscles in a way I never could, and I have almost entirely rid my back roll. I also can handle a barre class one day, a yoga class the next day
immediately followed by a 20 mile bike ride.

Also, this morning, I put on a pair of pants that used to fit perfectly, that I thought maybe just stretched out. But definitely just washed them, and they feel loose!

But what do you focus on when the weight loss isn't happening when you know the habits are better than they were before? Like, I probably have pretty fantastic health considering, and even in high school as a cross country runner I never got below 160 so this goal may not be reasonable for my actual body.

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