Relationship and weight loss

I have an annoying issue with weight and relationships.

I know how to lose weight, and I know how to keep that weight away, expect when I am in a relationship.

I have been at my ideal weight several times in my life, but I always balloon when I am in relationship.

I have been on my current relationship now 10+ years, the times during this relationship when I have been at ideal weight have been when my partner moved to other city for work and I lived like 2 to 3 years alone in the city we studied at. Other time was when she lived abroad for 6 months. Before this relationship I was fittest between breakups.

Now we have however lived together for 6+ year and I have gained more weight than ever before.

The main issue food obvliouisly. I am super happy to follow strict diet be it intermittent fasting fasting, low carb, regular moderate eating or whatever else I have enjoyed in the past. I even tested full vegan diet for couple of years.

My partner however refuses to meal prep, she doesn't want to eat same food multiple times a day, or multiple days a row. I am also 90s recession child so it is pretty much engraved in to my soul that you eat when food is available and you always clean your plate.

I have tried to suggest that we eat separate meals, but she refuses that idea as she wants to do everything together, I have proposed meal prepping and we have done that for a short while but in the end she can't handle it it it tapers off eventually.

We work remote and currently only consistency is lunch, just a simple salad with chicken and we have been doing that like 6 years which is nice. Evening and weekend meals are however still however an issue.

Also snacks, she likes to buy all kinds of snacks, candy, chocolate whatever and of course when they are lying on the kitchen table I will snack them when I walk past them.

What is frustrating is that she complains about my weight, but then she refuses to support any suggestions I know work for me. She is also a type of person who can eat however much she wants and she doesn't seem to gain any weight, her whole family is like that.

Does anyone have any tips how to make this work? I have tried to talk to her, but she sees everything I suggest too extreme even something simple like calculating calories.

She recently however asked about counting macros, so I think there might be an opening for us to find some solution that works for both of us.

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Might being lazy be better for me?

I (23M) started doing intense cardio for fat loss for some months but I also started eating more along with the program. I didn’t crave snacks or desserts just pure hunger. And I ate like an animal. Anyway, I stopped doing cardio for 2 months or so and I noticed myself losing weight. Now, it could be water or muscle loss rather than fat but my appetite definitely slowed down. Have anyone had similar experiences? Can you tell me more about it? What advice would you give me? And what is your opinion about doing cardio for weight loss?

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(Rant) Fed up of toxic creators pushing insane targets

I've recently started researching diet and exercise again after starting my GLP-1 so the algorithms are pushing all the weight loss content on me again

It's great to see how many people are making solid progress but it's so hard to cut through the noise of all the toxic people just trying to sell their diet courses or product supplements etc

Some examples I've seen on tiktok this week:

"You can lose 20kg in a month through intermittent fasting. DM on whatsapp"

"I lost 70lbs in 40 days, willpower is what's stopping you. 24 day bootcamp available"

I just feel awful for the people might be making genuine progress and see those posts and think they now have to waste money on things that physically aren't possible

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even after hitting my weight loss goal, i still obsess over food.

i started my weight loss journey in april 2025 at 174 lbs. by december, i weighed 130~ lbs. at 5’6, that’s pretty healthy for me. despite losing all this weight, i still feel trapped by food. when i wake up, i think about what i’m going to eat. after i eat a meal, i just think about the snacks that will follow. i often cave but remain unsatisfied.

maybe it’s because of my traumatic past, i don’t know. i spent almost my entire life being chronically ill. i got jaw surgery a month ago, so my sleep apnea is finally gone, but before that i believe it contributed to my depression. i have another chronic illness that negatively affects my hormones and caused me to not feel hunger for nearly a decade. i can feel hunger now that i’m medicated, but it’s not always consistent. i started experiencing food noise in my teens, which was when that chronic illness first manifested, so i think my brain was using food noise to compensate for my lack of hunger cues or something.

i also have autism and ocd, plus i experience depression. maybe the food noise is an ocd thing.

i just so badly want to be free from food. i thought that by the time i got to my goal weight, i’d no longer think about food all the time, but that’s not the case. i feel so trapped.

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everybody treats better now that I’m thinner

26 F - 5’5 - SW: 218 - CW: 114

i’ve heard of this being a thing, but i have been first hand experiencing this and wondering about other people experiences with this. back when i was almost 220, i was barely talked to or looked at. I had only a couple of friends and the friends i did have, were tinier than me and had friends that would make fun of me for my weight. I always used to like to cover my body and wear hoodies during summer, so I was also judged for that.

I always used to tell my bf “when i lose the weight, it’s over for these b*tches”. I have since LOST that weight and more!

I barely recognize myself sometimes. In my head mentally, I still look down and expect to be 200 pounds still. But I am not. I am super happy about my journey and progress, but an unsettling thing I’ve noticed is how different I am treated now. People didn’t notice my weight loss right away. Like I said, I used to wear hoodies and cover up. They noticed when I got to 150, it was summer and I stopped covering up. Everybody was asking me how I did it, congratulating me, asking me what I took (this one in particular always bothered me) or even assumed I was sick. But people started talking to me more, I got more noticed and people always offer to help me out with things, they try to make my life easier and it’s just an odd experience overall. People I never talked to at work even noticed and were talking to me. I felt scared to be around people before, to take up too much space, but I don’t anymore. People make space for me now, and it makes me sad how when I was bigger, I wasn’t treated as kindly.

If you also have any experience with this, comment it! I am interested in reading about your experience and journey.

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Visible bones are normal and healthy

I’m going to say this bluntly because this comes up constantly.

Seeing bones is normal. It's not unhealthy, disordered, or a sign that you’ve lost too much weight. Plenty of healthy adults can see their collarbones, shoulders, hip bones, ribs, wrists, ankles, parts of their spine, etc.. That happens at a wide range of weights and BMIs, including ones that are clearly healthy (sometimes even overweight still) and not even close to underweight.

Fat doesn't sit evenly on the body, and some areas just don’t hold as much of it -- even people who are not thin. A person can be healthy, eating normally, functioning fine, and still have visible bones. When you lose weight, fat comes off and your underlying shape shows. That is literally what weight loss looks like.

Yes, there's obviously a line somewhere. Extremes like bones sticking out everywhere isn't the same thing. That's not what most of these posts and comments are talking about. Someone starts approaching a healthy BMI, starts seeing the outline of their collarbones or hip bones and they think they must be emaciated.

If your only concern is, 'I can see bones now' that is a non-issue. People seem to not know what a normal, healthy body actually looks like and it's been incredibly annoying.

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i don’t like vegetables. help!

22f 5’4 229 lbs. ive finally started a serious weight loss journey after several failed attempts. i’ve cut my calories from 5k a day to about 1.2k a day, give or take. i also work out twice a day since i sit at work all day. so it’s all going fine and dandy for the most part.

except for.. the fact that vegetables are my mortal enemy. i’m autistic, i have texture and sensory issues. veggies absolutely trigger them. just about every single one, too. except potatoes and sweet potatoes, i LOVE those. and no, cooking them in different ways never helps. forcing them down doesn’t help either, it usually comes back up when i try.

does anyone have any suggestions for hiding veggies in my food (like a toddler.. lol)? or what veggies work best in a homemade protein shake? thank you in advance :,)

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