“oh thank god you need some meat on your bones”

I don’t know if most people would have been offended by this comment but this honestly made my entire night.

I’d just left a concert and went to Denny’s because i’d been craving pancakes that entire day (side note, I ate 6 of them with no shame) and before placing my order I asked my waitress if they had sugar free syrup.

She said in a jokingly way “please don’t tell me you’re on a diet” in which I responded “no, i just like the taste of it better than normal syrup” and if you guessed by the title, it was her response.

little does she know I had PLENTY of meat on my bones, going from 268 pounds to 160ish (I don’t weight myself, that was the ball park last i’d remembered from 6 months ago)

so to the waitress at denny’s, thank you for making my night by unknowingly congratulating my weight loss

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What can you do for your spouse?

A long time ago, I met and married my wife. We were both fat -- we both still are.

Along the way, we had a daughter and she started dieting (it was Atkins back then). I was 350+ pounds, and thought, why not. It stuck and I lost weight. I kept losing. I am now 230 pounds dripping wet, and working out regularly. I stall for long periods of times, I drift off, but in general I don't gain weight. After a long stall, I've dropped 30 pounds in three years. I certainly still have work to do, for sure.

My wife drifted off it, and never got back on. She's continued to gain weight and seems to be addicted to sugar. It's accelerated and I'm extremely worried about her health and ability to function as we age. She honestly can't walk 100 yards without a break. She refuses to get physicals (surely to avoid the scale).

Having been fat my entire life,I goddamn well knew I was fat, and didn't need anyone to tell me or "help" me. She's the same way.

And for her, this is wrapped in the way her mother treated her as a kid. She's got serious problems but still isn't truly unhealthy. I worked hard to get her to do a blood test, to be sure she wasn't diabetic, which she currently isn't. But she balked and delayed even that.

I don't care if she's thin. But I'm terrified at her health in general and where it's headed. The only time I broached the topic, it didn't go well and I doubt I did any good. My pitch was about her general health and well being, not her size.

Probably this is deeper than the physical, and is bound up in her self-esteem. She doesn't seem to think she's worth the work (and she's a terrific person). I wouldn't have the first idea of how to get her to see a therapist, but I think she needs it in general, before she can make any progress.

I had people who tried to "help" by giving me weight loss advice, and I remember having to unwind all of that in my head before I was ready to commit to it. I can tell her how much better I feel, and how much better my daily life is after losing, but that's all things she knows anyway. Like I said, all fat people know what they are. None of us have any delusions. She knows, but she's highly resistant to taking any actions. I just don't know what to do.

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10% of my body weight is gone! No one has noticed

(F, 5’6”, SW: 220+, CW: 197, GW: 160) I’ve been seriously doing CICO since mid January, I started with a 1470 calorie limit to lose my first 15 pounds and then dropped to 1350 the past month to speed up the weight loss. I’ve made some huge progress in both losing weight and changing my habits to get to viewing this as a “lifestyle change” instead of a diet. The thing that is getting me down though is that no one, apart from my husband, has noticed my weight loss! I know I shouldn’t base this achievement off of external sources but I feel like I’ve put in so much work and it’s not showing if no one has noticed.

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19F 50kg/110lbs 160cm - Seriously derailing myself, don't know what to do anymore

Hi everyone. Hope you're having a good day!

I'm caught in an awful cycle of restricting and binging, feel awful, isolated, a failure and don't know what to do.

I lost 10kg last year in 4 months (from 58kg to 48kg). I then proceeded to continue to lose another 4kg in the next 3 months. I recovered from this low weight of 44-45kg (BMI 17.5) but have shot all the way up to around 50kg - 110.2 lbs (BMI 20 or so for my height of 5"3'.) I'm not happy with this at all, I feel quite flabby and my clothes feel so tight.

I am trying to lose 6 or so pounds to a weight of around 47.5kg - still healthy but at a weight I can be happy and body positive about. In trying to do this for the past few months I've been isolating myself from family and friends, yet have nothing to show for it because of my binging undoing any progress. Any time I tell myself I'll allow myself to feel full and not hungry today to focus on revision - I'm a med student with upcoming exams - I end up binging. Either I'm starving or I'm stuffed full from a binge, there seems to be no in between. I don't exercise but average around 8K steps a day.

Last week of eating looked like this (calorie counts included if I know them)

Monday:

1 carrot, 3 mushrooms, 2 malted milk biscuits, 1 apple, handfuls of lettuce and spinach, tea with skimmed milk, 1/2 cucumber, 3 celery sticks, 15 pieces of sugar free chewing gum

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Tuesday:

1/2 a tuna sandwich, 1 carrot, 3 mushrooms, 2 malted milk biscuits, 1 apple, handfuls of lettuce and spinach, 15 pieces of sugar free chewing gum, tea with skimmed milk, 1/2 cucumber, 3 celery sticks

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Wednesday,

Miso soup (40 cals), 1 cucumber, 1 carrot, 3 mushrooms, 1 apple, handfuls of lettuce and spinach, 15 pieces of sugar free chewing gum, tea with skimmed milk, 1/2 cucumber, 3 celery sticks

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Thursday

1/2 cucumber, 1 carrot, 3 mushrooms, 1 apple, handfuls of lettuce and spinach, 15 pieces of sugar free chewing gum, tea with skimmed milk, 3 celery sticks, 1 malted milk biscuit, 1 tangerine, 1 chicken 6 inch sub

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Friday

1/2 a veggie sausage roll, apple, 3 small pieces of mango, seaweed snack pack (25 cals)

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Saturday (a binge day)

A cheese, hummus and falafel panini (600), a chocolate covered flapjack (470), 2 slices of Costa coffee cake (1200 cals), Lion chocolate bar duo (400), crisps (200), medium apple, 2 choco digestives (200)

I know, absolutely disgusting.

Sunday:

1/2 cucumber, 1 carrot, 3 mushrooms, 1 apple, handfuls of lettuce and spinach, 15 pieces of sugar free chewing gum, tea with skimmed milk, 3 celery sticks, medium apple

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I've become so depressed and slighly suicidal because of this failure to change my body image, especially when I achieved such a massive weight loss in the past and had no problems with binging. I have no desire to become unhealthily underweight again, but just want to shift those few pounds and keep failing. I've become isolated too as everyone just believes I'm still always restricting and are just thankful I'm no longer underweight.

If anyone could give me some general advice on how to lose the weight and stop binging I'd be very grateful. I'd particularly love to hear how long it took people at similar stats to mine (BMI 20 to BMI 18.5 journeys) to lose the weight and how they did it. Really need some hope right now. Thank you for reading this far.

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Has anyone here had a breast reduction after weight loss?

I am still not at my goal weight yet (35 lbs to go) but I’ve lost 40 so far and unfortunately my breasts have not gotten any smaller. I am a 38DD, which looked proportional when I was 40 lbs heavier, but now I just feel like I look like Dolly Parton. I’m really self conscious about looking so top-heavy, and I’ve switched to wearing completely unlined bras (no padding whatsoever) which helps but I’d ideally like to be a C cup.

I know that my insurance will cover a breast reduction if I get to a certain BMI and am still too top-heavy. I’m definitely feeling the wrath of carrying the extra weight on my top, my lower back hurts nearly all the time and my posture has definitely suffered.

Just curious to see if anyone has had this experience, and to see what you did about it. I’d definitely be interested in learning some workouts to do to strengthen my back also.

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Addiction Thoughts

I've struggled with weight most of my life. Age 63, F. I have alcoholics on both sides of the family so I've been careful about booze after drinking too much in college.

Over the years, I've wondered about food addiction. Is it real or not?

In myself, I feel like it must be. If I can manage to go a few weeks with no sweets, I stop craving them. But if I give in, just once, I seek them out every day. I'll eat the sweets until they're gone. They "call to me". I can't ignore them if they're around. To me this feels like what drug addicts and alcoholics describe.

I need to get serious about my health again. I regained 30 pounds I had lost through a hospital program after I had become pre-diabetic. I had kept that weight off for a few years and had been absolutely strict in not eating even a bite of sweets. A major trauma in our family happened in mid-2017 and I went off the deep end in stress-eating. Now I'm back up those 30 pounds and pre-diabetic again.

Pondering which program to use and where to start (blood work all done, cholesterol and all lipid numbers are perfect), I keep wondering about addiction. Is it real? My husband insists no. I think I feel it.

Are there food-addiction counselors? If so, does it help with permanent weight loss to work with one?

I made a commitment to myself to get back on a program on May 1. In the meantime, I'm pondering.

Thoughts? Would love to hear from others who feel they're addicts and how they beat it.

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DL face gains

It’s been a long time since I posted here but today I went to DMV (well Penn DOT) to renew my license and was again reminded of why this weight loss journey has been worth it.

https://imgur.com/a/mrcIPtd

I’m thrilled with the new photo - about 60 lbs between the old and the new one.

I have not lost anymore since about Nov 2018 but have been mindfully maintaining and consider myself happy at my current 159 lbs. But this DL comparison has been a great reminder of what I’ve achieved and why I need to keep up with this new lifestyle.

As background, my initial loss was on keto/omad followed by cico. I currently still avoid carbs bit not altogether and try to have a balanced approach and ‘restrict’ after holidays or travel. I walk about 8 miles a day but have still not joined a gym which I’ve been putting off for too long.

Thanks again to this sub for their ongoing support and wealth of resources!

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