How to encourage fiancé to lose weight

My (31f) fiancé (34m) has been wanting to lose weight for the past year. It’s gotten to the point that he refuses to attend social events because he’s uncomfortable with his weight, and we have a few vacations planned where he mentions that he is “too fat” to be there. For reference, we met 3 years ago and he was 190 lbs at 6 feet. Now he’s about 260 lbs and overweight. We are in our 30s now and have more responsibilities and high stress jobs, but he wants to lose weight and I want to help him for his confidence more than anything. His parents are both 300+ lbs and when he complains about his weight, his parents will say “you don’t want to be anorexic” or “men need to be over 220 lbs or they look sick”, so obviously not encouraging his weight loss

We bought a treadmill that he only used about 10 times in a year, so recently bought a workout bike that he has never been on. We have weights and a cable machine that he uses once every couple months. I workout 3-4x a week and he’ll say “I’m going to workout too” and just never does. I’m concerned about his health as his parents are both diabetics with multiple joint replacements and are unable to go for walks. My fiance has even expressed that he doesn’t want to get to the point where he loses his mobility What has helped others in this situation?

Edit: Not sure why the downvotes. I love this man and want to help him, he also wants the help

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Anyone attended OEAnon meetings?

Anyone ever attended an OEAnon meeting?

Recently I was binging insatiable on Netflix and the main character patty mentioned and is shown going to Overeaters anonymous meetings. My first thought is one I’ve never heard of that before and two, that can’t be real! I looked it up and sure enough there is AA for us! Anybody ever attended what was your experience? Was it helpful? Is it super religious? I think I might go to one this weekend! I have read through their “manual” I guess and it seems like a worthwhile all inclusive community!

On a side note weight loss update to help fill word count: how do I get ready for my first winter this low in weight😭 I’m FREEZING DAILY !!! All I know is the solution is going to cost a lot of money help😅

Hopefully this meets the word count oh lord

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Did getting made fun of go away?

Obviously there are tons of benefits to weight loss and I know basically all of them at this point, however I wanted to really know if that goes away, and if the feeling of being on edge goes away?

I’m more just talking about general laughing, mocking, looks, etc. but I guess you can include other stuff, other types of bullying, whatever you want to call it.

I’m obese and have always felt so picked on in a million different ways, and has made doing normal things more difficult, like I’m always super aware of how people might look at me when I’m sitting in front of them (aka not at the very back seat), don’t like to eat in public except if it’s a restaurant or cafe, careful which bus seat to get and analyse how each person might look at me if they might have to sit next to me, taking time to stand before entering a lecture after walking up stairs because I’m out of breath or having to go in and trying to cover it with a cough and holding my mouth like I’ve got a itchy throat or something. I could give loads of real life examples of actual situations where stuff has happened rather than just everyday where I’m afraid of people’s perceptions and what could happen, but you get the point.

So just wanted to know if that went away and if you can relax in public? I really hope so.

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No Tricks! Just 13 Healthy Halloween Treats

Want to enjoy the festivities without falling off track this Halloween weekend? We’ve got you covered with these adorable Halloween themed treats.

They’re cute, delicious and completely guilt-free. So you won’t scare of the progress you’ve made on your weight loss plan. Bonus: If you’ve got kiddies or grandkiddies, they will love making these fun festive treats with you!

1. Spider French Onion Dip

This Spider French Onion Dip is the perfect dish to bring to your next gathering, whether it’s a healthy Halloween celebration or a child’s birthday party!

2. Banana Ghosts

Get your healthy Halloween off to a ghoulishly good start with these adorable and festive banana ghosts.

3. Apple Peanut Butter Monster Mouths

These Apple Peanut Butter Monster Mouths are simple to assemble and even easier to devour!

4. Frankenstein Kiwi

This Frankenstein kiwi treat is the perfect healthy addition to your Halloween festivities.

5. Spooktacular Orange Pumpkins

These orange pumpkins are perfect for your next healthy Halloween celebration.

6. Creepy Carrot Fingers with Hummus

These Carrot Fingers with Hummus are a perfect healthy Halloween recipe.

7. Bewitched Cheese Broomsticks

These Bewitched Cheese Broomsticks are a perfect Halloween recipe. They’re on theme and on plan!

8. Candy Corn Parfait

This Candy Corn Parfait is the perfect healthy treat for your Halloween celebrations.

9. Popcorn Hands

These Popcorn Hands are a creepy (and delicious!) way to celebrate Halloween slim-down style.

10. Spider Deviled Eggs

These Spider Deviled Eggs are creepy to look at but delicious to eat!

11. Turkey and Hummus Mummies

These Turkey and Hummus Mummies are so easy to make, you can get the kiddies in on the action! They’re a simple and tasty treat anyone can create.

12. Fruit-Filled Orange Jack-O-Lanterns

These Jack-O-Lantern Fruit Cups are the perfect addition to your healthy Halloween celebration. Just scoop out the orange, draw on faces (or carve them if you’re feeling adventurous!), then fill them with green grapes… or any of your favorite fruits!

13. Loaded Pepper Pumpkins

Who says Halloween is only about sweet treats? Follow any of your favorite stuffed pepper recipes for this tasty dish (we like this vegetarian recipe!). Just scoop out the insides of your pepper, carve a fun face, and stuff it with anything you choose!

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Don’t Throw Away Your Game Plan at the First Hurdle

Sitting here, I’m looking back on all the times I’ve tried and failed with different diets. Every time I hit a roadblock, I’d go back to the drawing board, scrap the old plan, and try something new. I’d get caught up in the idea of a “shiny new diet,” thinking it would solve everything, when in reality, plateaus and slow progress are just part of the journey.

There were times I plateaued at eating around 1,900 calories, and instead of sticking it out, I developed an unhealthy approach to weight loss, constantly cutting my calories lower and lower. Eventually, I found myself eating as little as 1,000 calories a day, which completely wrecked my relationship with food.

Looking back, I wish I had stayed on track and pushed through those plateaus without wrecking my relationship with food. Sure, your caloric needs change as you lose weight, but that doesn’t mean you have to keep slashing calories every time progress slows. I’ve learned that it’s better to stay patient, adjust as needed, and trust in a balanced plan instead of constantly overhauling everything. If you're on your own journey, keep this in mind: don’t throw the game plan out the window at the first hurdle. Plateaus are normal, and staying patient and consistent will get you further than starting over each time things get tough.

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Am I being too Agressive?

Hello all, I 25M, 6'2", ~385Lb. (Down from 415) started my weight loss journey about a month and a half ago after a engagement breakup. I started the journey out of anger / spite because I hated the person I saw in the mirror every day and as an "escape" from the situation instead of sitting around thinking about it all day. I started by going and walking 1 lap around a local lake (~ 1 Mile per lap) after work, which lead to 2 laps, and now im doing about 4 every other day after work. It has turned into something I rather enjoy going and doing every other day instead of something I started out of anger and I have even started going to a gym to do other excersises on the off days. My biggest concern I have is since I started down this path I have been at roughly a 2K to 2,500 Calorie defficit every day due to a lack of appetite or just genuinly not being as hungry as often (at least per the "HitMeal" app, The app says at my weight I should be shooting for ~4K - 4,200 a day to lose weight). I still eat the usual 3 times a day have made sure to eat about 2,000 - 2,500 a day, I have just been trying to make healthier options and have cut out sodas / cut back on eating out. Per the app I still get all the Carbs, Protein and such it recomends each day, I just have worried that this is "Too Agressive" of a path to maintain or that I am seting myself to crash somewhere along the way. Im not as worried about the actual numbers on the scale as much as I am worried about how I see myself / how I feel. I just wanted to reach out and hear advice from others that have been / still are a similar journey!

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Trying to get myself to walk 5km-10km a day (+ a few questions because I don't know much-)

This post is a bit all over the place since I'm tired and trying to figure stuff out so this is both questions and some info if anyone's curious for when I ask questions or vice versa 🥲

So I'm not the best with keeping a routine, especially after it's been broken and then I just..can't get myself to fix it-

I know walking is good for weight loss, and that's something i want to get into doing again, even though I don't look overweight but my height and weight say otherwise- which makes me feel cruddy but eh-

And I also know that most people usually do a calorie deific (?) but I'm not able to do that, as I'm already struggling to get my body to quit whining and actually eat something other than chocolate (comfort food, trying to fix it) Due to my families comments I ended up developing symptoms similar to Disordered Eating. My sensory issues don't help much in that department, as whenever I eat food I like or don't like and I eat too much of it my tongue will feel like it's swelling up in order to push food away and keep me from eating. Which I'm not sure how to fix, but I'm trying to figure out it :/

I know that calorie defecits are usually.. recommend(?) but I realized my body (back when I used to work out) didn't need diet alterations as my body was.. completely fine??? The only reason I gained weight was because of muscle mass, but now I'm not doing muscle but cardio, so I'm curious how this will play out. Since I didn't fully change my diet or followed some strict instructions- I just added more things I actually needed in my diet but kept the old stuff, which actually worked??? I'm forever bound to having larger thighs due to genetics, as they're actually mostly muscle than fat- just very squishy lol. So I'm fine with that-

Though I'm curious if I DO need a calorie deific??? Since I'd rather avoid it out of fear I'd obsess over..well.. everything.. that's why I don't check my weight and try to be a bit more on control of what I eat. (Unless if it's sad hours, that doesn't count 😆)

Would 5-10km a day be okey? Even without the diet alteration? It'll probably be slower, but I already do 10000+ steps a day due to classes. So adding 10000 or 20000 more would probably be leveled out and not be too much of an issue? I don't know- I saw a lot of people who did the same as me and were fine even without altering their diet much, which is comforting since I struggle with how I look due to the fun comments from my family, so it makes me feel...happy? That other people are doing similar stuff as me? I mean, it makes sense, since not everyone's body works the same. (E.g. I knew someone who'd drink a chocolate protein shake and eat a chocolate muffin after a workout and be perfect fine. It's just what their body needed) But if there's anything you guys think I should look into if it'll work for me or might make things a bit easier, please comment! :) and keep it civil 🥲

I Hope the post made sense 😅

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