At wits end with myself

Battling with my weight my whole life and now I feel I have to make a decision. Soon as I am getting older into my 30s I know my weight is going to start causing a lot of sickness within me. I have high blood pressure and I am certain diabetes and cholesterol problems etc are around the corner. For the record I am 200kg, going up and down as I try to lose the weight and then relapse to put it back on. I have tried many diets including calorie counting and I can't stick with any of it.

The problem I'm facing is that food is my saviour, my release, my drug. Whenever I go long without junk food I cave in and binge. If I try to work in junk food here and there (so you know, moderation) I end up abusing it and binging again. Swearing never to have junk food again does the same thing in the end I binge. I work with a doctor and psychologist to tackle my relationship with food but it feels like I'm getting nowhere.

Now I feel like I have to resort to weight loss extremes to save myself, prescription weight loss pills and/or weight loss surgery. Before you tell me to re consider just know that I have thought it through. I would much rather take a weight loss Tablet for the rest of my life and save myself rather than sitting around trying to deal and manage my blood sugar with diabetes and aching bones and body. I would much rather take the chance at weight loss surgery and risk potentially dying on the operating table and risk having complications from it than carry on with what I'm doing now and into the future when my weight has severely crippled my health and wait as I die slowly and painfully.

I have thought it all out, I don't see myself getting better any time soon with the way things are going now. I just want to try and save myself when I can before things get extremely bad.

Well anyway thanks for hearing me out I just wanted to get this off my chest

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Wednesday, 17 October 2018? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
• Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
• FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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I lost 200 pounds.

36/F HW 440 CW 240 GW ???

I reached this milestone several days ago. It didn't feel much different than 175 or 195 or even 100 so I wasn't even sure I would make a post. I didn't even do anything to celebrate. I wasn't even excited enough to use an exclamation point in the title. But people are following my progress here, and I always hope to inspire someone by sharing. (I didn't expect to write so much; apologies for the length).

Some recent life progresses and improvements since escaping super morbid obesity: I started a volunteer job with the Red Cross. I'm thrilled to be helping with Blood Services as it is another way to honor my Dad (who died of leukemia). I have not held a job out of my home for several years. So, huge NSV! I also booked (a kind) of dream trip to Eastern Europe during Christmas (this has been a long-held dream for nearly 20 years). I am also renovating my room (it has been a depressing and derelict space for the past seven years I have lived here - you'll see my new room in my next progress pic).

As I continue on my journey, I realize more and more it really isn't about food. It is about pain; it is about healing. If anything, my journey has been a psychological one. Food really feels incidental at this point. I had to deal with pain I had been suppressing (by eating it away) for DECADES. I had to learn to emotionally cope without overeating and bingeing. I had to feel. I had to allow myself to feel. I had to stop the cycle of self-abuse - the physical, emotional, and psychological abuse I had been heaping upon myself, again, for decades. Currently, I'm working on forgiving myself for disfiguring my body. As I notice more and more sagging skin (my inner thighs are getting bad now), it has been difficult to not feel bitter and regretful. Forgiving myself and forgiving people who have abused and harmed me have been an important part of my healing.

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A bit on my "diet" (mostly generalizations, but I hope it's helpful anyway):

• When I started again, I decided no more quick fixes, no more fad diets, no more "do the latest craze that produces the fastest results." Those fast results are usually good motivators but I knew it would eventually fail, like the previous attempts. I just couldn't manage to stick with them for more than a few months, at most. I needed something sustainable for *me.* If I wanted to lose weight permanently, I knew my eating habits needed to change permanently too. So I decided I'm not restricting myself (like those diets required) again. Severe restrictions just led me to eventually binge. I didn't want to eat off a list. I didn't want to Google "acceptable foods on the xyz diet" before I went grocery shopping. I thought, "I will discover a healthy way of eating that I enjoy and that doesn't feel punishing, that doesn't have a laundry list of "forbidden food," and that doesn't send me into a panic when my food environment is out of my control." I wanted to eat fruit. Fruit is healthy. There's no earthly reason not to have a piece of damn fruit if I'm hungry. Plenty of healthy people eat fruit. And yogurt. And other healthy carbs I enjoyed eating already. I wanted my "forbidden" food list to be as short as possible. I knew I could learn portion control. I knew I could learn balance. I knew I could learn my binge triggers. So after some trial and error (and cumulatively, that took several months), I developed a new healthy way of eating that I enjoyed, that is varied enough so I don't get bored, and isn't overly restrictive. But is it restrictive? Of course, a calorie deficit is necessary to lose weight. But instead of being restrictive with the type of food, I'm restrictive with the portions instead. This is much more tolerable for me. There is only one food that is on my forbidden list: fast food. I learned early on that fast food triggers my cravings immensely and for literally everything. It took a while for me to learn what will trigger binges and cravings for me. I have found there are both physical and emotional binge triggers. Certain amounts of food and even certain intervals of food, stress, emotions, and boredom are all binge triggers for me. I learned too much *added* sugar will trigger cravings for more sugar. I learned after a day of "relaxed eating" (a cheat day, if you will - the interval that works for me is every ten days or so), I MUST eat healthy the very next day, or I will risk a snowball of falling back into unhealthy habits. I had a day of relaxed eating last month (it was my birthday and yes, I had cake), and boy howdy, did I have a perfectly well-balanced day of healthy eating the very next day. I used to celebrate my birthday by a week-long binge of any and everything I wanted. One year, I ate a two pound rum cake in one sitting. I have now realized that abusing my body with food is no way to celebrate. This year, I celebrated my birthday with a 1.5 hour walk through botanical gardens. Now that was a way to celebrate. Part of my mantra of my journey is "be kind to your body."
• I'm very confident I won't have any trouble eating this way every day for the rest of my life. I have lost tons of weight, and I've stuck with it for longer than I have with anything else. It'll be a year soon since re-starting (note: I lost and gained varying amounts of weight during the past three years doing the fad diets and was not 440 when I re-started. I have *NOT* lost 200 pounds in less than a year). Do I have slip-ups? Yep, sure do. But I don't panic. I don't starve myself the next day or exercise for two extra hours. Instead, I tell myself I'm human, imperfect, and my body deserves better than whatever junk I happened to put in it during that slip-up. And I go back to my well-balanced, healthy eating. Consistency is *very* important. I have had plenty of slip-up days, but I've had substantially more healthy eating days. I also no longer view food as "good" or "bad." I'm working on repairing my relationship with food, and I can't do that if food is an enemy.
• I always tell people: if you can't envision yourself eating your new "diet" EVERY DAY for the rest of your life, there is a good chance it is not a sustainable way of eating for you. That's what it takes for diets to work long-term. If you go back to what you were eating before, you will regain the weight. If you dream of one day, finally getting to eat carbs or whatever again, then you're probably going to gain the weight back. Your diet isn't a prison; You shouldn't dream of being free of it one day. Find something that's effective yet still has some enjoyment. If you are feeling misery and deprivation with what you are trying, ditch it and try something else. Your new diet shouldn't induce panic, high levels of stress, or a crazy amount of worry, in any situation. You shouldn't have to work your life around your diet. It should be incorporated into your life without major disruptions. Don't force yourself to eat things you don't enjoy and don't deprive yourself of things you love. Learn balance and moderation.
• A quick note on food addiction: I have struggled with a bad sugar addiction. I have to be careful with sugar now. I had to learn my thresholds for it; I had to learn intervals and amounts where I risk triggering a binge. But I don't completely abstain because I enjoy it and can't bear a life without the occasional donut (and no thanks, I don't want a keto donut). I just had to learn how to manage my addiction to it. I absolutely understand that some people can't manage it, even a little bit, and it is necessary to eliminate it. You may be one of those people. It is our burden as food addicts to learn our thresholds for certain foods. I learned I *can* manage it, so I'm going to continue to enjoy it in moderation.
• I know this all fairly general, and people want to be told EXACTLY what to eat, and when, and how much. But it isn't as simple as that. I can't tell you what to eat. I don't know your likes and dislikes. I don't know your lifestyle. I don't know your environment. What I do may spectacularly fail for you.
• I *do* count calories. I *do* exercise. I think both are very important for me to finish my journey and settle into being a successful maintainer. I did not count calories the first few months when I was in my trial and error phase. I still lost weight because I was making better choices, even while figuring out what worked best for me. I HIGHLY recommend keeping a food diary, as this was how I learned my binge triggers and necessary intervals and amounts of occasional indulgences. Yes, even log your binges. Log everything. Study it. Look for patterns.

I am living, breathing proof this can be done without any kind of medical intervention. There is hope for all of the super morbidly obese, even those who are completely and utterly alone, like I am. Three years ago, I was the 400+ pound woman who only went out to go through drive-thrus and spent 23 out of 24 hours of the day in bed with absolutely no human interaction. Nearly everything about that life has changed now. I really feel like I've taken the hardest route possibly, without any kind of therapy (which I will readily admit I do need) or surgical procedures. It is hard, but not impossible.

TLDR: I lost 200 pounds (without surgery). I'm feeling things instead of eating them away; I'm healing from past trauma. I eat a well-balanced and healthy diet. I do count calories and exercise. I do have occasional indulgences. A diet that is working for other people might not work for you. Find a healthy way of eating that works for you and your life. Use trial and error to learn what healthy habits you can permanently adapt into your lifestyle. Learn your triggers and learn to manage your addictions. Sometimes, complete abstinence from certain foods will be necessary. Sustainability is hugely important for successful, long-term weight loss.

I truly wish everyone success and peace in their journeys. Thanks for following mine, and I'll see you again at 220!

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If you want to read more about the psychological side of my journey, there is more about it in my comment history. It is not terribly easy to write about as it is intensely personal.

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Oh, the progress pics. I have taken a lot, at different stages. I have kept nearly all of the various clothes in my "before" pics.https://imgur.com/a/X6OAJvB

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[Daily Directory] Find your quests for the day here! - Wednesday, 17 October 2018

Welcome adventurer! Whether you're new on this quest or are towards the end of your journey there should be something below for you.

Daily journal.

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I'm super wet and I can't deal. Advice?

Sort of tricked you, I'm sorry... not really. Okay... I feel like I excessively sweat when I'm warm. It's terrible. Normally I'm fine, but when I get going I'm just soaked. It's really gross. It's also super frustrating. I went to Disney World recently on my first vacation with my boyfriend and his family. Trying to figure out what to wear, knowing what's about to happen is nerve wracking. No point in wearing makeup. Cant wear anything cute. Even my hair gets wet...

It's bad enough that it's some of the reason why I choose not to work out. It's a hassle to feel like I need to wash my hair (which is long). I feel like it's just a super annoying thing in my life. I've talked to it with my doctor who ran a few blood tests, said everything looks normal outside of me being overweight.

Would losing weight help with this? How do my other sweaty breathren deal? Gals with long hair, how do you work out daily and not have to wash your hair everyday? I know weight loss is 80% diet, but I would really like to feel okay exercising.

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How do you regain your motivation

since July I am down just over 45lbs, in the beginning I was losing weight as I was pursuing a job that required me to be in good physical condition. I tracked calories very carefully and ate almost nothing but meat and veggies everyday. at the time I was also jogging anywhere from 1-3 miles a day, but since then the job has fallen through and my weight loss has slowed down drastically I was easily losing 2lbs a week before and now I’ve slowed down to maybe .5lbs a week if that. People still make comments about how skinny I’ve gotten and such but the “cheat days” are so much more common for seemingly no reason other than that it couldn’t hurt too bad right? and I find it much harder to go out and run, my real question is how do you light the fire again? What could I change? what do you recommend?

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I have a weird bellybutton, will toning help?

Not surely best to write that title, sorry if it's a weird one!

I'm still on my weight loss journey, I've been yoyoing for years, but seem to hover the most around about 82kgs (33yo F 5.8") My highest recently was around 87kgs, after putting on a lot of post wedding weight.
I'm also a belly dancer, and get my belly out more often than the average person, to perform. (Often along side quite slender people).

An all time low, when my self esteem and metal health was already in a bad place, was when I performed a few months ago, and could literally see the audience looking at my younger, hotter friend dancing, and then got edited out of a photo so that my younger hotter friend could be edited back into it in my place, so that she was in the same image twice. Any way, that definitely helped kick start me into getting real again, and I've lost around 8kgs (17 pounds I think). Not at my goal weight, but feeling a bit better about myself.

One thing that I've had for almost as long as I can remember, is a funny bellybutton.
I have a puffy area of fat sitting above and below my bellybutton, which kind pushes it sideways. (Pic down bottom)

It's been like that for years, since I can remember noticing it, and even when I've lost weight and been at my slimmest (still not my goal weight though), it has stayed like that.
It makes me look so much larger than I am, and makes me feel gross in a way that I can't articulate without being rude or saying things that make me feel worse 😆 I know a lot of dancers who are same size, or bigger than I, who still have a nice, normal bellybutton and it helps them look smaller.

It is one is the things that I'm most self conscious about, and I hate it so much. If I didn't get my stomach out so much, maybe it wouldn't bother me as much as it does.

Is there anything I can do to help charge it, and it look like a normal or upright bellybutton? Or am I stuck with it forever?

[http://imgur.com/a/swhu5gL](here's my bellybutton)

Thanks :)

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