Why can't people be supportive

Sorry if this isn't allowed I'm just feeling very frustrated. So I've been in a calorie deficit for a little over a month and lost about 6 pounds so far which I know isn't much and you obviously cannot see any difference but I feel a difference. I feel better and lighter and more energetic which I realize is mental due to eating better quality foods and cutting down on sugar intake.

What makes me feel so unmotivated is the people in my life. My girlfriend is supportive but she's been thin her entire life and doesn't necessarily understand why this is so important to me. She also knows I've struggled with restricting before so I think she really tries to make sure I'm not falling back into unhealthy habits. At the same time though she understands that I want to be healthier and feel better about myself so she wants me to do this for me.

She doesn't really have much to say when I try to talk about anything having to do with weight loss. She rolls her eyes and shoots me a look when I say that I can't have as much ice cream as I had wanted because I don't have the calories left. My close friends also think that because their own mental health is so fragile that any time I even mention weight I must be slipping back. I mentioned that the macro app I use asks for a weigh in at the end of each week and they promptly freaked out on me and told me calorie counting kills. Which is just absolutely insane. What's going to kill me is pretending it's normal to consume 2.5k+ calories in one sitting at 10 pm. What's going to kill me is pretending that my weight isn't an issue and doesn't bother me and there's nothing I can do about it because I have a history of ED. What's going to kill me is replacing a restrictive ED with a binging ED. Especially considering I've been trying to eat healthier for the last 6 months and have only gained weight because I haven't been counting calories and have been eating far too much of the wrong things.

I'm annoyed that all they hear when I mention it is that I'm slipping back into old ways and trying to wither away. I'm doing cardio 4 days a week I'm eating a solid 1500 calories a day which puts me at a 400 calorie deficit per day. Absolutely nothing extreme and I don't feel restricted in my diet. I eat (significantly) smaller portions of sweets everyday while also eating foods that fulfill me and are good for me. It's just so disheartening to be told I'm slipping back into unhealthy habits when I feel better more consistently than I have in years. I haven't had anyone to even celebrate the 6 pound loss with either. It isn't much but I'm proud of myself and I should be allowed to be.

Anyway if you've actually read this far, thank you. Again sorry if this isn't allowed I just have nobody in my life I can talk to about this and I'm unbelievably tired.

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75 Pounds in 4.5 months!

I started at 260 at the end of May and hit 185 today. My goal right now is 165 (I'm a 5'11" man with very little muscle), so I'm almost done. Once I hit that goal, I'll start lifting weights and will increase my daily caloric allotment. I envision myself ending up around 180 after I put on some muscle.

Honestly, although it's certainly taken a lot of will power and determination to do this, the suffering has been minimal and it hasn't been nearly as psychologically challenging as I thought it would be. My approach is based purely on counting calories, which leads me to prioritize foods that are high in protein and fiber so that I get the most "bang for my buck." I end up having two meals a day plus either zero or one small snack. I also avoid artificial sweeteners. That's it! I started out having about 1,500 calories a day and have lowered that number over time in order to keep my rate of weight loss consistent. At this point I'm having about 900-1,000 per day, which enables me to lose weight at a rate of about 1 pound every 2-3 days. I won't be going any lower than that, so I imagine that the weight loss will slow down a bit during this final stage.

Every week or two I have a "cheat day," where I basically eat whatever I want. I don't binge, but I'll go out to dinner or order delivery or make pizza (my most recent effort). I don't drink alcohol, and other than artificial sweetener-free seltzers that have 15 calories or less, the only calories I ever drink are from fat free milk. I take a high quality multivitamin every day and drink lots and lots of water. I take about 3 miles worth of steps every day (a few walks with my dog plus running around with my baby all day) but don't get any other exercise (other than sex).

This approach has been highly effective for me. I don't feel like I'm depriving myself because the calorie counting approach enables me to feel like I'm "cheating" all the time, since I'm able to eat yummy things as long as I stay under my daily caloric allocation. For example, I have a PB&J with a glass of milk a few times a week because I use multigrain bread that has only 60 calories per slice and use jam with minimal sugar added. Last night I had a cheese quesadilla filled with shishito peppers from my garden and I dipped it in salsa and a seasoned yogurt sauce. It honestly don't even feel like I'm on a diet.

The risk of doing something like this is that it's unsustainable for many people. However, I don't believe that this will be a problem for me. I've learned the valuable lesson that I can be happy despite eating much less food than before, and that low calorie, nutritious foods can cause just as much of a dopamine release as junk food. Once I'm in my maintenance phase I'll continue having a bare bones meal in the day but I'll have a more regular dinner and will allow myself a snack or two. I'll tweak as needed, depending on how the weigh lifting affects things. Most importantly, I have learned that I feel SO MUCH BETTER when I am at a healthy weight, and I could never entertain the idea of becoming overweight again.

So, I just wanted to share this personal success and offer one possible route to successful weight loss for others out there. Keep it up, everyone!

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Cutting but not losing??

F/17/148lb/5’3

So basically I've been cutting for 5 weeks, and haven't lost anything but maybe 1lb, if that. I'm eating in a pretty large deficit of about 600 calories because I want to bulk soon. My maintenance is around 2000-2100. I lift 5x a week, and eat 100-120g of protein, sometimes more, and weigh my foods. I walk daily as well. Any ideas?? I've looked through others posts but they haven't helped me. I'm aware that weight loss can be different for women cuz of hormones etc, but I feel like I should definitely see some results by now…

I've decided to add some more cardio to burn an extra 100-200 calories. I highly doubt that I've plateaued or anything since I haven't even lost weight 🤷‍♀️. I do fluctuate between 149, 148, and 147. I haven't seen my weight any lower than that lol. Anyways tips are appreciated :)

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Anniversary meal

Hi all,

I am about 40 days in to my weight loss journey.

I have lost approx 25 pounds, I have a massive journey ahead of me (currently weighing 390lbs).

I have stuck to my calorie intake for the past 40 days however it's my anniversary soon. My husband wants to go out to a nice restaurant (non chain so no calorie information available).

I'm really worried about it as A) I can't track the calories exactly B) unsure how to estimate it C) worried if I have one meal off it will make me get off the bandwagon

just looking for a bit of advice really on how to deal with these situations.

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Is it possible my muscle gain is replacing the fat loss on the scale?

6 years ago I lost 85 pounds in 8 months (296 to 212) through walking and ketogenic diet. I'm 5'10.

Through 2020 I got into strength training (at home) but cycled keto here and there, walked a ton and eventually ran a little. By the end of 2021 I was the fittest I've ever been but still not down to my 8-month keto weight loss. I sat comfortably at 220. Life did it's THING in 2022-2023, I gained about 50 pounds of it back by the beginning 2024. This year, I got back into my habits slowly and now I'm in a great routine of strength training 45 min 6 days a week + walking everyday for 2-3 miles.

I started tracking my caloric intake last month (my TDEE calc has maintenance at 2690 and I eat 1600-1700/day), but I'm not keto so I'm not used to seeing the scale move this slow. However, I've also never trained in a full gym so I'm lifting heavier than before and I can see the gains. I'm also now watching my protein the way I used to watch my carbs.

I know the scale is not the only measure of weight loss but I'm still wrapping my mind around how I could be working out so much, calorie counting, and seeing relatively small changes on the scale. Is it possible it's muscle?

I'm not going to stop, I know this is a slow and steady game. I'm just stoked to be "back" mentally and looking for insight from a non ketogenic macro perspective. Any insight or advice from your experiences would be great to hear!

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50lbs down 44 to go 10 months.

In January I M(27) was the heaviest I'd ever been 294 lbs. I'd already been on blood pressure medication for 2 years and while at my yearly physical in January, my doctor and I were discussing weight loss. I work a blue collar job and I'm very active through that but ate like shit. I also ate my feelings. After talking to my doctor we decided to use an appetite suppressant, phentermine, and to go to a nutritionist. I've decided to eat a Mediterranean diet since I actually love sea food, lentils, and veggies. I was strict at first to a point that my pallet has changed so that even diet soda is too sweet for me. No more beer, occasional wine and lots of fruit, now I'll occasionally have some ice cream but can't eat too much because it gets too sweet. The first few months went really quick 10 lbs in the first month, then another 15 the second.

Eventually the appetite suppressant wasn't as effective but I had made my new diet such a habit the weight loss kept on progress rather than plateau. I've been off phentermine since June, but I'm still losing 1.5-3 lbs per week, depending how busy work is. I've been inspired to hit the gym since I have more energy through the day now and I'm way less sore. Taking it easy as I get into working out again, mainly working on technique and form with a trainer and I've also had some great fall walks to enjoy the foliage. My back pain isn't as severe, my feet and knees less sore, and my sleep has improved. Still on blood pressure medication but hopefully will be off it by the start of 2025.

I started this not to look better but to FEEL better. If I'm honest, looks wise I carried it very well I think if someone saw me then they'd know I was overweight but not that I was pushing 300 lbs. I was, and still am, more confident in my looks than I was when I weighed 195 my freshman year of college. The better sleep, energy, and pain relief has been incredible. My goal is to be around 200lbs which with my height is still overweight BMI wise but as I incorporate the gym more and develop it into a habit, I'm hoping my work will be easier and I feel like it'd put me at a healthy 200lbs.

I guess my point is in posting this is that taking this on with the help of my doctor, nutritionist has been my best attempt. Going at this as a lifestyle change and creating healthy habits, has been incredible, plus seeing that scale go down so quickly at the beginning due to the appetite suppressant helped keep that motivation. Its worth the challenge, just stick with it and if you have access to a doctor that can help you take advantage of that. Your body will thank you.

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Calorie deficit is confusing.

My maintenance is around 1500 calories, and I’ve been trying different calorie goals to lose the weight. I started at 1200, but was Informed that was wayyy too low, so I bumped It up to 1300. (even tho i’m risking slower weight loss progress.) then i heard 1300 Is still too low. so I went with 1400, and now that’s way too high for me!! and that’s still not enough calories for the people in TikTok. I’m sacrificing faster progress for my health. I don’t work out much, so I mostly rely on dieting. How am I supposed to stay in a deficit without going too low?

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