Pushing through an aspect of trauma.

Without wanting to reveal too much, I was abused by someone I loved and now I feel like I am avoiding successful weight loss because I want to avoid being perceived as sexually attractive. I already lost 20kg during 2017/18 with relatively little effort, but I've gained about 8kg back since my situation got worse last year.

I know I can easily stick to 1200 a day, and I enjoy working out--but it's like the rational part of my brain (the one that really wants to succeed and lose it) switches off sometimes and the bad thoughts just overwhelm me, stuff like 'you're already disgusting, it doesn't matter if you eat more shit', 'if you stay fat nobody's going to pressure you into anything' et cetera. I don't exactly binge eat, but on bad mental health days I definitely eat larger portions, stop tracking my calories and avoid my workouts.

Of course it's just a matter of self-control (and therapy lmao), but I was wondering if any of you have advice on dealing with stuff like this. I got a fitbit yesterday since I find being able to track my progress helps me stay motivated and keeps the hurtful thoughts at bay/overwrites them with positive ones.

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halfway there

I'm 5'6" and currently at 175, down from 200ish when I started. My all-time ever high was 211. I'd like to see what 150 looks like. The lowest I've been in my adult life was 167 when I got booted from Weight Watchers for getting pregnant. 167 looked pretty good on me (big boned Scandinavian stock).

I'd like to start a detailed CI/CO journal but not enough to bother. Work full-time teaching an insane schedule and what little free time I have I want to do something amusing, not tedious.

I've been eating largely what I want but not necessarily when, or how much, I want. If I'm going to have something more caloric, I try to have it during the early part of the day. I'm also keeping high protein snacks available to munch on periodically. Other than that, lots of veggies, soups and popcorn.

Oh, and beer.

I've discovered that binges cost me an average of 3 lbs. I try to plan for them and make sure they're worth it. I'm always questioning if the things I'm putting in my mouth are making me happy enough to justify the calories.

I also started going to the fitness center at school after work most days for at least an hour. The hardest part about that was getting used to working out with a bunch of teenagers. Oy

For the first time in my life, I'm interested in getting toned as well as smaller. The reason?

Hot flashes. 😆

It's getting to the point that I really want (desperately need???) to strip down to as little as is socially acceptably possible at times. Which means bare arms. I'll be damned if I'm going to run around sleeveless with arms flapping in the wind.

So, other than the fitness center, I'm doing sit-ups and push-ups at home and dancing (nothing disciplined, I just blast music and dance around the house).

My biggest issue is smoking. I really want to quit but am worried the effort will sabotage my mental health and weight loss progress.

I've been able to "take breaks" while using a patch but can't keep it going for long.

With winter in full swing (my god i HATE February) my outdoor time is fairly nonexistent. When it's not a freezing pit of wtf, I love being outdoors. I'm hoping to fill up enough of my time in nicer weather with outdoor activity but now?

Just trying to get through it.

Sorry, this is pretty long.

I am interested in any food or activity suggestions anyone might care to share. Also any encouragement is most welcome! I don't really have a cheering squad in the vicinity. All of my super special peeps live in other states or on other continents.

Peace

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My 2018 to now journey! (I weigh less than I have since 2016!)

I was 230lbs, 5'7" January 2018. I was in a bad relationship with a baker, and ate my feelings (and his sugary goods).

I was unhappy with myself, and had previously done short stints of dieting, but didn't feel in control of myself. I'd drop up to 20 pounds, but always creep back to 230.

Between the cheating (January), breakup (February), and eventual move out of my ex (May) the pounds were just shedding off. Instead of eating my feelings, I associated eating good food with my shitty ex so I had less of an attachment. I threw myself into work, and a new, healthier relationship. I started OMAD, having large lunches at work. I dropped from wearing large scrubs, to mediums.

In July, I had surgery. I had dropped to 180lb! I was grateful, while still overweight I was at a safer weight to go on the table. By the way, fastest weight loss ever! Just get parts of your body loped off. I also fit in the small scrub tops.

After surgery I relaxed my diet during recovery, since I wanted to let my body heal. Recovery turned into maintenance for the holidays, but I'm proud to say that I stayed hovered in the 175-180 range.

I started college this January. OMAD worked when I was working 12 hour shifts but now I need to eat before class to focus.

Instead, I am starting to cut down on meat and be vegetarian. It keeps me from eating the same burger every day.

I have a routine of oatmeal with a ridiculous amount of blueberries before class, soup of the day for lunch, and for dinner I try to use the salad bar in the evening before I go for the pasta/veggie burger options. I don't go for the pastries much anymore, eating them all the time reminds me of my ex.

I haven't been tracking for the past month, weight or food intake. For shits and giggles I pulled out my scale, and I'm 173.1lb! It's my lowest measured weight since 2015, I'm very proud.

I'm mostly happy with my weight now. I'm tired of buying new clothes. My next goal is to get fit. See y'all in bodyweight fitness subs next!

Thanks for reading, it makes me proud to see how far I've come. From a controlling relationship, a job that worked me too hard for minimum wage, and eating my feelings, to feeling attractive, higher education, and food discipline. I lost 50lb in 8 months, and have maintained for almost half a year.

Only problem: I don't know how to treat myself if not sugar foods! Non food reward recommendations please!

Tldr: I'm happier and healthier, dropped 280lbs of an ex and 50lbs of myself. OMAD and routines have been my saving graces.

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Sobriety for weight loss, but seeing social effects too

Hi all!! New to the sub and loving it. This week I decided I’m going to do one month sober to see how I feel (I’m predicting I’ll feel great, health-wise) and if it helps end my weight loss plateau.

I’ve wondered in the past if my alcohol consumption has been problematic but in the sense of “huh, that wasn’t a great choice I made while drinking and should probably evaluate this.” So I think it’s a good idea to give my liver a break, enjoy sober fun, and hopefully lose a few pounds this month.

I’m now noticing how incredibly uncomfortable this is to explain to people. I’m 24 and friends with a lot of young people who center social activities around happy hours, birthdays at bars, pregames, tailgates.... etc. So as I’m making plans for the weekend, I’m creating contingency plans for explaining (or almost lying ???) to people why I’m not drinking. My close friends support me unconditionally in my weight loss and sobriety, but acquaintances get uncomfortable and think that I’m judging their drinking (I’m not - live ur life).

Any other people having difficulty with this? Tips for ways to defer awkwardness? I’m planning on taking a pack of seltzer (la croix obv) and drinking that so I have something in my hand and hope that works?!

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BMI debunked?

Hi all, so I've approached weight loss in part by monitoring my BMI. Recently however, a friend of mine told me that it has been "debunked." When searching about that on Google I found this link from NPR: Top 10 Reasons Why The BMI Is Bogus. In particular, one thing it said that piqued my interest was this:

There is no physiological reason to square a person's height (Quetelet had to square the height to get a formula that matched the overall data. If you can't fix the data, rig the formula!). Moreover, it ignores waist size, which is a clear indicator of obesity level.

Now, I'd hope that most, if not all, of us are aware that the BMI is not the end-all authority on fitness or overall body health (points the article makes as well). But about a year ago I was at a healthy BMI. Since then I gained 30 pounds and have lost 10 of that on my journey back.

My waist size at a healthy BMI was obviously much smaller than my current weight at 20 pounds heavier. I can't fit into the clothes I wore a year ago in a comfortable manner. I've personally found the BMI to be a pretty good guideline to what is a healthy weight at a certain height.

And on that note... height clearly has an impact on what your healthy BMI is likely to be. I know that at my current weight that someone much taller than me is likely not as fat and closer to a healthy weight. How does that not make sense? Unless I'm misunderstanding something.

I don't know, maybe I'm biased, but I've never felt like the BMI was ridiculous and always approached it with the mindset that it was a simple guideline and not an authority on overall health.

What do you guys think? Has it been debunked?

Edit: While I appreciate the instant downvote, that doesn't really tell me anything...

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I want you to ask yourself if it’s worth it.

Now that we’re in February a lot of people that had New Years resolutions are quitting and I’m going to try and give a little push here to stop and make you question if that food is worth it.

I am 20 years old, I’m 5’4” and at my highest weight I was 188 pounds. Today I stepped on the scale and weighed 164 lbs. I’ve lost 24 pounds since June and while that weight loss was and is slow because I fell off the wagon many, many times I’m still proud of it and I am trying so much harder than I ever have. I don’t see much of a difference but I feel it and it feels great.

The point of this post is to motivate me and you to keep pushing forward so that we can both live the life we deserve.

Saying no to food is hard.

Exercising is hard.

Counting calories is hard.

Saying no to temptations is hard.

Changing your life is hard.

All these things and many more that come with dieting and saying no and eating healthy are hard, very hard.

But you know what’s harder? Dreading and avoiding going to the beach in the summer with my friends because of my body is harder.

Walking to class painfully aware of how each fat roll is rubbing and sweating and feeling gross from a ten minute walk is harder.

Squeezing into my medium sized shirts that fit all throughout high school and realizing these shirts are getting tight and no matter how hard I suck in my stomach still sticks out is harder.

Not being able to wear cute summer shorts because my thighs rub together so much that my skin blisters and burns is harder.

Avoiding intimacy with my boyfriend who has loved me unconditionally for over 2 years because I hate my body is harder.

Watching the seams on the inside of my cute new leggings break and tear after a couple months of wearing them is harder. I know that some women and men just have bigger thighs and this happens at any weight, but for me it is preventable.

Not having a nice pair of jeans because they all look spray painted on and give me a giant muffin top is harder.

Crying in the fitting room because everything I try on looks awful is harder.

Next time you feel like giving up I want you to think about how hard dieting is but how much harder it is to hate your body and dread things because of your weight. Is that food really worth so much self hate and sadness? I’m finally starting to realize that it’s not.

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I let life knock me down but i'm ready to stand back up.

On March 2017 I began my weight loss journey, the following 2 years I ended up losing 150 pounds (I Started at 350 and got down to 186) I made many posts on r/loseit asking for advice and even posting about my victories and how close I was to my goal weight. Then in August 2018 my now ex husband came out as gay...my emotions ran wild I became depressed and suicidal and even attempted to take my own life. I got help and am controlling my depression even though I am not 100 percent I feel alot better. Unfortunately for the past 6 months I have binged almost every day eating above 6k calories and I have gained 80 pounds back. I felt terrible about myself and I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror. I have noticed my breathing is more labored I can't walk without getting winded and everyday normal things are harder to do again, I currently dont fit in any of my clothes and had to buy some bigger clothing items. Im happy to say that Monday I started back again, albeit I am struggling but I haven't messed up yet and im proud of that. I have tried to "start again" for the past few months and always failed but this time I won't fail. I want to be 150 pounds and feel good about myself again. I am eating 1200 calories and following CICO and sticking to healthier options with lots of protein to stop my hunger from getting out of control. Thank you R/loseit for always being a wonderful place of encouragement :)

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