Thursday, January 3, 2019

The Process and the Dangers of the Easy Path

With the New Year just beginning, I know a lot of people here are just starting (or restarting) their weight loss journey. From my experience, one of the scariest parts of just starting out is staring at the long road ahead. When will it end? How long will you have to suffer? Is it worth it?

I believe this excerpt from my book (won't post it because my last post was removed) to be particularly pertinent:

"Perhaps the most important fact in weight loss (or any type of body transformation for that matter) that nobody seems willing to admit is this:

It takes a long time.

There are no shortcuts. There are no tricks. There is only time.

This might be a painful realization. You won’t reach your goal in a week or a month or maybe even a year.

“That sucks!” you say. “If I won’t look good in a month, what’s even the point?”

Yes, it does suck. But why shouldn’t it? You are literally reshaping your body. You are changing its entire composition. If we could all reshape our bodies in a few weeks, movie stars and models would be out of a job. You don’t want Chris Hemsworth to be jobless, do you?

You’ll find that progress breeds further progress. When you finally lose that first five or 10 pounds, you’ll realize just how possible this whole thing is. It’s a long and difficult process, but it’s completely possible. When you realize that, it helps solidify the knowledge that long-term discipline trumps all. It may even become easier. Physically, you’re still doing the same thing: eating less and moving more. But mentally, it’s like unlocking a whole new worldview. When you understand that progress is the result of putting your head down and taking the correct steps every day, it allows you to go further than you ever have before. Don’t focus on the end goal; focus on the process. Focus on eating the right amount of food or getting the correct amount of exercise. Focus on the now. Yesterday and tomorrow don’t matter. There is only today. Do what needs to be done today. You don’t climb a mountain by focusing on the peak. You climb a mountain by putting one foot in front of the other. Take one step at a time, and soon you’ll see the whole world sprawled below you.

In fact, the process never ends. This is why you must so profoundly embrace it and learn to enjoy it. Many people never learn this. Why is it so common to see people lose large amounts of weight only to gain it all back a few months later? Because they were so fixated on the goal that they didn’t learn to embrace the process. They believed that once they reached their goal, the process was over. They relaxed back into their old habits, the habits that made them overweight in the first place. Once they hit their end goal, there was nothing left to do.

The process never ends. You must accept that you’re leaving your old habits behind. You’re leaving the easy path for the hard one. It’s a difficult decision to make. The path you’re leaving is soft and comfortable and well-traveled. It welcomes you with open arms and ensures an easy journey to the end. But don’t let the ease of this path deceive you. It’s viciously dangerous. It contains hidden dangers lurking within the comfort. The danger of complacency. The danger of unfulfilled potential. The danger of regret. The other path is more difficult. It’s the road less traveled. It’s overgrown and hilly. It twists and turns and seems to never end. You’ll struggle and fall. You’ll bloody your hands and knees. But you’ll become stronger. Day by day, your steps will become more confident and your hands will become calloused and hardened. Soon you’ll find yourself pushing through the bramble and sprinting up the hills. You may still fall, but you’ll leap back to your feet as though it’s nothing. That’s the magic. The path hasn’t become any easier. You’ve become harder. If, at this point, you were given the choice to step back onto the easy path with all of its comforts, you’d deny it, because although the hard path is long and difficult, it’s more rewarding than the easy path could ever be. It brings you true happiness, not the superficial joy of comfort. It challenges you to reach your true potential. It allows you to be proud of your struggle. And that makes all the difference."

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Ridiculously huge rib cage after weight loss.

Hey guys,

I’ve got something that is bothering me and my physic in general. I’ve been losing weight for some year now (104kg to 72kg atm) (229 lbs to 158) and recently I’ve been hitting the gym.

However, since my weight lose, I’ve noticed that my rib cage was popping out tremendously and it makes me feel quite... insecure. This thing results in me having a huge thorax and it looks like I’m sticking out my chest all the time but it’s just my normal state.

https://imgur.com/a/P8Gy8Ok

I’ve provided images so that you can see what I’m actually talking about. The problem with my chest can especially be seen in pic 3 and 4.

I still got a little belly to lose too but the thing is that I fear that my rib cage problem will emphasize if I lose too much of it...

Do you guys know if this problem is normal or common and if I can do some type of exercises at the gym in order to smooth that problem out ?

Thanks a lot, Love u all long time.

Stéphane

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The Process and the Dangers of the Easy Path

With the New Year just beginning, I know a lot of people here are just starting (or restarting) their weight loss journey. From my experience, one of the scariest parts of just starting out is staring at the long road ahead. When will it end? How long will you have to suffer? Is it worth it?

I don't know if this is allowed, but I believe this excerpt from my book (free on Kindle until the 5th) to be particularly pertinent:

"Perhaps the most important fact in weight loss (or any type of body transformation for that matter) that nobody seems willing to admit is this:

It takes a long time.

There are no shortcuts. There are no tricks. There is only time.

This might be a painful realization. You won’t reach your goal in a week or a month or maybe even a year.

“That sucks!” you say. “If I won’t look good in a month, what’s even the point?”

Yes, it does suck. But why shouldn’t it? You are literally reshaping your body. You are changing its entire composition. If we could all reshape our bodies in a few weeks, movie stars and models would be out of a job. You don’t want Chris Hemsworth to be jobless, do you?

You’ll find that progress breeds further progress. When you finally lose that first five or 10 pounds, you’ll realize just how possible this whole thing is. It’s a long and difficult process, but it’s completely possible. When you realize that, it helps solidify the knowledge that long-term discipline trumps all. It may even become easier. Physically, you’re still doing the same thing: eating less and moving more. But mentally, it’s like unlocking a whole new worldview. When you understand that progress is the result of putting your head down and taking the correct steps every day, it allows you to go further than you ever have before. Don’t focus on the end goal; focus on the process. Focus on eating the right amount of food or getting the correct amount of exercise. Focus on the now. Yesterday and tomorrow don’t matter. There is only today. Do what needs to be done today. You don’t climb a mountain by focusing on the peak. You climb a mountain by putting one foot in front of the other. Take one step at a time, and soon you’ll see the whole world sprawled below you.

In fact, the process never ends. This is why you must so profoundly embrace it and learn to enjoy it. Many people never learn this. Why is it so common to see people lose large amounts of weight only to gain it all back a few months later? Because they were so fixated on the goal that they didn’t learn to embrace the process. They believed that once they reached their goal, the process was over. They relaxed back into their old habits, the habits that made them overweight in the first place. Once they hit their end goal, there was nothing left to do.

The process never ends. You must accept that you’re leaving your old habits behind. You’re leaving the easy path for the hard one. It’s a difficult decision to make. The path you’re leaving is soft and comfortable and well-traveled. It welcomes you with open arms and ensures an easy journey to the end. But don’t let the ease of this path deceive you. It’s viciously dangerous. It contains hidden dangers lurking within the comfort. The danger of complacency. The danger of unfulfilled potential. The danger of regret. The other path is more difficult. It’s the road less traveled. It’s overgrown and hilly. It twists and turns and seems to never end. You’ll struggle and fall. You’ll bloody your hands and knees. But you’ll become stronger. Day by day, your steps will become more confident and your hands will become calloused and hardened. Soon you’ll find yourself pushing through the bramble and sprinting up the hills. You may still fall, but you’ll leap back to your feet as though it’s nothing. That’s the magic. The path hasn’t become any easier. You’ve become harder. If, at this point, you were given the choice to step back onto the easy path with all of its comforts, you’d deny it, because although the hard path is long and difficult, it’s more rewarding than the easy path could ever be. It brings you true happiness, not the superficial joy of comfort. It challenges you to reach your true potential. It allows you to be proud of your struggle. And that makes all the difference."

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So much weight to go, how do you stay motivated? Maybe we can all help each other

I love this subreddit, and I'm learning more each day. I looked at my BMI and I'm obese... ick. I'm 6' even and 275.6 lbs at the start of Sunday evening. I found out just to get to over weight status I need to lose 55.6 lbs and to get to normal I need to drop an additional 40.I have a workout, diet and exercise plan,but that's 95.6 lbs to go. So here I am thinking to my self.... how in the world will I keep this up. I will try my damnedest to eat the healthy meals I made, and stick to my work out regimen. But then I thought about work out buddies or accountability buddies. Does anyone trade messaging apps, or is there a group of people that update their photos and weight loss, or even have fun weight loss competitions? I feel like if it's a game or i get to show my progress it will make it so much easier. If not I'd love to start a group. Please let me know via pm or level a comment. I'm really excited to drop these lbs with you guys.

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Motivation is at an all time high right now

I love New Years resolutions. Last year my resolutions are what helped me lose most of my weight so far. After I lost it, I lost motivation to continue. Well, we have a new year, new resolutions, and my motivation couldn’t get any higher. Just came here to say that all it takes is for you to succeed one time. Everyone else has also failed every attempt at weight loss/ living a healthier life... until they kept trying and succeeded once.

Also, my friend and I got our body scans for fat and muscle comp. let’s just say I’ve turned it into a competition to see who can gain the most muscle/lose the most fat 😆 (nothing like a good competition for motivation)

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After losing 34lbs I noticed I was comfortable enough to randomly hug my best friend. My confidence is returning!

6 months ago I was at my highest weight, 34lbs from where I am now. I spent a weekend with two of my good friends, one of whom I’ve been close with for almost a decade. It was awesome to see both of them before I moved across the country, but I honestly felt so embarrassed to be seen by them. I had ballooned up to 220lbs (I’m 5’1) and felt so ashamed and physically I was unwell—reflux, digestive issues, and awful snore-filled sleep.

I traveled back east for the holidays and visited them for a weekend. We were out somewhere and I got the urge to hug my long time friend because I was just SO happy to be with her again and so grateful for being alive in that moment.

So, I squeezed her! and suddenly I realized...WTF? I can’t believe I just did that! If I had done that 6 months ago I would’ve had all these anxious, self-punishing thoughts in my head like “You’re so creepy, you’re so desperate for attention,” etc.

Without even being conscious of it, I have been letting go of SO many “I’m a disturbing alien creature” feelings and coming back to feeling like an actual human who can give affection. I feel so much more like I “belong” and I feel confident again, like I trust that people want me around and aren’t disgusted by me because I’m not disgusted by myself anymore.

In retrospect it’s so devastating to me how much my weight contributed to my self-imposed isolation and feelings of loneliness. I would flake on social events all the time because I didn’t want to be seen in that state, as it was such painfully visible evidence of how much I was suffering internally.

While I’m still definitely struggling extremely hard with anxiety and depression, finding agency in my body & weight has been so healing. I’ve always been an affectionate and super social person and losing weight has me feeling like I can come back to my natural disposition without all the self-doubt and loathing.

So, all of this to say, if you’re in a similar place to where I was 6 months ago—isolated, lonely, and desperate for human connection but too full of self-doubt to let it in—honestly, I believe weight loss can be so incredibly helpful. Like I mentioned, I’m still dealing with mental health stuff (in therapy etc.) so weight loss is not a cure all by any means. But taking charge of your habits and health is confidence-boosting, and that ripples out to every single part of your life. Stick to the journey and you’ll be amazed at the small-but-huge changes you notice not just in clothing fit, but psychologically!! Good luck to you!!!

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"Skinny Fat" F in early 30s who can't lose belly flab. Keep getting mistaken for being pregnant and it triggers my tokophobia and makes me very upset. Can't lift (old shoulder injury). What the hell can I do? It won't go anywhere.

I'm really intimidated by weight loss and fitness subs because they are full of people who are super into fitness and I am really......not (working out is a necessary evil for me, not something I enjoy), but I did get some suggestions to post here.

So long story short, I am in my early 30s and with a big case of "skinny fat". I look thin in clothes and have very toned legs/arms but all my weight goes to my torso and I have big boobs (yay) but also a big gut (boo).

What is awful about this is that strangers keep assuming I am pregnant because I look like I am 4-5 months pregnant because of my stomach flab. I am very tokophobic and have anxiety, so being assumed to be pregnant is actually.....triggering of my tokophobia. And the other week I was having a glass of wine with dinner and someone shamed me for drinking while pregnant :/

Everywhere seems to say GET LIFTING, which ok, but I have had a major shoulder surgery which means it is not easy to lift, and I am also embarrassingly unfit at the moment.

My New Year's Resolution is to try and flatten down my stomach so people stop offering me their seat on public transport and triggering my tokophobia. However, I don't want to go on a diet where all I eat is celery either. I still want to be able to eat food haha. And I am naturally one of those people who has a bit of a big appetite and am struggling with hunger if I try to cut down calories too much.

Is anyone able to give me some tips or support or advice or......anything, I am just so sick of this problem.

I know I can not spot reduce but I am terrified of ending up skinny and losing all my boobs and still having the huge belly :(

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