Everyone is finally noticing my weight loss and encouraging me to keep going! Except my “accountability buddy”..

Hi all! Using a throwaway for this one.

Friend and I are two big ladies (though when we met 4 years ago I was the thinnest I’ve ever been, working on getting back to that point). Earlier this year we got together and talked about our bodies and health, and we decided that it’s finally time to take this shit seriously and lose the weight! We promised to be “accountability buddies” so to speak. We discussed this at length. It was a long, emotional talk. Basically we said we’d be there for each other, encourage each other to make good choices, and be there if the other ever wanted to talk about boring things our other friends didn’t wanna hear (calories, fitbit steps, etc.)

I’ve been doing well and I’m proud as hell that I am nearly 30 pounds down! I can barely see the difference in myself (I’m sure a lot of you know that struggle), so when my friends and family let me know that my hard work is noticeably paying off, it feels INCREDIBLE.

You’d think my accountability buddy would be my biggest cheerleader, but this is not the case. She gave up on her journey a couple days in, and now avoids health/weight related conversations at all costs (I noticed this and stopped trying, I don’t want to be a bother). She is the only person in my life that hasn’t mentioned the weight loss at all, and it hurts because she’s the one person who knows how hard I’ve been working and how badly I want this. If anyone compliments me, she goes silent or leaves the room.

We used to give each other random compliments (i.e. your ass looks fantastic today, that outfit makes you look so slim) and that stopped coming from her too.

Now I KNOW I don’t need an accountability buddy, or compliments to be successful. I am in this for me. I just thought my best friend, who promised to encourage me on my journey, would be happier for me.

Sorry, this is mostly a venting post. But has anyone else ever experienced anything like this?

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I'm starting to think the "trick" for me is to not have any weight loss goals

[I'll start by saying this isn't going to be true for everyone, I'm only speaking for myself. What works for me may not work for you. I just thought that perhaps this perspective might ring true for some others.]

It sounds counterintuitive, but I really think that it's best for me to not work towards any specific goal. Previously when trying to lose weight, I always had something in mind. I want to get in shape for a vacation, I want to look good in photos, I want to run a 5k this spring, there was always a specific goal.

The problem is that having big long term goals meant that there's a specific timeline I have keep to. If I want to lose 30lbs before I go on vacation, then I have to lose a pound a week to hit that goal. If I want to look good in a suit for a wedding, then there's a specific size I have to hit by a specific date. Weight loss is not a straight line, but I had such specific goals for myself that I was setting myself up for a million little failures. If I wasn't losing weight fast enough, I was failing. If I missed a day of exercise, I was failing. If I overate one day, I was failing. I was so stressed the whole time that weight loss was a miserable experience.

This time, though, I'm ditching all that. There is no finish line. There is no goal. There's no "point" to any of this. I calculated my BMR and TDEE so I know what I'm burning every day. I'm tracking everything I eat in MFP, with a calorie goal a little under my BMR so I know I'm at a deficit. I weighed myself at the beginning and logged it, but that's it. I don't have an exact goal weight in mind, and I certainly don't know when I'll get there. I'm not weighing myself on a rigid schedule. I'm just sticking to tracking and trusting the system.

I've been at this for over a month, and I barely even noticed. I've gone over my calorie limit one time, still at a deficit that day, just less than usual. In the past, that would have upset me, but this time, I just thought about how I could plan better in the future and moved on.

This is by far the least stressed I've been whole trying to lose weight, which has made it easy. I don't know how much weight I've lost, and I don't care. There's no point to any of it, and what a relief that is!

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Elliptical - Student (weight loss)

Hi!

I (22F) recently found a new retail job and got my first apartment. I also started a new program at university where I got mostly A. I really try to put back my life together and be happier.

On the other hand, I’m a little depressed because I'm reached my heaviest weight (4’10” - 185 lbs). I don’t really have a positive attitude toward myself since I gained weight, in fact, it make me spiritless. I think it’s now the moment to take my weight lost journey seriously. I really want to buy an small elliptical (with arms and resistance) to workout while watching Netflix and studying. Elliptical is my favorite machine at the gym but it’s now closed. I also have back and ankle problems so no treadmill.

I will try to do it at least 1h each day (30 mins morning, 30 mins evening). do you thing it will be effective and more important, realistic? With a good diet for sure.

Thank in advance :) and sorry for my English

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[Century Club] May 6, 2021 - Have you lost or need to lose 100 lbs or more? Here’s a thread just for you!

I have often welcomed those who have lost 100+ lbs (~ 50 kg , ~7 stone) to “the club” and joked that club meetings were on Thursdays. I recently suggested that we try out having a regular weekly thread to talk about issues that are particular to those who have lost 100+ lbs, those who are well on their way and those who are just at the beginning of a journey this big.

Welcome back to the Century Club! Each week I will provide a topic of the day that has been on my mind or inspired by previous posts. However you are free to talk about any topics you think might be relevant to current and prospective club members.

Previous Topics: How strict? - Relationships - Loose Skin Redux - Multiple Centuries - April Fools! - What didn't work? - Milestones - Seasonal changes - Is it worth it? - Surprising Food Facts - Mistakes were made - Time to Vent - Relief Valves - Seeing Objectively - Tips you hate - Fear and Self-Loathing - Starting - 2020 recap

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Rhythms

I got to wondering about this a bit while on my run two days ago. My running shoes have sensor in them that track every footfall and record cadence, ground contact time and contact angle. This lets MapMyRun give me a notification when my form is degrading. Most usually, my cadence is too high which means I'm taking shorter, more frequent steps that are less efficient and increase the wear and tear on my joints and risk of injury.

Food intake is no different for me. I've settled into a regular cadence of three meals a day with possible small snacks between meals. This usually looks like a 400 kcal meal before noon, another 400-500 kcal meal around noon and 600-800 kcal around 7PM with 100-200 kcal snacks about 2 hours after each meal. This cadence works for me to help regulate my food intake and keep it relatively consistent. If I choose to create a deficit, I know I can keep the meals to 400 kcal or reduce the calories in some of the snacks. A 70 kcal orange instead of a 190 kcal Kind or protein bar.

However, that cadence probably not ideal for everyone, during weight loss or in maintenance.

It did lead me to wonder a bit if apps similar to MFP could look for these patterns and try to detect when your rhythm/pattern appears abnormal and just give you a slight nudge in the direction of what works for you. One challenge here is that it might be difficult to see the trends without good long-term historical data. For example, my daily weight is all over the map, but the trend in Happy Scale suggests that I've gained about 4 lbs in 6 months so that suggests I may be eating on average ~75 kcal/day more than maintenance. That's less than a 5% error on my part since my average TDEE including activity is > 2000 kcal. Map My Run is able to catch my cadence being off at the 1% level, but that's with ~5,000 footfalls per half hour run. Lots and lots of data, accumulated passively.

So my question to you today Centurion is: "What's the rhythm that keeps you going (be it in maintenance or for weight loss)?" Do you practice IF or are you a grazer eating lots of 200 kcal bundles throughout the day? Do you try to keep things consistent or do you deliberately calorie cycle on a weekly/monthly basis? Or do you find that consistency doesn't matter for you. Are there any tools and techniques you use to stay in rhythm?

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Happy National Nurses Day! 5 Reasons Why We Love Nurses

Nurses are superheroes. Whether you have a friend or family member who is a nurse or have experienced a nurse’s care and compassion first-hand during a hospital visit or stay, you know that nurses are amazing people. They deserve all the credit for how hard they work. Of course, now more than ever, the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic is testing nurses’ strength and willpower—often working them to the max. However, they continue to show tremendous resolve and deliver amazing care. Nutrisystem wants to show all nurses some love by celebrating their heroic work on National Nurses Day.

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In honor of National Nurses Day, we are sharing five of the many reasons why we love nurses:

1. Nurses Care—They Really Care

There are a lot of caring people in the world. However, there’s something special about people who go into “helping professions,” like nursing. These are people who are so passionate about helping others that they want to make an entire career out of it—and that’s noble. We think they rock for how much love they show their patients. Of course, nurses are there to not only provide their patients with comfort and help them through a range of emotions, but to also be there for patients’ families, too. If you’ve ever had a loved one in the hospital, then you know just how much you’ve relied on nurses for everything from translating what the doctor says to becoming your loved one’s support system when you’re not there.

2. They Keep Showing Up

Even when times are at their toughest, nurses keep showing up. They put a smile on their face for their patients, though they may go home and cry when their shift is over. Showing up again and again, even after a tough shift, has always been commendable. But in the face of COVID-19 it is downright heroic. They come to work every day to take their place on the frontlines and literally put their own lives at risk in the process. They spend their days in uncomfortable masks and face shields and other protective gear they can’t touch or remove. They suffer through that discomfort so that they can keep showing up, no matter how difficult it gets. Nurses are a constant in a sea of changing times. They deserve recognition not only today but every day for these efforts.

3. Nurses Bring Calm to Stressful Times

Do you ever notice how nurses are cool as a cucumber, even when everything seems to be falling apart? Even at the most stressful times, they remain calm, cool and collected. They’re a group that has “seen it all” and they are able to bring calmness to stressful situations as a result. This is really important in times of crisis. Nurses’ ability to stay calm and rational is so important to patients and their families who might be in one of the most stressful situations of their life. They hold it together when their patients cannot.

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4. They are Amazing Problem Solvers

Another one of the great attributes of nurses is the fact that they are fantastic problem solvers. They understand that no two patients are the same and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to nursing. They can adapt their skills to unforeseen circumstances and come up with solutions in the face of problems. Nurses are also quick responders. If something suddenly goes awry with a patient, they spring into action. Their quick-thinking nature and ability to overcome challenges can be the difference between life and death—and we commend them for that, not only today but every day!

5. They Never Give Up on Their Patients

Nurses believe in their patients. Whether battling an illness, coming out of a surgery, delivering a baby or going through another medical situation, it’s often a nurse that patients rely on most. It is a nurse’s comfort and care that gets people through the toughest times. They are there to hold your hand or smile, even if it is only with their eyes because their mouth is covered by a mask. Nurses give us hope, even when all hope seems lost.

For these things and more, we say thank you. Happy National Nurses Day to all of the nurses out there. We love you!

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People who gained all the weight back and then lost it again, how did you find the motivation and discipline, and forgive yourself?

In 2016, I reached 100 lbs lost. I was 19, still living at my parents house, and wasn't taking college courses. Basically, I made weight loss a full time job, and it worked.

When I got to college, I started to slip. Going out to eat too much. By my senior year, I had gained 30 lbs. Then I got into a relationship and started a corporate job soon after. I stress ate (which is my big problem), and the 70 lbs left came back really quickly.

Now I feel like garbage. I've been trying all throughout lockdown to lose weight, and while at one point I did manage to lose 28 lbs, I'm now +7 on the lockdown as a whole (once again sabatoging my own progress). I desperately want to lose the weight again. I hate being fat. I want the respect, health, & dating opportunities that come with fitness, but I can never seem to make any progress. And it certainly isn't helping that everytime I think back on my 2016 self I just feel like a massive idiot for letting myself go, even when I well knee the consequences of obesity, having had loved them.

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Tip: don't eat everything on your plate!

So, as a part of this whole weight loss thing I'm trying really hard to reset my relationship with food and eating. My family has always been fit and I was a healthy child until my bad relationship with food started as a teenager at boarding school, so I've been reflecting on that a bit and on my parents' lifestyle. I am currently trying to relearn a mealtime rule from my childhood, and I thought it might be interesting for a few others here.

When I was a kid, we were explicitly told not to finish everything on our plate. I think the original idea is based in politeness, like if you clean the plate then it implies you weren't fed well enough. I know that's not the common experience!

Basically: We were encouraged to eat half the serving on the plate and then stop for a drink, and check to see if we were still hungry. If we were, we ate more. The end goal was that we would always leave something on the plate, be it half a meal or a single pea. If we were extra hungry from sport or whatever, we could ask for a bit more - but any extra was served in a few bites worth, not another serving of dinner. We had to keep asking for more if we were still hungry.

I've recently started enforcing my mum's dinner rules with myself, and it's been positive so far.

• If I know that something needs be on the plate at the end of my meal, I need to be constantly aware of the food leaving my plate as I eat it, rather than shoveling it in mindlessly as I did for YEARS. I swear, sometimes I didn't even remember eating!
• I also try to be aware of my own hunger and satiety as I eat so that I can make a conscious, informed decision about when to stop eating.
• If I do come to the end of the food and am still hungry, I only serve myself extras in the TINIEST amounts, a couple of mouthfuls at a time. The effort of to get up and walk to the kitchen multiple times for another taste of food is usually not worth it.

This is helping me a bit because I really struggle with portion sizes and eating for the sake of eating, so I really hope that it can help others too!

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