Sunday, January 19, 2020

Healthy self image while losing weight.

Hey, I've been on my weight loss journey since July and it's been going okay with some ebbs and flows. I have had a net trend down. I went through some rough stuff emotionally and starved myself for about a week. Then I rebounded and gained the starvation weight back. I just wake up and am depressed. My main motivation to lose weight is to get a girlfriend but I feel like my goal for September is too far off. I hate waking up and feeling ugly every day. I hate the not so subtle comments from my father that I need to exercise every waking minute and never eat carbs again for me to be a worthwhile person. (He weighs six pounds less than me). I hate the comments from my mother that Everytime I feel lonely or depressed the answer is more exercise. I want to be healthier and exercise more but making my life solely about managing calories in v calories out is depressing to me. Reminding myself every five minutes that I'm unhealthy and that I won't get companionship until that changes discourages me. In short how do you love yourself as you are while still putting forth the effort to make yourself better

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Exercise Reflections: 10 Things I Wish I Knew At the Beginning

I lost 60 pounds and spent 2 years on this journey. I was sedentary and obese then I herniated a disk and it started the dominoes falling to seriously positive reflection and change. I wrote a post about it a bit back. Now, I run about 3 miles 6x a week, lift weights, ski, yoga, today I was indoor rock climbing for the first time! Fit, healthy, and by pretty much every objective measure, an “athlete” (which is SO crazy. It took me months to really accept that. I was never “that girl”. It really took me a long time and a lot of data to come to terms that this is me now. Still sometimes hard to believe. See? I even felt I needed to put it in quotes!). Anyway, there was a lot of discussion on exercise on that thread, so I thought I’d post things I wish I knew about exercise and weight loss starting out and I lived and worked through each one. Maybe I can make your journey a little easier?

1.) You can’t outrun the fork. Exercise will not outpace pretty much ANYTHING you eat. Put it this way- I ran 3.17 miles then lifted weights yesterday. My Fitbit says I burned about 450 calories. That is about 3 cookies. If you’re doing it to compensate or as license to eat more, it just doesn’t work that way. It is part of fitness and healthy weight, but first we need a realistic understanding of the math: the calories out are not as big as we probably wish they were. Don’t be discouraged. Just be aware.

2.) It DOES matter to overall health, so if you are “losing it” to actually get healthy vs fit in your jeans, this is where it counts. A lot. Exercise does everything from improve brain function to enhance mood, in addition to making you look as feel awesome. Eventually. If you are committing to fitness and wellness, this is the reason to commit to exercise. Ya just gotta know your reasons. It’s got to be more than the number on the scale. Find your “why”.

3.) Muscle doesn’t weigh less than fat, but it is more dense. A pound of brick and a pound of feathers weigh the same. The pound of feathers just takes up more space. A pound of fat takes up more space than a pound of muscle. Muscle does burn more at rest and raises your basal metabolic rate (just a smidge), it changes your posture and firmness, and fat tissue can have negative hormonal effects, so the trade off is good. I’d take that pound for pound trade any day.

4.) Women are not going to bulk up- pretty much no matter what. To get “bulk” as a woman, you are going to be working hard. Hard enough that by that point you’re going to be living and breathing the gym, carefully counting every gram of protein with a diet that you plan out meticulously and bulking won’t be a surprise because you’d be training and eating and acting specifically for it. Women doing regular, routine exercise shouldn’t fear this. You can go as heavy and hard as you want- you may get definition and start to see muscles (when you get to about 20% body fat) but you’re not going to all-of-a-sudden bulk up. This should not be a beginners worry.

5.) The scale WILL go up at first. It is water. It takes a few days to a week or two to even out. Stay in it. Keep drinking a lot of water. Your muscles need it as they are repairing. Eventually it will balance back out. Don’t freak out with the scale.

6.) The best exercise to do is the kind you like. That will be what you stick with and look forward to. Start there. See where it leads. Begin with small and attainable goals and make them routine. Walking the dog? Riding a bike? Work out class? Try ballet? Basketball with the kids? Doesn’t matter. What matters is making it regular and routine and fun to you. If it stops being fun, try something else - everything else! But try and do SOMETHING every day. Put it in your calendar. Set a time for it. Make it routine.

7.) Its ok to hurt a little. It shouldn’t be “bad pain” (avoid that at all costs!) but if you can find a way to lean in to “good pain” (being out of breath at the end of something aerobic, sweating, feeling like “a push” when you’re doing it, a bit sore the next day) they can be powerful reminders that you are strong and getting stronger. This was one of my biggest personal hurdles. This is where and why most people quit. Getting comfortable in uncomfortable took practice and for me, lots of encouragement and coaching. Find “your zone” in (manageable) discomfort. Find a way to be thankful for it and feel it.

8.) You don’t lose weight from a spot that you “work on”. You lose it from everywhere. Think about weight loss as draining a bath tub. You can’t drain it from the top right corner only. So, doing sit ups isn’t going drain belly fat. It WILL help in firmness, which makes everything look better. But it doesn’t work to exercise a specific part of your body and expect to lose weight from that part. Old wives tale is that the first place you put the weight on is the last place it will leave. There is some anecdotal truth in that- for me at least!

9.) Create your team and ignore or drop the haters - and you WILL (sadly) encounter haters, even if you are a super awesome and positive person. The trick- don’t hate back. Let it go. Their baggage doesn’t need to weigh you down. People react REALLY weird to other’s weight loss and also weird to starting to work out. People will give all sorts of excuses for themselves as to why THEY can’t exercise and they will tell them to you, along with stuff about how working out doesn’t matter or poke fun at you because they are trying to make themselves feel better. You might feel intimidated by people who are further along on this journey. And some people make themselves feel better by putting others down. Sad but true. Find your way to let this slide off of you. Pretty soon, you will find others that enjoy what you enjoy and you will have a new tribe. Haters gonna hate. Don’t worry about them. You’ve got your own thing going on.

10.) you get to define you, and you get to change. Just because you might never before have been “an exercise person” doesn’t mean you can’t be. You could be a kayaker! A runner! A yoga master! A karate black belt! But first, you have to take the first steps. And then, once you feel (and see in your body) the momentum, buy yourself the new clothes or the shoes. Don’t hold on to the old ones. It’s about mindset- embrace the new you. But don’t expect it to happen overnight. You didn’t put the weight on over night and it won’t come off overnight either. This change is a marathon, not a sprint. Set yourself up for the long haul, celebrate the markers as they go by, and keep your head up and shoulders back!

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Teen Weight Loss Journey

14 F My highest weight was 210 I forget the date but it was sometime in the summer. My height is 5 ft 6 may be shorter than that lol . Anyways, on September 25 (2019) I weighed in at 189. It is now mid January and I weigh around 176(it fluctuates) I honestly feel like I should have lost more. I had a plateau where I didn’t lose for about a month or a little and it was very frustrating. Ever since then the weights been going down super slowly. I try to eat as healthy as possible though my family doesn’t eat healthy at all and they’re narcissistic so that makes it even harder for me. They don’t let me cook or make my own meals either. Lately I’ve just been eating oatmeal from McDonalds and eating whatever I can for dinner that’s decent. I want to be able to look in the mirror and be happy with how I look. Anyways this is hella long, sorry for the rant 😅

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What clothing item are you excited to try out once you get closer to your goal?

First off, I believe anyone can wear any type of clothing at any size and I have quite a few plus-size friends that do wear whatever and they look stunning. That being said, the fashion industry does have a plus-size problem and there aren’t really a lot of options. I personally have never had the confidence to try out different fashions due to my size. Instead, I’m known amongst my friends for having really beautiful shoes and sometimes unique jewelry and accessories (I love mittens and hats in the winter!). But my wardrobe has always been “safe” with the day to day leggings and sweaters, and my dress up clothes are ALL a-line as it’s considered to be the most flattering on plus-size bodies and I feel safe in these because my “rolls” are hidden. It’s just a shame because I adore clothing and I love browsing theoutnet and Nordstrom for cool things but my favorited items never seem to get past my wish list.

Anyway, I have a lot of fashion items on my bucket list that I would never consider wearing now, these include ruffle blouses (I steer clear out of fear of looking like a linebacker), turtle necks (worried it will emphasize thicker neck), pencil skirts, high rise denims, crop tops etc etc... my weight loss journey is somewhat propelled by all these things. I am just so excited to get out and shop with my friends and family, and create coordinated looks and share my identity through my wardrobe. My current wardrobe has no personality and I want that to change and I get excited thinking about it.

I’m wondering if anyone else here ever daydreams about the outfits they’d like to try out but would normally veer away from. What sort of clothes do you dream about for when you’ve hit your goals?

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What's your favorite "this is too much fun to be exercise" exercise?

I'm about 50 calories over my budget for the day with about 5 hours before I go to bed. I tried to take my dog on a walk but it's way too cold outside for the both of us and he complained about it.

I'm at the very beginning of my weight loss and haven't told anyone except my boyfriend, who is joining me. This month I decided to try 12:12 intermittent fasting and vegetarianism (both for increasing my vegetable intake and decreasing my carbon footprint). I spent the past week tracking calories. I'm down a pound after about two weeks of being conscious of what I was eating, small step but still exciting for me. Now I'm adding in some exercise, but I don't think I'm ready to commit to a gym quite yet.

So, do you have any recommendations for a person who has to trick herself into exercising, something that can be done indoors?

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Allowed myself a “cheat day” and didn’t beat myself up, bye disordered diet eating!

I’ve been doing really well and have already hit my first weight loss goal, -5 lbs! I know it’s just water weight but it still feels nice. I’m doing 16:8 or 18:6 fasting and counting calories, but still eating what I want. Yesterday was my bf’s birthday and we went to Olive Garden and breadsticks are my weakness. I also wanted a Dr Pepper (I drink soda once every few weeks/months) and just enjoyed my meal and stopped when I was full. I went like 350 cals over but oh well. I had a good time and knew I’d just get back on track today. I have a history of going way too hard on the diet and exercise and punishing myself when I “fail,” then I binge and give up. So it was nice to tell myself that I was going to go a bit over and it’s ok and it won’t ruin everything I’ve done. This time is for real and I’m going to do it in a healthy way. A funny side note is that I broke my fast later yesterday because I knew I’d start later than usual, and I ate a lot more carbs and salt than I have been and I felt TERRIBLE after. So bloated and tired. Bleh. I love IF and eating well. I didn’t realize how good I felt until I ate like garbage again. I also didn’t do my workout yesterday and felt it.

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Hit weight loss goal now looking to recompose and need help

I'm 6'4" and 215lbs. I started 2019 at 312lbs & am at my goal weight but still feel like I'm flabby. I want to be 215lbs but have more muscle & less fat. Is the best way to go about this to lose more weight then gain back muscle? Gain the muscle first then cut back calories? I honestly have no clue. Kinda thought I'd lose the weight & just be set once I got 215lbs. I'm at 20% body fat & would like to be at 15%. Currently I do strength training 3x week, cardio 2x, BJJ/judo 3-4x, yoga 3x. Strength training is primarily heavy Olympic lifts & pull-ups, cardio is swimming w some elliptical work, and yoga is chill yoga focusing on flexibility. Any tips are appreciated. Just found this sub & look fwd to posting some before/after pics & becoming more involved in the community. Wish I found it a year ago but better late than never.

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