Wednesday, August 28, 2019

My progress was deleted from a "body positivy" page because I wasn't "fat enough"

The post and response in question

I am 24/F and my heaviest weight was 212lb at 5'6" and I'm maintaining roughly at 145lb. (Done completely through CICO, 1200-1400kcal a day, no exercise until very recently)

Recently I bought a crop top for the first time in my life because I finally felt like I was at a place where I felt proud enough about my weight loss and body image to do so. (You can see my r/progresspics post in my post history)

My image was shared on a Body Positivity page on Facebook and it was promptly deleted because of an uproar by larger women in the group, saying I wasn't fat enough to be posted there for a before and after. (Losing nearly 70lb isn't that big of a deal apparently)

I feel hurt by this, because women in that group are constantly being praised for their weight loss and/or ability to step out of their comfort zones and wear things they haven't before. But my post was deleted because I wasn't seen as even a "smallfat" in their eyes and therefore did not deserve praise, or even to have my post in their group. I felt ostracized by the most of the people who are nothing less than supportive to all the bigger women in the group. I understand that I wasn't 500lb, but I was still at an unhealthy weight for my height, and finally kicked my butt into gear to get myself down to a healthy BMI and start getting into exercising.

Apparently "body positivity" doesn't matter if the body in question doesn't meet other's weight standards.

Either way, I'm still very much proud of my weight loss. This is just fuel to the fire to get myself in the gym more and really start buckling down on getting myself more active. Can't make everyone happy, but I sure as hell can make myself happy!

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Needing advice, wanting to hear what has worked for you all

Hey all! First time posting here.

So I'm currently 31F, I'm 5'9" and 277.2 pounds as of this morning. I've been overweight for the past 10 years, slowly creeping up to the weight I am today. I've never gotten to 280, and I really don't want to.

Currently I am walking 1.5 miles a day during the work week (and absolutely loving it!) and trying to drink all my water (140oz a day if interested) I'll make a list of my complaints about myself and what I've tried. I'd love advice please, I know what I need to do but sticking to it I haven't done.

Calorie counting stresses me out. If I eat a meal that I don't have the exact count for, it freaks me out. (Personally I think this is an underlying mental thing I haven't addressed yet, but if it's not "perfect" I essentially throw a mental fit and don't want to do it anymore)

The longest I stuck with weight loss was for 2 months. I did a 2 low calorie day and 1 high calorie day. I lost 20 lbs in that time, but I had a cheat day that turned into a cheat week that turned into cheat years.

I have trouble prepping my week of food, it's more of just being lazy, but also of what the heck do I eat?

In that note, what the heck do I eat? There are things that upset my stomach and digestion, but I keep hitting a wall when I think about what to eat. I think it's an emotional response. Food = pleasure so if I don't like it I don't want it.

I am addicted to sugar and energy drinks. I'll get off the energy drinks for a while, but inevitably something will upset me and I'll reach for my comfort drink. And then I'm drinking one a day for a week or 2.

If you read all that, thank you for making it this far. I am admitting my issues are very childish in my head, and it's really something I need to work through. If anyone has had an inner child dictating their emotions like this, what did you do to work through it?

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Wednesday, 28 August 2019? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

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A gentle PSA: Losing weight won't necessarily fix any mental health issues that you have.

When I decided to start losing weight in October of 2018, one of the tipping factors that made me finally take the plunge was the mental illnesses I was struggling with; namely depression and anxiety.

I was absolutely certain that if I got to an acceptable weight, that all these problems would simply melt away with the fat that I was losing. After being fat and unhappy for my whole life, I was convinced that the reason I was unhappy must have been because of my size/the number on the scale/the person who looked back in the mirror.

That didn't happen for me.

I started off at 140kg (310lb), and I am now down to 95kg (210lb) with a little more to go, and I am still the same depressed and anxious person that I once was, except now instead of being depressed and anxious in a 3XL shirt, I'm depressed and anxious in an L shirt. (I'm 6'2 for reference)

I realised that nothing had changed just a few weeks ago when I found an old diary entry from the day I started losing weight, detailing how I was certain I was going to be much happier by losing weight. And don't get me wrong, I am proud of my progress, and losing weight has made me feel good, but the mental health issues I had along the way have persisted.

So I decided to see a therapist. I booked an appointment and went a couple of days ago. I told her about this experience, and how I was certain that losing weight would relieve my mental health issues, but that ultimately I still felt empty inside, she smiled kindly and said these words:

"No matter how much we can change our physical body, it's very hard to change what's already inside us."

That's when I finally understood: my weight isn't stopping me from being happy, my brain is stopping me from being happy.

To anyone who thinks that losing weight will suddenly fix all of your internal issues, just pause for a second, really evaluate if your weight is the only thing stopping you from living your life to the fullest. Consider working on both your physical health and mental health at the same time. Weight loss is a two way street between physical and mental health, and you owe it to yourself to be healthy in both areas.

I love this community, and if you have found the opposite experience, please let us all know about it :)

<3

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My skin is my biggest worry with weight loss.

So i've been lurking on here for a bit, but I decided that i'll ask this question since it's giving me a lot of anxiety.

I'm 18, Female, 163 cm (5"3??) and i currently weigh 80 kilos (176 pounds)

I was skinny at age 15 (after loosing weight unhealthily, going from 60 kilos to 50) and ever since then i've been slowly adding on weight until this point.

About a few weeks ago, I started noticing a bunch of new (and big) stretch marks showing up on my hips, arms, shoulders, and thighs. I was in denial about my weight until i actually noticed these stretch marks. It gave me a lot of anxiety when i realised that those stretch marks are perminent. I've had a wake up call since then, and i've decided that I NEED to start loosing weight before it gets worse.

I've currently only lost 2 kilos after about a week and a half, but for now i have a big concern.

As bad as the stretch marks are, im scared that after loosing 15-20 kilos, my skin will start to sag. Particularly in my chest and arm area.

My stomach is fairly flat. It's not board flat, but its not "hanging fat" either. so im not too worried about it. I carry most of my weight on my arms, back, and a bit on my legs.

I'm worried that after loosing weight, my breasts (currently a C and they are already fairly hanging) will just deflate and my arms will forever be saggy.

After obviously googling this question, ive only found answers relating to drastic weight loss. Can anyone give me some advice?

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Should I expect loose skin on my face?

Hi guys! Thanks to the supportive community here I’ve decided to try counting calories as a method to losing weight. I started gaining a significant amount of weight when I was like 15 due to an eating disorder, bad mental health, and poor eating habits that my body couldn’t keep up with after I hit puberty lol. I’m 21 years old and I’m 5’7 and I weigh like 300-320 I’m not 100% I don’t have a scale and I’m hesitant to weigh myself anyway because I don’t want to trigger bad habits I would almost rather not know (I wear a size 22 if that helps lol). I know I’ll have loose skin it’s unavoidable when you have such a drastic weight loss, but I’m worried I’ll have it on my face too. I know it’s more important to lose the weight than to worry about the loose skin, but I’m curious if you guys can tell from my pictures if I’ll have loose skin on my face or neck. My goal weight right now is 150 lower if I hit that and maybe want to go lower. I’m having a hard time finding progress pictures that are similar to mine where I can see the face. I can always get a tummy tuck or a breast lift on my body but I am worried about my face and how it will look after weight loss.

(Sorry if I look awkward in these pictures lol I was trying to find ones where you could see my face and neck and in one I’m making fun of how my friend took a selfie in a Snapchat lol ) https://imgur.com/a/OBsgB9O

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Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Scale and NSV victories since I restarted my weight loss journey

This is about the 50th time I have started this journey but this time I really feel I can make it work. I am a M SW 288lbs CW 260 LBS GW 176LBS. I have been going this time for the past 6 weeks and really wanted to share my progress in the hope that I can help others out there and give myself some accountability.

Firstly fitness I have been doing the C25k program and have just started week 6 I have been able to go from struggling to jog for 1 minute to been able jog for 20 minutes. If you are just starting out running this is a great way to go. I have also learned that I love running and really want to make it work for me long term.

Next weightlifting I have discovered some great apps to be able to help me with this and have been working with dumbbells for the past 5 weeks and have been able to increase all my weights and can already see and feel the difference in myself.

Now in my actual weight loss I have lost 28 pounds (13 Kilos) in that time by doing CICO and honestly I feel great. I feel so much healthier eating lots of fruit and vegetables and not shoveling down crap all the time.

I have signed up to a few fun runs and also my first obstacle course run so I am really looking forward to them.

Thank you all this place provides the best support and good luck to you all.

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