It's important to not only share weight loss advice but also ask for the other person's input.

Kind of a long story

So when I saw one of my friend's dads after losing 20 lbs, he told me he was also losing weight, which is great. However the whole time we were talking he was kind of just lecturing me about weight loss and not really asking my input or what I thought. Now the thing with my friend's dad is, he kind of thinks he's an expert on everything and has all the answers, no matter the issue. He's a businessman so he was all like "oh I know the best weight loss product, the best protein shake, I have a client who's a personal trainer, I'll give you his number" etc etc.

I get that he was trying to help, and I appreciate that, but like it really came off as a bit condescending. His advice wasn't the best either, he would say that lifting is bad for weight loss and that I should eat every three hours (which no, lifting burns calories and preserves muscle, and eating every 3 hours would keep my insulin high all day). He kind of came off as one of those weight loss gurus who tell you everything you know is wrong and you have to try his magic formula.

I'm pretty sure most of you know just how annoying it is to get lectured on weight loss even though you're doing fine, and to get recommended like a dozen different products and diets. No thank you. That was just his personality though, so I really didn't mind at the time, and knowing him, he had 100% good intentions.

After that I didn't see him for quite a while, maybe 3 or 4 months. I just met him yesterday again though, and by this time I'm 40 lbs down from when I last saw him. What surprised me is by this time, his attitude completely changed towards me. I don't just mean that he complemented my weight loss. What I mean is that while we were talking, we were having an actual discussion. He was asking me questions, he was asking what my routine is and what my diet is, and then share his own plans. It was very back and forth and very productive this time. This just made my day yesterday.

Sure compliments are nice, encouragement is nice, but I really appreciate when people ask me for my input rather than telling me to try this and that. Discussion is productive and helps both sides. Weight loss can sometimes be a lonely journey, and if someone compliments me all I can say is thanks, but if someone asks me what I did, how I did it, I get to share my experiences and have a discussion and then ask them in turn. So if any of you have a friend or family member who wants to start losing weight, I REALLY encourage you guys to not just give advice and encouragement but also ask them what they have tried, how they're doing, what their goals are and what they want to do. It really goes a long long way in keeping someone on track with their diet and fitness, and keeping them motivated.

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Issues I've come across on my weight loss journey.

Hey all, I stumbled on some posts from this sub reddit and figured I would share my story and maybe get some insight into some issues I've had while working on my weight loss goals. (CW 350 GW 280)

I'll try to keep it short and simple. I'm 29, nerdy, geeky guy, been chunky my whole life, coming from a Hispanic family I was always being fed that good, but heavy, homemade food. I've never really had a problem with being a big guy, I would be and still am self conscious about parts of my body, but overall I was OK with being the fat funny guy. Earlier this year in March, I was exhibiting symptoms of diabetes (WebMD ftw). I went to an urgent care that eventually led me to an emergency room, because of how high my blood sugar was, and was finally given the official diabetes diagnosis. The doctor pulled me aside that day and told me that if I didn't seriously change my lifestyle from that moment on, I wouldn't make it to my 40s (there were other health issues but that's a story for another time!). This was one of the most defining moments of my life, I simply asked him what I needed to do and was determined to start the change. I was at my heaviest then, 430lbs.

Fast forward to June, I had made the changes to my diet, low to no carb meals, ONE diet soda with my dinner and no sweets! I quickly dropped to 401 just making those changes alone. But I knew that I wanted to lose more and so I started going to the gym and working out. With the guidance of my cousin I was able to overcome the fear that is being an overweight person in a gym and actually start getting to work on myself.

I'm happy with the progress I've been making but now I feel like I have some issues. The first one is body image. I know most people struggle with body image issues even if they aren't obese or overweight, but even when I am losing weigh, actually seeing myself weigh less on the scale, there is a voice in my head that just keeps saying, "you are still fat, you still look fat, don't believe people when they say you look like you lost weight, they are just being nice". I'm sure I'm not alone but sometimes it's overwhelming to be able to come from being excited to see that number on the scale go down to just feeling like crap, if that makes sense.

The second "issue" is that I come from a pretty religious family, although I cut ties with it personally when I went to college. And since I've been working out and losing weight, I have seemingly "reversed", it's in quotes because I don't know if you can actually even cure it, my diabetes. I'm only taking one pill for it now, when I was previously on one other one plus insulin. But now all my family can say is that they are haply that God answered their prayers and that I'm better now. Without getting to much on the religious debate here, it just makes me feel like my work and progress doesn't mean anything to them and then I just get down on myself about it and want to just stop putting in the effort. I know I should only worry about how happy I am now and how exciting it is for me to get progress, it's hard to not be able to share that with my own family.

This became more of a rant but I guess I'm just hoping to connect with people who can understand where I'm coming from and somewhere to share my stories. Thanks for reading

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Fast weight loss

Hi!

2 years ago I lost a large amount of my weight and got skinny again. However, i have still had a bit of a belly during those two years. 20 days ago I decided that it was time to put an end to that too so since then, I have not eaten any sweets, tracked my water intake and only eaten healthy or home-made meals as I am still at high school and 18 years old. Usually the only execise I get is walking my dog for 30 or so minutes, albeit at a high pace.

When I started, I was 94 kilograms (207 pounds) and now, after 20 days, I am 88 kilograms (194 pounds). I would like to remind that I am 2 meters tall, so the numbers a bit higher due to my weight. I have lost the weight really gradually and I am not doing anything extreme. Is this fast weight loss normal in your opinion? I have not once felt that I am malnourished or my stomach is empty.

Thanks!

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Day 1? Starting your weight loss journey on Sunday, 02 December 2018? Start here!

Today is your Day 1?

Welcome to r/Loseit!

So you aren’t sure of how to start? Don’t worry! “How do I get started?” is our most asked question. r/Loseit has helped our users lose over 1,000,000 recorded pounds and these are the steps that we’ve found most useful for getting started.

Why you’re overweight

Our bodies are amazing (yes, yours too!). In order to survive before supermarkets, we had to be able to store energy to get us through lean times, we store this energy as adipose fat tissue. If you put more energy into your body than it needs, it stores it, for (potential) later use. When you put in less than it needs, it uses the stored energy. The more energy you have stored, the more overweight you are. The trick is to get your body to use the stored energy, which can only be done if you give it less energy than it needs, consistently.

Before You Start

The very first step is calculating your calorie needs. You can do that HERE. This will give you an approximation of your calorie needs for the day. The next step is to figure how quickly you want to lose the fat. One pound of fat is equal to 3500 calories. So to lose 1 pound of fat per week you will need to consume 500 calories less than your TDEE (daily calorie needs from the link above). 750 calories less will result in 1.5 pounds and 1000 calories is an aggressive 2 pounds per week.

Tracking

Here is where it begins to resemble work. The most efficient way to lose the weight you desire is to track your calorie intake. This has gotten much simpler over the years and today it can be done right from your smartphone or computer. r/loseit recommends an app like MyFitnessPal, Loseit! (unaffiliated), or Cronometer. Create an account and be honest with it about your current stats, activities, and goals. This is your tracker and no one else needs to see it so don’t cheat the numbers. You’ll find large user created databases that make logging and tracking your food and drinks easy with just the tap of the screen or the push of a button. We also highly recommend the use of a digital kitchen scale for accuracy. Knowing how much of what you're eating is more important than what you're eating. Why? This may explain it.

Creating Your Deficit

How do you create a deficit? This is up to you. r/loseit has a few recommendations but ultimately that decision is yours. There is no perfect diet for everyone. There is a perfect diet for you and you can create it. You can eat less of exactly what you eat now. If you like pizza you can have pizza. Have 2 slices instead of 4. You can try lower calorie replacements for calorie dense foods. Some of the communities favorites are cauliflower rice, zucchini noodles, spaghetti squash in place of their more calorie rich cousins. If it appeals to you an entire dietary change like Keto, Paleo, Vegetarian.

The most important thing to remember is that this selection of foods works for you. Sustainability is the key to long term weight management success. If you hate what you’re eating you won’t stick to it.

Exercise

Is NOT mandatory. You can lose fat and create a deficit through diet alone. There is no requirement of exercise to lose weight.

It has it’s own benefits though. You will burn extra calories. Exercise is shown to be beneficial to mental health and creates an endorphin rush as well. It makes people feel awesome and has been linked to higher rates of long term success when physical activity is included in lifestyle changes.

Crawl, Walk, Run

It can seem like one needs to make a 180 degree course correction to find success. That isn’t necessarily true. Many of our users find that creating small initial changes that build a foundation allows them to progress forward in even, sustained, increments.

Acceptance

You will struggle. We have all struggled. This is natural. There is no tip or trick to get through this though. We encourage you to recognize why you are struggling and forgive yourself for whatever reason that may be. If you overindulged at your last meal that is ok. You can resolve to make the next meal better.

Do not let the pursuit of perfect get in the way of progress. We don’t need perfect. We just want better.

Additional resources

Now you’re ready to do this. Here are more details, that may help you refine your plan.

• Quick Start Guide - Build your foundation!
• Loseit Compendium - Frame it out!
• FAQ - Answers to our most Frequently Asked Questions!

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Has anyone had success adding carbs for weight loss?

I know that there are many people experiencing great success with keto and I have a personal fear of gaining weight with carbs. Has anyone experienced success losing weight after experiencing neato keto by adding things like milk or fruit but still eating at a deficit? I kind of got into a “you can eat anything as long as your day is under 20g of carbs” mentality, and have gained weight in the past six months (shocker). Apologies for grammar. Carnivore and keto can be life-saving and I have experienced many benefits, just not weight loss, per say. I come from a restrictive background and probably just need to learn to monitor calories, regardless. But I am curious if anyone upped their carbs to 50–100 grams daily and lost weight. I went on a long bike ride today and noticed I had more energy having increased carbs to <65g but calories lower than usual. Thank you.

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Clubbing As A Big Girl

Hello, /loseit! I write this to you from the back of a Honda Civic, absolutely sweaty and exhausted. A lot as has been on my mind lately concerning weight loss and what it means to exist as a big person. I’ve come to deliver my testimony on a subject I’ve never seen covered on this subreddit- clubbing.

I’m an 18 year old female. SW: 256, CW: 232. I’m a freshman in college and naturally have been dabbling in the world of partying. I’ve been to frat parties, hit the drink a bit, smonked the wonk, etc. But nothing has ever scared me like clubbing.

I attended my first club in early October, and I remember being an absolute nervous wreck beforehand. My friends are gorgeous and go to places like clubs for the sole purpose of attracting men. Which is fine. They’re very good at doing so. But I feared that I would be the lone single dancer, awkwardly bobbing to EDM as my friends got felt up.

Googling ‘night clubbing for fat girls’ yields very uninspiring results. Horror stories circulate the internet of big girls being excluded, kicked out, or otherwise made to feel shit for being in a club. I’m here to tell you: that’s absolute bullshit.

Maybe this is the case in big cities, like Las Vegas. But in normal places with average clubs, as long as you adhere to the dress code, no one gives a fuck. No one. I will not lie to you and say I get as many guys as my thin friends- I don’t. They’re always the first to attract men. It used to bother me, but honestly- who the hell cares? If you’re into it, the men will come. I know I personally enjoy a lil bit of grinding action. If that’s not your thing, then the same applies- no one cares.

I get hit on. I get asked for my number. I get men dancing on me. Offering me their drinks. This is not a obesity glorifying post- I’m losing weight for a reason. But I’m here to tell you that you can live before that happens.

I personally don’t believe my weight changes the likelihood of me attracting a man. It’s the confident I radiate because I know that I’m allowed to live.

So if you’re considering going out in any capacity, please do it. Try it out. Don’t let yourself miss out on any experiences because something as arbitrary as weight.

Edit: I forgot to add that clubbing burns A LOT of calories. I always drop a pound or two in water weight after a solid club night! Just another perk.

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[Daily Directory] Find your quests for the day here! - Sunday, 02 December 2018

Welcome adventurer! Whether you're new on this quest or are towards the end of your journey there should be something below for you.

Daily journal.

• [Q&A] "I have a question."
• [Day 1] "I am starting my weight loss journey."
• [SV/NSV] "I have an accomplishment to share."
• [24hr Pledge] "Today I am going to..."

Interested in some side quests?

• [Motivation Monday] Share some motivation, get some motivation.
• [Tantrum Tuesday] Need to vent? People getting on your nerves?
• [Weigh-In Wednesday]
• [Track with Me Thursday] Did we just become best friends?!
• [Free Talk Friday] What's on your mind?

Community bulletin board!

• [Running with Loseit] Run with losers. Avoid arrows.
• [Wecipe Wednesday] Swap and discuss recipies!

If you are new to the sub, click here for our posting guidelines

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