I went over my deficit today, and that’s okay.

Hi, long time lurker here, though I’m decently well on my way in my weight loss journey. My start weight was 225, and I’m somewhere around 165 as of my last weigh in. I’m 5’5, so I’m still far from where I want to be, but that’s besides the point. I’m a stay at home dad raising my 18 month old daughter all on my own, so life can get stressful quite frequently. Today was one of those days, hell, this week really has been. I usually let myself go over my deficit once per week, though still not over what would be maintenance, but I’ve already had my day for the week on Sunday. My kiddo has been sick for ages now, and today she’s been so fussy, glued to me, and has overall been a screaming snotty mess. I ate well all day, set to be under my calories actually, but for dessert I decided I was going to have ice cream cake. A whopping 500 extra calories, yes, and at first I really beat myself up over it. Then, however, I realized something. I chose to have it because I wanted it, and that’s okay. I don’t have to be in a deficit if I don’t want to, I’m choosing that just as I chose to have this cake. Sometimes we all just need a break, and my break in lieu of any other was eating ice cream cake while my daughter watched Monsters Inc for the millionth time. Despite being at 1900 calories for the day, I feel better and that’s what counts. The lesson I learned today is that this is a lifestyle, and I have all the time in the world to continue making the right choices in my life, but some days that right choice may just be to enjoy the moment and eat cake with my daughter. I hope this helps anyone else struggling with guilt over their eating, and I just want to say, it’s okay. Just get back on the wagon tomorrow and keep moving.

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How do you deal with family members who unintentionally try to ruin your weight loss?

Since starting to lose weight I've been told that I'm not fat (I certainly am), I don't need to lose much more weight (I certainly do), I'll look too skinny (I won't, I've got lightyears to go until I'm too skinny lol and I'm also gaining muscle), and ridiculous claims that I need to exercise to lose my belly, not eat less. They'll also try and talk me out of going to the gym (saying things like oh the weather's bad, go tomorrow or have a day off, it won't hurt) and make me eat takeaways or fast food (again saying oh just once won't hurt). It's really irritating and has caused a few arguments but they still persist. They actually managed to talk me out of going to the gym one day and nearly talked me into getting a takeaway. It's really unhelpful and annoying.

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keeping it off after weight loss??

Sw:154 gw(previously met):130 cw: 134

I've been a part of this sub for a good while now, and in losing weight it has been very helpful. Now im faced with a new challenge, keeping it off. I tried my best to lose the weight in a healthy way. I was in a deficit of about 1200-1400 calories a day and hot my goal in about 8 months. Now my issue is that I cannot deal with seeing the weight go back up. I must have done something wrong. I wouldn't say I eat incredibly healthy but im much healthier than I was. Im still exersizing even more than before. I do almost entirely cardio though because I just hate strength and know if burns very few calories. I know people on here have surely dealt with this before. Any advice?

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Am I too late?

(Obligatory “this is a throwaway”)

Okay, I KNOW that the answer is probably “no”. But damn, I am having a horrible time believing that right now.

I’m 26F, 5’9, and hovering between 250 and 255 lbs. I am at my absolute wits end, and after starting my first post-grad job have been having terrible back pain from sitting all day. I’ve been trying to lose weight since I was a teenager, and since WAY before I actually needed to. But now, obviously, I do actually need to and I just. Cant. Do. It.

I know I can do hard things - I’m a lawyer! I got the degree and passed the bar and worked my ass off to find a good job. Why is weight loss so different? Why is the discipline there for one thing, but not for another?

Anyone who lost the weight in or after their mid-20s - please share the tips, the tricks, the vents. I feel so alone and I need to know this is possible. I want to feel healthy and energetic and confident and, yes, pretty. I know this is all over the place (hence the throwaway, I just needed to word vomit).

To anyone who took the time to read it all - thank you. And thank you for creating this community where we can be vulnerable with people who get it.

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Calorie Deficit... is that really all there is too it?

Hi everybody! I've been fighting an ED for nearly 30 years, and therapy has helped me realize that a huge trigger for binging is the fact that I try to restrict too much. I've moved away from all the extreme diets and my primary goal is currently to make sure I eat regularly and enough during the day. I'm finding it to be a lot of food, which makes me very anxious and uncomfortable. My goal is currently 1450 cal per day. Which is not enough as per my TDEE but right now I'm really battling to even get over 1000 per day.

Rambling aside, I find putting together mealplans that are sustainable for me very stressful in terms of macros etc, I'd like some feedback as to whether staying in deficit and avoiding sugar and processed carbs will be sufficient for weight loss for now? Or do I need to pay close attention to macros?

Thanks for reading my rambling, and for the hope this subreddit offers!

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Weighing Food - I hate it

Hello everyone, some background first, about 16 years ago I rapidly gained weight during the last year of high school and I lost it about 4 years later when I took up running and cleaned up my diet. So for the last 16 year I've been pretty active but with disordered eating habits (trying to be too healthy, waiting too long to eat, binging on cheat days etc). So with Covid a ton of shit happened and I have gained about 25 pounds and pretty much quit working out. This has been devastating for me physically (high cholesterol now) and mentally (I struggle with anxiety).

So I'm trying to lose this but in a healthier way. So I decided to get a food scale. Oh my god I am a little blown away. First, I didn't realize how little some portion sizes are. 30g of hummus is not even two tablespoons when measuring out in my tablespoon. A very small sweet potato weighed 150g and I've been logging small sweet potato at the default 100g. I literally have to count and weigh nuts and it's like 7 nuts per serving. Even as someone who was pretty healthy but never weighed food, I feel like I was def eating closer to 1700 cals then the 1300 I thought I was eating precovid. After weighing all this food, no way was I close to 1300! I was just deluding myself and trying to eat that low but never making it because my habits were so disordered.

I also have been having trouble managing post workout hunger. I guess I was used to this precovid but am not longer used to working out. I know it's not essential for weight loss but I really want to get back into running. I miss it. But after my workouts I am so hungry and then my portions are so small.

Does anyone have any tips for any of this? My TDEE is around 1400cals so I don't have a ton of room to work with but that is not including any workouts. This has been really eye opening for me and I do want to eat pretty balanced meals.

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FYI: You did not actually gain 2+ pounds because you splurged at your superbowl party

I keep seeing posts on various weight loss subs about people freaking out because they weighed themselves monday morning and the number skyrocketed.

This is a reminder that water weight can fluctuate 5+ pounds every day. Weight loss is about trends, not a single day of screwing up.

I reccomend using the Happy Scale app, it will show your trends and lows instead of just your most recent weigh in.

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