Hi all! Using a throwaway for this one.
Friend and I are two big ladies (though when we met 4 years ago I was the thinnest I’ve ever been, working on getting back to that point). Earlier this year we got together and talked about our bodies and health, and we decided that it’s finally time to take this shit seriously and lose the weight! We promised to be “accountability buddies” so to speak. We discussed this at length. It was a long, emotional talk. Basically we said we’d be there for each other, encourage each other to make good choices, and be there if the other ever wanted to talk about boring things our other friends didn’t wanna hear (calories, fitbit steps, etc.)
I’ve been doing well and I’m proud as hell that I am nearly 30 pounds down! I can barely see the difference in myself (I’m sure a lot of you know that struggle), so when my friends and family let me know that my hard work is noticeably paying off, it feels INCREDIBLE.
You’d think my accountability buddy would be my biggest cheerleader, but this is not the case. She gave up on her journey a couple days in, and now avoids health/weight related conversations at all costs (I noticed this and stopped trying, I don’t want to be a bother). She is the only person in my life that hasn’t mentioned the weight loss at all, and it hurts because she’s the one person who knows how hard I’ve been working and how badly I want this. If anyone compliments me, she goes silent or leaves the room.
We used to give each other random compliments (i.e. your ass looks fantastic today, that outfit makes you look so slim) and that stopped coming from her too.
Now I KNOW I don’t need an accountability buddy, or compliments to be successful. I am in this for me. I just thought my best friend, who promised to encourage me on my journey, would be happier for me.
Sorry, this is mostly a venting post. But has anyone else ever experienced anything like this?
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