How do you overcome habitual or emotional over eating?

I have been trying to lose weight for the past couple months. I have lost about 15 pounds so far and have just been hovering around 345 for the past month or so. When I started my weight loss journey I read the book “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg, because I knew a lot of my over eating was habits. It helped, short summary, you can’t completely quit a habit but change it by identifying the cue, change the routine, and keep the reward. I identified that my over eating came from my emotions. So the cue was either happy, or stressed. Celebration? Go out to eat or cook a lot of food. After a stressful or not great day, I tend to eat multiple servings even though I already had my food planned out. Only when I have a good day, or my emotions are straight am I able to control my eating.

So anyone in the same boat or with advice, how do you control emotional eating when the craving is active? Thanks all!

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Dealing with Creepy Comments Etc. After Losing Weight

Hi all,

30F here. I've lost about 35 pounds in the past 2 years, very gradually. It seems that within the past 5 pounds, I've reached a weight that is more flattering to my body. I'm a very curvy gal for context, and since I hit puberty I've dealt with creepy comments from others(mostly men, but women sometimes too) about my body. It's not unusual at all for many women, and yet I've really struggled with it throughout life.

There might be much more here to resolve with a professional, I was sexually abused as a child and gained a ridiculous amount of weight when I hit puberty, I think in some part to hide my body. I could write a book explaining how awful it was while I was living at home, my parents were... not very good with this and my mother blamed me directly multiple times throughout childhood for the attention I received. Years later as an adult, I told her about the sexual abuse and it was a total disaster, after years of keeping it to myself. She brought it up constantly by springing it on me on a regular basis, and after trying to talk it through with her because I couldn't take it mentally, she made her own suggestions as to what to do and when I responded negatively because I was so distraught and didn't want to talk about it anymore, she blamed me directly again and said that it was my "interpretation" that was wrong, not what actually happened. The incidents involved family members on both sides of the family and she essentially took their side without hearing the full side of my own perspective. Needless to say I keep my parents at a distance.

All of this is usually mentally tucked away. I talked my parents into setting up a few therapy sessions for me when I was 16 because I was a depressed teenager. This was also a bit of a fiasco, as for one reason or another my mother got jealous about the therapy sessions and after just 3 with a therapist, she flatly refused to pay for me to go to any more, because she believed I was complaining about her. She told my father that she should be able to quit her job (which was apparently her excuse as to why she treated me so poorly) before they spent money on me to go to therapy. It was a huge fight between them and ultimately I just gave up. I've really resisted any further therapy in adult life because I have bad feelings still associated with it and still get angry thinking about it.

In any case, some minor incidents involving leering and an inappropriate comment from a child (!!! not really the child's fault, they don't know what they're doing, but still it made me feel weird due to the incident earlier in the day) out of nowhere while giving out candy during trick or treating tonight put me in a weird mental spot and I am thinking again now about how to deal with creepy comments and perhaps going to therapy, despite my misgivings. I didn't consider the things that happened today very much until I came home and just wanted to eat a bunch of crap, sending me over my calorie limit and bungling my diet goals for the day. So now I'm sitting here thinking about why I wanted to binge and it's set me down this path of thinking about all I've laid out here, and that I feel the need to do something about this. I don't want to be stuck in a place like this, I want to continue to lose weight and feel good about myself, but I don't want to relive trauma every day when things like this happen.

EDIT: Also... I feel the need to say that I'm a 30 year old married woman, and I wear my wedding ring every day. I'm not sure why I feel the need to put this out there, but it somehow makes me feel more tired than ever about this issue.

Has anyone else felt something similar, dealt with similar issues, and have any good coping strategies to push through to a better place where the weight loss journey doesn't lead to a place of feeling awful every day for reasons like this?

TL;DR: Was sexually abused when young, and it affects my weight loss journey because I mentally want to "protect" myself by continuing to be fat instead. Family sucks and makes the problem worse. Therapy is an option but there are other issues involved that make me reluctant. Can anyone provide advice as to how they got through something like this? I just want to be healthy and happy with myself, but it feels like there's no winning.

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Finally Seeing the results for myself

F22, 5’10, SW:230 CW:??

I’ve been intermittent fasting since May, I started for the weight loss but continued because I’ve always had digestion issues in the past and intermittent fasting has made a huge difference.

Anyways, I could tell I was losing just by my back rolls being less noticeable, however I never really saw a true overall difference. A few weeks ago my parents mentioned that they could tell I’ve lost weight but I still saw no progress and all of a sudden today I magically have started to see my results. My sweatpants don’t stay up unless tightened by the draw string, overall I just look smaller, and my stomach is less puffy looking.

I’ve tried losing weight a few times since high school and this is the first time I’m actually seeing results which is so encouraging. I haven’t weighed myself since May mostly due to the fact my scale stopped working, so I’m really interested how much I’ve actually lost.

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New to loseit and going for round 3 of weiggtloss

Hello all, I am 34, 5'8", female and have already been through losing a lot of weight in the past. Before I had children, my hubby and I lived to eat. We ate out all the time with abandon. I was a terrible cook and so it was just the easier thing to do. Before I knew it, I was 240 lbs and miserable. My hubby was in just the same kind of state too. After our first child was born, we changed our habits and dropped 80-90 lbs each. I even kept my weight off for a few years and hovered right around 145. But then I found myself pregnant again, tired, and constantly hungry. My weight leaped back up to 180 postpartum (pregnancy peek was just over 200!). I worked super hard to get back to 160, but could never get back to that lower weight I had been at. And suddenly I was also caring for two children and all that life throws at you in that situation! I found making excusing was easier than putting me first. Once again my weight has creeped up ... Now to 190! It's frustrating and even my doctor is telling me to do intermittent fasting to help curb my weight issues. I find it much harder in my 30s than I did in my 20s. That's for sure.

I guess the whole point of this post is to find a community of folks who are or have been on similar journeys. In the past month I joined an F45 gym which I like. I go between 3-5 days a week depending on what life is throwing at me that week. I've also taken up aerial silks as another fun additional thing to do once a week. I cook almost exclusively at home (I actually found that I have a knack for cooking - once I gave it a try on my first round of weight loss), and generally don't eat much bread, pasta, rice and the like. Diet wise, I feel like if I'm tracking my calories, I do well. But I struggle with binging sometimes. Tell me about yourselves and what has worked or not for you on your own journey? :)

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Medical Weight Loss?

F28, 5'4", CW: 190lbs, GW: 130

Hey everyone! I'm needing some advice regarding medical weight loss. Over the past 10 years I've put on 80lbs and I've really been struggling to get to a healthier weight. My LDL levels are high as well as my blood pressure and I know if I don't do something about this now I'll have more health issues.

I set goals for myself to go to the gym M-F for 1.5 each day but then I get too nervous about not knowing my way around the equipment and looking the way I do. So I end up chickening out and staying home. Then I start kicking myself because that voice in my head is telling me "why didn't you just go?!".

Another hard part about this journey is going at it alone. I don't have anyone to workout with because most of the individuals in my circle are healthy. I've seen my doctor and she's prescribed me phentermine but I'm still having cravings for sugary drinks.

At this point I'm considering a medical weight loss clinic to assist me with the process of getting healthier and losing weight. The thing is - it's expensive! I spoke with a couple clinicals and they both offered personalized meal plans, appetite suppressants, and lipotropic B12 injections. Has anyone had experience with medical weight loss clinics (good/bad)?

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Am I eating too little

So I finished the majority of my weight loss awhile ago but recently I decided to get leaner and hopefully get abs. While on my initial diet I would eat 1600 calories a day and it wasn't to bad. I am a Male 5'10 and about 168 pounds. I am much more active than I was however. I can only go a few days before binging, I don't know if its mental or I am actually eating to low. I am still losing weight with like two large binges a week, just slowly. I lift weights, distance run, and do ab workouts. I also have two gym blocks (2 hours) at school daily. Should i raise my intake in hopes of more stamina or just try to mentally toughen myself a little more?

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My experience and lessons learned from 1 year of weight loss.

SW: 17th November 2018 - 79kg 5'8

CW: 1st November 2019 - 67kg 5'8

(79kg -------> 68kg May --------> 74kg to regain strength --------> 68kg maintained strength ----> 67kg today)

Alright so I lowkey kind of feel like a failure, because I am kind of giving up. But I think enough is enough. For the sake of my mental health/my life it would be best that I recomp/leanbulk. I am a healthy BMI and I feel like my goals are just due to the unrealistic standards set by social media.

So I will start off with some positives. I never could have imagined losing the amount of weight I did. I literally remember thinking that it would be impossible for me to get below 79kg. I look back at my old pictures, and I see the face gains. I am so grateful for my past self for realising and accepting that I was overweight. I managed to push through many dark moments. Weight loss + the loneliness is definitely is not a good combination. I had many many downs, but I keep managing to bring myself back up. Throughout my high school years I ate fast food multiple times a week, junk food and soda also now at age 21 I go months without eating fast food and I am proud that I am in the habit of conting calories.

My advice to those who are on their weightloss journey:

1. Learn to be your biggest fan. Its you against the world, you can't afford to hate yourself ever.
2. Slow and steady wins the race. I lost a lot of strength because I was dieting so aggressively to the point where I had sleepless nights I also was lifting 4x a week. Also my best weight loss was this summer when I added weight to my squats and deadlift while losing weight slowly and I was happy.
3. Your weight does not define you. Don't let it hold you back from doing whatever you want. Its best you have fulfilling hobbies because that will help you get through how long this all takes.
4. Also when I first started out I always told myself. "Its not a matter of IF its just a matter of WHEN"
5. Focus more on your achievements and what you are grateful for rather than what you have left to improve. There should be an 80/20 balance.

I hope this post isn't scary or anything. I had a tough time mainly because I was eating at a deficit of 1000 (and the days where I didn't count as accurate I waslikely in a higher deficit) and had no friends the past year. My mental health and problematic eating habits improved a lot when I took a short break and started lean bulking. I was also very harsh on myself all the time just because of mistakes I made in the past, mainly the fact that I had been going gym since I was 16 and was both fat and weak after a few years.

My goals now is to add lean muscle with hopefully minimal fat gain (so then I can look good without abs), or to eat at a much smaller deficit while making strength gains (haven't decided). I then have the rest of my life to get abs if need be.

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