Tuesday, November 5, 2019

I need your help, kind strangers!

This is my first time posting. I have been reading a lot of posts and lovely comments in this subreddit and they inspired me so much! However, I need your help. I can't do this alone anymore and right now, I don't know what to do and where to start.

I have been overweight almost my entire life (now 34F| CW114kg/251lbs) and have been dieting on and off for years during high school, college and afterwards. A few years ago, I got therapy, because my eating became even more obsessive and had a lot to do with not handling emotions well. Therapy helped a bit, but I didn't lose any weight and after therapy my eating became just as disordered as before. I tried OA, but that made matters even worse: I tried a strict food plan, going to meetings, having a sponsor, but after my initial weight loss of around 5 kgs (11lbs) in 6 weeks, I just couldn't do it anymore. It was so dogmatic and made me feel so little and stupid and sad and insecure all the time. That was last February and since then, I've gained everything back + more: I gained almost 12 kgs (26lbs) since February and my eating has been out of control these last few months. What certainly didn't help, was a lot of family-drama, the kind that started my whole eating misery as a child to begin with. The problem is: everytime I start to track my calorie intake, I become completely obsessed and crazy about is within a matter of days, which always results in overeating. I have tried everything: WW, low carb, a horrible juice fast, shakes and a number of other shady diets. The only thing that makes me feel good physically is IF: I have been doing that on and off for a few weeks now (16:8), but somehow, within my window I still overeat, resulting in binges sometimes, because I seem to be afraid of being hungry. I do love healthy food, but I eat a lot of junk, because I always want to 'start tomorrow'... Writing this makes me even feel more stupid, but I feel it's good to get this out of my head.

Don't get me wrong. I don't want to have a pity party here and I know that I have to change something in order to change my relationshop with eating. I WANT to change. But somehow, I just lost any idea how to do it: therapists said that I can never diet again, OA said there plan wasn't a diet but it really, really was a very strict one and it made everything worse, but not dieting makes me eat junk a lot of the time. I want this to stop. I want my obsession with food and eating to stop. I want to be healthier. I want to be kind to myself and not to be angry all the time because of my eating, or not eating, healthy, or not healthy, or even thinking about eating...

On a positive note: I started running four weeks ago and started very, very slowly. I have made myself a schedule to run 5K in March, in a match with my students (I am a teacher). I run three times a week (30 minutes of walking and a bit of running) and I try to go to the gym for 30 minutes of strenght twice a week after running. I love it: it makes me feel good, and proud of myself, but I feel the bad eating makes me feel less energized than I want to.

Right now, I feel like a have to make 'The Plan' again: track my calories and be strict, and this time it work, et cetera... but I don't trust myself anymore around 'Plans' or food. Something in my mind made me write this post first. So please, give me advice! What do you think I should or shouldn't do to break my obsessive cycle?

Thank you for reading this. Love and good luck to all of you!

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5 Signs You’re Prone to Emotional Eating

Are you a mindless muncher? A comfort food connoisseur? Or a break-up binger? Don’t be ashamed. For many people, emotions and food are so intertwined, it’s hard to differentiate between eating for fuel and feeding your feelings.

Hence the term, “emotional eating.”

There are two types of hunger—emotional and physical. Emotional hunger is the need to eat when physical hunger isn’t present. It is essentially feeding our feelings with food.

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Emotional eating is a vice. Food elicits a wide array of hormones and chemicals that dance around in our brains, sending us feelings of comfort, happiness and ease. According to the National Institute of Health, eating releases dopamine, which activates the pleasure center of the brain. The long and short of it? Food makes us feel good.

And while studies suggest thatpeople with a body mass index (BMI) in the overweight or obese range more commonly turn to food as a coping mechanism, determining the reason for thus is a bit of a “chicken and egg” situation; there is an ongoing debate over whether the binging tendency or the weight gain comes first.

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Like many vices, emotional eating is a health concern. It is obvious that eating beyond your physical needs can cause serious weight gain. And with excess weight comes an increased risk for diseases like cardiovascular diseases, diabetes, among others. Eating disorders can also develop when emotional hunger is accompanied by cycles of binging and purging. But the signs aren’t always so extreme or so obvious.

So how do you know if you’re an emotional eater?

Here are five common indicators that emotional eating is a problem for you:

1. You Turn to Food When You’ve Had an Argument with A Loved One

File this one under comfort food or food for comfort.

Difficult emotions are, well, difficult. An argument can cause stress hormones to spike. Initially, stress may decrease appetite, but as the stress persists, hormones are released that can increase your cravings. During prolonged periods of stress, appetite can remain high regardless of physical hunger or nutritional needs.

Unfortunately, carrot sticks and celery boats may not be enough to satisfy your stress-induced appetite either. Studies have found emotional hunger causes very specific cravings. Sad people prefer ice cream and cookies, not salad and broccoli.

2. You Overeat While Working Late or Studying

The big issue with emotional hunger is that we eat more than we normally would, which puts us at risk for weight gain. Psychologists call this unconscious eating. While performing a task like studying or working on a big project, we can let ourselves become too tired and too hungry. Hormones go crazy and send sudden urges to your brain requesting food. We polish off the entire bag of chips, box of cookies or gallon of soda. We finish the rest of the pizza or find ourselves elbow deep in a big bowl of buttery popcorn. Overconsumption of calories leads to obesity. Consuming foods high in sodium leads to hypertension. Saturated-fat-laden treats endanger our hearts. Unconscious eating, while seemingly innocent, can become a danger to our health.

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3. You Turn To Food When You’re Bored

The American Psychological Association found in 2012 that when boredom was added to the emotional eating scale it became the most commonly cited emotion while eating. Cravings can be specific for bored eating, too. Research has shown that people who eat out of boredom crave salty, crunchy snacks. Eating these foods releases chemicals in the brain similar to chemicals released by some drugs. Like a drug, food creates a soothing, calming effect. That’s why we look forward to food when things get a bit wearisome. As with all forms of emotional eating, eating because of boredom leads to extra calories, possibly spiraling into significant weight gain. Even in the absence of stress or sadness, bored eating can be the root of a failed weight loss effort or sudden jump on the scale.

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4. You Hide What You Eat

But why? Emotional hunger feels sudden and urgent. It’s irrational. We make bad choices. We eat too much. This causes feelings of guilt. The guilt can then create feelings of shame, which may further fuel the binge. The National Eating Disorder Association lists secretive behaviors such as eating alone, hiding or hoarding food as a behavioral characteristic of binge eating.

Shame and guilt are powerful emotions. A 2014 study found that feelings of shame coupled with anxiety elicited larger binge episodes in women compared to anxiety alone.

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5. You Eat When You’re Anxious

We all get anxious: A new job, a big meeting, an intense social gathering… A study in 2012 found that higher rates of anxiety in college woman correlated with higher reports of emotional eating. At the beginning of the semester, anxiety was at its peak, with new classes, new faces and new adjustments. Of course, emotional eating was at its highest then, as the college students coped with this anxiety.

As far back as 1957, research has confirmed that overeating can be a means of easing emotional discomfort and anxiety. To complicate the issue even more, overconsuming high fatcomfort foods can exacerbate negative emotions and stress. Hence, the vicious cycle of overeating and anxiety sets in motion.

Emotional eating, regardless of the source, is certainly a cause for concern. The longer the cycle continues, the more difficult it could be to break from it. The key is finding new ways to cope with the underlying stress, anxiety and boredom, that don’t involve food.

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The next time an emotional experience has you plunging into the pantry, throw on your sneakers and head outside for a brisk stroll instead. A number of studies indicate that participating in aerobic exercise can help decrease tension, boost mood, improve sleep and improve self-esteem. The best part? You could experience anti-anxiety effects after just five minutes of aerobic exercise. Or, step away from the snacks and reach for the radio instead. Studies suggest that listening to music can elevate your mood and reduce stress levels. (Check out this article for even more reasons to crank up the tunes today).

Have a pet? Cash in on some extra cuddle time. Studies suggest that spending time with animals can help boost your mood and alleviate feelings of loneliness. Want even more reason to pamper your pet today? We’ve got you covered with this article: 8 Reasons Your Pet is Good for Your Health.

Other strategies for avoiding emotional eating? Try calling a friend to discuss how you’re feeling, or tackling that closet clean-out project you’ve been putting off. And, if you find that you absolutely cannot cope without sitting down to a snack, make sure you opt for a healthier version of the food you’re craving. If it’s ice cream you’re after, try one of these “Nice Cream” recipes. If crunchy, salty stuff has your heart, try making your own veggie chips or fries . You can also stock up on your favorite Nutrisystem snacks, so you’ve got healthy options on hand when cravings strike. Here is a list of the 20 most popular Nutrisystem snacks and sweets.

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17f 179 lbs and having enabler parents

I started my weight loss journey a month ago and I lost like 10 pounds and weighed at my lowest which was 169lbs in 40 days by doing intermittent fasting. It was very hard since my parents are ALWAYS bringing in junk food and my mom NEVER cooks anything remotely healthy. Recently I was demotivated by them saying ohh just have this or this wouldn’t affect anything a slice of pizza won’t make you gain all the weight back and guess what a bite after a bite made me gain back the 10lbs. I feel demotivated to lose weight right now and I was wondering if anyone can give me tips on how to lose the weight while being surrounded by many temptations

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Losing significant weight for the future of my relationship

I have struggled with my weight throughout my entire life, I currently have a BMI of 46.3. I am seeing other effects of this on my health, things like joint issues, carpal tunnel, sleep aponea and general fatigue.

I need to do something about this.

I just feel like anything I do will be a failure, and that I will start something and wont get the results I would like and it would result in a relapse and weight gain. Its happened before so why not again.

My partner and I would like to buy an acreage in the next few years, however he has concerns over my health relating to my weight and fitness level, and when it comes down to it, if I cannot pay a mortgage due to health issues he wouldn't want to buy. I know it sounds harsh but we have spoken at length and I agree aswell.

I don't know where to start or what to do. I currently have an intake appointment with a government funded weight loss service, but im scared I will fail that too, and I am scared that im using waiting for that appointment as an excuse to not do anything about it until then.

I just dont know what to do, and I need some guidance

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Monday, November 4, 2019

Waiting to hit my goal weight feels like counting down the days to Christmas

I'm in a weird place right now. I'm feeling really great, mentally and physically. I'm still a while away from my goal weight and any ultimate goal weight but I'm definitely feeling better already.

Here's the thing, while I 100% agree that weight loss is a LIFESTYLE change, not a temporary thing. The truth of the matter is that the actual weight loss part, eating in a deficit and watching the pounds drop, is supposed to be temporary. One day I won't be doing this specific part anymore.

I've been making these changes for as long as I have, I'm completely sure I will hit my goals eventually... Hopefully in 2020. Because of that feeling, it's like I'm counting down the days to Christmas. I feel inpatient, I just want to achieve this, I want to be thin, feel great, look great. It's like I've stop identifying with my current self, it's like future thin me is trapped in present fat me lol.

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Does anyones weight hover around certain numbers or plateu at the same numbers?

Every time I start getting overweight and start cutting back/exercising, my weight will always stay around the same numbers. Back in 2015 when I started my first weight loss plan, I began to drop weight in strange increments. I weighed about 215 and dropped down to 203 then got stuck, dropped to 196 got stuck, 193 got stuck ... 186-183-176-173 so on until 163. I gained a bunch of weight back up to 193 and then started dieting again which I then dropped like so, 186-183-176... Why do I usually plateau around the 6's and 3's? Is my brain just looking for patterns and coincidentally finding them or is there something to it? Does anyone else plateau around certain numbers?

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I got new rules I got ‘em: Identifying my food addiction and strategising a fresh plan for recovery (long post)

Wanted to share this just in case it could help somebody else who’s going through similar stuff.

A friend who had been slipping dangerously into alcoholism territory on account of their mental health issues recently had to stop drinking due to a heath scare. When we were talking about it, they told me “now I have to find a way to stop my binge drinking from turning into binge eating”.

I’ve been vocally disapproving of my buddy’s drinking because as you can probably understand, I don’t want to see them spiral down a dark path into substance abuse that they then can’t escape from. But their comment made me realise that—just like they’ve been self medicating with alcohol, I’ve been using food to mask my own mental health problems instead of finding healthy coping mechanisms.

Suddenly everything makes a lot more sense: why I can lose weight successfully...but only when I’m hyperfocused on losing weight to the point my diet and exercise take up a solid 70% of my mental attention, and why it’s been so difficult to get back on track with “eating healthily”. Read: not binge eating. It’s a deceptively important distinction, but incidental or habitual over eating isn’t so much my issue as emotional, compulsive binge eating. I can have a solid day of healthy, balanced, fulfilling meals and then wreck it all the space of a couple hours due to eating my aimlessness and my boredom.

Either weight loss is my distraction, or eating is.

Food addiction doesn’t have the same dangerous consequences as alcohol dependency, of course. Yes, binge eating and obesity will hurt your body in the long run too, but alcoholism is by far the riskier affliction. Even so, I feel very short sighted over trying to help my friend out of using booze as their emotional crutch while I’m doing the same with food.

I’ve decided to put a hold on trying to lose weight and instead work on fixing my relationship with food and eating. “Fixing my relationship with food” has been my intention from the start of this entire process, but that’s just meant portion sizing and moderation, concepts that go out the window the moment you start eating not for hunger or nourishment, but in vain attempt sooth your restless spirit and feel less crappy.

This time, I’m treating my diet (diet as in general food intake, not diet in the restricted eating sense) as a part of my over-all mental health. I’m trying to get back on my antidepressants, and HOPEFULLY find some therapy if I can also find the time off work for it. It’s long overdue anyway as I’ve been struggling with some pretty intense gender identity issues that are no doubt partly to blame for my eating problems. Hard to care for a body you don’t appreciate because it doesn’t match your internal self.

I’m going to pick up journalling again. I’m going to process my feelings through pen and paper, instead of squashing them with food. While I work on my mental stuff, I also have a hand-written guide to help me recover in my disordered eating patterns, that’s health focused rather than weight loss focused:

1) No calorie counting. Through the months of doing CICO, I’ve gotten pretty good at recognising the correct portion sizes when it comes to veg, meat, carbohydrates etc. Eating balanced meals without having to record everything is something I can do on my own, but I know that when my mental health is bad, having number restrictions to think about doesn’t help and leads to hyperfocusing, frustration, and then, binge eating.

I have to remind myself: I didn’t get to the size I am because I was eating balanced meals but eating too much. I got to the size I am because I was using share-size bags of chocolate to escape my negative emotions. I can afford to be squiffy on calories if it means I don’t stress over going over my goal calories because I wanted a glass of milk, and then eating three slices of cake because I’d already ruined today.

2) Eat when hungry. Even if I’ve had a heavy day already. Even if I “shouldn’t” be hungry. Important note: when I say hungry, I do mean hungry. Not “snackish”, not “bored and wanting food”. If I can feel the hunger as a physical sensation in my stomach, I eat. But it has to be something light like an orange, celery, or mug-soup.

3) Fill half my plate with veggies as many meals as I can. Yep, that means breakfast salads. I’ve started eating veggies for breakfast recently anyway and I actually really enjoy it. It helps me feel fuller longer and means I’m less likely to grab an impromptu processed snack at work. I like to pair up a bowl of salad with two scrambled eggs and a single slice of toast.

4) Avoid/limit refined sugar. It’s time I admitted to myself something I’ve been denying for too long: chocolate and cake are trigger foods and I can’t trust myself to eat them in moderation, at least not while my mental health is screwy and my eating habits are effed. I’m stopping buying them, I won’t have them in the house. I’ve written a list of “safe desserts” that I can eat instead: jelly (jello to you Americans I guess?) that I make and divide out into little pots in the fridge. Protein bars with low sugar content. Slimfast <100cal treat bars. Sugar fucks with your brain and encourages you to crave more, so I need to limit it without feeling like I’m keeping myself from having any treats at all, especially when my bf likes to have a snack himself when we’re watching Netflix!

5) Drink More Tea!! Because getting up to make a cup of tea serves the same “distraction” purposes that getting up to find a snack does, with the benefit that the heat means you can’t just chug it. I’ve always found tea comforting, so sitting with a mug of green tea that I have to drink slowly is a much healthier, and, actually relaxing reflex than mindlessly shoving chocolate into my mouth.

6) Eat out less, but eat out PROPERLY when I do. I eat out too much due to work/social arrangements meaning I’m in situations where I have to dine away from home often. I’m going to try and get around this by packing food to eat on my commute between destinations, and limit how often I visit restaurants to once a week. But when I do go to a restaurant, I’m doing it properly.

I’m ordering what I want from the main menu and getting a dessert if I feel like it. When I try to order from the low cal options at most restaurants I feel miserable and unsatisfied and often end up ordering more food than I would have otherwise eaten anyway. (Which, can we talk about this?! Can we talk about how low cal restaurant options SUCK? The portions are always tiny AND YET just as expensive as the regular menu items, so you feel ripped off. They’re rarely tasty or imaginative. I’d rather just never eat out ever again than have to order off of the low-cal menu, it’s such a sad fucking disgrace).

7) Journal my food feelings. If I slip up and binge, write about it. Figure out why and write it down. It’s important I learn what negative feelings and triggers are causing me to seek solace in food, so that I can address the route cause and plan for the next time I’m in the same situation. Work stress? Boredom? Writing will also help get my emotions out of my head and onto paper so that I don’t have to go around with guilt and post-binge stress swirling around in my head.

Wish me luck, r/Loseit crew. I hope in a couple of months I’ll be making another post here to say “guess who’s back and feels much more balanced and healthy!”

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