How do you keep heart and get fitter, when you know your body just sucks? I'm built like a man, and I'm a girl.

Between random odd pains (burning needles in my foot, constant muscle pain) and being chubby for almost my entire life, of course I wanna be fit and just have an awesome, strong body. It's empowering! But I've hit a roadblock.

I was mistaken as being a man for most of my young life despite having princess-like long hair. Between being built like a fridge with massive bones, I am...well. Anything besides feminine. I have A cups, a Hank Hill ass, skeleton-legs, a massive ribcage and fat waist, and wrestler shoulders, gorilla-shaped muscular arms. There's little harmony here. No curves.

I've cut down to 145. All along the way people were telling me that the weight loss was making me look uglier and while I tried to continue, I ended up quitting and gaining back 15 pounds. Now I am at 160 again. I wish this was BDD but, this has always been the feedback I was given by strangers and people I know (usually not to my face--usually behind my back).

If I were to cut to something like...120 pounds, I'd still have the shape of a muscular/wide guy, and apparently I won't even necessarily look better. It's vain, but yeah, it is a huge motivation killer to know that 99%+ of girls my age just automatically look much better than me. I just wanna look *normal*, but I can't because people have always said I'm shaped like a tank or footballer--and I hate being so intimidating. Though I realize I'm not being *that* vain. "I look great!" is the #1 remark for weight loss, and I'm not even sure if I could even say the same.

Sorry about the baby-talk. Just discouraged right now after hearing and seeing what I have seen.

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Marathon training?

I started my first day of marathon training today!....Sort of. I’m 15 and currently weight 244.4 pounds. My overall goal is 160, my mini goal is 240. Obviously I’m pretty young and I remember what it felt like to be a little kid and run all the time without being able to stop for a good amount of time. I loved it! I’ve committed to weight loss this year and on my first weight in since new years on the 7th, I had lost 2.8 pounds! I was so excited! I decided I wanted to try running again and thought marathon training would be pretty cool! I found a plan online and the first run was a 15 minute jog at 5 mph which I did on my treadmill. Unfortunately I couldn’t run hardly at all! I had to take a break after my first minute and 30 seconds! It didn’t feel great. And I only got to 5:30 minutes before I couldn’t go any longer. Mind you... I completed that 5:30 minutes in the span of like...20 minutes. I’m pretty down about it and won’t be able to start marathon training until I get more stamina, obviously. If anyone has any advice about how to get started with marathon training and any advice that would be much appreciated, so welcome and greatly encouraged! Thank you guys so much for letting me vent, haha

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Struggling Through Expensive, Awful Weight Loss Program

I have needed to lose weight for a while and my dad suggested a program, not sure if I want to say which one or not, that his friend tried and had great results with. He did research before talking to me about it and really encouraged me to go in for a consultation.

I went and the doctor and other person I spoke with were friendly and talked in depth about the program. I feel like I should have noticed some red flags during the appointment but I felt kind of desperate and to be honest embarrassed that my dad was so adamant about me losing weight. He's a very health obsessed person and he can't help but make comments. They had me stand on a scale barefoot to calculate BMI and other info and the doctor came and told me that I had the metabolism of an 80 year old woman (I'm in my early thirties.)

This kind of upset me and I have been so unmotivated to make the kinds of choices I know that I need to make in order to get healthy so I decided to sign up. Honestly if I hadn't my dad probably wouldn't have been super pleased. He offered to pay for all of it and I knew that this would also be an incentive for me to complete the program.

Here are the basics of it:

*The first part is the calorie-restricted phase that lasts 40 days.

*You take homeopathic drops every day that are supposed to suppress appetite and help your body adjust to the calorie reduction. You also have 1/2 tsp of pink salt in water each day.

*The food guidelines are two 5 oz servings of lean protein, 2 cups fruit, and 2 cups vegetables each day. No sugar, grains, fats, dairy, and there are only certain fruits and vegetables that are acceptable.

*No breakfast, lunch and dinner only.

*After 40 days you enter the maintenance phase where you add breakfast and from what I understand limited amounts of butter. After a few weeks you begin to add foods in.

Promised weight loss is a minimum of 20 lbs in 40 days. You go in every few weeks for an assessment and text them your weight every day. None of it seemed that bad at first and, my god, they really sell it to you during that consult.

I am a couple weeks in now and I have lower energy than I did before, I'm tired all of the time, I am very unhappy eating the most limited diet I have ever seen, and I'm now getting bruising that isn't caused by bumping into anything.

Have I lost weight? 10 lbs. I'm not sure it's worth it. I have had to turn down dinner invitations with friends because I don't want them to know I'm doing this and because I won't be able to eat anything. I don't even want to go anywhere because I might see something delicious that I can't have. Commercials for pizza make me tear up.

I have since seen some bad reviews online that I hadn't before starting and they have said that you are only consuming around 500-700 calories daily on this. They didn't tell me that and those numbers freakin scare me. Many people also said they gained the weight back after adding even healthy foods in.

I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent and I'm wondering why the hell I let myself get sucked into this. I should have been more skeptical of the entire program and the drops that the program hinges on, having since seen negative information about them.

I do more research buying a damn pillow than I did before starting because I really wanted it to work.

It costs $2700 (!!!) and that was discounted because I paid it all up front. If I give up there's no refund, my dad is out that money, and I look like a failure.

I should have just gone keto. FML. I guess this is just me venting but I wanted to see if anyone else used a similar program or if anyone has advice on how to get through this lousy thing.

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Finding I've lost weight hard to believe

Hey everyone, first time on the subreddit.

I've lost, so far, 92lbs (6"1' male, gone from 301 to 209), I've got about 27lbs to go before I hit my target.

The obvious factors, such as smaller clothes fitting better and not being so tired and sweaty all the time, are there. On paper, I can see how far I've come. But despite this, I still sometimes have a hard time believing it. I'm used to comparing myself to others because I'd get relief in not being the biggest person in the room on the occasions it would happen. A little self centered, I know, but I used to be like "well, they're bigger than me, so it's not that bad", it was a denial tactic. But now that I'm approaching a healthier weight, I still find myself comparing my weight and size to others. And rather than concluding that I'm reaching a healthier weight and other people have realistically stayed their consistent weight, when I see more and more people that are at or slightly above my current weight, I have to fight off the "they must have gained weight now that they're bigger than me" thoughts I used to use a denial/comfort effect when I was larger.

My question is, is this something you've been through as well? I was always so used to being the biggest person nearly everywhere I went than, rather than praise myself for what I've achieved so far, I almost push it away. Do other people have a hard time accepting their weight loss, as if they feel they don't deserve it or aren't used to it? How do you get past it?

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Test Trial

I decided to see a nutritionist and get my body tested for BMR, body fat etc. It told me where my fat was lodged, mainly my trunk and equally in legs and arms. I also got my results and a calorie goal. I have decided to try it for 8 weeks and see if it works. I have been seeing a lot of posts about eating less to lose weight and from what I have been told, my BMI is within normal ranges but I do have fat mass I want to lose. I had been aiming for around 1200 calories but I haven't really been experiencing weight loss, I've actually stalled at around 138lbs for weeks, going up to 141lbs and then back down to 139lbs.

I'm 5'3 at 139lbs, 31% body fat, visceral fat is an 8 on a scale of low, 10 and high (so idk) and my BMR is 1311 kcal. My lean mass is 52lbs and my body fat mass is 43lbs. I want to drop 15lbs of body fat mass, but ideally, I'll most likely drop maybe 5 lbs and gain 1lb or 2 lbs of muscle mass. For females, 31% body fat isn't that bad due to where we store fat and our breasts but I want to ideally drop to 25% body fat.

But, the nutritionist told me to eat 1700 calories a day when working out, and 1500 when not. So I'm gonna trust him and eat around 1500-1700 calories, and prioritizing my macros towards protein and carbs. I'll most likely experience an increase in water weight initially and some weight gain, but at the end of the eight weights, if he's correct, I should lose a few pounds. Hopefully.

When the eight weeks are over, I'll update this post. Ultimately I am aiming for body recomposition but losing body fat overall is good. I wanted to make this post as an awareness that as you get closer to your ideal body weight, it gets harder and harder to lose excess body fat. I was told that due to working out, I have to eat more to fuel my muscles and body. I will say that I do feel more energetic and so far I haven't seen my weight shoot up, yet. Surprisingly, 1700 calories are just an extra handful of nuts. Trying to balance between 1500-1700 without shooting over will be a challenge.

I'll revisit in 4 weeks, just to see where things are and then at 8 weeks. I am excited to see where this leads. I will also be monitoring my workouts, see if I'm lifting more weight and pushing harder. If they're right, then that changes the game plan. I've always been a fan of eating more to fuel workouts, but this the first time I'm recording everything. I figured getting some accountability buddies will keep me from straying from the path.

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Who wants to be my iMessage weight loss buddy?

OK, maybe that was super straightforward, but hear me out! I'd love to start an iMessage (or WhatsApp) thread with someone in my age range (20-30, but I'm 25) who wants to share their life with me. I'm an open book! Let's talk about things we like. Let's egg one another on. Let's talk about how we're going to better our lives and what our hopes and dreams are. Let's update one another every single time we have a small victory, whether we go to the gym or don't eat that extra slice of pizza that we usually have. I want to share my workout playlist with you, and I want you to do the same.

I'm 307lbs right now. Down from 313 a week ago. I have a long-term goal weight of 180lbs. A long way to go.

What's your weight? What's your goal?

A little about me: I'm a musician from Boston named Seth and I'm currently working on my next album (I'll be recording it in Mexico City next month). Here's one of my songs so you know what I sound like. I play the ukulele and listen to all kinds of music. My favorite bands are Belle and Sebastian, Vampire Weekend, and The Smiths. I also love movies. I watch one or two in the theater each week and my favorites tend to be foreign films.

Let me know if you're interested! Thank you.

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NSV Sober January Success

A huge component of my 40lb weight gain over the last 6 years has been the amount of booze I consume on a regular basis. From the ages of 17-21, I lost 80lbs. When I turned 21 and could drink legally, I slowly started drinking all. the. damn. time. Booze with dinner and brunch, binge drinking on the weekends, drinking socially, drinking by myself, drinking at bars, parties, game nights, concerts, baseball games. Everywhere. Mostly beer, sometimes wine, occasionally hard liquor. Half of the weight came back.

Now let me set the record straight. I definitely do not consider myself an alcoholic and never have. I don't believe that I have an addiction to alcohol. I do however believe that I had made it such a regular part of my life that it eventually became habitual. I quit 'cold turkey' this week, and haven't had any withdrawal or adverse physical affects. This post isn't about alcoholism.

I decided to try dry January strictly for the inevitable weight loss benefits. It's the 13th and I haven't lost any weight. But the non-scale revelations I've had have been unexpected and encouraging. This week, I partook in three activities that would've normally included alcohol: a Lakers game, a birthday brunch, and a night of karaoke (one of my most favorite things to do). I was 100% convinced that I wasn't going to have fun doing any of these things sober. I've always done them drunk, and have a great time doing them drunk. But you know what? I had just as much fun as I always do. I still stayed out until 1am at the karaoke bar. I still performed just as well as I always do. (Maybe even better! Because, yes, booze destroys your singing voice.) But I didn't wake up hungover, I didn't pick a fight with my girlfriend, and I consumed MUCH less calories than I would have normally. I did the math, and I probably saved at least 2K calories (probably more) over the three days I would have normally had alcohol.

But really who gives a fuck about the calories? What I've learned, and what I can take with me as I try to have the same results transforming my eating habits, is that I have self control. I have 100% control over my body, and over what I put in my mouth. I don't need booze to have a good time, and I don't need meatball sandwiches to make me feel good. Even if they're from the hottest deli in Los Angeles and they have 4.5 stars on Yelp. And if I can stare a delicious, ice cold IPA in the face and still choose sugar-free Red Bull, then fuck...I can ignore that ice cream in my freezer.

I can still live the life I've always lived. I can still enjoy the things I've always enjoyed. But I can also exert self-control and free will. I can say no to the things that tempt me, and I can learn (or re-learn) moderation.

I'm feelin good!

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