My weight and my family insulting me about my weight destroyed my childhood and teenage years

When i was younger they fed me absolute shit food. Breakfasts everyday were full english breakfast, then pizza or some shit for lunch and then huge bowls of pasta for lunch loaded with greasy meatballs. I became addicted to food because of them to the point where i would hide food or do crap like that. My parents would say that I'm healthy because im obese and then sometimes when they were mad with me they would call me fat and gross and i would feel bad. My dad then tried to force me to lose weight by insulting me all the time, making me wake up at 6AM during the summer each day and run around the garden for 5hrs and when i lost breath he would scream at me and get really angry, wouldn't let me play games anymore anr forced me to read weight loss books and diabeties and cancer books and i would get scared about dying and would have nightmares and my siblings would just watch me and giggle then after that he would make me eat like a diabetic while they all ate their yummy meals. One time we all went to mcdonalds and the only thiny i was allowed to get was water and their. Carrots. Then they would black mail me with food and other stuff like that. This is all when i was 11 by the way.

My aunts and uncles and cousins called me fat all the time too. I was an obese person. Very obese from the age of 7 to 16.

My weight and my family insulting me destroyed my confidence and social skills in which im still suffering that destruction today. I had no friends growing up and would just sit down playing with my pokemon cards alone during break and even though im not obese anymore i still struggle to talk to people and make friends and i still get depressed on a regular basis

I decided when i was 17 that i didnt want to be insulted anymore and went from 230lbs to 170lbs (I'm 177lbs now since i was bulking for muscle but will cut to 172) at 5ft 9. I started to make my own food and joined a gym. My family would laugh at me and say that i was going to fail but a last they were wrong. I'm living a healthy lifestyle now. It's been one year and i still make my own food and I'm now trying to build muscle. I still have social problems and confidence issues but idk what to do about that for now

Anyways whenever i see my aunts or uncles and others i just hate the way my parents act like they were the ones that made me lose my weight. I hate when they give me advice about what i eat. I hate that they brag about me to their friends and honestly i can't wait to move out and go to college

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The Stress Test: How Much Is Too Much?

Feeling stressed out? A little bit of stress is not so bad: It can help keep you alert, on task, and ready to react in an emergency. It’s only when stress becomes chronic, however, that it wreak havoc on your health. Your body will feel the effects; it can impact your mood, change your behavior—and even lead to weight gain.

In one study in the journal Biological Psychiatry, researchers found women who reported being stressed out within 24 hours of eating a high-fat, high-calorie meal burned 104 fewer calories than non-stressed women. Though that may not seem like much, that difference could amount to weight gain of almost 11 pounds in one year. The stressed women also had higher levels of insulin, which contributes to the storage of fat.

Also, increased levels of the stress hormone cortisol have been shown to boost your appetite, drive sugar-and-fat-filled food cravings, and make you more likely to accumulate belly fat.

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If you can recognize symptoms of stress, you can better manage them. Feeling particularly irritable or overwhelmed is a tell-tale sign of stress, so are splitting headaches and insomnia. But others signs may not be so obvious. Here are some clues your stress is reaching unhealthy levels:

Here are some clues when feeling stressed out is reaching unhealthy levels:

1. Does your belly ache often?

Stomach pain, nausea, vomiting—these and other gastrointestinal issues are often seen in people who are too stressed out, according to a study published in the International Journal of Stress Management.  Stress can also affect the way food moves through your body, leading to diarrhea or constipation. You’re also more likely to have heartburn or acid reflux. And if you already have a digestive disorder, such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) or inflammatory bowel disease (IBD), research suggests stress may be associated with an uptick in symptoms.

2. Does your head feel fuzzy?

When you’re feeling stressed out, you may find yourself losing focus, having a tough time concentrating or making decisions, and even forgetting appointments. Research suggests certain hormones that are released following a stressful event may impair memory.

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3. Are your back and shoulders stiff?

Your muscles tense up to protect themselves from injury when you’re stressed out and then release once you relax. But if the stress is continuous, your muscles stay tense—which can lead to back and shoulder pain, body aches, even headache, say experts.

4. Do you have a constant case of the sniffles?

A little stress boosts your immune system, which is good when your body is trying to fight an infection and heal wounds. But over time, chronic stress hormones will weaken your immune system and reduce your body’s ability to invading germs. The result: You’re more susceptible to viral illnesses like the flu and the common cold, as well as other infections, according to the American Institute on Stress. One research review of 27 studies showed that stress was linked to increased susceptibility of developing an upper respiratory infection. Stress can also increase the time it takes you to recover from an illness or injury.

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5. Is your sex drive down?

Stress isn’t the only reason your libido is lagging, but it may play a role: A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found women who reported higher levels of daily stress were associated with lower levels of sexual activity and satisfaction. Plus, chronic stress can mess with a women’s menstrual cycle, say experts. It may lead to irregular, heavier or more painful periods, which may dampen your desire. For men, chronic stress may cause a man’s testosterone levels to drop, which could lead to erectile dysfunction or impotence.

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Had a great personal victory this week!

I technically started my weightloss journey back in January at 311.8lbs.

It wasn't the heaviest I've ever been, but it was close enough that I was unhappy. What I didn't realise at the time was that I have been going through an untreated depressive episode that started last year around this time, and was slowing eroding all of my previous progress. Since January, I'd been having various ups and downs, but kept overall well enough on track.

Right up until my city's Burger Week, where all the local restaurants put on specialty burgers. I freaking love me some burgers, so as you can imagine I derailed hard back in April when that happened. This has been a constant pattern in my life, having success until there's some kind of derailing event and then it is all brownies and burgers. I had/have some serious body image issues that came from the weight gain. Clothes didn't fit, I didn't feel attractive, I wasn't attentive to my partners, etc. It was not a good time. But that's all a tale for a different subreddit and a different time.

I restarted at the beginning of June at exactly 300.0lbs, not sure how the numbers lined up, but I dug it. My coworkers know that I'm trying to lose weight and get fit. I ended up taking the whole of last week off for reasons. Car troubles, dental appointments, therapy, etc. Busy week. So I'm back in the office this week and one of my coworkers interrupts me as I'm checking in and seeing what I missed.

"Have you lost weight? Because I can see it in your face."

I legitimately almost cried. No one has ever in my life randomly commented on my weight loss or progress. Ever. Family and partners? Yes okay, but a work friend that you only see at lunch sometimes? Yeah that's a new one for me.

So don't lose hope if your weight loss journey isn't linear, mine certainly hasn't been over the course of my life, but stick with it and you'll get there! Stalls and gains happen. Derailments happen.

Keep getting up. As many times as it takes.

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Wednesday, 17 July 2019? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
• Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
• FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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Help me win $300 through work

Hi all! A bit of background and some questions for you all at the end.

This lines up perfectly with the weight loss challenge at my work.

In January-April we had the first weight loss challenge at work. I was at my heaviest ever of 196 lbs (23 m, 5’10 so like a 32” waist -> 34/36”. The goal was to lose 7% of my body weight for a prize of $150. Using better eating and cardio I was able to hit exactly 182 in the final week. Woohoo! Since then I’ve climbed back up a bit but maintained 185ish. June and July have 2 big birthday parties and a few holidays for my family. Wish I kept those habits up a bit better but summer fun oh well.

Now is round 2 at work, today until October 15 to lose again. I thought I was being sneaky by “bulking” a little bit this week for the weigh in. To my surprise they are using my end weight from round 1! So now I have to get back down to 182 (187 right now) before anything starts to count. Serves me right!

Here are the goals for this challenge:

3% of 182 ( 176 ) $100

5% of 182 ( 173 ) $200

7% of 182 ( 179 ) $300

Goals and Plans I plan to resume my IF 16/8 which lines up really nicely with my work schedule.

I plan to begin running again with a goal of running a 5K in October

I plan to increase how often I play golf, and always walk to course. I will keep track of my scores here too haha. I suck right now

I would like to learn more about lifting because I have 0 experience with that.

Big Questions Can I begin to add muscle mass through lifting and lose this weight at the same time?

Has anyone experimented or had good results with replacing one meal with some sort of replacement shake? Any brand recommendations? NOT A LIQUID DIET. I will still eat solid food. Maybe just a ~250 calorie shake for lunch then a good dinner and snacks?

How should I begin from scratch to train for a 5K. I can comfortably run a 10 min mile for roughly 2 miles right now.

How much/ should I spend on a personal trainer?

Anyone in Eastern CT in their early 20s ish DM me and maybe we can work on some of this together!

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It helps to be really honest with yourself...

Don't round up... or down.

The number of times I tell myself, and others, that I've lost a stone... when in reality it's only 11 pounds lets say... is countless.

The flip side of this is, you tend to round down too.... "Oh, i've still only lost a stone" despite having lost more.

I'm easily disheartened when it comes to weight loss, and have just caught myself doing exactly this.

"I'm exactly the same weight I was 2 weeks ago!"

Fortunately I log my weight... and realise i'm 6 pounds down.

If you hop on the scales and see any difference ... it's substantial, and not to be trivialised with this lazy approach to maths.

Keep a record of your weight, and keep checking back to it. I start with great enthusiasm that starts tapering off and then start doing everything in my head and falling into these little traps.

Staying on top of it and being honest to yourself about your progress will stop these pitfalls i've fallen into a lot.

It was honestly the difference between me having a breakfast that, alone, would take me over my calorie limit for the day ... and just a banana.

Perhaps it helps someone else also.

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I am finally starting to do other things when depressed rather than eat!

Sorry if I keep posting here with short updates but this is really good to me.

The whole reason why I got fat to obese is because I could not stop eating. I was really depressed and I never understood the logic over self harming (please don’t take this the wrong way!) so I just ate and ate.

I gained so much weight in 6 months you wouldn’t even believe. Anyway, I’ve been on and off my weight loss for a while. I tried normal calorie dieting (I don’t know the actual name), IF and turning vegan for a week. But nothing ever worked.

I don’t know what it was but I have changed into a really positive and happy person recently and my weight loss came back by it self. I am not eating “healty” I am just eating less calories a day. For example, on Sunday I had a bag of onion rings and a chicken and bacon slice. (All day) and that was around 1k calories. Yesterday, I had 1.5k~ calories but burnt 4K in total.

I know if I ate healthier it would go better but honestly I can’t really eat healthier.

Also, I have started to lose my appetite. I only had a sausage roll and a bag of crisps until 5pm on Monday.

Sorry for the bad formatting, mobile + bad sleep = the awful formatting

But I have to thank this sub. I would have never really gained the mindset to diet if it wasn’t for this sub.

Also, yes I do skip breakfast. But honestly, I’ve been doing this for so long.

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