Friday, December 20, 2019

Dealing with Emotional Eating During Stress and Getting Help

I've had a really tough last 2 months and I have not been keeping up with tracking my meals or being active like I had in the past.

My mother has never taken good care of herself, is overweight, smoked like a chimney for years and suffers from many chronic physical and mental health conditions. She had a cut on her foot she really didn't tell anyone about and it turns out she has undiagnosed diabetes and had to have part of her big toe removed due to an infection. She also has COPD and chronic depression. She is secretive and has instructed all of her doctors they can't tell anyone things about her medical history, including her husband. My dad and her live in complete dysfunction.

I had been doing really well with my weight loss, but as these issues started to come up, I felt myself turning to food as an emotional crutch. Instead of falling into old and easy habits, I started going to therapy to get better tools to handle the situation. I am learning to detach from my parents with love and focus on myself, because you can't control the actions/dysfunction of other people. I am not doomed to repeat their unhealthy lifestyle. I have the power to make better choices for myself. I am honestly upset I didn't go to therapy sooner because it has been amazing for me.

During all of this, I have plateaued and haven't lost any weight. However, I've been mindful and tired to focus on portion sizes and doing the best best I can. For me, this is a HUGE win. This would be a time I would normally rely on food as an emotional crutch. I could easily have gained a lot of weight and I would have had the perfect excuse, but instead I am trying my best to make positive changes stick! I am going to continue to try and see the scale move downwards.

Progress pic of how far I've come- because it's important to focus on our victories and our progress. Each day is a new opportunity. https://imgur.com/a/Hake9o2

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I just want to get healthy, so I'm not not starting with a goal weight.

I went to the doctor yesterday. I just started a new sexual relationship so I was getting an STD/STI test. I didn't want to step on the scale knowing it will say I gained. I'm going to be very candid. I'm fat. I've always been fat. Sometimes I am fatter. Sometimes I am not as fat. I'm comfortable in my 5'9" body around 215 lbs. Which is where I started 2019. Some shit happened at the end of 2018, that went into 2019. Then over the course of 2019 some other shit happened. All of which has been extremely heart breaking, boundary testing, expediting personal growth, all of the things that a shitty year should do for a person. Now it's the end of the shitty year, and I am me. I finally like who I am. I love this person I'm growing into. Even if other people can't tell, I can tell I'm a different person. A more spiritual person, a more connected person, a more authentic person that is attracting honest, authentic people into my personal circle. And I'm living by boundaries which I never had boundaries before or even knew how to use them.

So back to the doctor. And the scale thing. I knew I gained. I'm an emotional eater. And while I was a social drinker before, this year I became a daily craft beer drinker. I was just surprised by HOW MUCH I gained. I gained 40 pounds in the course of a year. In a year! I've been thinking about the drinking for a while now. And it's time to give it up. It's not helping me with anything. In fact I've reacted poorly to a lot of my emotional situations because of it.

I don't know what I'm doing here. Maybe just sharing my story, my emotions, and my plan just to have someone to share it with. Steps 2 and 3 are already in motion, not intentionally part of a weight loss plan but just to make life more easy and enjoyable.

So step 1 for sure is to cut out drinking. Besides fucking shit up all around, it's also super expensive! If giving up drinking proves to be harder than I thought, than I will be attending AA meetings.

Step 2. Food. I signed up for Freshly. It costs the same as grocery shopping but saves time cooking and meal prepping. And it's portioned. I've also decided to utilize Intermittent Fasting, or, as it's easier on my psyche, skip breakfast.

Step 3. Exercise. A couple days ago I signed up for a year long plan at a yoga gym that has various classes for all body types. They have high and low intensity classes every day and I figured this would probably be a great way to get into stretchy sex shape. And since I'm beginning a new relationship, I want to be stretchy and sexy, and in shape for those things.

Step 4. Water water water water water.

If you've read this far, thank you. I'll update from time to time. It's time to crawl out of the sadness hole and focus on my health.

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Started IF on 11/9/19 >> today: down 15.3lbs and close to 240s! — Stats: 30F, 5’10” - SW 266 // CW 250.7 // GW 160-170

Stats: 30F 5’10” — SW 266 // CW 250.7 // GW 160-170

I’ve struggled with PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome: hormonal disorder more women are having to deal with these days), I used to binge and purge and was super depressed in my early 20s after college. I had lost about 60 pounds the summer after graduation but over the years, after recovery, I gained all that back and more.

I turned 30 this summer, got engaged and suddenly wanted to start a family by 32. My OBGYN says because of my PCOS I would need some form of fertility treatment as I do not ovulate AT ALL. After reading tons of forums and blogs about women who have been able to conquer their PCOS and conceive, I’ve started to take on those changes. The biggest one being weight loss as a way to begin to manage PCOS

With IF (16:8) I’ve eliminated sugars, coffee and most inflammatory foods. I still eat carbs but with more portion control and drink tons of water. I try to stick around 1200 calories a day, I don’t really track because I’m too lazy and work 10 hour days as a nanny for an infant who’s a terrible napper so it’s really hard to squeeze in the time. I haven’t I corporates workouts yet since the end of the year has been nuts, but today is my last day of work for the year and then vacation until Jan 6th!! I plan on starting Kayla Itsines’ Sweat App BBG workouts and also doing Barre and Pilates (which I used to love when I was most active) on my Mirror device.

So thankful for this community and the amount of encouraging posts that have led me to make this healthier lifestyle change!!

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Overwhelmed

I have 200 (or more really, for my height..) to lose. I’m 5’4” (F) and 350 lbs. I’m so sad that I’m here. I don’t know how it happened (I mean realistically I do. Fast food and no exercise and a family history of obesity). I’m so angry at 200 lb 13 year old me for not getting this under control 12 years ago.

I’ve tried losing weight many times over the years, the most I lost at one time was about 32 lbs over the course of 3 months. But I just can’t sustain weight loss.

People close to my size who have done it... how do you keep motivated? How do you start? I’m so overwhelmed at that number. It doesn’t feel possible. Sometimes I get super ready and motivated and I make lots of promises to myself and buy the healthy food... and then I go out to eat and forget to prep my food at home and it all goes bad and there I am in the drive thru again.

I just don’t know what to do.

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I can keep leftovers!

For some of you it's natural behaviour - when you cook too much, you leave whatever is left for the next meal or day.

It never worked for me. I would always keep thinking about the food sitting in my fridge, wouldn't let me concentrate on whatever task I was on. It would drive me crazy. And within half an hour after eating a healthy portion, I would grab everything that's left and just devour it.
Needless to say I would feel like a failure and like shit afterwards... on a lot of occasions I would cry for the rest of the day afterwards.

So when I started my current Keto weight loss journey May 2018 (which is doing great!) I was aware that I would have to cook only one portion for every meal so I wouldn't binge. Some days it meant to cook twice, even if it annoyed the shit out of me. It worked. I didn't leave any traps for me.

Well, yesterday I made "wraps". I made a curry sauce and chicken to stuff them. All in all it turned out to be too much and... I just packed the leftovers in my fridge for today's lunch.

Guys... I just did it without even thinking about it. Only before going to bed yesterday I realised that I didn't binge it. And I am so unbelievably proud of myself.
I've always been on the heavier side, even lost a lot of weight in 2012 but gained it all back until 2016, and for the first time in my adult life it feels like I really have control over myself. It gives me hope, because maintaining my goal weight - let's assume I'll reach it one day - is absolutely scary to me.
I'm currently at 160 lbs and want to make it to 125 hopefully before 2021. I started at 211 in May 2017 and switched to Keto a year later. Best decision of my life.

I am so frickin' happy!

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Friday, 20 December 2019? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

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23/F weight currently 20 stone Needing advice on saggy skin

So I'm 23 years old, I was 8 stone at 12 years old. Due to getting PTSD from some horrible events in my life, I ended up turning to food as a comfort. As a result i went from 8 stone to 22 stone! Not proud of it.

I have had trouble controlling my eating since around 15 years old. However I have come to terms that I have to lose weight for the better. So 3 months ago, I give myself all the motivation I had and hit the gym for 2 hours 5 days a week and eat only protein with veg for most meals and cut out all the unhealthy crap I was putting inside me.

This has obviously gave me great results and now I'm at a weight loss of 2 stone (yay)! Now to the problem I'm seeing myself having.

I have a very stretched out belly from the weight gain and under my arms also. I was just wondering if anyone could offer any help to minimise the sagging that is going to happen. I'd hate to lose all this weight, then have to get surgery to get the excess fat taken of. So any advice would be appreciated! Any other general tips for weight loss is welcome too!

Sorry for formatting on mobile and any mistakes in my writing.

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