Sunday, August 13, 2023

I'm a slow loser. But still just hit a major SV!

I love this sub, but sometimes I get a bit disheartened when I see posts about people losing the weight I have lost in a fraction of the time, or who have starting weights that are my goal weight.

But when I focus on my own progress, and see how far I have come, it feels amazing! I have now lost 30lb and just got into the "overweight" category, and it feels so much better! So this is for you slow losers, and people with high goal weights!

If you want to stop reading here, the tl:dr is 1. Going from obese to the top of overweight, via calorie counting and walking or light weights 5x per week, has really helped my fitness, confidence, stamina, libido, and general mood. It's not optimal being overweight, but it is still so much better than where I was before! Don't let perfect be the enemy of good. 2. Going slow feels so frustrating at times - when you first see a round number on the scale and it takes 2 months to actually get past it - but when you see the trend over time, and compare to where you were 6 months ago, your see how far your have come! My graph looks really dramatic, but I can fluctuate between the same 3 lb for a month!! 3. I have tried and then stopped losing weight many times before. This time I really tried to think for MYSELF why I had failed previously before starting, and that really helped. 4. Not lying to myself, and treating myself with understanding & compassion have been key.

Background: I started around oct/nov counting calories, as I was 197lb - that is right under the class 2 obesity for my height (5'3). I had tried this many times before and always quit, but did some things differently this time (under). Now I am 167 lb, it took about 9/10 months, so 0.5lb per week. My next subgoal is 160 before I go on a holiday in autumn, and ultimate goal is 147lb (last time I was this it was about 13 years ago!). It is high for my height. But it is MUCH healthier than being very overweight, I think it will be possible to maintain, and I feel good about how look there. I can always reevaluate.

Things I did differently this time: 1. Paid less attention to diet advice and really thought for myself about what I can do, and can't bear to do. Then built a system around that. Like, i know that swapping out chocolate with fruit is just not going to work for me at this stage. I will crack by week 2. It's just not realistic, so I should stop trying to think "this time if I just have enough willpower!!". No, face it, i won't. So I need room in my calories for a little chocolate every day. However, I'm not really a snacker, and I don't like breakfast foods. So I can skip those. Another example, signing up for the gym and not going. Why? I can't muster motivation to leave the house after work and it rains a lot where I live. So why do I keep trying?? Instead I got myself a walking pad and use that all the time! I always thought I had to follow a certain plan before, but learning my own strengths/weaknesses and playing to those is how I think I have stuck to this for 10 months.

  1. Tracking. I weigh myself everyday using libra - slow loss is so up and down that if I didn't have a tracker it would feel like it never moved! I count calories everyday using lifesum and my activity 5x per week using a habit tracker - I love keeping a streak. If I go over my calories and don't know exact numbers I still try and track something in the right ballpark, just to keep up the habit/streak.

  2. Low ambition level: my goal is to stick around my calorie goal (1500). I try to eat vegetables and limit (not cut out) fast food. But that's it. I often go over my goal on weekends, and up to (or over) maintenance on social/special nights. I'm happy with losing slower if it means I'm actually able to stick to it! I went over too often? Ok, that just means I won't see a change in the scale for a while. I will get back on it now, because a) I am still tracking and in the habit b) I don't beat myself up about it c) I don't hate my diet so it is not horrible to go back to it. The key is not to lie to myself, and not to beat myself up. They go hand in hand.

  3. Exercise. I belive that weight loss happens in the kitchen, BUT I think exercise has been central to my progress this time. It helps my mood a ton. I feel so much fitter and confident in my body, even though I'm still overweight. It's an incentive not to gain weight, because walking has gotten easier with weight loss and it feels so good! Note that these changes were just from regular walking and some body weight exercises - nothing crazy! I aim for 30 mins 5x per week, which is the general health guidelines from WHO.

This got kind of long, but I hope that maybe it might provide a bit of inspiration to any of you people who are losing slow, have high goal weights, or anyone really! Keep at it!! If you are doing any small step in the right direction, you are doing great. Treat yourself like a small child that you love and want the best for ๐Ÿงก

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how do you go from big saggy arms to lean?

23F, 5’9 SW 175lb / 79.5kg CW 144lb / 65.7kg

I have a pretty sedentary lifestyle, my weight loss was all CICO over 15 months which I’m kind of regretting now :/ Don’t get me wrong, I’m happier now but I wish I included weight training earlier.

My arms were always bigger for my frame but even after losing weight I despise how they look. they’re so saggy and flabby I don’t know how would i ever build enough muscle for it to look normal? I know it’s not easy but I don’t want bulky arms / upper body. I already have wide shoulders and a small chest which make me feel less feminine and has kept me from going to the gym.

Please suggest me some workouts or any advice so that i can tone my arms or is surgery my only option here? :/

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Saturday, August 12, 2023

How to lose weight with a partner? Tips? Tricks? Recommendations?

So, when I am single I can lose and maintain weight loss easily however, in a relationship I seem to gain and cannot lose weight.

In my current relationship I have gained almost 10kgs and I am not happy with myself and am struggling to lose it.

When I am single I don't keep a heap of food at home, exercise morning and night and inadvertently intermittent fast.

However, in a relationship we always have food at home, I work out either morning or night (not both as to spend time with my partner) and I have massive food FOMO so eat whenever my partner eats.

What are your tips, tricks and recommendations for losing weight when living with a partner?

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[Update] Almost a year in my weight loss journey, some questions regarding fat loss

I'm updating this post which is four months old: https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/12v4oxv/have_i_done_something_wrong/

27M, 6ft.

Long story short: I was 250+ pounds in September 2022, I'm now 188 pounds and I've never felt as good in my life. I started lifting weights four months ago and I'm really enjoying the process. Even when I went on vacation this summer, I still managed to lose two pounds when I came back while still eating everything that I wanted and drinking a lot.

So while everything might look bright, I'm still having concerns regarding my belly pooch and my love handles, which are the things I really hate about my body, but those don't seem to shrink that much. I'm getting worried because i'm nearing my ideal weight (which should be around 170), but I don't really see how losing 15-20 pounds would get rid of all that fat I still carry, it seems like I'd need to lose way more in order to have a flat stomach and no more love handles. I feel that if I go under 170 lbs, I'll lose too much muscle, and i don't want that either since i've been trying to recomp over the past few months.

I know people on the older thread told me to keep on going without worrying too much, and that there is the paper towel effect and all of that, but I'm still not convinced. I've seen other people's weight loss journey and it seems much more coherent and linear compared to mine. My belly and love handles are still way too prominent after a year, and I'm scared it might be due to genetics. Is there anything such as subcutaneous fat that is impossible to lose? Should I consider surgery at some point?

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Need some help

Hello all. I’ve (21F, 5’6, 310) lost weight in the past but I’ve never gotten as bad as I am now. No matter what I do I just gain and gain. I exercise, have been eating better, and watching my portions. But right now? I can’t lose anything. My CW is the heaviest I’ve been. Last time I was nearly starving myself to lose weight via a weight loss program. As of now with trying to lose weight on my own, it’s like I can’t lose anything. I’ve been trying to lose weight since summer of last year and nothing is working. A part of my believes that it could be medication related or maybe a health issue. I don’t know.

What do you guys recommend?

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Starting out with calorie counting, is 20.5lbs in a month too fast?

For some context I started my weight loss journey at 5ft 6 and 275 pounds, a woman and turning 30 next month.

When pregnant with my most recent baby I developed gestational diabetes, and type 2 diabetes runs in my family. Now things are settled at home I decided to give my health a real kick up the ass and finally sort myself out for my kids.

Did a little research on calorie deficits and sacked off all the fad diets and do it properly this time.. but people have told me im losing too much too fast, the last thing I want to do is cause some other kind of issue for myself, I'm happy for it to take a long time as long as I'm heading in the right direction.

I went on an online deficit calculator and it told me to start at 1750 calories a day and reduce this as I lose more weight.

In my first week I lost 6.5lbs and every week since (4 more weeks) ive lost 3-4ish pounds, at 20.5lbs in total.

I'm a mum to 2 young kids so for the first 2-3 weeks my activity levels were just looking after them. Then recently I started a workout routine, doing 3 x 30min low intensity cardio sessions, one full body weight training session and one leg day a week (this isnt a lot to some people, but this is the first time in my adult life I've worked out so trying to ease into it).

Im assuming that my losses will slow down fairly soon, but am I doing something wrong like people are saying, or is this good progess for someone as overweight as me just starting out?

Thank you for any help :)

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Need some beginner advice

So, I’m new to this whole weight loss thing. As in, “just learned what a calorie was” sort of new. I know, don’t judge me too hard. Growing up I was fairly athletic and didn’t really need to count them to stay in shape. Now that I’m an adult and in a sedentary desk job, I’ve gotten heavier over time.

I started counting my calories this week, and I’m eating about 500~1,000 over maintenance. Not great, I know. Next week I plan to eat at maintenance, and then reduce it week by week. Is this the right idea? I’m not entirely sure how much I should be reducing things by, just that I’m supposed to follow CICO, and not go lower than 1,300 or so. So many sources online say different things, so I’m getting overloaded by a lot of different information.

32M, 5’5”, 175 lbs., if that helps. I reinstated my gym membership and plan on doing cardio and weights every day as well. If there’s anything I’ve gotten wrong here, please let me know. I don’t want to make mistakes and have to unlearn something later.

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