Worried that my fellow Fat Friends will abandon me when I lose the weight.

When you’ve been as overweight as I have been for as long as I have been (I’ve been chunky at best obese at worst my whole life.) you start to surround yourself with people who are like you. And most of my friends are fat, much like I am. They are lovely people and many of them are hard core into the body positivity and fat acceptance movement. (Which I still align myself with to a point. I believe fat people have a right to exist and be represented in media and art and should be treated with the same respect that straight sized people receive etc. In fact, all people fat or thin should be respected regardless of size.)

Recently, I ran into a slew of health problems one right after another. I had high blood pressure, high cholesterol, I’m pre-diabetic, I have insulin resistance, they wanted to put me on a C-Pap machine… and I said that enough was enough. Doctors told me to get bariatric surgery. I really didn’t want to do that and wanted to try medication along with nutrition and exercise first. After some trial and error, I finally got on a medication that worked for me. And I’ve been following my nutrition plan and exercise to a T. I am dropping WEIGHT. I mean, 5 lbs a week. So much so, that my pants almost fell around my ankles in the grocery store last week.

It’s noticeable. I’m elated, hopeful, and also anxious. I haven’t told any of my friends that I’m trying to lose weight because I’m afraid that they will shun me, or think I’m fat phobic, or that I got sucked in to diet culture. I don’t want them to feel like I’m abandoning them. I’ve been so worried about it, that I’ve been practicing what I should say if and when they bring up my noticeable and rather abrupt weight loss. What is something I can say to them if they bring it up?

TLDR; I’m fat. My friends are also fat. I found a weight loss method that works for me and am dropping noticeable amounts of weight quickly after a series of unfortunate health problems. What can I say to my friends to keep them from thinking I’m somehow abandoning them or that I’ve suddenly become fat phobic?

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At my lowest weight in my adult life- 215!

I was over 220 when I hit 18.

Morning weigh in today was 215.4

I’m extra stoked because I’ve been sick as a dog the last week and I haven’t been able to hit the gym at all but apparently the Gatorade and nausea diet kept me on track. 😂

1. I’m starting to occasionally see the changes, which I normally do not even after 100+ lbs of weight loss.

Also if anyone is also on Tumbr I have the same user name over there and have been posting there a lot more, if you use tumblr follow me and I’ll follow back!

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I've actually managed to get slightly BELOW my goal weight!

Height:6'1 (185 cm)

Starting weight:260 lbs (118 kg)

Goal weight:155 lbs (70 kg)

Current weight:145 lbs (66 kg)

I wasn't even optimistic that I would manage to reach my goal of 155 at the beginning,hell I didn't even think I was gonna get below 200 (I haven't been below 200 for like 10 years),but now I can proudly say I not only achieved the goal,I went BEYOND the goal. If you calculate percentages,I've managed to lose approximately 45% (NEARLY HALF) of my body weight! I remember when I started at 260 I was like 'why even bother trying? I'm gonna be a fatass forever...' or smth,but then I realized that having a normal (i.e. more comfortable) life again in the future was more important than short term pleasure,so I decided to start dieting. I also bought a bike once I got down to like 210 as I heard cycling frequently indirectly helps you slim down.

I have been on this weight loss journey for 9 whole months. I'm completely unrecognizable now. It started off as slightly stressful,but now I can proudly say it was worth it. I got my life back! The last thing a person would think if they saw me at my current weight is 'fat'. A bit of a flex:I'd say I've achieved a level of discipline that my old self would never even comprehend as possible.

My one and only issue now:excess skin. Obviously when you drop 115 pounds that relatively quickly (9 months is pretty fast cuz most people would need like a year or longer for that),you're gonna end up with that,but I'm planning on having an excess skin removal surgery in the near future so I can officially say my journey is finished and breathe a sigh of relief.

I hope this has motivated someone else on here too and shown y'all that it's never too late to improve. Good luck and godspeed everybody!

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I wish people would stop acting like weight loss is so simple

Bit of a rant coming up that has probably regurgitated time and time again, but I need to vent somewhere. Sorry if this is the wrong place, I wasn’t sure where else to do it haha.

I’m so sick of people just assuming weight loss is as simple as removing food from your diet. This is coming from someone who has lost 20kg and did it the traditional way of diet and exercise. It was, however, a complete overhaul of my lifestyle and the way I viewed food.

I gained a lot of weight during my early teens due to a mix of things; I was on steroids due to a medical condition, I was developing an ED, I was depressed, I had other mental illnesses that led to me staying inside most of the time etc. I have a limited diet because of the aforementioned medical condition, but when I was a kid it was fine because I was very active.

The thing was, I knew I was overweight. My parents also knew I was overweight. There were initiatives to help me lose the weight in a gentle way, but I didn’t want those initiatives because I was too depressed to do anything about it. I wasn’t sleeping, so I hadn’t the energy to exercise. My view of food became warped and I subconsciously reached for it for comfort. I was someone who was brought up to eat all the food on their plate, so I did it no matter the portion size. I almost even started to hoard food at some point.

Taking away the food would’ve just done nothing other than probably made it worse. I would’ve been even more depressed because everything else in my life was spiralling out of control and it would’ve been yet another thing that I lost control of. This is something extremely common with EDs. Then you get the shame of not having control over your food intake and then you think “what’s the point” and just spiral deeper.

This doesn’t even touch on the restraints that made it hard for me to exercise. I lived in a rural area, and pavements around my house stopped as soon as you left the centre. My parents were working full time, one was working 8am-6pm, the other working 7pm-7am. Their time was extremely limited, and there were times that money for gas was tight. It was very difficult to be able to fit in some exercise between these two issues. Cooking was almost always homemade, but was carb-heavy and so it didn’t fill us up as well as a protein diet would, therefore we ate more of it. I also had what I now know as gender dysphoria that was developing back then, so being in team sports made me extremely uncomfortable.

People are finally realising that people gain weight for medical reasons but they completely skip over the mental and physical aspects of it. My attitude towards food now compared to 5 years ago is completely different, and it had to be because I needed to change my whole lifestyle in order to do it. Diets are miserable, lifestyle changes aren’t (eventually). Some people’s parents were just lazy, sure, but many more were either just uneducated and/or did not have the time or ability to put a lot of time into fostering these habits. This is written mostly from my POV, but I’m sure a lot of these points resonates with others.

Sorry, this is all over the place, but I needed to vent.

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i should start my weight loss journey but honestly i'm so scared to.

tw// past ed-like behaviour, fat shaming (idk if it is), low self-worth (?)

tldr: how do you overcome fear of weight loss journey?

i'm 21 and have been overweight/obese for most of my life; i'm about 5'0 and for the past few years i've weighed between 70-80kg, i have rolls on my stomach and back, chubby arms and things that make me seldom wear short sleeves or shorts.

now i know i probably don't fit in the whole 'ed/ed behaviour' type for some people but for most of my life i was a binge eater and within the recent years i've been the opposite (up until two years ago i would only consume one meal + a snack and only if i felt like i deserved it), and losing weight that way felt good bc i looked less heavy, but i am fully aware that it wasn't healthy. so eventually, through a lot of determination and tears, i've managed to claw my way to eating 3 meals a day (most days, sometimes it's harder than others and i manage 2). my diet itself isn't the best, i could probably do with eating more veggies but my child-like taste unfortunately followed me into my adult years and makes things hard (yes, i know i can just force myself to eat them but it's just not working).

but recently, a family member said i was putting on weight and was too fat (i was dress shopping for grad and the dress i felt the best in i wasn't allowed to buy because i 'looked too fat') and it's been on my mind since. of course said family member doesn't really understand my issues with eating (bc i'm fat) and just treats it as getting fatter (yes, it was difficult to have the issue swept under the rug and not get acknowledged for, on my own, climbing back into a healthy eating pattern). nevertheless, i want to lose weight, if only to stop hearing those comments everytime i join a family function.

the thing is, i am batshit terrified to start. i've become so acclimatized to being heavy that the idea of being anything but is kind of scary. this has always been a protective armor for me and now to lose it feels like i have to take off the armor in the midst of battle. furthermore, i know that even if i lose weight, the loose skin won't go anywhere and (it's so stupid/silly) i almost don't want to look that way? having loose skin after weight lost because i won't look good--do i look good now? probably not, but in my head having that loose skin look is worst (on me, and only me, not shaming anyone who has it) and, although silly, i want to look pretty. i want to wear shorts and short sleeves without thinking about who's going to see my arms. i also feel like a freak if i show up to the gym (because i'm heavy) and start working out; what are people going to think?

and then there's the whole issue of 'i get healthy now, but what if it's not enough?' what if i've fucked up my life already; is there any point to try? will i even get to a healthy weight at my age? will i feel okay in my body for the first time in my life? and what if i do this any i don't? what then??

it's so stupid, i acknowledge all of these fears are so stupid. but those are the thoughts that keep me in bed rather than starting.

so, people of reddit (i sincerely apologize for this very stupid post) i'm asking for the best advice to start weight loss journey, to stick to it, and, maybe, is there anyone out there who also felt fucking scared and how you overcame it

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Trauma and weight loss

Hey everyone, I was just wondering if anyone had any success stories or advice for me, as I’m feeling pretty down right now.

(TW SA and ~ED)

A year and a half ago I was in a really good place. I was 175 pounds, which was a weight I felt mostly comfortable in as a pretty tall female college athlete. I was recovered from my ED, performing well in my sport, and doing great socially.

Then I got into a relationship with a guy who was literally the worst. Cheated on me multiple times (and I stayed with him), manipulated me, threatened to off himself if I didnt give him my full attention 100% of the time, the works. He cut me off from all of my friends essentially and the six months we were together were difficult for me, but I didn’t realize it at the time. He left the country in June 2022, so we broke up.

Throughout that process I had gained about 15 pounds, but didnt think too too much of it. Then in november, he came back to the US to visit, and long story short ended up SAing me. This caused me to spiral, having panic attacks daily, failing my classes, and starting to decline in my sport. This really led to me gaining weight, and now I’m the biggest I’ve ever been, at 210 pounds, 35 pounds heavier than I was before I met this guy.

TLDR, I’m feeling really dejected and was wondering if anyone else has been through something similar and has advice. my confidence is at an all time low because of my weight and the SA.

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When do you start worrying about a plateau?

I'm 5'7" 30 year old F SW 249 lbs CW 213 lbs and my weight did get down to 211 but then went back up to 213lbs and has been basically stuck there for fifteen days despite eating in a calorie deficit of 1300-1400 calories.

I did start exercising recently so I wonder if this could be some water weight from that new change due to weight lifting a few days a week.

Should I just trust the process and push through? My clothes feel loose and my coworkers and family are commenting on my noticeable weight loss so I feel good about that. This is just the first time I've encountered a plateau after such success for nearly 40 lbs prior.

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