I turned 29 today

Today I turned 29. I chose to spend my birthday away with my partner.

I had the choice to include friends, who wanted to be there to celebrate with me. My only thought was “there’s a hot tub” and I couldn’t bear to have anyone see me in a bathing suit.

Because of that feeling (feeling like an overstuffed sausage) I isolated myself and missed out on what could have been a really great time.

I’m so tired of isolating myself, of staying as far away from situations where I feel physically uncomfortable. I’m tired of hating everything I used to wear because of how tight it’s gotten.

It’s not that I have a long way to go, probably about 30 lbs, it’s more that I have emotional habits, live with a partner who can eat whatever they want, and have never succeeded in sustainable weight loss. I’ve yo-yoed back and forth 30 pounds for years now.

I’m going to wake up early tomorrow and go do 30 minutes of cardio. Im going to try to do that at least three days a week to start. I’m going to try to go back to calorie counting with more of a -eat what you want with reason- attitude. I’m going to do whatever I can to feel comfortable in my skin by the time I’m 30, because that’s too old to hide from everything.

I’d appreciate any encouragement, and any tips. Thanks for listening.

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Anyone gained weight after starting a relationship? Or had an SO with depression?

My weight loss journey began 2.5 years ago. In Jan. '17, I weighed in at 187; in July '17, I weighed in 140. I would coast from about 141-146, until January of this year, when I reached my lowest weight in 12 years (139). I maintained my weight by hitting the gym pretty hard 5x/wk. I've been proud of myself, buying new clothes that fit (we all know how good that feels!), and I even started modeling and acting. That's when my SO walked into the picture.

We became official at the end of February this year. Ironically, around that time, shit started hitting the fan: I got pretty sick with a respiratory issue; I was given a 60 day eviction notice; I began a 40-hour training program (at a trade school) on top of working part time. As a result, I stopped going to the gym, began eating out a lot, and gained almost 20 lbs. I've yo-yoed with my weight my whole life, but this particular time hit me extremely hard: I can hardly wear any of my clothes that I worked so hard to wear. My SO is a loving person, and said he hardly noticed any changes to my body at that time, and even prefers me at my current size. While I appreciate that, it doesn't negate the fact that I'm definitely not staying at this size (he's very okay with that).

My SO hasn't been hyper-dedicated to working out right now due to depression. In fact, it seems like I gained the 20 lbs. he lost. He's naturally tall and thin (fuck me, right?) and really needs/wants to put on weight. Now that I've gotten back into meal prep again, it's been very challenging to meet our nutritional needs: It seems like I'm the only one who has the drive to cook and has the energy to do so. The same can be said about going to the gym.

I feel so defeated, exhausted, and lost. I have no excuses for what I did, and I don't blame my SO for having depression. I'm lucky to have someone who can appreciate me at any size, but being in a solid meal prep/workout routine is non-negotiable for me. I don't know how to be dedicated to the rituals while those kind of things aren't nearly as important to my SO as they are to me.

If anyone has any insight on how to move through difficult situations like this with your SO; going through this struggle completely alone; or even how to keep positive after gaining weight you worked so hard to lose...it's much needed and appreciated right now. The only thing keeping me going is that pant sizes and depression aren't permanent if you want them to be.

Thanks, r/loseit.

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Any chefs or food industry folks have advice on maintaining weight in the face of a food-centric culture?

I could use some advice. I'm a 31yr old guy who's battled weight his entire life. I successfully lost 115 lbs in hs. I very gradually gained and lost weight throughout my 20s, though I'm having trouble optimizing my past techniques for weight loss to my current lifestyle.

Funny enough, since food consumption has been an active consideration of my life since high school, I now work for a well-regarded restaurant group. James Beard stuff. I've got a slew of restaurants and a social life that largely revolves around food culture.

I'm not a cook in the restaurants. Nor do I actually work in the restaurants. But I'm a super competent home cook. I cook 5 nights a week, rarely using ingrediants more processed than tortillas. I'm lucky to go to food-centric events regularly, and the temptation & drinks are often too much to resist.

In the past, I've been a hardcore calorie counter. I came from a family where our food culture allowed me to figure out my calories a lot easier. We ate in many chain restaurants, and my mother cooked in ways that allowed counting easier.

Food, fortunately and unfortunately, is a prominant piece of my life. I've cut out most of the dominant "unhealthy" aspects of my life in attempt to engineer eating habits that could be life-long and not a diet. I'm a carnivore and generally cook dishes that are meat & veg focused. Rarely potatoes or bread. Maybe tortillas once a week. I have gotten better at skipping foods in restaurants that I don't just die for, like french fries. I don't eat sweets unless I or my boyfriend make them ourselves.

I don't want to diet. I want a life-long food habit that is fulfilling and keeps me in good health. It's just a lot harder to count calories both at home and in restaurant environments where you cook instinctively.

Are there other foodies who have conquered a lifestyle like this? I know plenty of folks in my industry who have overcome this challenge. It's easy to be a pudgy guy in this business. And many have hD great weight loss. Unfortunately, I'm not close enough to any of them to ask for their advice. So I'm turning to reddit. I'd so appreciate any tips and tricks on how to live a food-centric life without gaining weight.

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Wearing a dress without thigh slimmers

Today, I was able to wear a dress outside without needing thigh slimmers! And I was able to walk around comfortably, and my thighs didn't chafe :)

When I was younger, I almost never wore dresses (I was a huge tomboy), and when I did, it was usually for formal occasions, so with stockings etc.

In the last few years, I have worn dresses at times, but I always needed thigh skimmers, or else my thighs would chafe like a sorry son of of a dog.

I was nervous to go out today, because a part of me still expected my thighs to chafe... but I did it!! I was able to walk around comfortably, and no chafing :)

This is the first time in my adult life that this happened. I have no memory of ever being able to enjoy this kind of dress-freedom.

I've known for a while that I've lost a lot of weight, and I've had many moments where I looked at my face (in the mirror), or at my hands / legs, and have felt awed at my weight loss... but there's still something unique about this particular milestone.

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discouraged :(

i’ve been doing well with weight loss, being diligent about counting calories and staying within portion sizes. however, i usually cook for myself or eat food that has the nutrition value labeled. i’ve lost almost 15 pounds since i started this—technically i started calorie counting in february but it wasn’t until the end of april that i started eating at a deficit.

this past week i went on vacation, and i ate out at a lot of restaurants. i tried my best to choose healthy options and estimate the calories/portion sizes but i got home yesterday, weighed myself this morning, and i’ve gained back almost a pound

i know a pound isn’t a lot but this is the first time since february that i’ve gained back anything and i’m pretty upset about it :( i know the best thing to do is just go back to what i was doing before since it was working well, but does anyone have advice for the next time i’m on vacation or in a place where i can’t accurately measure what i’m eating? (or just some encouragement, i’m feeling bad)

thank you in advance! you guys are always so good to me and i appreciate you all :)

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How many times did you have to start over before your weight loss efforts stuck?

First time I lost a lot of weight, it took me about 3 restarts before my weight loss efforts became consistent and I successfully met my goal.

I gained all that weight back and more due to personal reasons that don't really matter, and this time around I have had a lot more difficulty when it comes to staying consistent.

I think I have started my weight loss journey about 10 times over the past year and a half. Finally, I know that this time will stick. I don't know why I'm not super serious about losing weight the first time I try, but I just wanted to post this to let others know that it's okay if you slip up and have to start over. It will stick; you just have to keep at it.

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I had one of those moments where I looked down and SAW myself accurately.

Okay, so let me start off by explaining that I have body dysmorphia outside of the very common weight loss induced dysmorphia. It's obviously very difficult for some people to have lost a large amount of weight to adjust their entire perspective of themselves, but I also think that sometimes I don't even resemble a human. It's hard but I've been working on it and started Wellbutrin - for some unknown reason it has also helps some people with body dysmorphia.

Anyways. I went to the doctor's last week because I had been sick with a cold for 3wks that turned into a secondary infection requiring antibiotics and some super tasty (/sarcasm) Prednisone.

I walked into the exam room and the nurse went to grab a cuff to take my blood pressure. Her hand immediately went for the small adult cuff, which does fit well, but I was shocked because I the past people go straight for the big one to use with me.

I said, "wow, thank you, no one ever tries the smaller one first." She looked at me funny, so I added, "because I'm plus sized, I mean."

Raising her eyebrows she responded, "Girl. The first thing I think when I look at you isn't plus size. I mean, not that there's anything wrong with that if you're taking care of yourself, are happy, and have your levels within a good range."

I just. Was so shocked. I went home, kept looking at myself, couldn't see what she saw.

But then it happened. Last night, sitting on my couch with my legs stretched out, working on my laptop, I looked down and realized how much LESS there was of me between my chest and where my laptop rested on my thighs. There was so much more room, and to be honest, I don't think I could have sat that way in the past.

I'm still 30-50lbs to goal, depending on what my goal actually is, but I have still hit milestone after milestone and last night, I recognized myself for it.

Just wanted to share, in case there are people like me, that struggle to see the differences in themselves!

💚💜🖤

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