I wish people would stop acting like weight loss is so simple

Bit of a rant coming up that has probably regurgitated time and time again, but I need to vent somewhere. Sorry if this is the wrong place, I wasn’t sure where else to do it haha.

I’m so sick of people just assuming weight loss is as simple as removing food from your diet. This is coming from someone who has lost 20kg and did it the traditional way of diet and exercise. It was, however, a complete overhaul of my lifestyle and the way I viewed food.

I gained a lot of weight during my early teens due to a mix of things; I was on steroids due to a medical condition, I was developing an ED, I was depressed, I had other mental illnesses that led to me staying inside most of the time etc. I have a limited diet because of the aforementioned medical condition, but when I was a kid it was fine because I was very active.

The thing was, I knew I was overweight. My parents also knew I was overweight. There were initiatives to help me lose the weight in a gentle way, but I didn’t want those initiatives because I was too depressed to do anything about it. I wasn’t sleeping, so I hadn’t the energy to exercise. My view of food became warped and I subconsciously reached for it for comfort. I was someone who was brought up to eat all the food on their plate, so I did it no matter the portion size. I almost even started to hoard food at some point.

Taking away the food would’ve just done nothing other than probably made it worse. I would’ve been even more depressed because everything else in my life was spiralling out of control and it would’ve been yet another thing that I lost control of. This is something extremely common with EDs. Then you get the shame of not having control over your food intake and then you think “what’s the point” and just spiral deeper.

This doesn’t even touch on the restraints that made it hard for me to exercise. I lived in a rural area, and pavements around my house stopped as soon as you left the centre. My parents were working full time, one was working 8am-6pm, the other working 7pm-7am. Their time was extremely limited, and there were times that money for gas was tight. It was very difficult to be able to fit in some exercise between these two issues. Cooking was almost always homemade, but was carb-heavy and so it didn’t fill us up as well as a protein diet would, therefore we ate more of it. I also had what I now know as gender dysphoria that was developing back then, so being in team sports made me extremely uncomfortable.

People are finally realising that people gain weight for medical reasons but they completely skip over the mental and physical aspects of it. My attitude towards food now compared to 5 years ago is completely different, and it had to be because I needed to change my whole lifestyle in order to do it. Diets are miserable, lifestyle changes aren’t (eventually). Some people’s parents were just lazy, sure, but many more were either just uneducated and/or did not have the time or ability to put a lot of time into fostering these habits. This is written mostly from my POV, but I’m sure a lot of these points resonates with others.

Sorry, this is all over the place, but I needed to vent.

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i should start my weight loss journey but honestly i'm so scared to.

tw// past ed-like behaviour, fat shaming (idk if it is), low self-worth (?)

tldr: how do you overcome fear of weight loss journey?

i'm 21 and have been overweight/obese for most of my life; i'm about 5'0 and for the past few years i've weighed between 70-80kg, i have rolls on my stomach and back, chubby arms and things that make me seldom wear short sleeves or shorts.

now i know i probably don't fit in the whole 'ed/ed behaviour' type for some people but for most of my life i was a binge eater and within the recent years i've been the opposite (up until two years ago i would only consume one meal + a snack and only if i felt like i deserved it), and losing weight that way felt good bc i looked less heavy, but i am fully aware that it wasn't healthy. so eventually, through a lot of determination and tears, i've managed to claw my way to eating 3 meals a day (most days, sometimes it's harder than others and i manage 2). my diet itself isn't the best, i could probably do with eating more veggies but my child-like taste unfortunately followed me into my adult years and makes things hard (yes, i know i can just force myself to eat them but it's just not working).

but recently, a family member said i was putting on weight and was too fat (i was dress shopping for grad and the dress i felt the best in i wasn't allowed to buy because i 'looked too fat') and it's been on my mind since. of course said family member doesn't really understand my issues with eating (bc i'm fat) and just treats it as getting fatter (yes, it was difficult to have the issue swept under the rug and not get acknowledged for, on my own, climbing back into a healthy eating pattern). nevertheless, i want to lose weight, if only to stop hearing those comments everytime i join a family function.

the thing is, i am batshit terrified to start. i've become so acclimatized to being heavy that the idea of being anything but is kind of scary. this has always been a protective armor for me and now to lose it feels like i have to take off the armor in the midst of battle. furthermore, i know that even if i lose weight, the loose skin won't go anywhere and (it's so stupid/silly) i almost don't want to look that way? having loose skin after weight lost because i won't look good--do i look good now? probably not, but in my head having that loose skin look is worst (on me, and only me, not shaming anyone who has it) and, although silly, i want to look pretty. i want to wear shorts and short sleeves without thinking about who's going to see my arms. i also feel like a freak if i show up to the gym (because i'm heavy) and start working out; what are people going to think?

and then there's the whole issue of 'i get healthy now, but what if it's not enough?' what if i've fucked up my life already; is there any point to try? will i even get to a healthy weight at my age? will i feel okay in my body for the first time in my life? and what if i do this any i don't? what then??

it's so stupid, i acknowledge all of these fears are so stupid. but those are the thoughts that keep me in bed rather than starting.

so, people of reddit (i sincerely apologize for this very stupid post) i'm asking for the best advice to start weight loss journey, to stick to it, and, maybe, is there anyone out there who also felt fucking scared and how you overcame it

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Trauma and weight loss

Hey everyone, I was just wondering if anyone had any success stories or advice for me, as I’m feeling pretty down right now.

(TW SA and ~ED)

A year and a half ago I was in a really good place. I was 175 pounds, which was a weight I felt mostly comfortable in as a pretty tall female college athlete. I was recovered from my ED, performing well in my sport, and doing great socially.

Then I got into a relationship with a guy who was literally the worst. Cheated on me multiple times (and I stayed with him), manipulated me, threatened to off himself if I didnt give him my full attention 100% of the time, the works. He cut me off from all of my friends essentially and the six months we were together were difficult for me, but I didn’t realize it at the time. He left the country in June 2022, so we broke up.

Throughout that process I had gained about 15 pounds, but didnt think too too much of it. Then in november, he came back to the US to visit, and long story short ended up SAing me. This caused me to spiral, having panic attacks daily, failing my classes, and starting to decline in my sport. This really led to me gaining weight, and now I’m the biggest I’ve ever been, at 210 pounds, 35 pounds heavier than I was before I met this guy.

TLDR, I’m feeling really dejected and was wondering if anyone else has been through something similar and has advice. my confidence is at an all time low because of my weight and the SA.

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When do you start worrying about a plateau?

I'm 5'7" 30 year old F SW 249 lbs CW 213 lbs and my weight did get down to 211 but then went back up to 213lbs and has been basically stuck there for fifteen days despite eating in a calorie deficit of 1300-1400 calories.

I did start exercising recently so I wonder if this could be some water weight from that new change due to weight lifting a few days a week.

Should I just trust the process and push through? My clothes feel loose and my coworkers and family are commenting on my noticeable weight loss so I feel good about that. This is just the first time I've encountered a plateau after such success for nearly 40 lbs prior.

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I need help from my neurodivergent/autistic peeps

Alright my friends. How do you not turn this into a hyperfixation? I’m 35, type 2 diabetic, autistic, I’m on ozempic and doing really well on it so for the first time I’m like actually able to eat less and not be completely miserable. SW 228 on May 18, CW 211. But. Today I realized I’m massively hyperfixating and it’s causing some major issues because I’m just like, well, math says that if I just don’t eat at all then I’ll lose such and such amount of weight which will have my prediction for hitting my goal weight spreadsheet super happy. But like. Having only eaten 90 cal by like 3 in the afternoon is not healthy for me.

How can I just be normal about weight loss so i don’t get into disordered eating habits?

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Sometimes a deadline is helpful

Highest weight that I know of was 220lbs(99.79kg). I’m a female, 29yo, 5’5”. I had lost 42lbs to 178lbs. Then I stalled, gained, and have been maintaining at 187. 186.8 was my lowest a couple days ago in the last few months. But at one point I almost hit 200lbs around Christmas. Yes, I’m glad I am mostly back on track. I’m frustrated that I’m making it harder on myself than weight loss has to be. I’m proud of myself for quitting all tobacco and significantly cutting down on alcohol. But I used that as a reason to eat more as a crutch. So I have a deadline that I’d like to lose 30lbs in 5 months. It’s not too crazy of a goal. Ultimately I am trying to become a healthier person and I’ve done great at cutting bad habits. But there just comes a point where I have to get it together already. I’m turning 30 in December and I want to feel a little more confident in myself. My secondary goal(but still pretty important to me) is to look my best in my 30’s and on. I’ve been pretty chubby most of my 20’s. I want to be super active and actually look it from now on. I’m changing my hair. I’m trying to take really good care of my skin. I had braces for a while for an improved smile. I’m getting my health in order. I really want to make myself feel as good as possible for when I turn 30 and then carry that with me throughout my lifetime. My deadline is December 29th. I want to weight 157lbs by then. I want to post every ten pounds lost for progress. Bleh. Here we go!

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To those of you who have maintained your weight loss for 5 years how did you do it and what is your relationship with food like now?

It is said, roughly 80-95% of people who lose weight will gain it all back within the first five years after reaching their weight goals.

I’m curious what sets those of you, who keep the weight off, apart from the average person.

In this thread, please feel free to go into extra detail on anything you feel makes an impact on your health, weight loss and ability to maintain.

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