Started to see progress, now feel like I'm back to square one after trauma

First post to this community, and on mobile, no less. Be gentle, please.

I first started down the slippery slope of gaining weight after I lost my beloved grandpa on 2018. I had gained a little previously, but actually managed to lose 30 pounds to go from 210 to 180 in preparation for my wedding.

My depression had been waning until that point, but losing PawPaw kicked it into overdrive. I turned to weed to cope. Long story short, I very quickly went from 180 to 250 at my highest.

I was just so fucking sad, I wanted anything to make the hurt go away, even for a minute. Weed sort of helped, bit with the catch that I would become a snack dumpster, just eating trash until I was sick a few times.

I got into therapy, went back to school. Things started looking better. Weight loss was on the back burner for a while as I laser focused on school. I basically steadied for a while.

Recently, I started doing exercise in earnest, along with tracking my food and exercise with the Lose It app. Since I finished school, I've been able to put more focus onto trying to lose weight. And honestly, it wasn't really fast or a whole lot, but I managed to go from 231 in September to 218 as of last week. I was elated.

I thought I was doing alright. But then this past Tuesday, my dog suddenly got very ill and passed away in my arms. It was so fucking fast- she had been acting totally fine on Monday. She was acting a little off that night, but it escalated so goddamn fast. The situation went from "she probably has a stomach bug," to "her kidneys and liver are shutting down, and this blood test indicates she likely has cancer" within 10 hours.

I am broken. I have still been tracking my calories, but eating infrequently, but eating pizza or lazy food when I do. Honestly, it's been hard time get out of bed and shower, let alone exercise. I've skipped my regimen 3 times this week, and I'm so mad at myself. It's not even long, it's just a 12-17 minute workout routine from the Lose Weight 30 Days For Women app...not a whole Zumba video or some shit. But I just can't focus.

My heart is broken, and I worry that it's going to send me down the same path I went when I lost my grandpa and completely fuck over all the progress I made.

Not sure what I'm asking, if anything. I guess I'm just looking for support? Idk.

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30 Day Accountability Challenge - November Sign Ups

Holy crapoly it's almost November kids!

For the newbies to the sub reddit, please start here, so much good info!

https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/wiki/quick_start_guide

https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/wiki/faq

And hey, maybe it’s not a bad idea to review them anyway to you returning conquerors. I do occasionally to remind myself of the basics.

Here’s what we do in the DAC my friends!

This is the sign up post to outline your goals, weight loss, self care, creative, whatever keeps your motor going.

There will be a daily update post for you to chime in about how day whatever is going!

At the end of the month, there is a wrap up post to reflect on the progress you made or didn’t make & what you learned. Learning is progress my friends!

We try to foster a supportive, caring place to discuss the actual day to day of deficits & counting & caring so much about how we fuel our bodies & lives. So be kind, interact if you like & hopefully you feel supported by the internet version of a push up bra!

Leading by example, here I go!

Weight by end of month (200 lbs, preferably trend weight): Oofta.

Stay within calorie range (maintain): Maintenance.

Exercise 5 days a week: X/X days.

Self-care journaling (once a week, 60 minutes):

Nanowrimo 1666 words a day: X/50000 words.

Try a new recipe once a week: X/X weeks.

Express gratitude:

Some simpler goals this month. Your turn now kids!

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Help me please...

I feel stuck at this point. I just turned 14, I'm male, and I weigh 220 pounds. I just feel trapped in my own body. I have wanted to lose weight for a long time now, and I feel like if I don't take action now, It's never gonna happen. I don't mind cooking my own food, in fact I find that I am actually a really good cook, probably a career path for me, but anyways I'm getting off topic. I've looked at a ton of different "weight loss" programs, but it seems like the people that make those are just looking for money. And I wouldn't mind spending a little money, I mean it's just such a big goal, but I don't want to waste money on something that doesn't actually do anything. I was mainly looking at programs because I find that I have a hard time sticking to things unless they're already planned out for me. However that isn't to say I'm not open to the idea. I'm practically open to anything at this point. I just want to look and feel better. I don't know. If you have literally any suggestions, I would gladly take them.

Thank you for reading :)

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Food is about community

I realized something this week that I guess I’ve always felt but didn’t know how to put into words. Food is about community.

I’ve always loved to cook and bake. I love eating with my family and friends.

How does this realization help me with weight loss? It’s helped shift my focus away from eating calorific foods for comfort, or out of boredom or stress. Instead, I find other coping mechanisms. Need comfort? A nice bubble bath with a sparkling water or unsweet iced tea. Bored? Read a book. Stressed? Go for a walk.

The time to indulge in a calorific meal is not Monday morning just because frozen waffles sounds better than my usual oatmeal. The time to drink a glass of wine or two is not alone on a Tuesday night after a ‘stressful day’ at work. Wednesday at 2pm is not the time to eat my feelings in ice cream.

Instead, Sunday brunch with friends is the time for waffles. Friday evening with my husband watching a movie is wine time. Dessert is best enjoyed when it’s a spontaneous thing your friend baked after a game night :)

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with eating ice cream on a weeknight, etc. but this epiphany has helped me keep my weekdays in check so that I can truly and without guilt enjoy and celebrate the time I spend with family and friends, fully partaking in the entire experience, including the highly calorific foods.

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Down 70 pounds and looking for advice.

27 Year Old Male.

Hey just wanted to say thanks to this sub for helping me get this weight off. I started at 305 pounds and 115 days later I am currently sitting at 235 pounds. I have been calorie counting only and working out sometimes.

Weight loss is slowing down a bit as expected but does any have any suggestions for some home work outs or anything that can help keep things moving?

I have been doing some cardio but I am not sure if there are specific works outs IE: weight lifting, resistance bands, ect that might yield better results. Currently I am still losing weight but with the slow down I want to try and avoid any plateaus or get less of them at the least.

Posted some pictures of my progress so far. https://imgur.com/a/xjjCKJI

Thank!

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Accountability buddies - group chat?

Hey yall

I’m a 41/M/Norway with two small kids. I currently clock in at 186cm/148kg (6,1 / 326lbs). I have a lot of experience with yo-yo weight loss, although this time (After i got kids) it’s not going back down. That’s a problem especially because i now also have someone else to live for...

For whatever million excuses, I’m not sticking to my weight loss plans. I imagine there’s a bunch of you out there similar to me, maybe different life situation, gender, age, but struggling to get all that extra weight off ...

What if we got together a little gang, in a chat channel like WhatsApp and we keep each other accountable, and we make it together. I figure a group is better because then if someone drops out for s day or two, the rest will pick up the slack!

We can share meal plans, work out plans support each other, the works! I figure this will take at least a year, so there would be plenty of time to get to know eachother and make it happen!

Besides, struggling and achieving a goal with others is always much more fun than going it alone! Well be like Vietnam war buddies after this... except without all that PTSD/flash back stuff i hope ( i like the idea of having a “omg i was fat again nightmare!)

So anyway, is anyone with me? Let me know!

I’m thinking the group name can be “the weight-lossening” but I’m sure y’all have some ideas too!

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How to know when to stop?

M/18/ 5’8 SW:230 CW: 162.8 GW: ?

So I don’t know if anyone had dealt with this, but I feel like this is a good place to ask. I’ve been on a weight loss journey for years now, but only this year have I taken it seriously. It’s been a year and 8 months since taking my journey seriously and honestly it’s been a blessing in terms of confidence. My ultimate goal is abs; I know you don’t need them to be healthy, but I just have always been obsessed with wanting them, and that has been my driving force since the start of journey. Now I’m at a loss. I’m technically a healthy weight, and everyone tells me I’m skinny( I have mild body dysmorphia so I don’t see what they see). I still have stomach fat, so I know I’m still around the 20% to 25% body fat range, and I know I need to get to 10% to 12% to be able to see my abs. Here is the other thing I don’t have a ton of muscle, actually I have really little muscle. I don’t know if I should continue to diet down until I get skinny then lean bulk back up, or if I should go into a maintenance with a slight caloric deficit and focus on building muscle. I really want abs so I was thinking just get skinny then bulk up slowly, but I don’t really know any advice would be appreciated.

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