I actually like that people are worried about me losing weight...

Oh hey! So every day we get a post from someone upset that they're friends are worried about them, just thought I'd have a counter post to that.

Yesterday my friend noticed that I'm losing weight again, and she asked me if it's intentional or because of stress. As a former athlete she'd had her share of eating issues and she always asks this when I talk about dieting and whatnot. She's really concerned about, for example, counting calories since that used to make her obsessed and not eat at all, so we've had talks about it in the past.

I know some people get upset when people are concerned about weight loss, but I really appreciate such comments. They tell me that hey my friend is looking at me and noticing change, and wants to know more, and she cares enough to ask if I'm ok.

I think it's important to remember that our cultures have weird and often unhealthy relations with food, and that yes a lot of the time weight loss is linked with bad or unhealthy periods in our lives. I've had two friends lose 8-10 kg from stress after some traumatic events and they both see it as a positive thing, but it's your body calling out to you that hey, you're not ok. Weight loss (and gain) rarely happens without something going on in the background. Sometimes it's just deciding to lose it, but a lot of times it's wanting to lose it for unhealthy reasons, or sickness, or risky behaviour etc and the only way to know is to ask that person about it (and ask yourself too, since EDs get you before you know it sometimes). Checking that background to see if it should be something to worry about is what friends are for <3

So the next time you're upset that someone thinks you might have an ED, take a moment to ask yourself if you do, and try to have an honest and mindful conversation about it. Unless they're just Nancy from Sales not minding her own business, case in which pull a Nancy and just don't care about what the other person thinks.

(If anything, it's random comments from almost strangers about how great it is that I'm losing weight or ugh negative comments about gaining weight that really grind my gears. )

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