AITA Plz don’t shame me while I’m on my weight loss journey

I’ve let this stew for a few a days, and I don’t know if AITA for not being able to let this go. I’ve always struggled with my weight. I’m getting married this year and working with an overly expensive but effective nutrition group. You meet in private 1-1 sessions once a week, weigh in and review your plan. I’ve lost 25 pounds in 3 months so far and yes, it’s emotional and I know I’m a little sensitive about it. In my past session, I didn’t meet with my regular person but someone new to me, let’s call her Karen. I’m in my 30’s and I would guess she was in her 60’s. We are sitting down reviewing my food tracker and my Dr has me on an intermittent fasting plan where I try to go as long as I can with out eating until I’m really hungry. I was proud that I made one day until 6p so I highlighted it in my tracker. She, Karen, took my tracker out of my hand and bopped me on the forehead with it and said, “Shame on you, you shouldn’t go so long with out eating.” I was shocked she just hit me, and even more so during Covid, plus the shameful tone of her comment with action. I said, “don’t hit me.”

She proceeded to sit back and say how I should be eating more during the day, and I said if she read my file, I shouldn’t, and losing 2.8 pounds in a week, means I’m doing what I’m suppose to be doing. Later when I left the room she apologized for bopping me on the head. I’m bothered because I found the whole thing unprofessional. I would never touch one of my clients, even in a joking matter, or someone I just met for the first time. And I would never shame anyone going through weight loss for doing good or for having a tough day or a tough week that has set them back. I’m not this person’s daughter and I shouldn’t be treated like a child by anyone senior.

I’m trying to let this go and it’s rare for things to bother me, especially for this long- but I am disturbed by this. AITA for letting this get to me and want to report it to her office?

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Weight loss support

Hi

My dad is 6 foot and 280lbs and in his mid sixties.

He isn't willing to engage in losing any weight despite there being mounting associated health issues. He says "ill have to get fit" but doesn't do anything about it.

He is now an grandfather of three grand kids and is besotted with them.

What I would like to explain to him is that there are very few people his weight in their mid seventies and even less in their 80s. I think the only way to get him to take his weight seriously is to have some hard facts on his life expectancy if he maintains such a high weight.

So my question is, are there a lot of people who are morbidly obese in their 70s and 80s? How big is the reduction in the proportion of people who have a BMI of 35 and above as people get into their later years. I'd assume the proportion of people like this will reduce quicker as thiner people live longer.

If I am able to demonstrate categorically that people at his weight and health have a much smaller chance of seeing their grandkids finish school, it might help him to start tackling his weight.

Any help appreciated

(I appreciate this might seem a bit cold. But I promise you I have a fantastic relationship with him. I just want to explain to him probably only one time, his stastitical chances of seeing his grandkids grow up. Then he can decide and I won't mention it again, but I need to be sure I have the facts first)

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Quarantine and passing of my grandma from covid..I really let myself go.

Last month I lost my grandmother to covid and had to make an emergency trip overseas. I was in a depressive episode since her diagnosis last Christmas but thankfully with the help of my therapist and medication I've finally been able to get out of bed and grieve properly little by little.
I got myself a scale yesterday and found out that Ive gained about 25 lbs since last march. I guess it's not an insane amount but in addition to that I've spent most of the past two months in bed 90% of the day and not eating too well with no routine so I'm probably in worse shape than I think.

In a letter my grandma left she said that she grew up not knowing her parents so she was always worried that she was raising mom badly. she said that she's glad that she was blessed with grandkids and hope that they live their best life.

I want to get healthier and lose weight to make her proud but I tend to neglect myself alot which leads to a shame spiral that's a lot of "you can't even go on a walk, you're useless"

I was wondering if I cold get some advice or sources of motivation for you guys?
do you keep a mood board or is there a book that kick started your weight loss journey?

Thanks a bunch. it's been a rough few months but I hope I can change it for the better.

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How to keep motivation and fight instant gratification of unhealthy food?

I’m new here, so If I’ve done something incorrect with posting, let me know, but I did read the rules and stuff.

I’m starting my weight loss journey again for what feels like the millionth time, and despite trying to lose weight for years, I’m at my highest weight ever. I’m almost 300lbs and that is a milestone I never thought I’d be close to reaching. I remember the 200lb milestone being devastating and that was like 8 years ago. It seems like I’ll be able to lose 10-20lbs for a little while, then I get off track, and the overall trend is my weight steadily climbing. I’ve recently tried Noom twice, and feel like I picked up a lot of skills. I just always seem to fall into the same trap of giving into the instant gratification of eating something unhealthy (usually sweet or carb heavy) and then once I do it a couple times, it builds the wrong kind of momentum and I’m off track again. Then I have to rebuild my momentum to start again, which usually doesn’t happen until I see I’ve reached a new weight milestone. I try not to have things in the house but then get obsessed with cravings. Idk.

I’m also looking for more of a social support system with weight loss, as it often feels isolating. Even if my boyfriend is on the same page, he loses weight so much easier that it’s actually more demoralizing than supportive. My best friend is also trying to lose weight, but she trends towards more extreme methods, which are unsustainable for me and take me to a really negative headspace. I know it’s slow and steady, but I’m always slow and off track.

TL;DR: what tips and tricks do ya’ll have to help you stay on track and stay motivated? Long term, but especially short term. How to you not fall off track when the cravings hit hard?

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Lost around 10 kgs since last year!

Hello everyone, I (20F) just remembered that I was around 10 kgs more than my current weight exactly one year ago today (Feb 8, 2020). I was overweight. I started working out seriously since March 2020 and I’m down by almost 10 kgs! It was really hard and I still don’t feel satisfied with current weight since there’s a long way to go, but I thought of taking some time out to give myself a little pat on the back and reflect on how far I’ve come already.

This journey has been fun with a few ups and downs here and there, but sustainable weight loss can never be sudden so I’m happy that I’m taking my time. I work out at home and try my best to keep a calorie deficit. I don’t get much movement since I have a desk job and work from my tiny apartment.

Big thanks to everyone here for sharing their hard work and results! You keep me super motivated.

Im around 5 kgs away from my target healthy weight. I’ve hit a plateau so if anyone has any suggestions please let me know! I want to make my workouts more intense (I can’t cut down on food anymore, I’m consuming around 1500 calories daily anyway). if anyone has any suggestions for HIIT/Pilates on YouTube (I’ve done Chloe Ting and she’s way too easy for me, Blogilates/Lilly Sabri are also becoming easier for me now, I’m doing a bit of Pamela Reif but it’s not THAT effective) then please feel free to drop them here! I can’t work out for more than 30 mins a day since my schedule won’t allow it so please bear that in mind!

I know the last few pounds are the hardest to lose, so I wish myself and all of you a lot of positive healing energy and happiness to drive ourselves into doing so❣️

(Sorry for any grammatical errors, English isn’t my first language 😣)

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Maintenance Monday: February 08, 2021

If you've reached your goal weight and you're looking for a space to discuss with fellow maintainers, this is the thread for you! Whether you're brand new to maintenance or you've been doing it for years, you're welcome to use this space to chat about anything and everything related to the experience of maintaining your weight loss.

Hey everyone, here's your weekly discussion thread! Tell us how maintenance and life in general is going for you this week! And if you missed last week's (or simply want to reread), here's a link.

If there's a specific topic you'd like to see covered in a future thread, please drop a comment or message!

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Is there an ideal weight loss pace? Can it be too slow?

I’ve yo-yoed a few times but am now committed and enjoying it. I’m a 6’2” man who is at 370 (down from 390 so far). Based on online calculators, my “2 pounds a week” pace would be in the 2300s for daily calories.

I’m wondering how low I can healthily go as well as whether I am not going low enough. So far, I have been sticking to 2000/day. I know I can be lower than that. Could I go to 1500? Should I do so? 2000 still allows me to eat the things that I like, but just in lower volume. I feel like I’m learning about hunger and eating appropriately - but I’m worried that I’m using that as an excuse for not shifting to something like 1700/day. I’m open to people’s thoughts.

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