My friend is unsupportive of my weight loss. I let her peer pressure me into eating like shit.

A year ago I was overweight and my closest friend was thin and athletic. When our city went into lockdown she left the state and we didn’t see each other for nine months.

I took lockdown as an opportunity to better myself in all areas of my life. I transferred university courses, started saving, learned to drive, and started exercising more and eating better. I’ve lost 9kg (not much, I know, but I’m now at a ‘healthy’ bmi!!) and have a great diet and exercise routine that makes me feel energetic and satisfied. I’m hoping to lose another 3kg.

Lockdown ended and my friend came back. She had gained a significant amount of weight during the lockdown. I harbour no judgement towards her, it would have been super easy to gain weight during the lockdown and I was just glad to have her back. She still looked drop dead gorgeous, as she always had. I never mentioned how her body had changed, nor did I mention how mine had.

However, I’ve sensed a lot of hostility from her since she’s been back. She’s never complimented or even commented on my progress in a positive way. She constantly criticises herself and her weight. She makes comments about how I would fit into her old clothes better than she would now. It makes me feel ashamed of my achievements when I should be allowed to feel proud!

We used to go out to eat dessert foods a lot together. The other day she asked to go to one of our regular spots and I was super keen to hang out so I agreed even though eating there didn’t fit into my meal plan for the day. I was planning to just get a drink. Another friend came along and was ordering food, so it wasn’t like she would have been eating alone, but when I told her I wasn’t going to eat she threw a bit of a tantrum. She said it was ‘our thing’, asked why I even came if I wasn’t going to eat, and said that I had changed. I felt really guilty and embarrassed so I agreed to share some food with her. She accepted and didn’t say another word about it. I went way over my calories for the day.

The whole interaction made me feel shitty. It made me feel upset with her and with myself. I don’t know how to appease her without sacrificing what I have worked so hard to achieve. I know this isn’t a super uncommon situation, and I was wondering if anyone had some advice.

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Lost 120 lbs, gained back 150 lbs. Now I'm here.

Hi all. You don't need to read this post, honestly. It's just something I need to do right now because at least at the start I feel that I need to at least be able to tell myself that I am being held accountable by something external.

Years ago I was a regular here, under a different username, and with the amazing support from this community I lost 120 lbs over the course of a year (from 300-180). For the ~6 months that I was under 200 lbs, I was as happy as I have ever been in my life.

After a bad breakup, job troubles, and a few other poorly timed incidents I just kind of gave up and over the course of the next 4 and a half years I gained back everything I lost plus an extra 30 lbs to my highest weight ever at 330 lbs. While I have put in a few short stints of effort to lose weight during that time when I felt motivated, I have not yet truly dedicated myself to it in the ways that I know work for me. The most important thing I learned the first time around to have success in weight loss is not to find motivation in everything I do; it is to work through the times I am without motivation, regardless of how hard it might be, or how many times I have to pick myself back up after making a mistake.

Now, I say that I am done. I am done with the self sabotage, the "I'll start tomorrow/when I'm feeling better", and the "who cares" attitude. I know that those problems won't just magically disappear, and I WILL face them going forward; but I am done letting them be in control. I've done this before, and I can do it again; in fact, I know even more about myself and what works for me going into it this time.

What works for me (this is absolutely not advice, as everyone will face different challenges and find solutions that work best for them):

- I am competitive. If I have to hit 15,000 steps to beat someone else at a meaningless challenge with no reward, you know damn well I will be taking my dog for a jog at 11:30 pm to get those last few steps no matter how much my darker side tells me not to.

- I am data-driven. When I was most successful last time, I was tracking every tiny tidbit of information I could collect and analyzing it in spreadsheets with predictive algorithms to give me possible timelines of my future progress dependent on staying consistent. I have reworked my sheet and am already feeling myself devoted to maintaining it - and in doing so, myself - to the best of my ability.

- I am really, REALLY stubborn, and will constantly work against my own best interests. Due to this, I often just have to tell those close to me, even those who have good intentions, to leave me alone and that they are doing more harm than good. One of my biggest flaws is that I will do almost anything just to not do what someone else thinks is best for me; so when a close friend or family member tries to give me advice, I have to recognize the flaw in myself and quickly shut it down with a flat no, even if I have to be a little rude. This is the thing that I feel I have most improved on from last time.

So all in all what I am trying to say is, look out, next r/loseit Challenge, I'm coming for you. And if you read all the way through this, congrats? I don't know, but I hope you had a good time I guess.

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STAHM Needs some motivational tips to get my weight loss going

So i'm currently 5'5" and 188lbs. None of that is "Fit Fat". I have birthed 4 children oldest being 18 and my youngest being 4 months old. I use to have this amazing will power to get whatever it is done including losing my baby fat. I was never a fitness queen or anything but my average weight was around 145lbs and it fit me. All of my issues stem from eating unhealthy no exercising etc.etc Well the baby probably adds to the little bit of tiredness. She has GI Issues so i'm usually holding her/comforting her etc most of my waking hours. But long story short....i have always been more motivated by hearing inspirational stories of women dealing with my same set backs habits..doing it/succeeding. So can i get some inspiration. Some tips on how to get my weight loss started? PS I previously did IF but cant seem to go an hour eating something :/

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Sometimes not having a goal is the only way to achieve it, lol

Hi all,

I've been quite overweight for a few years now. I've tried various diets, workout regimes and goal setting extravaganzas but I've only ever stuck to any of them for about a week before giving up and going back to normal. So, after the 20th or so attempt I decided to stop trying to lose weight. It took some getting used to but I've managed to stop weighing myself every day and barely think about weight any more. The goals now are to eat less sugar (down from a big sugar thing every day to a teeny sugar thing once or twice a week) and move more. Moving more is walking goals. Am currently doing an hour walk 4-6 times a week. These two things are just.. my life now, not until I lose weight, weight is irrelevant, I just avoid sugar and walk lots, just cus.

Saw my scale in the bathroom today stuffed down the side of the bath, decided to give the old girl a whirly whirl and found out I've lost nearly a stone :D I had no idea! Haven't weighed myself in months but last time I did I was nearly a stone heavier.

Not framing it as a weight loss goal, but more just ...this is what we do now - seems to have successfully bypassed my brains immensely skilled ways of convincing me to get fatter and lazier forever. So, yay :D

Anywho, should probably sleep. Have a great day all, keep being awesome <3

Edit: just realised I forgot to put my weights, last time I checked before today was a couple of months or so ago and I was 252 pounds, today I'm 238. Whoop. :D

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Frustrated about no weight loss

So, I’m sorry if this has been said before, I’m sure it has. I’ve been logging everything I eat, making sure to say under the calorie count MFP gives me. It caps me at 1200 and I usually finish the day around 1000-1100. I have been doing this hard core for about a month now. I also started running, just doing the runtracker app and C25K. That’s been about two weeks now. I weighted myself today and I’m the exact same as I was a month ago. I’m 6’1”M 246lbs.

I’ll just say, it’s so frustrating not seeing any difference on the scale. I’ve cut out all sugars (I’m T1D so if I have low blood sugar I’ll eat something small like fruit or a little bit of OJ) and have cut 90% of carbs from life.

I guess it’s just de-motivating to feel like I’m doing really good and my runs are going well, even if my calves burn... and just not see any change at all in my weight. Any advise would be super helpful.

Edit: I have not lost 30lbs. I do not know why my flair says that.

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I saw my abs for the first time in my life today!

My entire life I have been chunky and out of shape. I was always given trouble by my P.E. teachers and got bad grades because I struggled to keep up. A few things motivated me to start losing weight and working out about 8 months ago. The stars aligned, you could say. My family had a weight loss bet, my insurance sent me a scale that sent my weight to an app every day (with a live human keeping touch with me on my progress) and sent me reminders if I didn't do it and I also had to record what I was eating. These factors helped me make it into a habit and allowed me to shed 40 pounds.

I was feeling a bit discouraged last week because the stubborn fat on my stomach is clinging for dear life and I have been pushing to have a six pack by doing 100 crunches daily and sets of leg raises, but then today, I saw a glimpse of them while changing in the bathroom. I quickly grabbed my phone to use the camera, laid on my back and flexed as hard as I could and I saw them! There was a distinct line down the center of my stomach and a vague outline of where they're forming. I'm just excited as all hell for it.

Don't give up. Even when it seems like it's not doing anything. It is. You're still making progress. Weight loss never happens as fast as we want it to, but we got this!

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One year, 88lbs down and a whole new lease on life

Male, 31, 5'11 SW:265 CW:177 GW170ish

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Hi All,

I've been coming here since day one and have learned so much from everyone on this sub. Reading both success and failure posts, as well as the encouraging and insightful comments from others really helped to keep me on track and understand the weight loss process. I don't think I'd at this point without this sub.

My journey starts with getting sober, which today is my one year anniversary of that. In addition to quitting alcohol, I made the decision that I had to get healthy both mentally and physically, and that meant losing weight and getting in shape. I started with coming to this sub and after a few days of doing some research here, I found that CICO and IF were the tools I would use. Granted, I lost about 30lbs in a month just from cutting out booze, but the loss continued even after that huge first drop. It definitely become harder as the booze weight fell off, but that's when people's advice and guidance on this sub really came to help me. I'll be the first to admit that I was probably a bit over eager to lose weight and looking back I would probably scale my deficits a bit. There were several hard weeks and months, many plateaus and many times that things felt hopeless. I've learned that patience is key, above everything else. Patience with the rate of loss, patience with yourself and patience with your body are all extremely hard notions to put into action, but they are essential to making this work for the long term. I still want to lose about ~10 more pounds. Frankly I haven't lost much since November, just about 5lbs, but I'm perfectly okay with that. I lost so much weight so fast that slowing down and losing at a more natural pace will be the smart thing to do.

I think most of us already know what it takes to lose weight, so I won't go into huge details, but feel free to ask me. The gist of it is CICO, very strict CICO, especially in the begging. I also did IF for about the first six months, which was helpful in regulating my hunger.

My diet consisted, and still does for the most part, of healthy grains, lean proteins and tons of vegetables. I don't eat a lot of fruit and my sweet tooth never went away, so I allow myself fill those cravings but I try to keep it limited to good dark chocolate, low sugar/low cal cereal or some flavored greek yogurt. I do allow myself some cookies or other treats(addicted to Hi-Chews) on certain days, but I try very hard to limit to single portions, no more than the allotted amount. But I would be remiss if I didn't say that I've had plenty of days where I flubbed that rule. This journey has not been perfect and it's been difficult to not get down on myself. I set very high expectations and I've had to learn (continuing to learn) that if I screw up on a day or even a week, I just need to brush it off and get back on track. There's no need to beat myself up.

As for exercise, I only walked for the first four/five months. In June, I finally took the plunge and started running. I choose running because it was the thing I hated most growing up. At first, I could barely make one lap around the grassy area of my local park and I was extremely embarrassed and self-conscious, I felt like everyone was staring at me, but I just kept coming back and coming back. I started with C25K and within about a month I was running 5K in like 40 minutes three or four times a week. Fast forward to today and I'm up to 45ish miles per week and have a 5K PB of sub-24 minutes. I've run half marathon distance several times and have capped out at a 16 mile run recently. My goal is to do marathons once they come back. Running has become my absolute favorite thing to do, it has filled a void. there's no way I could've imagined typing those words a year ago. I detested running. I don't say any of this to boast, I'm still slow as shit compared to a lot runners. The point here is that you can do it if you really desire it and you stay consistent. I suppose that's also the main key with weight loss, as well.

This has been a helluva year. If anyone out there is struggling, just know that it can be done. Keep coming back to this sub and don't give up on yourself!

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